Emma Thompson’s witty, heartfelt tribute to Alan Rickman is one for the ages

May we all have a friend who shares our quirks this lovingly and articulately.

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mma Thompson and Alan Rickman starred in seven films together.Photo credit: Photo credits: Elena Ternovaja (left), Marie-Lan Nguyen (right)

Actor Alan Rickman gave us so many memorable characters, from the terrorist Hans Gruber in Die Hard to the oft ill-tempered antihero Severus Snape in the Harry Potter films, to the unfaithful husband who broke Emma Thompson’s heart in Love Actually.

Though he was often cast as a villain, Rickman’s distinctive voice and irresistible screen presence made audiences love him. He brought a unique human touch even to his most odious bad guy characters, a quality that makes perfect sense when you hear Thompson, his friend and co-star in seven films, talk about his character in real life.

In a moving tribute upon the release of his diaries in October 2022, Thompson shared insights into the virtues and quirks that made Rickman “blissfully contradictory.”

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Alan Rickman signing autographsu00a0at the Brooklyn Academy of Music, January 2011. Photo Credit:u00a0Marie-Lan Nguyen via Wikimedia Commons

Thompson is at the top of her award-winning writer game here, and her words about Alan Rickman are filled with heart, wit, respect, admiration and love. It’s truly a eulogy for the ages.

Watch (or read the full transcript below):

People love Thompson’s tribute to her friend and some have even shared their own stories of their encounters with Alan Rickman:

“A close friend of mine bumped into him in a theatre in London many years ago. My friend instantly recognised Mr Rickman and from nowhere, instantly found the courage to ask him for his autograph. Having neither pen nor paper for this, he asked Mr Rickman if he would mind waiting a moment whilst he collected the items from somewhere, anywhere! The moment became at least 10 minutes or so, and when my friend ran back to a now empty theatre foyer, he noticed one solitary figure. Mr Rickman had waited patiently for my friend to give him what he asked for.”

“I was lucky enough to work with him on a film. At lunchtime I joined the line for a meal and as I payed and went to turn to look for a table, someone knocked into me from behind and my drink went flying. I turned and it was Alan, he apologized put his hand on my shoulder and said let me get you another. He came back with a cup of tea and I was so overwhelmed. I was shocked how he was so down to earth and a real gentleman.”

“I meet him once in Boots and said hello, he realised it was a reflex to recognising a known face. He picked up an item we both were looking at, smiled and said “well hello there are we going to arm wrestle for this?” That deep tone rendered me mute, I realised it was Mr Rickman and instantly denied needing this forgotten thing, apologised for well nothing really, smiled and backed away. He was a giant of a fellow on and off the stage and will be missed.”

“Everything she said is true. I was fortunate to have dinner with him and his wife and his drama teacher. He was charming and friendly and shared some great ideas about directing, which I use today in my theater group. He is missed by many.”

Indeed he is.

Here’s the full transcript of Thompson’s tribute:

“The most remarkable thing about the first days after Alan died was the number of actors, poets, musicians, playwrights and directors who wanted to express their gratitude for all the help he’d given them. I don’t think I know anyone in this business who has championed more aspiring artists nor unerringly perceived so many great ones before they became great. Quite a number said, latterly, that they’d been too shy to thank him personally. They had found it hard to approach him. And of all the contradictions in my blissfully contradictory friend (hold on, Thompson), this is perhaps the greatest this combination of profoundly nurturing and imperturbably distant.

He was not, of course, distant. He was alarmingly present at all times the inscrutability was partly a protective shield. If anyone did approach him with anything like gratitude or even just a question, they would be greeted with a depth of sweetness that no one who didn’t know him could even guess at. And he was not, of course, unflappable. I could flap him like nobody’s business and when I did he was fierce with me and it did me no end of good.

He was generous and challenging, dangerous and comical, sexy and androgynous, virile and peculiar, temperamental and languid, fastidious and casual, the list could go on. I’m sure you can add to it. There was something of the sage about him, and had he had more confidence and been at all corruptible, he could probably have started his own religion.

