A middle school teacher used students breaking their pencils to teach a brilliant lesson about respect

Some argued that her new classroom pencil policy was rewarding bad behavior. But it worked.

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Photo credit: CanvaStudents kept breaking and losing pencils, so a teacher came up with a genius new policy.

Today’s teachers have more than their fair share of complaints about Gen Z and Gen Alpha students. Educators say many of them are rude, behind on core skills, inattentive, and unmotivated.

One teacher just wishes they’d stop breaking all of her pencils. In a recent video on TikTok, Jess, who teaches middle school, shared that her students were losing and destroying their supplies at an alarming rate, forcing her to rethink her classroom pencil policy.

“My students went through 2,000 pencils in four months,” she says. That’s the fastest rate she’s seen in her seven years of teaching. She says much of it comes down to the kids purposefully breaking and throwing the pencils in class.

But to make matters worse, these were no ordinary pencils. Jess supplies her classes with Dixon Ticonderoga No. 2 pencils, widely considered the cream of the crop of everyday writing pencils. Jess pays for them each semester out of her own pocket because she believes it’s important for her students to have access to high-quality materials, and we all know the school district isn’t going to pony up. That’s what makes the loss of so many pencils in such a short amount of time so frustrating.

Teacher Jess came up with a great idea

“There is a lack of respect for property that isn’t theirs,” she says. Jess then had an interesting choice. She could stop buying and issuing high-quality pencils, but would the kids really learn anything? Ultimately, she came up with a better idea: a clever new classroom pencil policy.

Starting in the new semester at the beginning of 2026, each of her students would receive one pencil per month. Not only that, but the pencil would be engraved with their name. If they lose their pencil before the month is up, they’re out of luck. Jess even went out of her way to get each kid the color and style of their choice, along with a pencil pouch to make it easier to keep track of their writing tool.

@inspo_by_jess

new year, new pencil policy ✏️ the problem has gotten to the point where I’m now engraving students’ names into @Ticonderoga pencils to teach them about respect & accountability✨ Would you try this pencil policy? #teachers #asmr #diy @xtoolofficial ♬ original sound – inspo_by_jess

A few months later, Jess was ready to issue a long-awaited update. Since her first post went up on social media, it has received over eight million views and thousands of comments from fellow teachers and parents cheering her on.

In short, it worked out far better than she ever could have hoped. Not only did the new policy help her preserve more pencils and save money on supplies, but the kids also began internalizing some amazing lessons.

Personal property became a point of pride for her students

For starters, the kids loved the pencils in their chosen color with their name engraved on the side. They were excited to take better care of them and were motivated to avoid losing them and being stuck with whatever cheap loaner was lying around.

The new policy even began to have an impact on the sense of community in the classroom. Jess was able to teach a few students to use the engraving machine, so now the kids are responsible for making their own new batch of pencils every month.

She also noticed that students were beginning to help each other out and hold each other accountable. After class, students scoop up loose pencils from the floor and return them to their rightful owners or drop them in the lost-and-found box. A few kids still struggle with throwing and breaking pencils, but the majority of her kids have fully gotten on board.

Overall, the system is a vast improvement in more ways than one.

@inspo_by_jess

update on our new pencil policy ✏️ here’s what happened after engraving students’ names into Dixon Ticonderoga pencils… Would you try this pencil policy? #teachers #asmr #DIY ♬ original sound – inspo_by_jess

Surprisingly, teachers have come up with all kinds of inventive ways to keep students from losing or breaking classroom supplies, especially pencils.

Classroom pencil policy strategies range from “pencil debt,” a system in which the class works as a group to keep track of all pencils throughout the week, to reward charts, regular check-ins, collateral systems, and more.

Dedicated educators make a real difference

It’s amazing that educators would go through so much trouble. Perhaps the more obvious solution would be to just force kids to provide their own supplies if they can’t be trusted to take care of the ones their teachers provide.

It’s not an exaggeration to say that nearly every teacher at some point is forced to buy needed supplies for the classroom out of their own paycheck. They’re also severely underpaid in most cases, which makes the burden of furnishing the class that much heavier.

However, the best educators, like Jess, refuse to give up on the younger generations. Instead, they find problems that seem hopeless—like a lack of respect for materials—and creatively turn them into teachable moments. She could have cut them off, expressed her disappointment, and left them feeling dejected. But instead, she crafted a brilliant lesson in responsibility, respect, and community. Her students will carry it with them into their next classrooms and beyond.

