People are sharing the telltale signs that it’s definitely time to ‘leave a party’

Here are 18 of the best responses.

a blurred photo of people at a house party
Is it time to bail?Photo credit: via Mike Burns/Flickr

There are few things more satisfying than knowing you left a party before things turned sour. You came, had a good time, and had the sense to hit the exit before a fight broke out, the cops showed up, or a bunch of people got into a drunken debate about politics.

There’s one rule my wife and I have: When the couple throwing the party starts to fight, that’s when you grab your things and go.

When you’re younger, it’s a bit harder to recognize the telltale signs that a party is about to go sideways. But when people age and have seen a thing or two, they start to develop a “Spidey sense” for the moment when it’s time to hit the exit before all hell breaks loose. They also know how long to stay before they’ve become an unwanted house guest.


It’s one thing to know how to leave before things get lame. But it’s seriously important to identify situations that could lead to physical violence or sexual assault.

Reddit user u/mharris1405 must have gone to a rager a few years ago, because in a now-archived post to the online forum, they asked, “What are some signs you need to leave the party?” The Reddit community responded with some funny and practical advice on when they know it’s time to head for the day.

Here are 18 of the best responses.

1. A party rots from the host down

“When the host is the cause of any form of drama,” – Nova_Phoenix

2. When the drunks are the only folks left

“When all the fun people have left and it’s just the last of the fucked up people hanging out,” – ParsnipBusy.

3. Don’t be the last person standing

“When it suddenly goes from 30 people to you and 2 randoms,” – hoot69

4. When things turn sloppy

“When people start getting obnoxious. If you see drunk or high people breaking shit, or screaming, interrupting others’ conversation, that’s when you can see that the party is going to get worse,” – ToastedMaple

5. “Who invited these dudes?”

“When a group of 5-10 unknown men arrives, which weren’t invited,” – Katsudonisyummy

6. When the antisocial crew arrives

“If a group of guys come in and don’t greet anybody, they just stand around looking around, someone is about to be jumped or shot. Leave.” – CGY-SS

7. When the night has peaked

“There usually comes a point in the night, usually around 2-3am, where everyone’s drunkenness wanes from energised to a bit sloppy. A lot of people start sitting down in increasingly insular circles, and drinks just stop going down so well. A lot of people will just hang around because it was fun earlier and they don’t want the night to end, but you start to really compromise on tomorrow’s happiness by drawing out the night.” – Tosslebugmy

8. When it devolves into a sausage fest

When you’re a young female and suddenly realize the male-female ratio is more than 12-1 and the crowd is taking on a shark-like circling motion with a lot of side-eye. The actual nice guy I was chatting with suddenly said, ‘You need to leave’ and I jumped to my feet and bailed like the place was on fire. I suspect the nice guy covered my exit. See, there are nice guys and scary ones and fools like I was,” – Melina26

9. When your phone is more fun

“You’re starting to be on your phone WAY too much,” – Pillsbury Toasters

10. Guns? No thanks

“I once walked into a party and saw a bunch of guns just laying around and I grandpa Simpson’d myself right back out the door,” – popcornkernels

11. Leave before you get pulled in

“When you realize you’re just standing there watching the shit show. There’s a time limit to that. No need to become part of the show. Get out while you can,” – toriaehi

12. When you’re the third wheel

“Everybody is hooking up except you and you’re sitting next to a couple making out on a couch,” – OliveaSea

13. When the cops arrive

“I have a rule. No matter how good a time I am having, even if I have done nothing wrong, when cops show up, I leave then,” – Latvian_Pete

14. When your friends have left

“When you feel as though you’re ‘on the outside looking in,’” – Back2Bach

15. Trust your gut

“I saw no one mention this so here I go. When your 6th sense or danger sense is screaming at you. You know that feeling when you suddenly feel unsafe, where there is no reason to be so? That is basically your unconscious mind screaming at you, because you unconsciously noticed something wrong, but cant put your finger on what. For those who have not had this yet, the most easily identifiable signs are, cold running down your neck, sudden extreme vigilance, the hair all over your body stands, and in general you feel like death itself is breathing down your neck.