His taste in all things from sausages to furnishings appeared to me anyway to be impeccable. His generosity of spirit was unsurpassed and he had so much time for people I used to wonder if he ever slept or ever got time for himself. A word not traditionally associated with Alan is gleeful, but when he was genuinely amused he was absolutely the essence of glee. There would be a holding back as the moment built, and then a sudden leaning forward and a swinging around of the torso as a vast, impish grin flowered, sometimes accompanied by an inarticulate shout of laughter. It was almost as if he was surprised by himself. It was my life’s mission to provide those moments. I remember Imelda Staunton nearly killing him by telling him a story about my mother and an unfortunate incident with some hashish—it’s a really good story, I won’t tell it now—I’ve never seen him laugh more before or since. It was a bit like watching someone tickling the Sphinx.

One Christmas Eve party I had a sprig of mistletoe hanging up at home, and I was loitering under it and turned to find Alan bearing down on me. I lifted up my chin hopefully. He smiled and approached. I puckered. He leaned in under the mistletoe and a sudden change came over his face. His eyes started to glitter and his nostrils to quiver. He lifted up a hand, reached in, and pulled a longish hair out of my chin. ‘Ow!’ I said. ‘That’s an incipient beard,’ he said, handing me the hair and walking off.

That was the thing about Alan—you never knew if you were going to be kissed or unsettled, but you couldn’t wait to see what would come next. And the trouble with death is that there is no next. There’s only what was, and for that, I am profoundly and heartbrokenly grateful. So the last thing we did together was change a plug on a standard lamp in his hospital room. The task went the same way as everything we have ever done together. I had a go. He told me to try something else. I tried. It didn’t work, so he had a go. I got impatient. I took it from him. I tried it again. It still wasn’t right. We both got slightly irritable, then he patiently took it all apart again and got the right lead into the right hole. I screwed it in with a screwdriver. We complained about how fiddly it was, and then we had a cup of tea. Took us at least half an hour, this thing, and he said after, ‘Well it’s a good thing I decided not to become an electrician.’

I’m still heartbroken that Alan’s gone, but these diaries bring back so much of what I remember of him. There is that sweetness I mentioned, his generosity, his champion of others, his fierce, critical eye, his intelligence, his humor. He was the ultimate ally in life, art, and politics. I trusted him absolutely. He was, above all things, a rare and unique human being and we shall not see his like again.”

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Alan Rickman posing for a fan at the Brooklyn Academy of Music, January 2011. Photo Credit:u00a0Marie-Lan Nguyen viau00a0Wikimedia Commons

This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

  • Wholesome comedian Pete Holmes shares 3 words that have been a game changer in how he views life
    Comedian Pete Holmes.Photo credit: Neal Brennan/YouTube

    If you’re familiar with comedian Pete Holmes, you probably know he’s not afraid to go deep. He’s seemingly on a constant journey of self-improvement—physically, mentally, and spiritually—and his work as a stand-up comic, author, and podcaster reflects that with relatable, honest humor.

    He recently appeared on Dan Harris’ podcast 10% Happier, where he discussed a simple three-word phrase that he claims helped change the way he views life.

    Harris asked about his mantra, “Yes, yes, thank you.” Holmes gently corrected him, noting that it’s only three words: “It’s ‘yes, thank you.’” He then explained the concept: “I’ve heard really good teachers say that if you can really just say ‘yes’ to what ‘is,’ that’s all you need.”

    Holmes went on to explain how it works:

    “It just really short-circuits your brain if you say ‘Yes, thank you’ to it. And I mean almost instantly. Flight is delayed. ‘Yes. Thank you.’ It’s so weird. That’s why it works. Everything—attraction and aversion—right? So aversion is just charging it with all this push, like a basketball underwater. You’re giving it all the energy. When you just ‘Yeah’ as if it’s what you wanted.”

    He gives an example:

    “And then you realize you’re in an airport. You’ll be in an hour later. It can just be a clean breath and a recognition that you’re alive. Maybe you see the sun coming through the window. And maybe you remember that people used to die in covered wagons on the journey you’re about to take in four hours.”

    Holmes explained that the concept is quite simple:

    “But it can really be way less than that. Really, not debating with the bad feeling—just saying ‘Yes, thank you’ to it. That’s been one of the most powerful things in my life.”

    10 percent happier

    The clip was part of a larger discussion on the aforementioned podcast, with Holmes and Harris delving into faith, meditation, awareness, and how we learn to accept what is given to us.

    Harris asked, “So the nature of existence is love because love is acceptance?” Holmes answered, “Even if you’re resisting it, what you’re resisting has already been welcomed into awareness.”

    Stoicism

    Much of what Holmes is describing is steeped in Stoic philosophy.