  • Comedian nails the differences in how each generation arrives at someone’s home
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    Comedian nails the differences in how each generation arrives at someone’s home

    British comedian Jake Lambert went viral for his breakdown of how each generation shows up at someone’s house

    There’s no doubt that there are contrasts between the generations, as baby boomers, Gen X, millennials and Gen Z see and experience the world quite differently. While generation gaps have always existed, the tech age has widened those gaps in big ways, which sometimes creates challenges but often results in hilarity.

    For instance, watching a Gen Zer try to figure out how to use a rotary phone is pure entertainment. The way emojis are used and interpreted varies vastly by age, making for some chuckle-worthy communication mishaps. Slang terms can be hard to keep up with the older you get, but they can also be manipulated by savvy elders to great comedic effect.

    And now, comedian Jake Lambert compared how the different generations arrive at someone’s house in a viral video that’s been viewed millions of times.

    Here’s how he describes each generation

    “You’ve basically got boomers who will turn up completely unannounced any time from about 7:00 in the morning and they will knock on your door just slightly louder than the police using a battering ram carrying out a house raid,” Lambert begins.

    “And then you’ve got Gen X. They would have made the plans well in advance, and they would’ve also checked in a couple of days before just to make sure the plans are definitely still happening,” he coninues. “You see, Gen X is the forgotten generation and they’re so scarred by this title they would’ve assumed that you’d forgotten not only about the plans but about their very existence.”

    “Millennials will have hoped that the plans would’ve been canceled. There’s no reason that a millennial will ever actually want to come to your house,” he continues. “They will arrive late, but they will text you to let you know they’re on their way, just as they’re about to get into the shower. And a millennial will never knock on your door. You’ll just get a text either saying ‘here’ or ‘outside,’ and that’s your cue to go and let them in.”

    “Similarly, Gen Z will never actually knock,” he concludes. “But the chances are they won’t have to, as they would have been documenting the entire journey from their house to yours, maybe even on FaceTime using this angle [camera facing directly up at the chin] as they go along for some reason. Either that or they’ll just send a picture of your front door or a selfie of them outside it. And again, just like the millennial, that’s your cue to go and rescue them from the outside world.”

    The comments were laughing at themselves

    People feel alternately seen, attacked and validated by Lambert’s assessments, with the most common response being “accurate.”

    “I‘m a millennial, my husband GenX. Scarily accurate! 😂

    Described this millennial to a T.”

    “This is surprisingly accurate 😂 I laughed slightly louder than the police using a battering ram…”

    “Sooo accurate…guilty of the lateness and ‘here’ text 🙃”

    “I must admit I’m a millennial. But knocking on the door feels so aggressive, uknow? 😅😇”

    “Millennial texting to say almost there but just started getting dressed to go out. Why do we do this? It’s not intentional, at least not for me.”

    “Honestly your observations are just brilliant! GenX-er here!”

    “The Gen Z angle omg. 😂😂”

    Naturally there are some people who don’t resonate with their generation’s description, but there are exceptions to every rule and some people will never fit a stereotype. However, judging by the wave of affirmative responses, Lambert has nailed the generational generalities across the board—and done so in a way that allows us all to laugh at ourselves.

    You can follow Jake Lambert on Instagram.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Older people agree that no one is ‘prepared’ for these 17 harsh truths about aging
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    Older people agree that no one is ‘prepared’ for these 17 harsh truths about aging

    Someone asked Reddit: “What’s a truth about aging that no one prepared you for?” and thousands of people answered.

    Many of us feel invincible when we are young, believing we can control the aging process so that we’ll always stay forever young, as Bob Dylan once sang. But there’s a moment when everyone realizes aging is an inevitable process and that, eventually, we will have to deal with a slow decline in our physical and, quite possibly, mental capabilities.

    This realization and understanding that we won’t be here forever can profoundly change one’s perspective on life. Even though aging is inevitable, studies show how we think about the process can significantly impact our longevity. People with a positive view of aging live an average of 7.5 years longer than those without.

    When the reality of aging sets in

    Things happen as we age that are impossible to describe to younger people. However, a group of Redditors did an excellent job of explaining the truths about aging that they were not “prepared” for in a recent thread that made a lot of people feel seen. A user named sofiagympixie asked the AskReddit forum, “What’s a truth about aging that no one prepared you for?” and it received thousands responses.

    A big takeaway is that many people feel like they stop mentally aging at a certain point, usually in their late 20s. Still, the continued physical aging they experience makes them feel like they cannot relate to the person in the mirror.

    Here are 17 of the most profound responses to the question: What’s a truth about aging that no one prepared you for?

    1. There is an end

    “You start to realize the older you get that the end is closer than the beginning and you still feel like you have so much more to do.”

    “That moment where you start to get a sense that there is an end.