If you have this (gut) feeling, flee. I am not kidding. Run like the wind. This saved me from some hairy situations.
As for an example that would be, something along the lines of seeing someone spike a drink at the edge of your vision, you personally did not notice it, but deep down you realized what is what so your body warns you about it. Even if this gut feeling is only correct 1 out of 10 times, you will thank it when it does,”
– TehBuckets

16. The rule of two

“Never be the drunkest person in a room. If you are at a party and can’t identify 2 people more intoxicated than you, find a safe ride home or quit drinking for awhile,” – YeaahProlly

17. Terrible DJ

“When the music just sucks,” – JuliusTaka

18. Again, trust your gut

“When you can tell there is an emotionally unbalanced person there who you have a feeling will be a problem, you may consider leaving if it escalates. Whether it be starting a fight, or you can tell they are going to cause a problem later in the night or you feel uncomfortable around them always trust your gut. The same goes with a person you just feel is ‘off’ around. You are there to have a good time, not be anxious,” – foofighterfoos

Parties are fun but they can’t last forever. Stay safe out there.


This article originally appeared two years ago.

  • People were asked to share their culture’s most delicious ‘filling wrapped in dough’ snacks and they didn’t disappoint
    One thing brings all people together: a filling wrapped in dough.Photo credit: Canva

    When reading the words “filling wrapped in dough,” what pops into mind? Dumplings? Empanadas? Hostess Fruit Pies? An Instagram post has people discussing the near-universality of cultures around the world having their own version of a tasty filling encased in delicious dough.

    No matter where a person comes from, it seems like there is some form of “filling wrapped in dough” food in every country. Folks from different nations flocked to Reddit to discuss their favorites:

    “Sambousek. We make it filled with minced meat, onion, and pine nuts all mixed together with some pomegranate molasses.” (from Lebanon)

    “Cornish pasties. Or maybe sausage rolls. Then again, beef wellington is basically ‘filling wrapped in dough.’” (from the United Kingdom)

    “Pastel. Very thin and crispy dough, deep fried. National favorites include heart of palm, and cheese & ham. My favorite is shrimp.” (from Brazil)

    “Calzone.” (from Italy)

    “My French-Canadian grandma makes tourtiere in a hand pie format every Christmas and they’re incredible. I look forward to them every year.” (from Canada)

    “Here’s a curry goat patty.” (from Jamaica)

    “Pierogi, my beloved.” (from Poland)

    “Pitepalt. A potato and barley dumpling the size of a tennis ball. It is filled with salt pork and served swimming in butter and lingonberry jam.” (from Sweden)

    “Irish sausage rolls… Not to be confused with a sausage in a roll.” (from Ireland)

    “I have a steak and cheese pie for breakfast most mornings.” (from New Zealand)

    “Give me one of them handheld dessert pies from the gas station and I’ll be all over them.” (from the United States)

    Pro chefs share their favorite “filling wrapped in dough” foods and recipes

    Many professional chefs and food experts who spoke to Upworthy shared their favorite versions of dough-wrapped foods and the stories behind them.

    “I’ve rarely met a dough stuffed with filling that I didn’t like, and I also think it’s fun to reimagine popular foods and let their worlds collide,” said award-winning pastry chef Katherine Sprung. “I was a winner of the show Chopped Sweets, where our challenge was to create mash-up desserts. For my first round I made a cheesecake egg roll, made a raspberry cheesecake mixture, enclosed in an egg roll wrapper, and fried, which, luckily, the judges really loved!”

    Sprung also said that making those cheesecake egg rolls on TV inspired her to create another simple recipe: cashew butter and jelly rolls.

    “Spinach fatayer are portable and are perfect for picnics, potlucks, and special occasions,” said cookbook author Luay Ghafari. “My grandmother used to prepare them on the weekends so they would be ready to go into our school lunchboxes come Monday.”

    If you want to try this savory hand pie, Ghafari kindly provided a recipe. Ghafari said that fatayer can also be made for meat or cheese lovers.

    Spinach fatayer. Photo credit: Luay Ghafari

    A “filling in wrapped dough” started a career

    These filling-wrapped-in-dough foods aren’t just favorites springing from a chef’s imagination or family roots. In some cases, they can even inspire lifelong vocations.

    “My favorite ‘filling in wrapped dough’ food is the Himalayan momo,” said Jessica Randhawa, chef and recipe developer at The Forked Spoon. “I never knew what a momo was until my boyfriend, now husband, and I traveled to Asia for six months in 2011. Those travels are what initially got me into cooking classes and schools abroad and writing about them.”

