Woman accused of 'ruining' girl's life for correcting the pronunciation or her Irish name
In all fairness, this was an easy one to mess up.
Irish names are notoriously hard to pronounce for non-Gaelic speakers.
In a classic case of “no good deed goes unpunished,” a woman recently shared a story about how her attempts to offer a simple name pronunciation correction turned into being accused of “ruining” a young girl’s life.
It all started out as a pleasant, civil conversation. The woman, from the UK, started talking to an American woman and her daughter after the girl took an interest in her colorful leather jacket.
But as soon as the little girl revealed her name, things took a turn.
"The mother mentioned that her daughter's name was 'Grain' so I assumed for a while that she was another mother who wanted something 'special' to call her child. I remarked that it was a unique name and that I'd never met anyone called Grain before," the woman shared in her Reddit post.
The mom then explained how ‘Grain’ was named after her Irish great-grandmother…which set off “alarm bells” for the UK woman since the child’s name is likely spelled Gráinne and pronounced “Gro-nyuh, or thereabouts.” Certainly not like the plant.
Trying her best to be "tactful,” the woman said and “Irish has such an interesting alphabet. How is her name spelled? Irish names can be tricky.” But sure enough, the name is spelled G-r-á-i-n-n-e.
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At this point, the woman’s partner, who has studied just about everything about Irish culture and history, “stuck somewhere between stifling a laugh and dying of embarrassment” on the mom’s behalf.
Still the woman made every attempt to remain polite, and even offer "an old-school name and a more modern pronunciation. I think that's a great way to pick names” as a compliment. But this only caused the mom to ask “what do you mean,” forcing the UK woman to say it plainly: “in Ireland, they typically pronounce it like 'Gro-nyuh.' "
This was when the mom’s “face went red,” and she began lambasting the woman for correcting the pronunciation in front of her daughter “because now she's going to grow up knowing that her name is wrong and feel bad about it.”
The UK tried to steer things in another direction by apologizing and reiterating “that it's a lovely name in both ways and a fantastic nod to her heritage." But the mom wasn’t having it.
"She told me that I 'ruined her daughter's self-esteem' and that her 'life [was] ruined' by me saying that 'her existence is wrong,' " the woman wrote. "I didn't say that, by the way. I said that her name was pronounced atypically.”
Still, the woman wondered if she had, in fact, been in the wrong, writing, “Hindsight says I should have kept my mouth shut and waited for somebody else in this city to say something.”
Down in the comments, people were quick to reassure this woman that she had done nothing wrong.
"It's better for the kid to learn the correct pronunciation now rather than face it later with potential bullying," one person argued. "The mom needs to take some responsibility here!"
Another said this woman actually did the mom a favor, writing, “She can either spell or pronounce it differently or even change it. She’s in an awkward position now, but at least she can do something before school. She should have thanked you.”
One person of Irish heritage pointed out that "pronouncing Gráinne as Grain is the equivalent of calling the child Sarah but spelling it as Stella."
The Irish language is well known for having spellings and pronunciations that seem bewildering to non-speakers. Just ask Saoirse Ronan or Barry Keoghan. So it’s understandable that this mom attributed the pronunciation she’s more familiar with to her daughter’s name. However, it seems that this mom was offered real kindness by a stranger who did their best to inform her of a mistake in a thoughtful way. Hopefully she can see the gift in that after she cools off. And hopefully this woman can feel less guilty for trying to do what she felt was the right thing.
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There's a reason why some people can perfectly copy accents, and others can't
Turns out, there's a neurodivergent link.
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Have you ever had that friend who goes on vacation for four days to London and comes back with a full-on Queen's English posh accent? "Oooh I left my brolly in the loo," they say, and you respond, "But you're from Colorado!" Well, there are reasons they (and many of us) do that, and usually it's on a pretty subconscious level.
It's called "accent mirroring," and it's actually quite common with people who are neurodivergent, particularly those with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). According Neurolaunch, the self-described "Free Mental Health Library," "Accent mirroring, also known as accent adaptation or phonetic convergence, is the tendency to unconsciously adopt the accent or speech patterns of those around us. This linguistic chameleon effect is not unique to individuals with ADHD, but it appears to be more pronounced and frequent in this population."
Essentially, when people have conversations, we're constantly "scanning" for information—not just the words we're absorbing, but the inflection and tone. "When we hear an accent, our brains automatically analyze and categorize the phonetic features, prosody, and intonation patterns," writes Neurolaunch. For most, this does result in copying the accent of the person with whom we're speaking. But those with ADHD might be more sensitive to auditory cues. This, "coupled with a reduced ability to filter out or inhibit the impulse to mimic…could potentially explain the increased tendency for accent mirroring."
While the article explains further research is needed, they distinctly state that, "Accent mirroring in individuals with ADHD often manifests as an unconscious mimicry of accents in social situations. This can range from subtle shifts in pronunciation to more noticeable changes in intonation and speech rhythm. For example, a person with ADHD might find themselves unconsciously adopting a Southern drawl when conversing with someone from Texas, even if they’ve never lived in the South themselves."
People are having their say online. On the subreddit r/ADHDWomen, a thread began: "Taking on accents is an ADHD thing?" The OP shares, "My whole life, I've picked up accents. I, myself, never noticed, but everyone around me would be like, 'Why are you talking like that??' It could be after I watched a show or movie with an accent or after I've traveled somewhere with a different accent than my 'normal.'
They continue, "Apparently, I pick it up fast, but it fades out slowly. Today... I'm scrolling Instagram, I watch a reel from a comedian couple (Darcy and Jeremy. IYKYK) about how Darcy (ADHD) picks up accents everywhere they go. It's called ADHD Mirroring??? And it's another way of masking."
(The OP is referring to Darcy Michaels and his husband Jeremy Baer, who are both touring comedians based in Canada.)
Hundreds of people on the Reddit thread alone seem to relate. One comments, "Omfg I've done this my whole life; I'll even pick up on the pauses/spaces when I'm talking to someone who is ESL—but English is my first language lol."
Sometimes, it can be a real issue for those around the chameleon. "I accidentally mimicked a waitress's weird laugh one time. As soon as she was out of earshot, my family started to reprimand me, but I was already like 'oh my god I don’t know why I did that, I feel so bad.'"
Many commenters on TikTok were shocked to find out this can be a sign of ADHD. One jokes, "Omg, yes, at a store the cashier was talking to me and she was French. She's like 'Oh are you French too? No, I'm not lol. I'm very east coast Canada."
And some people just embrace it and make it work for them. "I mirror their words or phrase! I’m 30. I realized I start calling everyone sweetie cause my manager does & I work at coffee shop."