    Former Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius wrote in Meditations, “And with that in mind I have no right, as a part, to complain about what is assigned me by the whole. Because what benefits the whole can’t harm the parts, and the whole does nothing that doesn’t benefit it.”

    According to a site supporting Benny Voncken’s Via Stoica podcast:

    “Gratitude in Stoicism is not a mood but a moral stance, an expression of understanding that everything is given for a time, and that everything that happens can serve the good of the whole. When you practice gratitude, you move closer to what the Stoics called eudaimonia, a good spirit, a flourishing soul. You see life as it truly is: transient, interwoven, and deeply precious.”

  • Kevin Nealon shares the big lie he told Robin Williams so that he could be his friend
    Comedians and old friends Robin Williams and Kevin Nealon.Photo credit: Canva, Darsie, sarahinvegas, Wikimedia Commons, Flickr

    Comedian Kevin Nealon and the late, great Robin Williams first became friends in 1979 in Los Angeles. But according to Nealon, as kind and lovely as Williams was, it took a little bit of maneuvering on his part to make it happen. In fact, Nealon claims he had to outright lie to lock the friendship in.

    He recently took to X and Threads to recount a heartwarming memory of pretending he knew anything about cars just to spend a little time with the brilliant comic.

    X user @ISScottDavenport shared this Ellis Rosen cartoon. Photo credit: Scott DavenPort, X

    “Robin Williams had done his set and left the comedy club. Soon after, he walks back in annoyed.

    I said, what’s going on?

    He said his car wouldn’t start.

    I go, maybe I can help. I know absolutely nothing about cars. He doesn’t know that. I just wanted to make him think I was helping him.

    So we go outside. He’s got a Range Rover.

    We open the hood. He’s leaning in, swearing.

    I’m looking around. Nodding. Like I’m a mechanic.

    I have no idea what any of it is.

    After a minute, I say, ‘Yeah… I don’t have my tools with me. You might need a mechanic.’

    Then I said…’Robin, can I give you a ride home?’”

    @jeff.rock

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    The simplicity and honesty in this one post have so many fans of both comedians truly engaged. Some share their own funny takes. “A technical comedian is an oxymoron,” jokes one X user. Another writes, “The classic mechanic technique: nod seriously and suggest a mechanic.”

    Another commenter notes how wholesome Nealon’s story is: “‘I don’t have my tools with me’ is the perfect punch line for a guy who knows nothing about cars. You gave a legend a ride home and a great story to tell. That’s a win-win.”

    This person shared their own story of seeing Williams when he dropped in as a surprise guest at the San Francisco Punch Line: “I saw him do a surprise, unannounced set at Punch Line SF, right after Brett Butler. He was a whirling dervish across the tiny stage, blessing us in the front seats with his frenetic sweat. It was amazing, and I’ll never forget it.”

    One Threads user shared how much they love stories like these, writing, “I could listen to people recount stories about Robin Williams for hours and hours. That’d be such a great podcast (or something). Just actors sharing stories about their good friend, Robin.”

    In past social media posts, Nealon has heaped praise and love on his old friend.

    On Instagram, he shared a painting he made of Williams, relaying how their friendship began and blossomed over decades:

    “My caricature painting of the brilliant Robin Williams. This was the Robin I first met in 1979 in a Los Angeles comedy club. (Before ‘Mork and Mindy.’) No one was quicker or funnier! I was absolutely floored by his wit, movement, improv skills, characters, and voices. Pure genius on the level of Jonathan Winters. As much as I laughed, I also found myself depressed because I knew I could never be that funny.

    He was Amadeus Mozart, and I would be Antonio Salieri at best. But, I eventually realized that Robin couldn’t be everywhere at once (but almost), so I would probably, at least, get some work. It was always a thrill for me whenever Robin hosted SNL when I was a cast member. Absolutely brilliant! So missed!”

  • Watch Colin Jost try Olympic bobsledding and gain a whole new level of respect for the sport
    Colin Jost showed bobsledding is a lot more intense than it looks.Photo credit: Flickr/greg2600 (left), Canva (right)
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    Watch Colin Jost try Olympic bobsledding and gain a whole new level of respect for the sport

    “I swear to God, I thought I was going to die. I thought my back was gonna snap in half.”