    Jessica Randhawa and a classmate learning to make momos in Kathmandu.
    Photo credit: Jessica Randhawa

    “When I got back to Kathmandu, I had to take a cooking class to learn how to make them, which was one of my first experiences learning to cook from professionals,” she added. “So, momos are really special to me because learning about them and how to make them 15 years ago inadvertently kicked off a long and winding road that led to growing one of the largest recipe websites in the world.”

    Wrapped in dough, wrapped with love

    Celebrity chef Mariko Amekodommo told Upworthy that her upbringing and her travels while training to be a chef were filled with dough-wrapped delights.

    She recalled learning how to make handmade ravioli by watching her mom and grandma as a child. Among many other foods, she said she learned to cook and eat tamales, bánh cuốn, samosas, and ovocné knedlíky while living in Los Angeles, Vietnam, India, and the Czech Republic. While all of those dishes use different ingredients, Amekodommo saw many similarities.

    “What strikes me, having lived and cooked professionally across multiple countries, is that these aren’t really different dishes,” said Amekodommo. “They’re the same dish built from whatever the land provided—wheat in Europe and North India, corn in Latin America, rice in Southeast Asia.”

    “The form is universal because it solves the same problems everywhere: stretch protein with starch, make it portable, feed a lot of people from not very much,” she added. “And they became holiday food everywhere for the same reason—you can’t really make them alone. They require hands, time, and people around a table. That part never changes.”

    It seems that “filling wrapped in dough” brings people together, whether worldwide or within your own household.

  • Woman makes a country song out of her dad’s voice texts, and it’s an accidental hit
    A dad's failed voice-to-text attempts strike musical comedy gold.Photo credit: Canva
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    Woman makes a country song out of her dad’s voice texts, and it’s an accidental hit

    “Cowboy Gary has stolen the hearts and brought tears of laughter to MILLIONS.”

    Anyone who’s ever used voice-to-text has felt the frustration of a phone hearing things very, very wrong. This is especially true for those among us with thick accents.

    However, this frustration can apparently make for musical comedy gold.

    Just ask Bri Hill, who used failed voice-to-text attempts from her father, affectionately known as “Cowboy Gary,” and turned them into a country song that’s not only hilarious but also kinda slaps.

    “This is my greatest creative achievement to date,” bragged Hill.

    And honestly, despite the fact that she’s an art teacher, she ain’t wrong. Gary’s twangy voice really lends itself to the genre. Even something as mundane as asking his sister if she’s coming to the family reunion (“Harold and Wanda will be there. Oh, and Lindsey!”) magically feels perfect.

    And of course, there’s a bit of an, ahem, misunderstanding when the phone tries to transcribe Gary talking about the BULLS on his farm. Three guesses as to what word the device thinks he’s saying.

    Watch:

    “Never know what the phone’s gonna print when I’m talkin’ to it,” Gary laments in the tune. We know your pain, Gary! He then brings it all home by saying, “I will talk to ya later when I have time to talk on the phone instead of talk to the damn phone!”

    TikTok reacts

    Without a doubt, it was an instant hit online. People praised Hill for writing a bona fide honky-tonk bop and empathized with Gary’s exasperation—so everybody found something to love.

    “You, ma’am, have written the perfect country song. David Allen Coe would be proud!”

    “Can I find this on Spotify? 🤘🏻 🎶 🤠”

    “This is a hidden gold mine.”

    “I love this! My phone constantly voice texts ridiculous things, and I say all the time, ‘Siri doesn’t speak Texan.’ I always thought I didn’t have an accent until I attempted voice texting.”

    “It sounds like text conversations with my dad! Love it!!!! my siblings, and I do a monthly recap of our text messages with our father.”

    “​​I have tears rolling down my face from laughing.”

    “As someone who voice texts, this is a very accurate conversation.”

    “Submit this to the waffle house juke box 🤣”

    “This why I don’t use voice to text. 🤣”

    As Hill put it in her caption, Cowboy Gary has stolen the hearts and brought tears of laughter to MILLIONS.”

