A senator nails the 19 mansplanations we're ALL tired of hearing.

'It's not that women don't value your thoughts, it's just that we don't value ALL of them.'

No doubt inspired by this super-shouty election year, Sen. Claire McCaskill has made her own declaration of independence.

This one might unite us all. * fingers crossed *

Independence from what?

The Missouri Democrat wants independence from mansplaining.


A definition:

SPLAIN v. (to splain) — the general act of being explained something by someone like it's universally true. Often used with a prefix. Examples: mansplain, whitesplain, tap-dancersplain. —splained, —splaining. n. forms: —splainer, —splanation(s).

Getting splained is frustrating. But it happens.

Thankfully McCaskill and the crew at "The Late Show with Stephen Colbert" were able to come up with a hilarious way to offer those who are shouting over everyone else a chance to generously step back so others can have their voices heard.

In the video (which, before you get offended, was comedy), McCaskill says it's important for her to encourage more women to run for office, "but equally important is encouraging more men to just shut the hell up."

And like all great declarations, it gets specific. Here are some of the subjects McCaskill declared that louder folks can take a step back on.

1. What women do with their bodies

2. Who the next James Bond should be

3. Whether or not it's pronounced "GIF" or "JIF"

Come on, no matter who you are, you gotta be tired of hearing people argue about this stuff. :)

And also all these:

4. Star Wars

5. Pantsuits

6. Selfies

7. Shonda Rhimes

There's a "Grey's Anatomy" episode for us all!

8. Curtains

9. Carbs

10. Millennials

11. Body hair removal

Why. Just why. How. Why.

12. Religion

Founding Fathers agree.

13. Gluten

14. Harry Potter

15. Nut allergies

16. Star Wars, again

Yes it gets on the list twice. Shh!

17. All art in general

You think that's more art and that's more not-art? No talkie, plz.

18. Whether or not to brine the Thanksgiving turkey

19. Ethics in gaming journalism

Hoo boy.

She does, however, mention that the consolation prize for sitting down at the table of speak-up equality is this:

Getting to weigh in on marijuana legalization (if you can control yourselves and keep from giving your opinion about the other things).

Teehee. How about that? An elected official with a sense of humor!

All GIFs via "The Late Show with Stephen Colbert."

And just in case you were worried McCaskill is all style and no substance, let me refresh your memory. When former Rep. Todd Akin (R-Missouri) decided women's wombs were rape-repellent, she said this:


I'd say she's earned her stripes to have a laugh, huh?

And good for her for just basically calling for a little less talking and a little more listening. We all could use that!

A shoutout also to Stephen Colbert for bringing this gem into our lives and for helping us all keep our sense of humor even when it seems like everyone's in a fight. <3

Here's hoping that everyone hears this so we can spend less time talking over each other and more time listening, empathizing, and being our own awesome, individual selves.

Here's the video!

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"Can I buy you a drink?" is a loaded question.

It could be an innocent request from someone who's interested in having a cordial conversation. Other time, saying "yes" means you may have to fend off someone who feels entitled to spend the rest of the night with you.

In the worst-case scenario, someone is trying to take advantage of you or has a roofie in their pocket.

Feminist blogger Jennifer Dziura found a fool-proof way to stay safe while understanding someone's intentions: ask for a non-alcoholic beverage or food. If they're sincerely interested in spending some time getting to know you, they won't mind buying something booze-free.

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But if it's their intention to lower your defenses, they'll throw a mild tantrum after you refuse the booze. Her thoughts on the "Can I buy you a drink?" conundrum made their way to Tumblr.

via AshleysCo / Tumblr


via AshleysCo / Tumblr

The posts caught the attention of a bartender who knows there are lot of men out there whose sole intention is to get somone drunk to take advantage.

"Most of the time, when someone you don't know is buying you a drink, they're NOT doing it out of a sense of cordiality," the bartender wrote. "They're buying you a drink for the sole purpose of making you let your guard down."