    Some Olympic sports are obviously difficult and, clearly, inherently dangerous. You can’t watch a snowboarder twirl upside down in mid-air, 17 feet above a 22-foot halfpipe wall, and not admire the heck out of the effort it takes to reach that level of courage, skill, and athleticism. Watching skiers barreling down a mountain at 60 to 80 mph with nothing but a thin suit between them and the ground, expertly avoiding obstacles as they do it, is objectively impressive to the average person.

    But the challenge of other sports isn’t as immediately appreciated. Curling may be hard, but it doesn’t look that hard.

    And bobsledding might take some level of athletic ability, but other than a 5-second run before you jump into the sled, it’s really just about momentum and steering, right? Sure, they go fast, but bobsledders sit inside a protective metal casing, so it looks more like a thrilling roller coaster ride than a physically challenging and dangerous sport, right?

    That’s what Saturday Night Live‘s Colin Jost thought. Then he tried it, and thankfully, he took us all along with him.

    In a clip from NBC Sports, Jost describes his bobsled ride in Lake Placid, New York, as “by far, the scariest experience I’ve ever had in my life.”

    First, watch his full run here:

    Jost rode along with an experienced driver and didn’t even have to do anything but feel it. And, boy, did he feel it. We can see how his body was violently jostled from the physics of flying down the track. As the driver said, astronauts take off in a space shuttle at about three Gs. In the bobsled, they did about 5 Gs, which means he was feeling five times his body weight pushing down on him.

    We can see and hear the shift from “Wow!” to “Holy ____!” as Jost’s thrill turned to terror on the track.

    “I was in no way prepared for that,” Jost said. “I truly thought my body was going to break apart. I’m not exaggerating. It was so much more intense than I expected.”

    Jost told NBC’s Mike Tirico that he was “not prepared for the level of terror of this bobsled.”

    “I swear to God, I thought I was going to die,” he said. “I thought my back was gonna snap in half. I thought my bones were gonna fly off my body and be littered all up and down the bobsled track.”

    People loved seeing an average person partake in an Olympic event, especially someone as honest about the experience as Jost was, as evidenced in the comments:

    “Now THIS is the kind of commentary I want!”

    “Huge thank you to whoever put Colin Jost in a bobsled.”

    “Can we have him do every event for a reference point?”

    “This is what we’ve been asking for – an average person participating so we can get a real account! Thank you for your service, Colin Jost!”

    “He was so horrified he couldn’t even be hilarious about it 💀”

    “He completely lost his composure, 😂 you could tell he was scared, and it did look like the fastest thing anyone would ride.”

    “You know what… his explanation really helped me understand how scary bobsledding is and now I’m more interested in watching. Keep this guy on the air. That second scream shows me he’s telling the truth 😂

    The video really does offer a whole different perspective on how difficult bobsledding actually is.

    Jost was just trying to keep his body together. Imagine having to focus and steer on top of handling those G-forces.

    Retired NFL player and popular podcaster Jason Kelce also tried out the bobsled in Park City, Utah, and had a similar “holy ____” experience. He seemed to enjoy it a little more than Jost did, perhaps more accustomed to his body taking a beating as a professional football player, but he said it was far more intense than it looked. It didn’t feel like a roller coaster, he said. The 1,400 pounds of pressure pushing him into the metal bars of the sled bruised his hips, and, at one point, it got so loud he couldn’t hear his own screams.

    Seeing how careening down an ice track in an aerodynamic sled feels really does lend a whole new level of wow to a sport that some might mistakenly see as glorified sledding. It also lends more weight to 41-year-old Elana Meyers Taylor’s monobob (single-person bobsledding) run that earned her her first Olympic gold medal in her sixth Olympic Games in Milano Cortina. She had earned three silver medals and two bronze medals, making her the most decorated U.S. female bobsledder of all time.

    Seriously, nothing but respect for the bobsledders from here on out.

  • Watch Colin Jost try Olympic bobsledding and gain a whole new level of respect for the sport
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    Watch Colin Jost try Olympic bobsledding and gain a whole new level of respect for the sport

    Some Olympic sports are obviously difficult and, clearly, inherently dangerous. You can’t watch a snowboarder twirl upside down in mid-air, 17 feet above a 22-foot halfpipe wall, and not admire the heck out of the effort it takes to reach that level of courage, skill, and athleticism. Watching skiers barreling down a mountain at 60…

    Some Olympic sports are obviously difficult and, clearly, inherently dangerous. You can’t watch a snowboarder twirl upside down in mid-air, 17 feet above a 22-foot halfpipe wall, and not admire the heck out of the effort it takes to reach that level of courage, skill, and athleticism. Watching skiers barreling down a mountain at 60 to 80 mph with nothing but a thin suit between them and the ground, expertly avoiding obstacles as they do it, is objectively impressive to the average person.