    Getting your phone to understand your accent

    According to a survey conducted by Guide2Fluency, Southern and Texan dialects are two of the five U.S. regional accents most commonly misunderstood by AI, ranking first and fourth, respectively. Joining them are New York, New Jersey, and Boston accents. And that’s without even going into the challenges that ethnic and cultural dialects and accents face when it comes to errors.

    That said, there are ways to reduce some of these mistakes, even if they don’t disappear entirely. One is to change the specific regional dialect (e.g., British English vs. American English) in your settings. Another is to update your system’s voice recognition software to ensure better accuracy.

    Or, you could just use it to make a song. Whatever floats your boat. 

  • Man gets wave of support after tearful confession that a friend called him ‘too poor’ to get invited anywhere
    A man gets a wave of support after sharing how a friend excluded him for being “poor.”Photo credit: @father_vs_world/TikTok

    Recently, a man went on TikTok to tearfully recount being called “poor” by a close friend. He was overwhelmed by the amount of support he received from total strangers.

    On February 12, Andrey Borul explained in a video that he had fallen into medical debt after spending two weeks nearly dying in the hospital. Now, he’s “working almost twenty hours a day trying to recover.”

    Borul isn’t alone in this struggle. Studies estimate that approximately 100 million Americans have some form of medical or dental debt, with total outstanding debt around $220 billion.

    And yet, Borul’s family has tried their best to keep their spirits up and “make it work.” They’ve always managed to “bring a gift” to whatever parties they were invited to.

    “Too poor” to get invited

    So when, at one of these parties, a friend said that Borul and his wife don’t get invited anywhere because they’re “too poor,” he was “dumbfounded.”

    Things only seemed to get worse when, presumably at the same party, couples were talking about “buying houses.” Borul’s wife suggested making a group trip to the mountains so the kids could enjoy the snow together. Again, a friend immediately “shot down” the idea, saying, “You can’t afford that.”

    Tears welling up in his eyes, Borul admitted, “It’s true—we can’t.” He then shared how, the next morning, he drove up to the mountains himself to bring down some snow for his kids to play with.

    @father_vs_world

    Daughter been praying for snow and since Idaho had zero snow days i made a secret trip high into the mountains to bring snow for them to play in

    ♬ Snow Day – Tabitha Meeks & Ryan Corn

    “After our bills are paid, we have so little left over for entertainment,” he said. “I’ve been working nonstop to dig ourselves out of this financial hole…being poor sucks.”

    Borul ended his clip saying, “I feel so alone. We haven’t been invited for three months anywhere.”

    Thankfully, Borul was met with a wave of support from viewers 

    A few people shared that they had found themselves in equally disheartening situations.

    “Most of us in North America are in your shoes.”

    Many chimed in to remind him what real friendship looks like.

    @father_vs_world

    Replying to @Sandyyy.R. How can so called close “friends “ be so crule.. just thinking about it makes me cry 😭

    ♬ original sound – father_vs_world

    “Bro, you literally went to the mountain and brought your kids back snow…you’re working 20 hours a day for your family…you are THE MAN. Do not let those types of people make you feel any sort of way. Run from them. You’re the kind of guy I would be honored to call my friend.” 

    “You almost died, lost two weeks of income, and those people did not help you? They are not your friends.” 

    “This broke my heart and angered me because I’ve been in between blessings before and I remember when we planned a trip and our friends knew we were in between blessings. They ended up paying for the trip and once we got back on our feet, that’s when we paid them back (they wouldn’t take it). My point is friendship is about support (not necessarily financial), love, and grace. As hard as it’s going to be it may be time for you and your wife to leave them where they are at. Sending you love.”

    “You should not be wasting your time and energy on these people. You are richer than them in the most important way.”

    “If they were your friends, they would ask how to help you, not leave you out because you don’t have the money.” 

    And perhaps most encouraging of all, donations began pouring into Borul’s GoFundMe to help cover some of those exorbitant medical bills and give him some room to breathe. So far, a little over $30,000 has been raised, inching closer to the overall $35,000 goal.

    Understandably, Borul was overwhelmed by all the support 

    “I woke up with a total lightness in my chest,” he said. “Total strangers showed me more compassion than my own friends. I am so beyond grateful.”

    Hopefully, Borul can take solace in knowing that he does have a friend group, even if it wasn’t who he was expecting.

