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Couple tracks down the women who crashed their wedding and they end up becoming friends

They ate the 'really good guac' and left photos as evidence.

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They weren't even mad about it.

Back in October, Danny Steeno and his fiancé Daisy got married. However, when they got their photos back months later, they noticed two wedding guests were women neither of them had ever met before. Danny and Daisy could have been peeved to discover they had a couple of wedding crashers, but instead found it “hilarious” and set off on a mission to find out who these mysterious women were.

Enlisting TikTok for help, the couple showed a picture of the two gals smiling in nice dresses with drinks in hand and said "If you know them, let us know."

@1dsteeno

Find our wedding crashers!! #wedding #funnyvideo #help

In mere hours, the video went viral, and made its way to Valerie and Gracelyn, our two loveable culprits. Once Valerie and Gracelyn came clean, there was clearly only one thing for Danny and Daisy to do—arrange a Zoom call.

Thanks to some shared clips of that conversation, we now know what inspired this bout of mischief in the first place.

"We had no plans, so we said, ‘Why don’t we try wedding crashing?' " Gracelyn told the now husband and wife. “We looked up the most popular wedding venues in Milwaukee, and basically just hopped around town to each venue to see if there was a wedding happening. We stumbled across your venue and went inside. We followed the music, where it was coming from, and found your wedding."

@1dsteeno

Found them! @Gracelyn and Valerie Part 1 #weddingtok #weddingcrashers #part1

Gracelyn also shared that she initially saw the video after it was shared by a coworker who thought they had just found her lookalike. Pretty soon more and more text came flooding in, prompting the two to come clean.

While Gracelyn and Valerie admitted that they sadly did not bring a wedding gift, they commended Danny and Daisy for having free chips and "really good" guacamole, and jokingly assured them that their "presence" was the present.

But still, Danny seemed to have gotten the last laugh, as he quipped, "I feel like we at least have to have the opportunity to crash each of your weddings in the future." To which Gracelyn and Valerie wholeheartedly agreed, saying that while an actual invite would not be sent, they would “get hints and clues in the mail." You know, just to keep in theme.

@1dsteeno

Our turn to crash @Gracelyn and Valerie #weddingday #part4 #weddingcrashers

Apparently, Daisy and Danny aren’t the only ones to have had a crashed wedding turn into a surprisingly lovely experience.

“A friend and I crashed a wedding and got caught. I have been best friends for 30 years with the person we got caught by! I’m invited to all the family functions now.”

“My wife and I got married 27 years ago. We had crashers at our wedding. We always thought it was a badge of honor to have a reception worth crashing!”

“Once my hubs and I crashed a wedding in Palm Beach and he ended up in the middle of a circle on the dance floor and had every guest and the bride and groom transfixed.”

Not saying wedding crashing should necessarily be the next new trend, but it is a testament to how a sense of humor can transform nearly any experience into something both magical and memorable.

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Photo credit: @ribalzebian on Instagram

Ribal Zebian is going to test a house he designed by living in it for a year.

Ribal Zebian, a student from the city of London in Ontario, Canada, already made headlines last year when he built an electric car out of wood and earned a $120,000 scholarship from it. Now, he's in the news again for something a little different. Concerned with homelessness in his hometown, Zebian got to work creating a different kind of affordable housing made from fiberglass material. In fact, he’s so confident in his idea that the 18-year-old plans on living in it for a year to test it out himself.

Currently an engineering student at Western University, Zebian was concerned by both the rising population of the unhoused in his community and the rising cost of housing overall. With that in mind, he conjured up a blueprint for a modular home that would help address both problems.


Zebian’s version of a modular home would be made of fiberglass panels and thermoplastic polyethylene terephthalate (PET) foam. He chose those materials because he believes they can make a sturdy dwelling in a short amount of time—specifically in just a single day.

“With fiberglass you can make extravagant molds, and you can replicate those,” Zebian told CTV News. “It can be duplicated. And for our roofing system, we’re not using the traditional truss method. We’re using actually an insulated core PET foam that supports the structure and structural integrity of the roof.”

Zebian also believes these homes don’t have to be purely utilitarian—they can also offer attractive design and customizable features to make them personal and appealing.