    But the challenge of other sports isn’t as immediately appreciated. Curling may be hard, but it doesn’t look that hard. And bobsled might take some level of athletic ability, but other than a 5-second run before you jump into the sled, it’s really just about momentum and steering, right? Sure, they go fast, but bobsledders sit inside a protective metal casing, so it looks more like a thrilling roller coaster ride than a physically challenging and dangerous sport, right?

    That’s what Saturday Night Live‘s Colin Jost thought. Then he tried it, and thankfully, he took all of us along with him. In a clip from NBC Sports, Jost describes his bobsled ride in Lake Placid, New York, as “by far, the scariest experience I’ve ever had in my life.”

    First, watch his full run here:

    Jost rode along with an experienced driver and didn’t even have to do anything but feel it. And, boy, did he feel it. We can see how his body was violently jostled from the physics of flying down the track. As the driver said, astronauts take off in a space shuttle at about three Gs. In the bobsled, they did about 5 Gs, which means he was feeling five times his body weight pushing down on him.

    We can see and hear the shift from “Wow!” to “Holy ____!” as Jost’s thrill turned to terror on the track.

    “I was in no way prepared for that,” Jost said. “I truly thought my body was going to break apart. I’m not exaggerating. It was so much more intense than I expected.”

    Jost told Mike Tirico that he was “not prepared for the level of terror of this bobsled.”

    “I swear to God, I thought I was going to die,” he said. “I thought my back was gonna snap in half. I thought my bones were gonna fly off my body and be littered all up and down the bobsled track.”


    People loved seeing an average person partake in an Olympic event, especially someone as honest about the experience as Jost was, as evidenced in the comments:

    “Now THIS is the kind of commentary I want!”

    “Huge thank you to whoever put Colin Jost in a bobsled.”

    “Can we have him do every event for a reference point?”

    “This is what we’ve been asking for – an average person participating so we can get a real account! Thank you for your service, Colin Jost!”

    “He was so horrified he couldn’t even be hilarious about it 💀”

    “He completely lost his composure, 😂 you could tell he was scared, and it did look like the fastest thing anyone would ride.”

    “You know what… his explanation really helped me understand how scary bobsledding is and now I’m more interested in watching. Keep this guy on the air. That second scream shows me he’s telling the truth 😂

    The video really does offer a whole different perspective on how difficult bobsledding actually is. Jost was just trying to keep his body together. Imagine having to focus and steer on top of handling those G-forces.

    Retired NFL player and popular podcaster Jason Kelce also tried out the bobsled in Park City, Utah, and had a similar “holy ____” experience. He seemed to enjoy it a little more than Jost did, perhaps more accustomed to his body taking a beating as a professional football player, but he said it was far more intense than it looked. It didn’t feel like a roller coaster, he said. The 1,400 pounds of pressure pushing him into the metal bars of the sled bruised his hips, and, at one point, it got so loud he couldn’t hear his own screams.

    Seeing how careening down an ice track in an aerodynamic sled feels really does lend a whole new level of wow to a sport that some might mistakenly see as glorified sledding. It also lends more weight to 41-year-old Elana Meyers Taylor’s run that earned her her first Olympic gold medal in her sixth Olympic Games in Milano Cortina. She had earned three silver medals and two bronze medals, making her the most decorated U.S. female bobsledder of all time.

    Seriously, nothing but respect for the bobsledders from here on out.

  • Margot Robbie reveals her ‘bogan nacho’ recipe, and people are totally onboard
    Australians do love their baked beans, don't they? Photo credit: Eva Rinaldi/Wikipedia, Canva
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    Margot Robbie reveals her ‘bogan nacho’ recipe, and people are totally onboard

    What a fun and unexpected glimpse into different culinary cultures.

    While recently appearing on the mom-and-daughter run foodie podcast Table Manners, Wuthering Heights star Margot Robbie shared her childhood nacho recipe. It became a delightful glimpse into cultural differences.