    If you’d like to donate to Borul’s GoFundMe page, click here

  • Generation Jones is showing off their Farrah Fawcett feather hairdos from the ’70s in all their voluminous glory
    Generation Jones shows off their Farrah Fawcett–inspired hair from the 1970s.Photo credit: Reddit/Asleep-Cow-6367 & Wikipedia

    Television in the 1970s was packed with unforgettable variety shows and iconic late-night talk shows that showcased some pretty incredible performances. One TV show that had a seismic impact on pop culture in the late 1970s was Charlie’s Angels, which debuted in 1976 and starred the gorgeous Farrah Fawcett.

    It was Fawcett’s legendary coif that set off a major 1970s hair trend. Baby Boomers and Generation Jonesers took cues from Fawcett, opting for feathered shags and voluminous hairstyles that defined the decade.

    On Reddit, users shared photos and discussed the glory of the hair trend back in the day.

    Generation Jones on their feathered hairdos

    Redditor Asleep-Cow-6367 shared a photo of her feathered ‘do, along with a few funny comments. “I wanted to look RAD! 😅,” she wrote. “I didn’t know WTH I was doing, but I had that comb in the back pocket of my H.A.S.H. jeans! Haha. Oh, that blow dryer and round brush.”

    Another Redditor commented on her ‘do: “Nice! You had your hair ‘trained’ as they used to say back when.” She replied, “Kinda. I didn’t like hairspray, so I had that mirror in my locker door, and that comb in my back pocket! Every class break, I am checking my look! LOL.”

    She inspired other Gen Jonesers to share their nostalgic thoughts and memories:

    “Some of us guys pretty much had it too….lol.”

    “I loved my Farrah feather.”

    “I had shorter hair so I had the Dorothy Hamill. I think 90% of the girls were having one or the other.”

    “God the time and hair spray spent on these hairdos!! I looked exactly the same. I’m 63 now.”

    “The wild thing about this hairstyle is it worked on guys and girls. I’m a 64 year old man and I had that exact hairstyle in 1978.”

    “I remember getting the Farrah Fawcett hair style in Junior High. I cried when I washed my hair because it was the first time I had any type of bangs and thought I was bald. Haha I wore that style for several years as a teenager. My 8th grade school picture had the FF hair cut and the ugly baby blue eye shadow. I was next level using the dark blue mascara too.”

    Farrah Fawcett hair history

    Hairstylist Allen Edwards is credited with creating Fawcett’s signature hairdo.

    “The layers around the face are shorter,” Edwards told Stylelist in an August 2009 interview, according to the Huffington Post. “What made it different was that it wasn’t full on top. It was flatter, and the ‘Farrah’ part was the edges, which went flipping back. She had a very strong, squarish jaw, and with her hair long cut [and] moving away from her face, it took your eye away from it.”

    Edwards also told Access Hollywood that he had always wanted to style Fawcett’s naturally curly hair, and that the two finally met through mutual friend Jane Brolin in the mid-1970s.

    “When she came to me they were overbleaching her, and it was dry and didn’t have the luster I gave to it,” he quipped.

  • Bridgerton’s Luke Thompson shared his favorite French phrase. We need something like it in English.
    France isn't the only country with a saying like "un ange passe."Photo credit: Canva

    Luke Thompson has achieved heartthrob status as Benedict Bridgerton, the free-spirited, second-born son of the noble family featured in the popular Bridgerton television series. The show’s fourth season focuses on Benedict’s Cinderella-esque love story with a servant named Sophie, played by Yerin Ha.

    In an interview promoting season four, Thompson and Ha read questions from Bridgerton fans. One person asked Thompson, who grew up in France and speaks fluent French, to share his favorite French phrase.

    @etalkctv

    We can’t think of a better French teacher! 🇫🇷 Luke Thompson revealed what his favourite French phrase is and taught Yerin the language of love in the process! Watch the FULL video of Yerin Ha and Luke Thompson texting fans at the link in our bio. 🔗 Part 1 of ‘Bridgerton’ season 4 is streaming NOW on @Netflix. #LukeThompson #YerinHa #Bridgerton #French #BenedictBridgerton @Yerin Ha

    ♬ original sound – etalk

    “My favorite French phrase is probably…Oh! ‘Un ange passe,’” he said.

    Ha asked what it meant, and Thompson helped her decipher it. Un = a/an. Ange = angel. Passe = pass(es). In English, “Un ange passe” means “An angel passes.”