    2. It takes energy to keep everything afloat

    “No one prepared me for how much energy and time it takes to maintain everything—like health, relationships, and just staying organized. It’s way more work than I expected!

    3. Mind/body detachment

    “How your mind stays young while your body starts to slow down. You still feel like the same person you’ve always been, but suddenly you notice little things changing.

    This was such a surprise to me. I really expected to feel psychologically older as I aged. But physically, oh my body has betrayed me… Eyes… hair (gray, but at least I still have it)… back… knees… hips… prostate.

    4. The past feels closer than it is

    “When you get a flashback of a good memory and you realize that was over 10 years ago.

    “When I told my daughter about something I did 24 years ago, I had to pause for a moment.”

    Time flies isn’t just a saying. Psychologists agree that our minds lump time together based on novel experiences. When we are older, the days are a lot more similar than when we were young children. That’s why when you’re 80, time moves a lot faster than it did when you were 8.

    5. Stuck in the wrong time

    “I’m 61, and sometimes I feel like this world is not for me anymore. I feel almost like an imposter. For example, I can’t find clothes I like that fit correctly, TV is abhorrent, only old music sounds pleasant, shoes are uncomfortable, I don’t recognize most celebrities or famous people in the news or tabloids, and I don’t understand the need for most new and supposedly exciting products. I’m an educated person, I still work and have an active life. I’m not a recluse. But a little at a time, I feel the world is moving on without me. I finally understand why, in her final years, my mother only watched movies from the 1950s and reminisced about the past more than she talked about the present. Her world was long gone.

    When the people and world around you start to change

    6. You lose friends

    “If you choose not to have kids, you may end up losing your friends. I turn 40 this year, and my partner and I don’t see many folks these days. Parents like to hang out with other parents. And I don’t have a grudge, I totally see the value for playdates, etc. But it can be a little lonely.”

    “To be fair, I have 2 kids and lost a lot of friends because we simply don’t have the time/energy to connect regularly enough to maintain a healthy friendship. It instead falls into an awkward acquaintance stage where enough time passes between communication, and you’re not sure if reaching out to connect comes across weird.”

    7. Your parents are aging, too

    “It’s not just you who is getting old. Your parents are getting even older.”

    “I feel this. Lost my mom 2 weeks before my 21st birthday. 40 now with 2 kids. I get angry/sad at a lot of milestones like my wedding and kids’ stuff ‘cause my mom was robbed of them, and I was robbed of her.”

    8. Time wasted caring about other people’s opinions

    “It’s so freeing when that old twinge of ‘why don’t they like me’ pops up, and then I remember that I can not be bothered by that anymore, and magically, I don’t care!”

    “Just wasting time in general. No thanks. I want to do as many things as possible!”

    9. Your friends die

    “Your friends start to die. It’s something I never thought about.”

    10. Time flies

    “Man. I don’t even feel like the days are long anymore. I just keep blinking and the weeks go by.”

    “Yup, wake up, eat breakfast, do a couple things. Wait, it’s lunch already? Eat lunch, do a couple more things, time to prep dinner. Eat dinner, clean up, fix a few things, it’s 9 pm. I guess it’s almost time to get ready for bed? This times 10,000 for me.”

    11. The monotony sets in

    “You will realize that you hate planning meals and making food every single day. It’s boring, and it’s too easy to fall into monotony. But you have to make lunch again and then plan for dinner again then make dinner again and what do you want to eat tomorrow so you plan for breakfast tomorrow and get up and make breakfast again and then plan for lunch again….”

    12. You become invisible to much of society

    “I wondered what felt off the last year. Gen Z is everywhere now, and I’m still asking myself when that happened.”

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    What the world looks like from the other side

    13. Adults aren’t real

    “When you’re a kid, you can’t wait to ‘grow up,’ and then you do, and you’re still you, just older. That voice inside your head doesn’t change, but what you see in the mirror does. Only now you’re just older and saddled with bills and stress and all of life’s ‘surprises.’ On top of this, everyone is winging it. Absolutely everyone. Because the idea of order and a civilized society is an illusion. We’re all playing by made up rules and making imaginary money and all the rest of it. A one-dollar bill costs just as much to print as a hundred-dollar bill.”

    14. Priorities change

    “Things that seemed so important when you were younger, really are not important.”

    15. Younger people’s reverence

    “I’m middle-aged, and a funny thing is how younger people get self-conscious or apologize when there is no need. For example, they will apologize for swearing around me or mentioning something like (gasp) drinking, or drugs, or sleeping around. I think it’s funny. Why would being on earth longer make me easier to scandalize? I’ve seen and done things that would shock them, lol, but to them I’m a very proper-looking classy older lady.”

    16. Ageism

    “Doors start closing once you reach a certain age.”