“Essentially, what I’m trying to do is bring a home to the public that could be built in one day, is affordable, and still carries some architecturally striking features,” he said to the London Free Press. “We don’t want to be bringing a house to Canadians that is just boxy and that not much thought was put into it.”

Beginning in May 2026, Zebian is putting his modular home prototype to the test by living inside of a unit for a full year with the hope of working out any and all kinks before approaching manufacturers.

“We want to see if we can make it through all four seasons- summer, winter, spring, and fall,” said Zebian. “But that’s not the only thing. When you live in something that long and use it, you can notice every single mistake and error, and you can optimize for the best experience.”

While Zebian knows that his modular homes aren't a long-term solution to either the homeless or housing crisis, he believes they could provide an inexpensive option to help people get the shelter they need until certain policies are reformed so the unhoused can find affordable permanent dwellings.

@hard.knock.gospel

What to buy for the homeless at the grocery store. 🛒 Most people get it wrong. After being there myself, these are the survival items that actually matter 💯 The 2nd to last one is about more than survival—it’s about DIGNITY. We are all one circumstance away from the same shoes 🙏 SAVE this for your next grocery run. 📌 IG@hardknockgospel Substack@ Outsiders_Anonymous #homelessness #helpingothers #kindness #payitforward #learnontiktok

Zebian’s proposal and experiment definitely inspires others to try to help, too. If you wish to lend a hand to the unhoused community in your area in the United States, but don’t know where to look, you can find a homeless shelter or charity near you through here. Whether it’s through volunteering or through a donation, you can help make a difference.

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A woman speaking with two men at a party.

When we think of someone likable, we often imagine a person with a big personality who's the life of the party. We conjure up images of social butterflies and people who keep everyone at the dinner party glued to their every word when they tell a story. The funny thing is, according to research, that's not really the case.

Studies show that the easiest way to make someone like you is to show interest by asking questions during the conversation and making it clear that you like them. People also really love those who come off as genuine.


Michael Gendler, a co-founder of Ultraspeaking, a platform that helps people master the art of public speaking, recently shared three "magic" phrases that make you more likable, all of which align with what science tells us.

Three phrases that make you more likable

Phrase 1: "Here's what really scares me..."

This phrase resonates with people because it shows you're genuine by admitting your vulnerability. "Man, talk about your feats, real fears, not like 'Oh, I'm scared I'm going to be too successful.' Tell us about something that actually scares you. Don't be guarded. Be open, and other people will appreciate that," Gendler says.

Phrase 2: "You know what I really like about you?"

This phrase makes people like you because it counters a psychological phenomenon known as signal amplification bias, which suggests we tend to overestimate how clearly we express our feelings to others. This means that, many times, when we think others know we like them, they may not be so sure. So a little assurance goes a long way toward showing them the feeling is mutual. "People love being complimented as long as it is genuine," Gendler says.


Phrase 3: "Tell me more"

As Dale Carnegie wrote in How to Make Friends and Influence People, the key to interacting with others is focusing on being interested in them rather than trying to impress them by being interesting. "Be interested, not interesting," Carnegie writes.

A Harvard study supports this, showing that when you first start speaking with someone, you should follow your first question with two more. People who do this are rated as much more likable than those who, after one question, shift the conversation to themselves. "People love feeling like what they're saying is interesting. So invite them to speak more," Gendler continues.


Don't forget to be genuine

Ultraspeaking's post is a breath of fresh air for those who aren't comfortable trying to impress others at parties, on dates, or in the office. The video shows that if you make people feel important, they're much more likely to like you in return. The key is that it has to come from the heart.

"Remember, don't just use these phrases and expect them to work," Gendler says. "They have to be genuine and open. That's what makes people likable."

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Many school districts are moving to a 4-day week, but there are pros and cons to the approach.

American kids have fewer school days than most other major countries as it is, which poses a big challenge for families with two working parents. In a system designed for the "classic" stay-at-home mom model, it's difficult for many modern families to cover childcare and fulfill their work obligations during the many, many holidays and extra days off American children receive in school.

Some school districts, in fact, are ready to take things one step further with even fewer instructional days: for better or for worse.


