A man screamed at her once because he thought she was white. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

Lysa Cooper — committed to not changing a thing about herself to fit anyone else's expectations since the 1980s. And thank goodness because she is so incredible as she is.

When this video was first published, people left comments like, "I want her as a mentor! I want to be in her presence!" and "I can so relate."

Her whole life, even living in a city as diverse as New York, she's been told that's she's too black, too white, not black enough, needs to change her hair — the list goes on. And at every turn, she has said, "That's not who I am. This is who I am."

It's been anything but easy, especially when she started working in the fashion and entertainment industry, focusing on black celebrities who were being ignored or stereotyped. But her insights are powerful and profound. I love what she says about Internet dating and how our whole culture is changing, starting at 6:25, and how real she gets about loneliness right after.

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