    “Ageism is real. I just turned 50 and am in a young person’s career (software development). I feel how hiring managers look at me when asked to turn my camera on, during an interview that was going very well and suddenly it’s ‘we’ll get back to you.’”

    17. It all catches up

    “Things like drinking, eating unhealthily, smoking, spending … they will catch up. When you’re young you think you’re different, or you think that when it does catch up you’ll be old so who cares, I won’t care when I’m old anyway. You will care, though. You’ll still be you. Those things won’t seem like an issue right up to the moment they are. And then it’s too late to take them back.”

    The bottom line is that aging is a part of life, and while sometimes it is easy to get wrapped up in the negative, there is still plenty of positive to focus on. Because everyone gets old. Even Bob Dylan.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • A teacher came back from vacation to find “concerned” emails from parents. She couldn’t stop laughing.
    Photo credit: Canva.comWoman smiles while looking at her phone

    Ms. B, a 42-year-old teacher in Minnesota, left school on a Friday for a weekend trip to Mexico. When she got back she found emails from some of her students’ parents waiting for her. She wasn’t expecting much. She posted a video reading them on her Instagram page, @tlcwithmsb, and it has since been viewed more than 2 million times.

    Minnesota teacher is not so vanilla

    The first one started warmly — “I hope you are having a great time relaxing, you deserve it” — and then pivoted to business. The parent had heard Ms. B was in Mexico and had one request: real vanilla. Not the kind you get in Minnesota. The good stuff. She offered to Venmo her for the trouble.

    Ms. B couldn’t fulfill the order. Her school district had blocked her email access during the vacation, so she didn’t see the message until she was already home.

    The second email was from a parent concerned about sunburns. She had a home remedy, she explained. She would make it herself. Ms. B just had to come pick it up. “That’s seriously so sweet… I might actually try it,” Ms. B said in her video.

    Parents made sure she wasn’t stranded

    The third came after Ms. B had posted a separate video in a mild panic. She’d accidentally booked her return flight for Monday instead of Sunday and couldn’t easily afford to rebook. A parent watched it and immediately emailed with a solution: Ms. B was welcome to stay at her second cousin’s uncle’s place.

    Ms. B said in her video that parents like these don’t get enough credit. The comment section agreed, filling up with people who said the emails were a perfect picture of what the right kind of school community actually looks like — the kind where the parents are as invested in their teacher as they are in their kids.

    The vanilla, for what it’s worth, remains undelivered.

  • 17 strong opinions the baby boomers actually got right, according to younger generations
    Photo credit: via Christian Buehner/UnsplashBaby boomers didn't get everything wrong.

    In recent years, baby boomers have often been the target of criticism from younger generations (by now you’ve definitely heard the dismissive OK, boomer catchphrase). The most common accusations are that boomers are selfish and don’t care about leaving ample resources (whether financial or environmental) to subsequent generations. They also come under fire for not being able to acknowledge that it was easier for people of their generation to come of age when things were more affordable and life was a lot less competitive.

    However, we should also understand that many of today’s problems are not the boomers’ doing, especially when it comes to the issues that stem from entitled children and technology run amok. In hindsight, there’s something to be said about the importance boomers placed on self-reliance, letting kids be kids, and having a healthy skepticism towards technology.

    In other words, the baby boomers were right! Well, about some things, anyway. In the end, each generation contributes to the tapestry of society in its unique way, whether good or bad, even baby boomers.

    This became evident after a Reddit user asked the AskReddit subforum: ‘What is something you can say ‘I’m with the boomers on this one’ about?”

    Thousands of people responded to the prompt, and the most prevalent problems mentioned by the younger generations were over-reliance on technology, the modern world’s lack of human touch, and how Gen Xers and millennials have raised their children.

    Here are 17 things that younger people are “with the boomers” about.

    1. Public filming

    Public filming has, unquestionably, become a problem. From shaming random folks in the gym to humiliating people dancing at concerts (not to mention catching cheaters), fear of being filmed without your knowledge or consent in public is a real thing people suffer from. The boomers were definitely wise to be wary of cell phone cameras!

    “Just because I’m in public doesn’t mean I want to be filmed. Yeah, I know legally you can, but common courtesy people.” – Jayne_of_Canton

    2. Customer service

    In the age of AI chatbots that are, more often than not, completely useless, I think we can all agree with this one:

    “I want to talk to a person in customer service, not a machine.” – lumpy_space_queenie

    “And also a person that actually works at the company I bought the product from, not a teenager at an outsourced call center with a script to follow and who answers calls for 15 different companies on the same day.” – Loive

    3. Turn up the dialogue

    “For the love of all that is holy, can we fix the audio in movies so that the music and sound FX aren’t drowning out the dialogue?” – Caloso

    “And the action sequences don’t burst your eardrums or the dialogue is whispers.” – Whynottry-again

    Younger generations are on board with this, too. They’re all about subtitles, all the time.