Whitney Independent School District in Texas recently made news when it decided to enact a four-day week heading into the 2025 school year. That makes it one of dozens of school districts in Texas to make the change and over 900 nationally.

The thought of having the kids home from school EVERY Friday or Monday makes many parents break out in stress hives, but this four-day school week movement isn't designed to give parents a headache. It's meant to lure teachers back to work.

Yes, teachers are leaving the profession in droves and young graduates don't seem eager to replace them. Why? For starters, the pay is bad—but that's just the beginning. Teachers are burnt out, undermined and criticized relentlessly, held hostage by standardized testing, and more. It can be a grueling, demoralizing, and thankless job. The love and passion they have for shaping the youth of tomorrow can only take you so far when you feel like you're constantly getting the short end of the stick.

School districts want to pay their teachers more, in theory, but their hands are often tied. So, they're getting creative to recruit the next generation of teachers into their schools—starting with an extra day off for planning, catch-up, or family time every week.

Teachers in four-day districts often love the new schedule. Kids love it (obviously). It's the parents who, as a whole, aren't super thrilled.

- YouTube www.youtube.com

So far, the data shows that the truncated schedule perk is working. In these districts, job applications for teachers are up, retirements are down, and teachers are reporting better mental well-being. That's great news!

But these positive developments may be coming at the price of the working parents in the communities. Most early adopters of the four-day week have been rural communities with a high prevalence of stay-at-home parents. As the idea starts to take hold in other parts of the country, it's getting more pushback. Discussions on Reddit, Facebook, and other social media platforms are overrun with debate on how this is all going to shake up. Some parents, to be fair, like the idea! If they stay-at-home or have a lot of flexibility, they see it as an opportunity for more family time. But many are feeling anxious. Here's what's got those parents worried:

The effect on students' achievement is still unclear.

The execution of the four-day week varies from district to district. Some schools extend the length of each of the four days, making the total instructional time the same. That makes for a really long day, and some teachers say the students are tired and more unruly by the late afternoon. Some districts are just going with less instruction time overall, which has parents concerned that their kids might fall behind.

A study of schools in Iowa that had reduced instructional days found that five-days-a-week students performed better, on average.

Four-day school weeks put parents in a childcare bind.

Having two working parents is becoming more common and necessary with the high cost of living. Of course—"school isn't daycare!" But it is the safe, reliable, and educational place we send our kids while we we work.

Families with money and resources may be able to enroll their kids in more academics, extracurriculars, sports, or childcare, but a lot of normal families won't be able to afford that cost. Some schools running a four-day week offer a paid childcare option for the day off, but that's an added expense and for families with multiple kids in the school system, it's just not possible.

kids, school, school days, school week, schedule, 4 day week In a 4-day model, kids often (but not always) receive less instructional time. Photo by Ivan Aleksic on Unsplash

This will inevitably end with some kids getting way more screentime.

With most parents still working five-day weeks, and the cost of extra activities or childcare too high, a lot of kids are going to end up sitting around on the couch with their iPad on those days off. Adding another several hours of it to a child's week seems less than ideal according to expert recommendations.

Of course there are other options other than paid childcare and iPads. There are play dates, there's getting help from family and friends. All of these options are an enormous amount of work to arrange for parents who are already at capacity.

Working four days is definitely a win for teachers that makes the job more appealing. But it doesn't address the systemic issues that are driving them to quit, retire early, or give up their dreams of teaching all together.

@5th_with_ms.y

Replying to @emory here are my thoughts on my 4day work week as a teacher✨ #foryou #fyp #fypシ #foryoupage #foryoupageofficiall #teachersoftiktokfyp #teachersoftiktok #teachertok #teachersbelike #teachertiktok #tik #tiktok #viralllllll #teachertoks #teaching #teacher #tok #viralvideo #teacherlife #viral #trendy #teacher #teaching #worklifebalance #worklife #publicschool #publiceducation #school #student

A Commissioner of Education from Missouri calls truncated schedules a "band-aid solution with diminishing returns." Having an extra planning day won't stop teachers from getting scapegoated by politicians or held to impossible curriculum standards, it won't keep them from having to buy their own supplies or deal with ever-worsening student behavior.

