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Woman's parody video of unhinged comments in Facebook mom groups is hilariously spot on

"Never post your kid eating, sitting in a car seat or anything that has to do with sleep. If you do that, all hell is going to break loose."

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Cecilia Kane poking fun at comments from Facebook mom groups

We know that the comments section of any social media platform is a veritable minefield. Even the most well-intentioned, exceptionally neutral post can trigger the most unhinged arguments. Seriously, the instant barrage of varying judgments, judgments of those judgments and competing hot takes are enough to make any psyche suffer whiplash.

But hey, it makes for great comedy.

Just ask Cecilia Kane, the woman who used over-the-top comments gleaned from her Facebook mom group as fodder for a hilarious (and spot-on) parody video.

Kane shared in an interview with “Today” that she had joined her group in search of more information on epidurals. As a first-time mom, she had hoped to gain some wisdom from a community of other women who had maybe already experienced what she would soon be experiencing.

Instead, she got an onslaught of “fearmongering” commentary.


“People were like, ‘You could be left paralyzed,’ ‘You could have nerve damage,’ ‘There are 100 things that could go wrong,’” Kane told “Today.” Not to mention that other moms “jumped down her throat” for mentioning medication. What fun.

Well, maybe not fun initially, but Kane has turned the vitriolic mom-shaming into comic gold. The video below is one of her most popular clips to date, where she plays a mom excited to introduce her new baby, who was brought into the world by cesareansection.

“I gave birth to my new son via C-section two days ago. Just wanted to let everybody know that we’re happy and healthy,” Kane announces while holding a doll.

She then acts out the comments while eating snacks and wearing various objects as makeshift hats. Cause why not?

“Well, technically that’s not giving birth. But he’s very cute.”

“LOL — right? When she said she gave birth and had a C-section in the same sentence?”

“I’m sorry, are we in high school now? Are we going to talk about her like she’s not here?”

“What does she expect? This is a public group.”

“Congrats. I gave birth to all five of my children in the comfort of my own home.”

“OK. Would you like a gold star?”

“I don’t know why so many people are so quick to jump to C-sections when natural births are just so much more rewarding.”

“Why do you care about the birthing methods of a stranger?”

“Childbirth is the natural thing a woman can do.”

“Yeah, and sometimes that happens via C-section.”

“It’s not childbirth unless you’re delivering vaginally.”

“What a shame that hospitals continue to push C-sections on women.”

“Yes, how dare they use life saving surgery.”

“That’s just what doctors tell you so that they can charge you for an expensive surgery.”

@kanececi Tr!gger!ng myself with this one 😵‍💫 #facebookgroup #momgroup #momsoftiktok #babiesoftiktok #csection #naturalbirth #debate #millennialmoms #iwearmanyhats ♬ original sound - Ceci

Phew…feeling on edge yet?

Facebook mom groups seem to be an endless source of content inspiration for Kane, who has also covered breastfeeding vs. using formula, when to start solid foods, daycare, screentime, pacifiers…just to name a few.

Of course, these videos are meant as lighthearted fun. As Kane mentioned to “Today,” none of these comments are taken verbatim necessarily, and she is certainly not anti-Facebook Mom groups.

“Mom groups can be wonderful, supportive places, you just have to find the right one," she told “Today.”

But she does have a word of friendly, tongue-in-cheek advice: “Just never post your kid eating, sitting in a car seat or anything that has to do with sleep. If you do that, all hell is going to break loose."

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Celebrate International Women's Day with these stunning photos of female leaders changing the world

The portraits, taken by acclaimed photographer Nigel Barker, are part of CARE's "She Leads the World" campaign.

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Kadiatu (left), Zainab (right)

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Women are breaking down barriers every day. They are transforming the world into a more equitable place with every scientific discovery, athletic feat, social justice reform, artistic endeavor, leadership role, and community outreach project.

And while these breakthroughs are happening all the time, International Women’s Day (Mar 8) is when we can all take time to acknowledge the collective progress, and celebrate how “She Leads the World.

This year, CARE, a leading global humanitarian organization dedicated to empowering women and girls, is celebrating International Women’s Day through the power of portraiture. CARE partnered with high-profile photographer Nigel Barker, best known for his work on “America’s Next Top Model,” to capture breathtaking images of seven remarkable women who have prevailed over countless obstacles to become leaders within their communities.

“Mabinty, Isatu, Adama, and Kadiatu represent so many women around the world overcoming incredible obstacles to lead their communities,” said Michelle Nunn, President and CEO of CARE USA.

Barker’s bold portraits, as part of CARE’s “She Leads The World” campaign, not only elevate each woman’s story, but also shine a spotlight on how CARE programs helped them get to where they are today.

About the women:

Mabinty

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Mabinty is a businesswoman and a member of a CARE savings circle along with a group of other women. She buys and sells groundnuts, rice, and fuel. She and her husband have created such a successful enterprise that Mabinty volunteers her time as a teacher in the local school. She was the first woman to teach there, prompting a second woman to do so. Her fellow teachers and students look up to Mabinty as the leader and educator she is.

Kadiatu

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Kadiatu supports herself through a small business selling food. She also volunteers at a health clinic in the neighboring village where she is a nursing student. She tests for malaria, works with infants, and joins her fellow staff in dancing and singing with the women who visit the clinic. She aspires to become a full-time nurse so she can treat and cure people. Today, she leads by example and with ambition.

Isatu

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When Isatu was three months pregnant, her husband left her, seeking his fortune in the gold mines. Now Isatu makes her own way, buying and selling food to support her four children. It is a struggle, but Isatu is determined to be a part of her community and a provider for her kids. A single mother of four is nothing if not a leader.

Zainab

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Zainab is the Nurse in Charge at the Maternal Child Health Outpost in her community. She is the only nurse in the surrounding area, and so she is responsible for the pre-natal health of the community’s mothers-to-be and for the safe delivery of their babies. In a country with one of the world’s worst maternal death rates, Zainab has not lost a single mother. The community rallies around Zainab and the work she does. She describes the women who visit the clinic as sisters. That feeling is clearly mutual.

Adama

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Adama is something few women are - a kehkeh driver. A kehkeh is a three-wheeled motorcycle taxi, known elsewhere as a tuktuk. Working in the Kissy neighborhood of Freetown, Adama is the primary breadwinner for her family, including her son. She keeps her riders safe in other ways, too, by selling condoms. With HIV threatening to increase its spread, this is a vital service to the community.

Ya Yaebo

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“Ya” is a term of respect for older, accomplished women. Ya Yaebo has earned that title as head of her local farmers group. But there is much more than that. She started as a Village Savings and Loan Association member and began putting money into her business. There is the groundnut farm, her team buys and sells rice, and own their own oil processing machine. They even supply seeds to the Ministry of Agriculture. She has used her success to the benefit of people in need in her community and is a vocal advocate for educating girls, not having gone beyond grade seven herself.

On Monday, March 4, CARE will host an exhibition of photography in New York City featuring these portraits, kicking off the multi-day “She Leads the World Campaign.

Learn more, view the portraits, and join CARE’s International Women's Day "She Leads the World" celebration at CARE.org/sheleads.


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