    4. Bring back buttons

    “No, I don’t need everything in my car to be electronic. Some stuff needs buttons.” – LamborghiniHEAT

    “This was the big thing for me in my last car – trying to adjust volume or change songs while driving is way more dangerous when it’s all touch screen. Thankfully my current car has physical knobs for everything.” – GeekdomCentral

    This is another one where the boomers were right all along. Car manufacturers are even listening and making a big push to bring back physical buttons.

    5. App overload

    “Every store/service does not need an app.” – BigDigger324

    “I was standing at a car rental counter at an airport (boomer here) to rent a car. My daughter’s car broke down on the way to pick me up. While standing at the counter, with a customer service rep right there and not busy, I had to log in to their site, create an account, and reserve a car. It seemed ridiculous and it took a long time, filling in my license information and all that. This was last September.” – Cleanslate

    Yep, the boomers were definitely right here. The more apps you have on your phone, the more likely some obscure security vulnerability will end up with your data getting leaked.

    6. Bring back DIY

    “Learning DIY skills is crucial. I had basically zero DIY skills when I bought my house because I had lived in apartments for so long and I’ve had to learn a lot. YouTube tutorials are absolutely clutch.” – JingleJongleBongle

    7. Turn off the speakerphone

    “I hated this when I worked at Walmart. So many of my coworkers would talk on speaker or watch TikTok at full volume. It’s just trashy imo, nobody wants to hear your media.” – WhiteGuy1x

    “I work at an emergency medical office and holy sh*t the amount of people that sit in a quiet, peaceful lobby and just have the LOUDEST conversations on their phone…. Speaker or otherwise. Not to mention the people that still watch sh*t without headphones. Like do you not see the plethora of other people around you that you’re disturbing?” – Cinderpuppins

    8. Ban QR code menus

    “I think menus should be tangible.” – Limp-Management9684

    “QR codes kill the vibe. We’re all on our phones constantly throughout the day and then when you go to spend some quality time with someone, it’s another excuse to whip out the phone and stare at it. There’s an intimacy to a physical menu. You’re looking at what the other person is reading, you’re each pointing to parts of the menu. You’re noticing the lighting of the restaurant. QR codes feel chintzy and kill the ambiance completely.” – VapeDerp420

    We get it, these are for sure a byproduct of the COVID-19 pandemic. But it’s beyond time to bring back the bulky, laminated menus we all know and love.

    9. Stop subscriptions

    “When I was your age, you only had to pay for a video game once to own it.” – CattonCruthby

    Can you imagine a world where you could just buy Microsoft Word and not get charged every year for it? Yeah, that world used to exist. Even some cars are charging drivers subscriptions to “activate” certain features. Seriously.

    10. Free the children

    “A kid should have the same freedom to exist unsupervised and move about their community independently as a boomer did growing up.” – PixelatedFish

    “The world is safer than it’s ever been and people are more scared than ever. I blame true crime and local news.” – Unhappyhippo142

    This is an idea that’s been gaining a lot of steam in popular culture, and the boomers were at the forefront. Perhaps kids aren’t too anxious to walk to school alone; they’re anxious because we don’t let them walk to school alone.

    11. Kids need to touch grass

    “Kids shouldn’t be on phones or iPads all the time. It makes them weird.” – Ubstantial_Part_952

    “The same could be said about most adults.” – DrunkOctopus

    12. Stop being so sensitive

    “People in our generation are far, far too sensitive. Don’t get it twisted; empathy is, by and large, a good thing and it takes some serious doing for me to say it’s gone too far. But collectively, we’ve become people willing to throw every last bit of energy fighting against every slight and making sure our pet cause gets top billing to the point of fighting amongst each other even if we’re in almost complete agreement otherwise. Emotional energy – like any other kind of energy – is very much a finite resource. Whereas boomers could at least generally agree to disagree and get on with things (obvious cross-wielding exceptions doth apply). Culturally, we’ve lost sight of the adage of ‘winning the battle, losing the war.’” – almighty_smiley

    Agreeing to disagree, to a certain acceptable extent, is a lost art. The way we’re all disagreeing now is completely exhausting.