Some teachers and other experts have suggested having a modified five-day school week, where one of the days gets set aside as a teacher planning day while students are still on-site participating in clubs, music, art—you know, all the stuff that's been getting cut in recent years. Something like that could work in some places.

In any case, the debate over a shortened school week is not going away any time soon. More districts across the country are doing their research in preparation for potentially making the switch.

Many parents don't theoretically mind the idea of their busy kids having an extra day off to unwind, pursue hobbies, see friends, catch up on projects, or spend time as a family. They're also usually in favor of anything that takes pressure off of overworked teachers. But until we adopt a four-day work week as the standard, the four-day school week is always going to feel a little out of place.

This article originally appeared in February. It has been updated.

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A few VHS tapes on a table.

There are certain words, expressions, and references that, when used, can absolutely give away a person's generation. If someone hears "Leave a message on my machine," they might assume they're dealing with a Boomer. On the other end of the spectrum, if someone says, "Hit me up on Snapchat," one could place bets that it's not a Boomer or even a Gen X-er talking.

So when @Bittenhand19 took to Threads to state, "If I hear a person say 'VHS player' I know for a fact that person was born after 1995," it got quite a lot of people weighing in.


But let's rewind for a quick technological history lesson.

A brief history of the VCR. www.youtube.com, 21st Century Entertainment

Way back in the 1950s (1956, to be exact), the first VCR, or Video Cassette Recorder, was released to the public. According to Christian Roemer's article on the history of the VCR, "The first widely available VCR-like device was mainly intended for television networks, and it was incredibly expensive. Its 1956 price tag was $55,000, which converts to about half a million dollars in 2022. That's right: the first VCR analogue was more expensive than a house!"

Over the decades, the price tag dropped, and by the early 1970s, the first VCRs were hitting store shelves for consumers. But here's where the confusion might come in for some. "The problem was that VCRs didn't all use the same tapes at that point," Roemer wrote. "Sony had Betamax, JVC had VHS, and a couple other stragglers bounced around too. Sort of like different video game systems, the different home video formats vied for market share and duked it out for a while. By the late 1970s, the public had spoken with their wallets, and VHS won the day. VCRs would eventually be in practically every home worldwide."

VCR, VHS, Tapes, 80s, 90s A VHS tape is pulled out of a VCR. Giphy Video VHS GIF

Interestingly, a post titled "The Rise and Fall of the VCR: A Comprehensive History" on the DiJiFi website further explains:

"Despite incorporating state-of-the-art sound and audio quality at the time, Betamax and VHS were at war. JVC developed and released the VHS in Japan in 1976, then released the product in the U.S. market a year later. While Sony's Betamax machine was the first form of videotape hardware to host home videos, it was no match for JVC for several reasons.

The VHS has a lighter build, resulting in cheaper manufacturing. The rectangular box could hold twice the amount of film tape, allowing it to play longer features that Betamax could not. While Sony's Betamax had superior picture quality, the VHS took first place in terms of cost-effectiveness and convenience, making it the preferred home videotaping format."

Which brings us back to the Threads post. With nearly 2,000 likes and more than 300 comments, people most definitely had their own takes. Some jumped in to say the correct term was "tape player," with one person specifically writing, "tape player, if you're nasty."

Betamax, Sony, 1980s, Gen X, Boomer A Betamax sits on the floor. commons.wikimedia.org, File:Sony Betamax SL-C7E.jpg - Wikimedia Commons

Many seem to know that the correct term is VCR, since VHS was merely a brand name (not unlike the way "tissues" and "Kleenex" are often used interchangeably).

Another commenter went into greater detail, while also pointing out that someone born in 1995 understands the distinction: "1995 here. Wrong. All VCRs played VHS tapes, but not all VHS players were VCRs. There were dedicated VHS players that could only play tapes, but couldn't record onto those tapes."

This commenter goes deep into the weeds: "You do not know this for a fact. They could possibly be someone who thought Betamax was a superior format for video cassette recorders. Or differentiating from their regular VHS VCR and one that did S-VHS, Video8, VHS-C, Hi8, PXL-2000, etc. etc. etc. Sometimes people have to make a distinction."