    Robbie, who is Australian, shared that she grew up with what she called “Bogan Nachos.” “Bogan” is an Australian slang term signifying the “unsophisticated working class.” It’s similar to “trailer trash” in the US, only it can be used as a bit of lighthearted self-deprecating humor, rather than just an insult.

    To make these nachos (or “narchos,” as Robbie calls them, though she admits that’s more of a personal quirk than an Australian one), you lay out a packet of Doritos on “al foil,” aka aluminum foil or tin foil, then top with baked beans and, of course, melted cheese.

    “That is bogan nachos, and it is bangin’,” Robbie attested.

    @tablemannerspodcast It’s a huge one this week, we have superstar Margot Robbie coming home to Clapham! Fresh from the Eurostar after the Parisian premiere for her new film ‘Wuthering Heights’ (starring Jacob Elordi and directed by friend of the pod, the gorgeous Emerald Fennell) Margot was exactly what we always dreamed she would be; a gem of a guest and gorgeous human! We talked about the juggle with producing and acting in films, the food she ate growing up (including ‘Fivesies’ and ‘Bogan Narrrrchos’), how her own gin ‘Papa Salt’ came to be, teaching Bette Midler about ‘Gavin & Stacey’, the bachelorette party her friends threw for her character Cathy, her husband being a phenomenal cook, the accent training she needed when she started in ‘Neighbours’, and we hear how she nearly killed her grandma-in-law by feeding her raw ham! Margot, you’re welcome to join us every week, and we’re absolutely popping round for one of Tom’s famous ‘egg’ steaks! ‘Wuthering Heights’ is released globally in cinemas on 13th February. #TableManners #MargotRobbie #WutheringHeights #Clapham #Barbie ♬ original sound – Table Manners Podcast


    She’s not the only one who felt this way. Several other Aussies shared their love for bogan nachos in the comments as well as their own tweaks to the Aussie-fied Tex-Mex dish.

    “As an Australian- tin foil, corn chips, salsa, grated cheese into the oven and then out with sour cream.

    “Luxurious Bogan Nachos = layer corn chips, 1 layer grated cheese, repeat microwave until cheese melts, top with hot sauce and sour cream, guac if you feel fancy.”

    “Oh I eat bogan nachos all the time (exactly how she described it but I also add corn kernels) so good.

    “Aussie girl can confirm, especially putting sour cream once out of the oven.”

    Nachos have always been an opportunity for creativity ever since Ignacio Anaya, affectionately known as “Nacho” by his friends and patrons, grabbed some tortilla chips, covered them with freshly grated cheese, and added sliced jalapeño peppers to whip up a last-minute dish for a group of military wives in 1943.

    Since then, other cultures have made tweaks to the types of chips, cheese, toppings, and layering style to create entirely unique takes. Canada’s “nacho poutine,” replaces standard cheese with cheese curds and gravy, for example. In Ireland, sliced potatoes or French fries are used instead of tortilla chips, and often covered in melted cheese plus bacon. Cuba utilizes plantain chips as a base, topped with ropa vieja (shredded beef), cheese, tomatoes, and onions.


    @sunnysbazaar Replying to @AJ The Digital Maestro here you go beta – Loaded Indian Style Nachos #indianfood #foodtok #recipe ♬ original sound – Sunny’s Bazaar


    Nachos can even be made into a breakfast food with eggs and bacon, or into a dessert with cinnamon-sugar-dusted chips, chocolate sauce, and ice cream. The possibilities are deliciously endless.

    This short clip might not seem like anything too extraordinary, but in a mere few seconds, we witnessed one of the best aspects of being human—the fact that we are all so different, yet have so much in common.

    You can find the full Table Manners episode, where Robbie also explains the “Fivesie” tradition in Australia of enjoying a pre-dinner cheese board, below:

  • James Van Der Beek shared his hopes for the spring weeks before his death, and it’s beautiful
    James Van Der Beek speaking at Galaxy Con.Photo credit: John E. Manard/Wikipedia

    James Van Der Beek, best known for his roles in Dawson’s Creek and Varsity Blues, has died at the age of 48 after a journey with stage 3 colorectal cancer.

    Since November of 2024, the actor has been open about some of the struggles he’s faced with the diagnosis, including having to sell off much of his iconic memorabilia to pay off his cancer treatment.

    And yet, Van Der Beek still left the world on perhaps a grounded, somewhat hopeful note, as indicated by the undeniably profound message he made in an Instagram video, posted a mere few weeks before his death.

