A man screamed at her once because he thought she was white. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

Lysa Cooper — committed to not changing a thing about herself to fit anyone else's expectations since the 1980s. And thank goodness because she is so incredible as she is.

A man screamed at her once because he thought she was white. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

When this video was first published, people left comments like, "I want her as a mentor! I want to be in her presence!" and "I can so relate."

Her whole life, even living in a city as diverse as New York, she's been told that's she's too black, too white, not black enough, needs to change her hair — the list goes on. And at every turn, she has said, "That's not who I am. This is who I am."

It's been anything but easy, especially when she started working in the fashion and entertainment industry, focusing on black celebrities who were being ignored or stereotyped. But her insights are powerful and profound. I love what she says about Internet dating and how our whole culture is changing, starting at 6:25, and how real she gets about loneliness right after.

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Usually the greatest fear after a wild night of partying isn't what you said that you might regret, but how you'll look in your friends' tagged photos. Although you left the house looking like a 10, those awkward group selfies make you feel more like a 5, prompting you to wonder, "Why do I look different in pictures?"

It's a weird phenomenon that, thanks to selfies, is making people question their own mirrors. Are pictures the "real" you or is it your reflection? Have mirrors been lying to us this whole time??

The answer to that is a bit tricky. The good news is that there's a big chance that Quasimodo-looking creature that stares back at you in your selfies isn't an accurate depiction of the real you. But your mirror isn't completely truthful either.

Below, a scientific breakdown that might explain those embarrassing tagged photos of you:

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