Some went the humorous route: "VHS player? That's a VCR. Stands for…video…crambobulating…robot."

Perhaps even more interestingly, some claim it's not a generational thing at all, but a geographical one: "Funny, if I hear a person say 'VCR,' I know they're American."

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Gen Z is very similar to Baby Boomers and shares their most Boomer opinions.

Gen Z (those born between 1997 and 2012) is defined by many things: a love of the color yellow, "work minimalism," and the Gen Z stare. Recently, Gen Z has started to gain a reputation for behaving like Baby Boomers (those born from 1946 to 1964) in form and function.

Gen Z and Boomers have become peas in a pod, sharing many similarities. According to research from youth-focused creative agency Adolescent Content, Gen Z reports having values and outlooks similar to Boomers when it comes to marriage, family, homeownership, and more.


@four.nine

Are Gen-Z the new Boomers? #generation #generations #genz #boomers #millenials #millenial #genzvsmillenial

In a Reddit discussion, Gen Zers shared their most Boomer opinions. From technology to tipping, here are 21 takes they fully stand by:

"Sometimes the music is TOO LOUD." - User Unknown

"You don't need an Apple watch!" - DawnofMidnight7

"Cars have too many screens and too few buttons and knobs." - User Unknown

"The loss of ownership. Everything's moving to a subscription, lease, or rental model. I fear someday we'll own nothing and you'll subscribe/sign a lease/rent everything." - User Unknown

"You don't need a phone in grade school." - DEA187MDKjr

"I can't stand QR menus." - Prestigious-Ear5001

"Stop giving your kids iPads so young. My mom gave me a ds & a leap pad. DS can still have an addictive quality, but it's not the same level of 'bad' that an iPad has. I got my iPad at 13 after saving for a whole summer as well as birthday/Christmas money from that past year & I still saw things I probably didn't need to see at 13. I truly can see a difference in the emotional regulation of iPad kids vs other kids." - TheNarwhalMom

- YouTube www.youtube.com

"'Dumb' TVs need to be made for those who don't want ads and Internet connection, I just want to watch TV 😭." - yerboiboba

"Internet should be on my phone and my computer only. I barely allow my tv to have it. My fridge, my toaster oven, my washer and dryer DO NOT NEED INTERNET CONNECTION." - king-of-new_york

"Not everything needs to be a smart device. Let the fridge be a damn fridge it shouldn't need software updates." - ceejay267

"Disney was better back in our day." - User Unknown

"We really need to let kids be kids. Additionally: work is good, actually. There has never been a point in human history where work has not only not been a necessity of survival but something that human beings have actively sought out as enrichment. When people complain about work, they are more often than not describing issues with work culture under capitalism rather than the concept of work itself. You don't actually hate work. You just want to be treated humanely as a worker." - OhLookItsGeorg3

"It's much more convenient to write stuff down on paper instead of a note app." - Essen_lover

"This generation is way too comfortable putting off things they need to do because they're 'uncomfortable.' Sometimes we have to suck it up and just do what we need to do, even if we don't necessarily want to." - mssleepyhead73

gen z, generation z, gen z, notes, note taking, notebook A Gen Zer takes notes in a notebook.Photo credit: Canva

"If the burger is $10+ it comes with fries and a soda fountain cup." - SecretWasianMan

"No I'm not tipping if I see a service charge on the receipt, especially if you didn't tell me up front. I'm especially not tipping more than 10% if you just get a can out of the fridge or throw a bagel in the microwave." - SecretWasianMan

"In store shopping is better than Amazon if management actually gives a sh*t about product knowledge and customer experience." - SecretWasianMan

"Yes, you should get your drivers license even if you don't plan on driving right now. No one has a crystal ball and I haven't met a 25 year old that has their sh*t together but can't take 10 minutes to fill out an online application with the DMV." - SecretWasianMan

"People are way too obsessed with social media." - TheRealLaura789

"I miss the AUX port on my phone :( I don't like AirPods or Bluetooth earbuds, I want the wired ones!" - doguillo77

"I hate when teenagers are being teenagers in public." - Puzzleheaded-Plum192