    13. Stop delivery

    “Food delivery services are a complete ripoff; if you use them regularly, you’re terrible with money. Get off my lawn.” – VapeDerp420

    14. Parking meters

    “So rather than throwing a few coins in your meter, you have to now get your license plate #, get your meter number, go to the meter station, stand in line with everyone waiting to pay their meter, then you’re set. It’s an unnecessary amount of extra steps. I don’t carry cash much anymore, but I can hide a small amount of coin in my car to quickly pay a meter.” – Luke5119

    Even better is when you have to download a Parking app so you can pay the city money to park! The boomers love that one, and so do the rest of us.

    15. Kids should know their place

    “Not letting your children rule the roost. When did it become acceptable to let your kids back-talk to you, slap you, climb all over sh*t in public places? As we’ve raised ours, I’ve witnessed so many parents around us just let these behaviors slide. It’s kind of sad when I’m the one saying things like, “Did I just hear you just say that to your mom?!?!?!?! That is not ok. You go and apologize right now!!”. Then I get this stunned “deer in headlights” look back that tells me they aren’t used to someone calling them out on their behavior.” – Cobblestone-Villain

    Gentle parenting definitely has its merits and benefits, but the boomers were right to be a little bit skeptical: In the wrong hands, it can backfire tremendously.

    16. Pride in ownership

    “Seems that a lot of boomers have pride of ownership and enjoy maintaining what they have.” – Awkward_Bench123

    17. Don’t follow leaders

    “My dad (a solid boomer) has been saying that ALL politicians are crooks since he became disenchanted with politics around the Nixon era. He was starry-eyed before that, trying to make social change, yada yada. He still votes, but holds his nose. Can’t say I disagree with him.” – Thin_white_duchess

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Gen X is trying to come to grips with getting ‘old.’ It’s not going well.
    Photo credit: The Holderness Family/FacebookGen X couple freaking out at dinner.
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    Gen X is trying to come to grips with getting ‘old.’ It’s not going well.

    We are NOT prepared for Salt-N-Pepa to be played in the doctor’s office waiting room, thankyouverymuch.

    The thing about Gen X being in our 40s and 50s now is that we were never supposed to get “old.” Like, we’re the cool, aloof grunge generation of young tech geniuses. Most of the giants that everyone uses every day—Google, Amazon, YouTube—came from Gen X. Our generation is both “Friends” and “The Office.” We are, like, relevant, dammit.

    And also, our backs hurt, we need reading glasses, our kids are in college and how in the name of Jennifer Aniston‘s skincare regimen did we get here?

    It’s weird to reach the stage when there’s no doubt that you aren’t young anymore. Not that Gen X is old (50 is the new 30, you know) but we’re definitely not young. And it seems like every day there’s something new that comes along to shove that fact right in our faces. When did hair start growing out of that spot? Why do I suddenly hate driving at night? Why is this restaurant so loud? Does that skin on my arm look…crepey?

    As they so often do, Penn and Kim Holderness from The Holderness Family have captured the Gen X existential crisis in a video that has us both nodding a long and laughing out loud. Salt-n-Pepa in the waiting room at the doctor’s office? Uh, no. That’s a line we are not ready to cross yet. Nirvana being played on the Classic Rock station? Nope, not prepared for that, either.

    Watch:

    Hoo boy, the denial is real, isn’t it? We grew up on “Choose Your Own Adventure” books, for goodness sake, and it’s starting to feel like we made a wrong choice a chapter or two back and suddenly landed our entire generation in a time warp. This isn’t real, is it? Thirty years ago was the 1970s. That’s just a Gen X fact. So what if we’ve lived long enough for our high school fashions to go out of style and then back into style and then back out of style again?

    Seriously, though, we can either lament our age and stage in life or we can laugh about it, and people are grateful to the Holdernesses for assisting with the latter. Gen X fans are also thrilled to see their own experiences being validated, because at this point, we’ve all had that moment in the grocery store or the waiting room when one of our jams came on and we immediately went into a panic.

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    A woman shopping at a grocery store. Photo credit: Canva

    Fellow Gen Xers commiserate in the comments:

    “They were playing The Cure in the grocery store and I almost started crying. I mean, how ‘alternative’ can you be if you’re being played in Krogers? You guys are great! Thanks for making us laugh.”

    “When I turn on the classic rock station I expect the Doors or CCR not Soundgarden or Nirvana.”

    “I couldn’t believe it when I heard Bohemian Rhapsody being played in Walmart. That was edgy in my day.”

    “I know!!! Bon Jovi at the grocery store!!! That was my clue in!!”

    “That horrifying feeling when I realized that when I play Nevermind for my kids now in 2024, I’m playing them 33-year-old music, but when my dad played the Let It Be for me in 1984, it was only 14-year-old music.”

    “The first time I heard my jams on the oldies station I cried. I’m not old! I just have to take a picture of something to blow it up so I can see it better with my readers but everyone does that. Early dinners? Hey I’m hungry by 5 why wait.”