    “What it means is, when you’re having a conversation, or like just in a group, it’s a nice way of expressing awkward silence,” Thompson explained. “But it’s just those moments where like, just, there’s a bit of a lull and no one says anything. And you say, ‘Un ange passe.’”

    “You say, ‘An angel passes,’” Ha said. “That’s really nice.”

    It is nice. And it appears to be a glaring omission from the English language, since people in the comments shared that they have similar phrases for awkward silences in their cultures:

    “OMG we say the same thing in Arabic!”

    “We say the same in Portuguese… ‘passou um anjo’ ☺️”

    “In Spanish we say that, at least in Chile ‘pasó un angel or ‘un angel pasó.’”

    “In Spanish we say the same thing!! México 🇲🇽”

    “In Philippines we have this too! Haha may dumaang anghel 😂”

    “In Malay we said: malaikat lalu.”

    “We have that phrase in Danish too. But it’s more an angel went through the room.”

    “The Dutch also have this, but a reverend walks by instead of the angel 🙈 Angel is much nicer.”

    “We say that too in Nigeria. ‘Ndị muozi na agafe.’”

    It seems that many cultures have handy phrases like this to make a conversational lull feel mystical or magical instead of uncomfortable and awkward. The wording may differ from place to place—apparently, in Russia and Kazakhstan they say, “A cop was born”—but why don’t we have anything even close to it in English?

    When silence falls over a group of English speakers, we just stand there and shift our gaze, feeling the heavy seconds tick by. Occasionally, someone might acknowledge the silence by saying, “Well, this is awkward…” but that only emphasizes the awkwardness.

    The irony here is that English speakers tend to be particularly uncomfortable with silence, at least compared to cultures in which silence is viewed more positively.

    In his research, linguist Haru Yamada found that Americans consider the length of silence in Japanese speakers’ conversations to be “unbearably long.” Unlike many other cultures, we have no sweet, playful saying to slice through the pregnant pause.

    Not all silence is uncomfortable, of course. It becomes awkward when we expect others to speak—or when we are expected to speak—and no one does.

    According to Rebecca Roache, associate professor of philosophy at the University of London, the awkward feeling of silence comes from fear of how it might be interpreted: “Specifically, we worry about one or both of two things: having others misinterpret our silence, and having others correctly interpret our silence.”

    In other words, we might worry that people think we’re boring if we don’t have something to say, which would be a misinterpretation of our silence. Then again, we might worry that people will think we’re nervous, which may be a totally correct interpretation of our silence—but just not the impression we want to give others.

    The beauty of having a standard phrase like “un ange passe” is that it allows everyone to acknowledge that lulls in conversation are a normal, universal phenomenon. It says, “This is so common, we even have a saying for it.” That alone helps lessen the awkwardness. The English language’s lack of such a phrase now feels like a big, gaping hole in our social lives.

    Where did the idea of saying “un ange passe” come from in the first place? According to the Lawless French website:

    “No one seems to know the origin of the expression, whether the angel’s passing is what causes the silence or if she is attracted by the tranquility, but either way, un ange passe is a nice way to break the tension and continue chatting.”

    Can we just start saying “an angel passes” now? Do we need to ask anyone’s permission for this? It appears to be pretty universal, so maybe we English speakers just missed the boat somewhere along the centuries. It feels well past time to remedy that.

  • Henry Cavill shared a delightful story about a boy’s teacher who refused to believe his uncle was Superman
    Henry Cavill February 10, 2013Photo credit: Sean Reynolds via Wikimedia Commons

    When Henry Cavill was cast as Superman in 2011, most people were thrilled. His nephew Thomas was thrilled too, and he wanted everyone to know about it.

    At school, during a “talk about your family” day, Thomas told his class: “My uncle is Superman.” His classmates were stunned. Nobody believed him. His teacher, less than impressed, told him plainly: “Thomas, we don’t lie in school.”

    Thomas did not back down. “My uncle is Superman,” he insisted.

    The teacher, now genuinely concerned, raised the issue with Thomas’s mother when she came to collect him that afternoon. She walked her through the whole incident, explaining that the school did not encourage children to make things up in front of their peers. Thomas’s mother listened patiently, then delivered the news as gently as she could.

    “I hate to tell you this,” she said, “but it’s all true.”

