The Oxford Dictionary just updated their definition of 'woman' to make it less sexist

Nobody should call a woman a "bitch" - especially the dictionary. Oxford University Press has finally updated their definition of "woman" to fit in with the 21st century. "We have expanded the dictionary coverage of 'woman' with more examples and idiomatic phrases which depict women in a positive and active manner," OUP said in a statement, per CNN. "We have ensured that offensive synonyms or senses are clearly labelled as such and only included where we have evidence of real world usage." The Oxford Dictionary's definitions show up on search engines like Google, Yahoo, Bing, And Lexico.
The change is the result of a 2019 Change.org petition to update the definition, because it was pretty sexist. The petition was started by London-based communications strategist Maria Beatrice Giovanardi, and received over 30,000 signatures. According to the petition, the Oxford Dictionary contained words that were "sexist" and "show women as sex objects, subordinate, and/or an irritation to men" when talking about women. Giovanardi told The Guardian she feels the campaign achieved 90% of its goals – like getting rid of phrases and definitions that "discriminate and patronize" or "connote men's ownership."
The petition caused the dictionary compliers to undertake an "extensive review" of the entries "for 'woman' and many other related terms." References to gender and words "typically associated with women" (like high-maintenance or housework) were removed. Any references to "sexual attractiveness or activity" were revised. It's like the pressure for women to look good even extended to the dictionary.
There are so many arenas in which women have yet to reach gender parity, but now the dictionary is not one of them. OUP added "equivalent" phrases, such as adding "woman of the moment" to match "man of the moment."
While women shouldn't be defined by their relationship status, OUP also added that a woman can be "a person's wife, girlfriend, or female lover," in addition to a man's. Speaking of man, they also updated their definition for "man," adding the same-gender neutral terminology as used in the updated "woman" def.
One of the major complaints with the old version was that derogatory synonyms for "woman," such as "bitch" and "bint" and "wench" weren't labeled as such. The inclusion of these synonyms without the note that there's anything wrong with them could open the door for harassment. Now, these synonyms are labeled as "derogatory" or "offensive" or "dated."
It's important to think about the words we use, because words have meaning. "The hard truth is that language does matter and does influence society," Giovanardi told Mashable. "We want sexism to be taken as something that not acceptable, [and] not okay."
Ultimately, the change is a reminder that if you stand up and say, "Hey, I don't like it when you think it's okay to call me a bitch," people will eventually listen – even the people in charge of the dictionary.
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Communications expert shares the 7-word phrase to shoot down anyone being disrespectful
Try this method next time someone says something rude.
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Getting caught off guard by a rude comment from a coworker, family member, or total stranger can throw you for a loop. You immediately start wondering how you should respond. Should I insult the person right back or play it cool without stooping to their level? Everyone is going to be thrown by a disrespectful comment at some point, so it’s good to have a response in your back pocket for that moment when it comes.
Communications expert Jefferson Fisher provided a great response that we can all use recently on the Mel Robbins Podcast. Fisher is a Texas board-certified personal injury attorney and one of the most respected voices on argumentation and communication in the world. He is also the bestselling author of The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More.
How to respond to a rude or disrespectful comment
Fisher told Robbins that the first step in responding to the comment is nonverbal. You say nothing. “A lot of silence. So often, if you just wait 10 seconds that you're gonna add distance between what they said and how you're going to respond,” Fisher said. “They're saying this to get something out of you, cause in that moment, they're feeling something, whether it's a fear or an insecurity, whatever it is, you're not going to deliver on that same plane that they are.”
The next step is to let the rude person know that their behavior will not be tolerated in a confident manner.
“So somebody says something disrespectful, you give enough silence to make sure that it's a little awkward, and then you're going to say something to the effect of, ‘That's below my standard for a response.’ All of a sudden, you're now making it clear that what you just said was beneath me. And I don't respond to things that are beneath me in that way.”
Throw it back on them
If you prefer to put someone back on their heels instead of squelching the situation as Fisher recommends, John Bowe, a speech trainer, award-winning journalist, and author of I Have Something to Say: Mastering the Art of Public Speaking in the Age of DisconnectionI Have Something to Say: Mastering the Art of Public Speaking in the Age of Disconnection, says that you should respond with a question: “Do you really mean that?”
“Say it with outrage or dripping sarcasm, with raised eyebrows or deadpan calm. It doesn’t matter. This phrase is quietly disarming and deceptively powerful,” Bowe writes for CNBC. Bowe says the response does two great things for you. First, it gives them a chance to reconsider their words because most rude comments are said without thinking. “By responding with curiosity instead of defensiveness, you’re holding up a mirror. Often, that’s all it takes for the other person to walk back their offense,” he writes.
After the person is asked if they meant what they said, they can double down on their rude comment, but they are probably more likely to backpedal or apologize.
Unfortunately, it’s a fact of life that, unless you live under a rock, you’ll have to deal with people making rude comments. But the best thing you can do is to prepare yourself to confidently put someone in their place so they’ll think twice about ever being rude to you again.