    “Long live Gen Xers! We have to be strong!! We can get through this together!! #NKOTBmeetsAARP

    Hang in there, Gen X. We didn’t build up all that resilience and attitude in our youth just to fall apart at this point. Let’s own this stage like we invented it and make it as cool as we are.

    You can find more from the Holderness Family on their Facebook page, their podcast and their website, theholdernessfamily.com.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • ‘Hecka tight, bra’: Millennial teacher bridges generational gap by translating ’90s slang to Gen Z speak 
    Photo credit: CanvaA teacher's lesson on 1990s slang.

    These days, there’s a lot of love for the 1990s, especially among younger generations, who fantasize about the last decade before smartphones and social media upended society. In fact, a 2023 study found that 60% of American Gen Z adults “wished they could return to a time before everyone was ‘plugged in.’”

    Kaity Broadbent, a microschool teacher and head of learning at Prenda, had a really fun lesson with her students by showing them the parallels in slang among Gen Zers, Gen Xers, and Millennials who were young during the golden era of the 1990s.

    The interesting thing about her lecture is that it showed how young people, regardless of generation, create their own slang terms for the same words.

    In her Instagram Reel, Broadbent bridged the generational divide by noting that “bruh,” a popular term among Gen Z and Gen Alpha, sounded different in the ’90s, when it was pronounced “bra,” like the ladies’ undergarment. Although the pronunciation is different, the meaning is the same. She put it in a sentence, asking her students to say, “Hecka tight, bra.” (It seems she substituted “hella” for “hecka” to be more classroom-appropriate.)

    She also introduced her students to the term that kids in the ’90s used to reveal they’d fooled someone: “Psych!” which is a shorter version of saying, “Psyched you out.”

    She then rattled off some of the ’90s greatest hits:

    • “As if” (Cher from Clueless, you paying attention?)
    • “You da bomb” — a phrase meaning that someone is great or incredibly attractive. 
    @aliciasilverstone

    Ugh! As if… I wouldn’t join TikTok. 😉💛😘 #Clueless #AsIf

    ♬ Ugh… As if – Alicia Silverstone
    • She also noted that kids from the ’90s had their own version of one of Gen Z’s most popular slang phrases for questionable people or things. “So, instead of sus, we would say sketch,” she said in a very studious tone.
    • “I gotta bounce” or “I’m outtie” means that you have to leave. Extra ’90s points: If you’ve ever said, “I gotta go, Audi 5-thou.” This takes the term “outtie” and merges it with a popular luxury car at the same time: the Audi 5000.
    • She also noted that in the ’90s, your “crib” was your house, as evidenced by MTV’s popular show Cribs.
    @topwtf_

    Sad that’s most of these are fake 😪 #mtv #mtvcribs #topwtf_

    ♬ original sound – TOPWTF
    • “Home skillet” and “home slice” are two phrases that Gen Zers probably wouldn’t naturally understand, but they mean the same thing. It’s an evolution of the term “home boy,” meaning friend, which became “homie” or “home skillet.”
    • What would a ’90s kid say if someone was acting strangely or seemed confused about a situation? “You straight trippin’, G.” That means, “I believe that you are out of your mind, friend.”
    • She then asked a big question that makes little sense in the smartphone era: Why would we say ‘411’? Because “You would call 411, and you’d pick it up, and that was calling information.”

    The post sparked a great conversation among the commenters:

    “This is all that and a bag of chips,” Kid joked.

    “We stopped saying ‘psych’ when I was in 6th grade and switched to ‘NOT!’” Amanda clarified.

    “This is both amazing and hurts so much,” Mads admitted.

    Broadbent’s lesson is a great reminder for older people to stop being annoyed by younger generations’ slang, because when they were young, their trends were pretty cringey, too. It’s also a great lesson for the young people out there: Be careful how you judge your elders; one day you’re going to be just like them.

  • People in their 40s say these 5 unique life changes make it the weirdest and most diverse phase of life
    Photo credit: Canva & XA 42-year-old’s observations about his early 40s are striking a nerve on social media.

    Turning 40 marks a major milestone for many people. It can be an exciting time when your family, career, hobbies, and sense of self are finally falling into place. Unfortunately, it can also be the decade when your joints start hurting and your hair goes gray.

    In other words, your 40s can be a mixed bag. What’s especially fascinating is that everyone’s experience in their early 40s will be different. Some people say that’s exactly what makes it such an interesting season of life.

    Guy on X notices a few strange things about being in his 40s

    Ben Eisenhart, a self-described dad and husband who turned 42 earlier this year, recently took stock of his peers and found that there was a wild amount of variety.

