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Miley Cyrus was grabbed and kissed by a fan. Her response is an important lesson on consent.

She can be wearing what she wants. She can't be grabbed without her consent.

Miley Cyrus was grabbed and kissed by a fan. Her response is an important lesson on consent.

Miley Cyrus has always been an outspoken proponent of progress. And she's never been afraid to call out people whose actions hurt her, those she loves, and the communities which she's loyal, too. This week proved to be no exception.

During a recent event, a fan grabbed and forcibly tried to kiss Cyrus as she was trying to walk through a crowd with her husband, Liam Hemsworth.


The grab? Disgusting and inappropriate. The public reaction? Also not great. After the grab occurred, fans suggested that the artist — who's been known to swing naked on a wrecking ball or two — somehow deserved it. "You wanted to be sexy," one fan wrote on social media. "What did you expect?"




Cyrus had a clear answer: What she expects is respect. At all times. Regardless of whether she's walking down the street or singing about how much she loves Molly onstage.

"She can be wearing what she wants," Cyrus tweeted.

"She can be a virgin. She can be sleeping with 5 different people. She can be with her husband. She can be with her girlfriend. She can be naked. She CAN'T be grabbed without her consent. #DontFuckWithMyFreedom"




It's an important message for fans:

First, just because you love a celebrity, that doesn't mean you have access to anything outside of what they publish and sell.

Second, artists who own their sexuality in their shows, songs, and videos, are giving consent to show that side of themselves. They're not giving consent for others to touch them.

Third, it doesn't matter what anyone's wearing or doing. You never blame the victim for being assaulted. Because it's never about the clothes: It's always about power. And when we try to pin any kind of harassment on "what they were wearing," we're distancing ourselves, not getting to the root of the issue — which is that no one should ever touch another human being without consent. (And it doesn't matter how big a fan you are.)

Here's hoping that all of us (with the exception of Cyrus; she's good) can learn from this incident.

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1991 blooper clip of Robin Williams and Elmo is a wholesome nugget of comedic genius

Robin Williams is still bringing smiles to faces after all these years.

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Robin Williams and Elmo (Kevin Clash) bloopers.

The late Robin Williams could make picking out socks funny, so pairing him with the fuzzy red monster Elmo was bound to be pure wholesome gold. Honestly, how the puppeteer, Kevin Clash, didn’t completely break character and bust out laughing is a miracle. In this short outtake clip, you get to see Williams crack a few jokes in his signature style while Elmo tries desperately to keep it together.

Williams has been a household name since what seems like the beginning of time, and before his death in 2014, he would make frequent appearances on "Sesame Street." The late actor played so many roles that if you were ask 10 different people what their favorite was, you’d likely get 10 different answers. But for the kids who spent their childhoods watching PBS, they got to see him being silly with his favorite monsters and a giant yellow canary. At least I think Big Bird is a canary.

When he stopped by "Sesame Street" for the special “Big Bird's Birthday or Let Me Eat Cake” in 1991, he was there to show Elmo all of the wonderful things you could do with a stick. Williams turns the stick into a hockey stick and a baton before losing his composure and walking off camera. The entire time, Elmo looks enthralled … if puppets can look enthralled. He’s definitely paying attention before slumping over at the realization that Williams goofed a line. But the actor comes back to continue the scene before Elmo slinks down inside his box after getting Williams’ name wrong, which causes his human co-star to take his stick and leave.

The little blooper reel is so cute and pure that it makes you feel good for a few minutes. For an additional boost of serotonin, check out this other (perfectly executed) clip about conflict that Williams did with the two-headed monster. He certainly had a way of engaging his audience, so it makes sense that even after all of these years, he's still greatly missed.

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Honest barbershop owners return stolen Olympic gold medal to US women's volleyball player

A gold medal is priceless.

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Noe Hernandez and Maria Carrillo, the owners of Noel Barber Shop in Anaheim, California.

Jordyn Poulter was the youngest member of the U.S. women’s volleyball team, which took home the gold medal at the Tokyo Olympics last year. She was named the best setter at the Tokyo games and has been a member of the team since 2018.

Unfortunately, according to a report from ABC 7 News, her gold medal was stolen from her car in a parking garage in Anaheim, California, on May 25.

It was taken along with her passport, which she kept in her glove compartment. While storing a gold medal in your car probably isn’t the best idea, she did it to keep it by her side while fulfilling the hectic schedule of an Olympian.

"We live this crazy life of living so many different places. So many of us play overseas, then go home, then come out here and train,” Poulter said, according to ABC 7. "So I keep the medal on me (to show) friends and family I haven't seen in a while, or just people in the community who want to see the medal. Everyone feels connected to it when they meet an Olympian, and it's such a cool thing to share with people."

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Mom who saved pet goose from eagle while breastfeeding is a mascot for moms everywhere

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Hold on, Frankie! Mama's coming!

How do you explain motherhood in a nutshell? Thanks to Cait Oakley, who stopped a preying bald eagle from capturing her pet goose as she breastfed her daughter, we have it summed up in one gloriously hilarious TikTok.

The now viral video shows the family’s pet goose, Frankie, frantically squawking as it gets dragged off the porch by a bald eagle—likely another mom taking care of her own kiddos.

Wearing nothing but her husband’s boxers while holding on to her newborn, Willow, Oakley dashes out of the house and successfully comes to Frankie's rescue while yelling “hey, hey hey!”

The video’s caption revealed that the Oakleys had already lost three chickens due to hungry birds of prey, so nothing was going to stop “Mama bear” from protecting “sweet Frankie.” Not even a breastfeeding session.

Oakley told TODAY Parents, “It was just a split second reaction ...There was nowhere to put Willow down at that point.” Sometimes being a mom means feeding your child and saving your pet all at the same time.

As for how she feels about running around topless in her underwear on camera, Oakley declared, “I could have been naked and I’m like, ‘whatever, I’m feeding my baby.’”

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