Different generations rarely see eye to eye on many things, but no topic seems to be so heavily debated as how to properly communicate via texting.
In the one camp, youβve got the youngins who grew up with texting specificallyβGen Alphas, Gen Zers, and even millennials to a certain extent. In the other camp, youβve got boomers, Gen Xers, and again, millennials who might not have texted all their lives, but certainly have more working knowledge of basic grammar and written communication.
So whoβs the real authority? Ask a million different people, and youβll get a million different answers. This is certainly the situation we find ourselves in with this story.
Recently, Jason Saperstone, a 22-year-old publicist in New York City, whose content consists mainly of cheeky, satirical PowerPoint presentations, created one centered on educating his parents on proper texting etiquette. Yes. He was attempting to educate them.
The primary learning point? The βexclamationβ or βemphasisβ reaction, aka βtapbackβ that you can attach to a message. According to Saperstone, his parents were using it wrong.
"Mom and Dad, I love you, but you need to get better at texting," he said at the beginning of his lesson. "So the thing weβre going to be working on today is how to use the emphasis."
According to Saperstone, you react with an emphasis when:
- You agree with the sender.
- You find yourself in the same situation.
- Someone is ignoring you and you want their attention.
Is this news to you? Are you wondering if Gen Z actually understands what the original meaning behind an exclamation point even is? Or any punctuation, for that matter? Youβre not alone.
We can't even agree on basic grammar?! media0.giphy.com
Saperstoneβs parents (rightfullyβ¦sorry, my bias is showing) thought it should be used to show excitement or enthusiasm. For example, when he let them know that he happened to be in the bar that Alex Cooper, host of the βCall Her Daddyβ podcast, was at, his mother used the emphasis tapback because she was βexcitedβ for him.
βThat would mean that youβre also at the bar with Alex Cooper," Saperstone argued, saying that she should have βlikedβ the message with a thumbβs up. Which, may I add, was previously labeled as "passive aggressiveβ by Gen Zβ¦so why are we giving them carte blanche on all things text communications?
Luckily for Saperstoneβs parents, folks rallied in the comment section either by agreeing with his momβs interpretationβ¦
βDISAGREE with the presenter and AGREE with mom. The emphasis on the Alex Cooper text conveys βholy sh**! Thatβs awesome!ββ
βI kind of agree with Mom here! I use it like βomg, whaaat?β Like in response to someone telling me something wild or exciting.β
βNot us all agreeing with Mom π if you send me a thumbs up when I send you exciting news imma cry.β
β¦or by declaring that Gen Zers donβt hold ultimate authority on this topic.
When it comes to textingβ¦the kids are NOT alright. media4.giphy.com
βTaking communication advice from Gen Z is like taking financial advice from Boomers.β
βOk emphasis is an exclamation point and in grammar (which hasnβt changed its rules) it expresses excitement or surprise. So the older generation uses it as intended and the younger generation is making up their own rules.β
βWhat cracks me up is the fact that he thinks his generation gets to decide the meaning of β!!β or any other emoji. Just because thatβs what you have decided thatβs what it means doesnβt mean youβre correct, or that another meaning of it is necessarily wrong. It means different things to different generations, and thatβs actually perfectly ok. πβ
And honestly, itβs the latter point that really hits home here. When it comes to texting, we can all agree to disagree with certain nuances. But in no way, shape, or form does Gen Z get to enforce its own made-up linguistic rules upon the rest of the world. Sorry. You can reclaim low rise jeans if you want, but weβre keeping basic grammar.