    Cavill told the story on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno in June 2013, and it got so much mileage that he retold it on Live with Kelly and Ryan in 2018. Both times, audiences loved it for the same reason: Thomas never wavered. He knew what he knew, and no amount of adult skepticism was going to change it.

    “My uncle is Superman” is not the kind of claim most teachers are prepared to receive. But from Thomas’s perspective, it was simply a fact about his life, one that happened to be harder to verify than most. As Cavill told the story, there was no drama, no grand reveal. Just a small boy, stubbornly telling the truth, and a mother who had to gently correct a teacher’s assumptions at school pickup.

    The clip from the Live with Kelly and Ryan appearance has amassed over nine million views, with fans delighting in the specifics. “I hope the teacher replied by saying ‘I’m going to need you to prove that,’” one commenter wrote. “If my uncle was Superman I would brag about it every single day,” said another.

    Thomas, for his part, appears to have handled the whole thing with exactly the composure you’d expect from someone whose uncle saves the world for a living.

    This article originally appeared last year.

  • His classmates wouldn’t sign his yearbook. He signed it himself. Then Paul Rudd got involved.
    Photo of a high school; (Inset) Paul Rudd Photo credit: Gage Skidmore via Wikimedia Commons

    When Brody Ridder came home from school on May 24, 2022, his mom took one look at his yearbook and felt her heart crack open. He’d asked all kinds of kids to sign it. Two had. Two teachers had. And then, on one of the pages, in his own handwriting: “Hope you make some more friends. — Brody Ridder.”

    He had signed his own yearbook. And then wished himself better luck next year.

    Cassandra Ridder posted a photo of the page to the school’s private Facebook parent group that night. She didn’t ask Brody first, but as she told the Washington Post, she knew he’d be fine with it. “Brody has always told me he wants to be part of the solution.” Her message to other parents was simple: talk to your kids about kindness. She had no idea what was about to happen.

    Other parents showed the post to their kids. Seventeen-year-old Joanna Cooper got a text from her mom with a screenshot and made a decision on the spot, as she told KDVR. “We’re going to sign his yearbook,” she said, “because no kid deserves to feel like that.” She started texting friends. Meanwhile, Simone Lightfoot, also an 11th grader, was doing the same thing. “When I was younger, I was bullied a lot like him,” she told the Washington Post. “We walked in and we were like, ‘Where’s Brody at? Is Brody Ridder in here?’ And they’re like, ‘Yeah, he’s in the back.’ And we’re like, ‘Brody! We’re here to sign your yearbook, bud.’”

    The older kids didn’t just sign their names. As Goalcast reported in its coverage, they asked Brody about his hobbies, which turned out to include chess and fencing, and gave him a pep talk. Many of them had been in similar situations at his age. Once the upperclassmen started filling pages, the kids in Brody’s own class started getting up from their seats to sign it too. “It was like a domino effect,” Cassandra told Fox News. “It was beautiful.” By the end of the day, Brody had collected more than 100 signatures, paragraphs of encouragement, and a handful of phone numbers.

    “It just made me feel better as a person,” Brody told KDVR. “I don’t know how to explain it. It just makes me feel better on the inside.”

    The story didn’t stay local for long. After Cassandra posted an update to her personal Facebook, it spread widely. Letters started arriving at the Ridders’ P.O. Box from people across the country and around the world, people of all ages who recognized something in Brody’s story. By July, at least 600 letters had arrived, with more still coming, including one dictated by a three-year-old to his mom.

    Among those who reached out was Paul Rudd. According to the Denver Post, Rudd’s sister saw Cassandra’s post and contacted her to say the actor would love to connect with Brody. Rudd FaceTimed him and sent a care package that included a signed Ant-Man helmet and a handwritten note telling Brody that things get better and that many people, Rudd included, thought he was “the coolest kid there is.”

    Cassandra and Brody have since partnered with The UGLI Foundation, an anti-bullying nonprofit, to keep the conversation going, according to the Denver Post. Cooper, the 11th grader who organized the original yearbook visit, said she planned to push for a schoolwide signing event the following year so no student would face an empty book again.

    Brody said he’s not sure all the kids who refused to sign will become his friends. But something shifted. “It made me feel like there’s hope for the school,” Cassandra said, “there’s hope for humanity, and there are a lot of good kids in this world.”