    Using his signature down-to-earth, friendly sense of humor, Van Der Beek spoke directly to the camera as he asked the essential question: “Why are we celebrating a new year in the dead of winter? Why are we celebrating new beginnings at a time when nature rests?”

    “Animals are hibernating, birds fly south for the winter,” he continued. “The time to celebrate new beginnings, and a new year, and a new you and a new resolution is spring at the vernal equinox, when the flowers bloom and it gets warmer and the birds return.”

    He then quipped that the Gregorian calendar, which marks a new year in the winter, goes against nature, and therefore makes “absolutely no sense.”

    “In the winter, the days are shorter and the nights are longer,” he wrote in his caption. “But instead of being reminded how perfect this season is for cocooning, eating stew, snuggling and sleeping… why are we being told this is the time to buy a gym membership?”

    So, to anyone having trouble keeping to those New Year’s resolutions, Van Der Beek assured, “I don’t think it’s your fault” and offered a different solution: viewing spring as the start of the new year.

    “I’m gonna say screw it,” he said. “I’m gonna take the winter to recover, to rest and I’m gonna make New Year’s resolutions in the spring. Who’s with me?”

    Obviously, the video hits differently now…the optimism a little bittersweet. But it’s nonetheless a huge testament to how he “met his final days with courage, faith, and grace,” as his wife Kimberly Van Der Beek wrote.

    “There is much to share regarding his wishes, love for humanity and the sacredness of time,” she added.

    It’s wisdom that still rings true. We can force ourselves to go against nature. Or we can follow in Van Der Beek’s footsteps and give ourselves the grace to let nature work through us, to trust in our inherent worthiness, and to take time to heal. This is just one of many wonderful contributions that he’s given to us all, and he will be deeply missed.

  • Actress Gabourey Sidibe shocks fans by revealing everyone’s been pronouncing her name wrong
    Actress Gabourey Sidibe shocks fans by revealing everyone's been mispronouncing her namePhoto credit: Greg Hernandez/Wikimedia Commons

    Some names take a few tries to get right. People who grew up with slightly more complicated names often envied those who could find their name on keychains at amusement parks. Gabourey Sidibe is personally familiar with the struggle of living with a unique name. The Oscar-nominated actress is known for her breakout role in the 2009 film Precious.

    Since stepping onto the scene, the pronunciation of her name seems to vary depending on who says it. But recently, in an interview, the actress revealed that no one has pronounced her name the way her parents intended. Nischelle Turner caught up with the actress on Entertainment Tonight as she promotes her directorial debut for Mary J. Blige Presents: Be Happy, premiering on Lifetime.

    After reminiscing on Sidibe’s first interview with the network, the pair shifted gears, eventually landing on the actress’s name pronunciation. Turner appeared shocked when the mom of twins revealed the proper pronunciation.

    It starts with Turner asking if her last name is pronounced ” si-da-bay ” or “si-di-bay.” Neither pronunciation was correct. The actress smiles and says, “It’s actually si-DEE-beh. It’s Senegalese, so it’s got accents that I don’t use, but I usually say Sidi-bay because Americans need things to rhyme, so I say it’s Sidi-bay like city by the bay. For the record, my name also is not Gab-ou-ray,” She laughs. “If that matters.”

    Gabourey Sidibe; names; baby names; name pronunciation; common names; uncommon names
    Gabourey Sidibe John Matthew Smith/Wikimedia Commons

    Turner’s face says what plenty of viewers were probably thinking. Has the world been pronouncing her entire name incorrectly since she became famous? Yes, yes, it has. “It is actually, Ga-BOU-rey,” Sidibe shares while Turner repeats her pronunciation. “You’re from America,” she giggles nearly uncontrollably. The Entertainment Tonight host demands that the actress make people say her name correctly, but she has no plans to correct people.

    Turns out, Sidibe began embracing her Americanized pronunciation when she was still in school. Like many with unique names, she was used to people mispronouncing her name, and she used to correct them. Eventually, she decided that Gabby worked because people didn’t have difficulty saying that name. Some people who struggle with others pronouncing their name correctly can go in the opposite direction. They may start not being confident enough to correct others, but as they age, they begin to find themselves demanding that people put in the effort to learn their actual name.

    As for Sidibe, she says, “I would rather be some name I decide is good enough rather than it being completely butchered.”

