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A man screamed at her once because he thought she was white. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

Lysa Cooper — committed to not changing a thing about herself to fit anyone else's expectations since the 1980s. And thank goodness because she is so incredible as she is.

A man screamed at her once because he thought she was white. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

When this video was first published, people left comments like, "I want her as a mentor! I want to be in her presence!" and "I can so relate."

Her whole life, even living in a city as diverse as New York, she's been told that's she's too black, too white, not black enough, needs to change her hair — the list goes on. And at every turn, she has said, "That's not who I am. This is who I am."


It's been anything but easy, especially when she started working in the fashion and entertainment industry, focusing on black celebrities who were being ignored or stereotyped. But her insights are powerful and profound. I love what she says about Internet dating and how our whole culture is changing, starting at 6:25, and how real she gets about loneliness right after.

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Inside the walls of her kitchen at her childhood home in Guatemala, Evelyn Klohr, the founder of a Washington, D.C.-area bakery called Kakeshionista, was taught a lesson that remains central to her business operations today.

"Baking cakes gave me the confidence to believe in my own brand and now I put my heart into giving my customers something they'll enjoy eating," Klohr said.

While driven to launch her own baking business, pursuing a dream in the culinary arts was economically challenging for Klohr. In the United States, culinary schools can open doors to future careers, but the cost of entry can be upwards of $36,000 a year.

Through a friend, Klohr learned about La Cocina VA, a nonprofit dedicated to providing job training and entrepreneurship development services at a training facility in the Washington, D.C-area.

La Cocina VA's, which translates to "the kitchen" in Spanish, offers its Bilingual Culinary Training program to prepare low-and moderate-income individuals from diverse backgrounds to launch careers in the food industry.

That program gave Klohr the ability to fully immerse herself in the baking industry within a professional kitchen facility and receive training in an array of subjects including culinary skills, food safety, career development and English language classes.

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Dr. David McPhee offers advice for talking to someone living in a different time in their head.

Few things are more difficult than watching a loved one's grip on reality slipping away. Dementia can be brutal for families and caregivers, and knowing how to handle the various stages can be tricky to figure out.

The Alzheimer's Association offers tips for communicating in the early, middle and late stages of the disease, as dementia manifests differently as the disease progresses. The Family Caregiver Alliance also offers advice for talking to someone with various forms and phases of dementia. Some communication tips deal with confusion, agitation and other challenging behaviors that can come along with losing one's memory, and those tips are incredibly important. But what about when the person is seemingly living in a different time, immersed in their memories of the past, unaware of what has happened since then?

Psychologist David McPhee shared some advice with a person on Quora who asked, "How do I answer my dad with dementia when he talks about his mom and dad being alive? Do I go along with it or tell him they have passed away?"

McPhee wrote:

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