Woman leaves bachelorette trip after trusting her gut about sketchy men partying with friends
Woman's intuition is right again.
A recent story posted on Reddit shows how sometimes trusting your gut can be the best thing you can do, even if following it will seriously impact your friendships. It all started when a 24-year-old woman with the username Yslbabycat went to a bachelorette party with 5 other friends in Italy.
For brevityās sake, weāll call our main character YBC.
One night, the six girls went bar and club hopping and met some new friends. āWe met some young people, and they invited us to a party. We went and danced and met more people. The night kept going on longer, and we were very far from our lodgings. These young men with 2 women in their group told us to stay with them for the night,ā she wrote.
Thatās when she had the first strong gut feeling.
āI wasnāt feeling this situation. It felt unsafe, but the group voted and I was in the minority,ā she continued.āI didnāt trust these men. Something seemed wrong. But I was at a loss as I could not split from my group and didnāt feel safe separating from them in the middle of the night.ā
Even though the girls locked their doors that night, the men could enter their rooms. But the girls, besides YBC, all wanted to stay another day because the men promised to show them around Italy.
āI didnāt want to get into a car with them because I found them creepy. There were women in their group but it didnāt matter. They seemed even more suspicious to me, being overly friendly,ā She continued. āThe whole morning, I found the men staring at me a lot and also making some comments about my ethnicityāI am Korean and they could tell and it seemed that they were interested in me because of my ethnicity, asking me strange questions ā¦including if Iām a virgin or not.. so in my head I could only think of perverted reasons for these questions because I thought these guys were sketchy and sizing us all up for some reason I couldnāt figure out yet.ā
YBC's friends tried to tell her that it was just cultural differences and that the men werenāt being creepy, but she decided that she wanted to leave. So, she called her boyfriend in France, a few hoursā drive away, to come get her. She met him at a local store, where YBC called the bride-to-be and informed her she was leaving.
The bride-to-be screamed at her on the phone and chastised her for spoiling the āmood of the tripā and told YBC to essentially āf*** off.ā
After YBC left, the other 5 girls went on a boat with the men who all tried to get them āextremelyā intoxicated. They then began to aggressively pressure the girls into having sex. At the night's end, the girls got away from the men and found another hotel.
Even though YBCās suspicions were confirmed, the bride-to-be was still upset with her, and YBC did not attend her friendās wedding.
In the end, Reddit commenters overwhelmingly thought that YBC did the right thing by trusting her gut.
āSo all the other girls but the bachelorette confirmed that you were right and the guys were super creepy and yet the bachelorette is still pissed at you for getting yourself out of there?ā YouSayWotNow wrote. āAll of them are very lucky nothing really bad happened, and frankly, they should be embarrassed they didn't take you seriously at the time.ā
āYou may have saved the entire group by leaving early, as the men realized that you knew where they lived and could ID them,ā RobinC1967 added. āPlease don't ever feel bad for getting yourself out of a sketchy situation. Stay Smart!ā
Most would agree that YBC did the right thing by trusting her gut and trying to lead her friends out of a potentially dangerous situation. Psychology Today supports her decision to trust her feelings. In an article entitled, ā3 Reasons Why You Have to Trust Your Gut,ā Susanna Newsonen says that your intuition is encoded in your brain like āa web of fact and feelingā and is helpful because itās āshaped by your past experiences and the existing knowledge that you gained from them.ā
This article originally appeared on 3.16.24