    People who viewed the clip are happy to learn the pronunciation of her name, with one person sharing, “I’m actually very happy she is telling us how to properly pronounce her name!!”

    This person says they have regrets about shortening their name, writing, “I shortened my name when I was younger because I got tired of people butchering it. As I got older, I realized that’s their problem, not mine. SAY MY NAME! SAY YOUR NAME!”

    Gabourey Sidibe; names; baby names; name pronunciation; common names; uncommon names
    Gabourey Sidibe Siebbi/Wikimedia Commons

    Another shares that they love how the actress’s name is pronounced, “I LOVE how she actually pronounces it! Beautiful name!”

    “Make us learn your name. I love it and it’s who you are . But I get it, folks call me Mya and correcting my whole life is exhausting.. but if I want you to know who I am, ima correct you – it’s ME’YA Miya,” someone else chimes in.

    Names are important, but everyone has their own approach to how they deal with incorrect pronunciations. Some prefer nicknames that they choose, like Sidibe, while others prefer people pronounce their full names correctly. While others may not correct anyone and answer to whatever name is called, asking someone how they pronounce their name may help stop mispronunciations and help the person feel seen.

  • An emotional Brendan Fraser calls autistic, Superman fan ‘the hero that we need’ in moving interview
    Brendan Fraser and Jonathan CharbonneauPhoto credit: Images via Wikicommons and IMBD

    As an actor, Brendan Fraser can strip down to his core and expose the most vulnerable aspects of humanity. (His heart-wrenching work in Darren Aronofsky’s film The Whale earned him a well-deserved Best Actor Oscar at the 2023 Academy Awards.)

    So, it’s not surprising when he gets emotional discussing things near and dear to his heart—like autism awareness. In past interviews, Fraser has been very open about his son Griffin’s diagnosis and the unexpected beauty that came with it. In a 2022 piece for Interview Magazine, Fraser shared, “And because of the beauty of his spectrum—call it a disorder if you will, I disagree with you—he knows nothing of irony. He doesn’t know what cynicism is. You can’t insult him. He can’t insult you. He’s the happiest person and is, in my life and many others’, also the manifestation of love.”

    In 2024, Fraser co-executive produced the award-winning short documentary film Saving Superman. It tells the heartwarming story of Jonathan Charbonneau, a man in his fifties on the spectrum who loves to dress up as the DC comic book character. As seen in the film, he delightfully appears around his hometown of Glen Ellyn, Illinois, to play music and greet the community. In the movie, Charbonneau shares why he was specifically struck by Superman, which he learned about on Sesame Street. “I believe in the ideals he represents. There’s only one reason why he does ‘no mischief,’ let alone anything criminal or evil. He chooses not to out of respect for morale.”

    On an recent appearance on The Kelly Clarkson Show in November 2025, Fraser tearfully discusses the film and explains how the community in Glen Ellyn wholesomely came together to raise money for Charbonneau after finding out he was not going to be able to afford rent once his apartment building got sold. (In the film, it’s relayed that his dear friend started a GoFundMe which went viral around the world.)

    Fraser tells Clarkson, “I’m the dad of a son with special needs. I want to be a part of it and for that reason—we need to do well by everyone who has a family on the spectrum. We need more services available to them. And I do know that he’s the hero that we need right now.” Getting choked up, Fraser then tearfully hugs Clarkson.

    This has struck such a deep chord in the community, as exemplified by the comments on The Kelly Clarkson Show (@KellyClarksonshow) Instagram Reel. Many people praise Fraser for his kindness, but also relay tales of Jonathan firsthand. One fan writes, “I grew up and came back to live in Glen Ellyn. Everyone knows Jonathan aka Superman here. He’s a staple in our community and we are lucky to have him. Glad he’s getting the support he very much deserves.”

    Another commenter echoes this warm acknowledgement. “As soon as his picture came up in this video, I audibly went ‘Superman!!’ My family is from Glen Ellyn, and I worked in downtown in my late teenage years. Jonathan is a staple!” They later add, “While GE isn’t my hometown, I have spent a lot of time there, and don’t remember him NOT being in town.”

    This comment reflects pure love for Fraser: “And I was thinking I couldn’t love this man more. He just proved me wrong! He is simply wonderful!”

    And this Instagrammer is especially impressed with Fraser using his platform to effect change, writing, “Thank you for using your voice & speaking for those that need it the most we have more that united us than divides us after all.”

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