    This article originally appeared two years ago.

  • ‘I am 55 and I look exactly 55.’ Woman’s viral commentary on aging hits all the right notes.
    It's more than okay to look your age.Photo credit: @tingmystyle/Instagram

    “You look like you’re aging backwards!”

    “You can’t be 50—you don’t look a day over 35!”

    “How do you stay looking so young? What’s your secret?”

    While such comments may be well-intentioned, a woman’s viral video challenges the idea that they are actually compliments. Ting, who posts as @tingmystyle on Instagram, looks directly at the camera and says matter-of-factly, “I am 55 and I look exactly 55. Stop telling a woman, ‘You look younger,’ or ‘You look good for your age.’ It’s not a compliment.”

    Challenging youth-obsessed culture

    Ting says such comments only reinforce our youth-obsessed culture.

    “Everyone ages so differently,” she points out. “What are we even supposed to look like at this age? So tired of hearing that ‘She’s in her 50s but looks 20 years younger.’ Why is that the goal?”

    It’s a question worth asking—and definitely one worth pausing to answer. So often, people go along with what society dictates as the norm, and today that norm means trying to look younger than one’s age. But why? Traditionally, elders have been revered. When did we decide youth was superior?

    As Ting declares, “I don’t survive five decades to be obsessed with looking 30. How many people never made it to 55?”

    Aging is a privilege

    Aging is a privilege not everyone gets. Shouldn’t we feel happy to have lived as long as we have? Part of wanting to look younger may be that getting older reminds us of our mortality. But in reality, none of us knows our timeline, and if we see each day of life as a gift, the more days we’ve lived, the better.

    “Women don’t owe the world youth, beauty frozen in time,” Ting states. “Looking my age, or even older than my age, is not a failure. Youth is not a standard. It’s just a season. And the seasons change.”

    Four images of trees and leaves during the four seasons as a metaphor for the seasons of life
    Every season has its unique beauty. Photo credit: Canva

    Amen. When we hold youthful beauty up on a pedestal, we miss the beauty of every other season. And though women have borne the brunt of the expectation to remain young-looking, men are feeling the pressure to look younger as well. Just look at the Hollywood stars across the gender spectrum getting facelifts and eyelifts. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good. But that’s not the same as trying to look young.

    “We look our age not because we’ve let ourselves go, but because we’ve finally let ourselves be,” says Ting. “I am so proud to look my age.”

    Embracing aging with pride

    It feels like an act of defiance to let ourselves look our age, much less be proud of it. But with more than eight million views, middle-agers everywhere heard Ting’s message loud and clear.

    Here’s what people are saying in the comments:

    “Ooooh, youth is not a standard, it’s just a season. Loveeeee.”

    “‘How many people never made it to 55.’ My mum never made it. I would have loved to send this video to her.”

    “Turning 39 next year and I’m excited! Like wow thank you for another year of life! I almost died in 2022 from a stroke and every birthday I’m just so thankful for my life.”

    “Aging is a privilege. I’ve lost too many people who would have loved to be here, wrinkly & full of sun spots and grey hairs.”

    “Yes! I’m 58. Don’t call me ‘young lady.’ Don’t tell me ‘happy 30th,’ on my birthday. Do you imagine I was having this much fun when I was 30? I wasn’t.”

    “Yes! Yes! Yes! When I turned 50 someone said to me – and I quote – ‘That’s ok 50 is the new 30!’ And I immediately shot back – ‘God I hope not. At 30 I was knee deep in diapers, never got any sleep and cared way too much about what other people said.’ At 58 when someone tells me I don’t look my age all I say is yes I do and change the subject.”

    “I’m 55 too. My only goal is to have clear glowing skin. I’m not supposed to look like my kids and I’m okay with that.”

    “I like giving compliments like wow you have amazing skin. Or wow you have such gorgeous shiny hair. Your eyes are bright – etc. You’re so right about youth-based compliments.”

    Examining our own habits

    So many are taking Ting’s message to heart, and it’s something to consider the next time we feel compelled to tell someone they look young for their age. Is this really a goal we want to reinforce? Or is it a social norm that needs to be thoughtfully examined—if not outright done away with?

    Thank you, Ting, for putting it so plainly and for serving as an example for us all.

    You can follow Ting on Instagram here.

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