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Tired of roses and candy hearts? Try sending your sweetie this. And then have a long, weird talk.

With Valentine's Day coming up, I think it's time we all tried to figure out what we mean when we say "love." Luckily, Brad Troeger has taken a (beautifully illustrated) shot at it.

Tired of roses and candy hearts? Try sending your sweetie this. And then have a long, weird talk.

Love is a crazy thing.

We all want it, but it's hard to define. Is it an ideal? A cult? A misfire in your brain?


It's hard to figure out.

It's also one of the most intensely thought-about things in all of human history. And we still kinda don't know what it is.

Another challenge is that most people don't think about defining it until they're on their way into or out of it.

Would you trust someone who just won the lottery to explain what money is? So why should we listen to lovebirds telling us all about what love is?

Do they even know?

And love isn't just one thing, either. Your love for your family shapes your love for your partner, which itself changes over time.

Love isn't just a feeling. It's the stuff we do when we're in love.

But those things we do aren't the same from one culture to another. Sometimes they're even completely opposite.

And, if love is real, how can you fall out of love?

Is love an addiction and you just build up a tolerance?

But love is built from reality, from our real experiences. Love is always under construction.

If we can't define it, maybe that's a good sign. Check the video to learn why.

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Figuring out what to do for a mom on Mother's Day can be a tricky thing. There's the standard flowers or candy, of course, and taking her out to a nice brunch is a fairly universal winner. But what do moms really want?

Speaking from experience—my kids range from age 12 to 20—a lot depends on the stage of motherhood. What I wanted when my kids were little is different than what I want now, and I'm sure when my kids are grown and gone I'll want something different again.

We asked our readers to share what they want for Mother's Day, and while the answers were varied, there were some common themes that emerged.

Moms of young kids want a break.

When your kids are little, motherhood is relentless. Precious and adorable, yes. Wonderful and rewarding, absolutely. But it's a LOT. And it's a lot all the fricking time.

Most moms I know would love the gift of alone time, either away at a hotel or Airbnb or in their own home with no one else around. Time alone is a priceless commodity at this stage, especially if it comes with someone else taking care of cleaning, making sure the kids are fed and safe and occupied, doing the laundry, etc.

This is especially true after more than a year of pandemic living, where we moms have spent more time than usual at home with our offspring. While in some ways that's been great, again, it's a lot.

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"I love being a nurse because I have the honor of connecting with my patients during some of their best and some of their worst days and making a difference in their lives is among the most rewarding things that I can do in my own life" - Tenesia Richards, RN

From ushering new life into the world to holding the hand of a patient as they take their last breath, nurses are everyday heroes that deserve our respect and appreciation.

To give back to this community that is always giving so selflessly to others, CeraVe® put out a call to nurses to share their stories for a chance to be featured in Heroes Behind the Masks, a digital content series shining a light on nurses who go above and beyond to provide safe and quality care to patients and their communities.

First up: Tenesia Richards, a labor and delivery nurse working in New York City who, in addition to her regular job, started a community outreach program in a homeless shelter that houses expectant mothers for up to one year postpartum.

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Upon learning at a conference that black mothers in the U.S. die at three to four times the rate of white mothers, one of the widest of all racial disparities in women's health, Richards decided to take further action to help her community. She, along with a handful of fellow nurses, volunteered to provide antepartum, childbirth and postpartum education to the women living at the shelter. Additionally, they looked for other ways to boost the spirits of the residents, like throwing baby showers and bringing in guest speakers. When COVID-19 hit and in-person gatherings were no longer possible, Richards and her team found creative workarounds and created holiday care packages for the mothers instead.

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