So they shared a few tips on how to be safe and social when someone asks to buy you a drink.

From the other side of the bar, I see this crap all the time. Seriously. I work at a high-density bar, and let me tell you, I have anywhere from 10-20 guys every night come up and tell me to, "serve her a stronger drink, I'm trying to get lucky tonight, know what I mean?" usually accompanied with a wink and a gesture at a girl who, in my experience, is going to go from mildly buzzed to definitively hammered if I keep serving her. Now, I like to think I'm a responsible bartender, so I usually tell guys like that to piss off, and, if I can, try to tell the girl's more sober friends that they need to keep an eye on her.
But everyone- just so you know, most of the time, when someone you don't know is buying you a drink, they're NOT doing it out of a sense of cordiality, they're buying you a drink for the sole purpose of making you let your guard down.

Tips for getting drinks-

1. ALWAYS GO TO THE BAR TO GET YOUR OWN DRINK, DO NOT LET STRANGERS CARRY YOUR DRINKS. This is an opportune time for dropping something into your cocktail, and you're none the wiser.

2.IF YOU ORDER SOMETHING NON-ALCOHOLIC, I promise you, the bartender doesn't give two shits that you're not drinking cocktails with your friends, and often, totally understands that you don't want to let your guard down around strangers. Usually, you can just tell the bartender that you'd like something light, and that's a big clue to us that you're uncomfortable with whomever you're standing next to. Again, we see this all the time.

3. If you're in a position to where you feel uncomfortable not ordering alcohol:
Here's a list of light liquors, and mixers that won't get you drunk, and will still look like an actual cocktail:

X-rated + sprite = easy to drink, sweet, and 12% alcoholic content. Not strong at all, usually runs $6-$8, depending on your state.
Amaretto + sour= sweet, not strong, 26%.
Peach Schnapps+ ginger ale= tastes like mellow butterscotch, 24%.
Melon liquor (Midori, in most bars) + soda water = not overly sweet, 21%
Coffee liquor (Kahlua) +soda = not super sweet, 20%.
Hope this helps someone out!

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If you do accept a drink from someone at a bar and you want to talk, there's no need to feel obligated to spend the rest of the night with them.

Jaqueline Whitmore, founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach, says to be polite you only have to "Engage in some friendly chit-chat, but you are not obligated to do more than that."

If someone asks to buy you a drink and you don't want it, Whitmore has a great tip. "Say thank you, but you are trying to cut back, have to drive or you don't accept drinks from strangers," Whitmore says.

What if they've already sent the drink over? "Give the drink to the bartender and tell him or her to enjoy it," Whitmore says.

Have fun. Stay safe, and make sure to bring a great wing-man or wing-woman with you.

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A study, published in the Journal of Biological Chemistry, and according to Professor Hanns Hatt of the Ruhr University in Bochum, Germany, revealed that jasmine can calm you down when you're feeling anxious.The results can "be seen as evidence of a scientific basis for aromatherapy."

"Instead of a sleeping pill or a mood enhancer, a nose full of jasmine from Gardenia jasminoides could also help, according to researchers in Germany. They have discovered that the two fragrances Vertacetal-coeur (VC) and the chemical variation (PI24513) have the same molecular mechanism of action and are as strong as the commonly prescribed barbiturates or propofol," says the study.

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Rep. Peter King (R-NY) is a name you should remember. If you don't follow politics closely, remember his name because he's the first Republican in Congress to openly join the call for a renewed federal ban on assault weapons.

If you're a Democrat or a diehard progressive partisan, remember his name because it's proof that as a nation we can put principles before party and walk across the political aisle to get things done.

If you're a Republican, remember his name as evidence that real leadership in politics sometimes means risking your reputation to do what is right even when most of your colleagues disagree or lack the political courage to go first.

But let's allow Rep. King to explain himself in his own words:

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