    He realized that he’d reached a point in time when minor differences in life choices, luck, and genetics that were barely noticeable in his 20s were becoming massively evident.

    The post was a hit, racking up nearly two million views and hundreds of comments from people eager to share their own experiences and observations. Here are five things people say make your 40s the weirdest and most interesting decade of your life.

    1. Kids

    In your early 20s, the vast majority of your peers don’t have kids yet. In your mid-to-late 20s, the process begins, and newborns start crashing group hangouts. Late nights at the bar become lazy afternoons at the brewery as parent friends try to survive the early stages of parenthood. Others either aren’t ready for kids yet or have decided not to have them.

    In your 40s, it’s not nearly as simple.

    Some folks are still child-free. Others might have grown children who are out of the house. Some are even grandparents by this point. Others are just getting started in parenthood with their first newborn. In fact, the latter is becoming increasingly common, with over 20% of women now having their first child after the age of 35.

    2. Looks

    Some people look older, and some look younger. That’s just the genetic lottery, and it’s true at almost any age.

    But by your 40s, life choices and health issues have piled up and widened this gap. Some 40-year-olds could pass for being in their 20s, while others look 20 years older.

    Genetics alone can account for huge differences in how we age, and it’s a topic of great interest to scientists. But a few decades of staying fit, or smoking, or using or not using sunscreen really start to show up around your early 40s.

    3. Couples

    Similar diversity shows up not just in whether people are partnered up, but in the many different shapes and timelines of romance that appear.

    As Eisenhart notes, many people marry relatively young and remain together well into their 40s and beyond. Others are divorced, on their second or third marriage, or have been single the entire time. Even among those who are single, they may be dipping their toe in the dating pool of folks their own age…or, in some cases, much younger.

    It can make for some very interesting get-togethers.

    4. Career

    There’s a great camaraderie in your 20s when everyone you know is just getting started in their careers. Some are struggling through menial jobs, while others are in more prestigious fields but are grinding their way up from the bottom of the totem pole.

    You’re all in it together, in a sense.

    In your 40s, those career paths have diverged a great deal over the years. Some folks are executive-level leaders at big companies. Others have been doctors and scientific researchers for over a decade. Some have suffered setbacks or are in the midst of a career change, piecing together work the best they can. More and more people in their 40s are even going back to school.

    It can, and should, be a time of deep empathy and leaning on one another.

    5. Hope for all

    Ultimately, most people in their 40s who commented on the post agreed on one thing: it’s a pretty cool season of life.

    “All these are just lessons that we ain’t competing with anyone, at every age in our life just live your best and do things that makes you happy and always love yourself even more,” one X user wrote.

    Another said, “Life really doesn’t follow one timeline. People the same age can be in completely different seasons, and that’s normal.”

    “I turn 48 in July, and what ive gathered is wherever you find yourself during these years, as long as you find the joy, its all good,” another user added. “Out of all my decades, 40s have been surprisingly my favorite, mainly because ive learned to only worry about what i can control.”

    One person noted that your 40s offer an amazing opportunity for transformation: “Early 40s is the last time of a big ‘potential’ horizon. Where you could totally reinvent yourself and make it if you wanted to.”

    And finally, many wisely advised that your 40s are nothing to fear:

    It wasn’t just 40-year-olds who were drawn to the viral post, however. More than a handful of people in their 50s and 60s stopped by with just a few choice words: “Just you wait.”

  • A little girl’s classmate asked who the man picking her up was. Her two-word answer made him emotional for the rest of the day.
    Photo credit: CanvaStep-dad picking up girl from school

    Julian wasn’t expecting anything unusual when he pulled up to pick up his stepdaughter from school. Just another ordinary afternoon errand. But when one of her classmates pointed at him and asked who he was, his stepdaughter answered without hesitating for even a second.

    “That’s my dad.”

    Stepping up to just ‘dad’

    Julian shared the moment in a TikTok video that quickly resonated with thousands of viewers, many of whom have lived some version of this story themselves. He said he wasn’t sure she’d ever give him that title — not because things were bad between them, but because he’d never pushed for it. He’d just tried to show up, consistently, and let her lead.

    That’s what made the moment so meaningful. She didn’t say it for him. She said it because it was simply true to her.

    People knew how it made him feel

    The comments filled up almost immediately with people who understood exactly what that kind of moment feels like. One commenter wrote that her husband cried the first time one of his stepsons said the same thing. Another, who grew up with a stepfather herself, offered a perspective worth sitting with: “She will see you differently the moment you just call her your daughter, not a stepdaughter. Just like how you felt — that feeling is the same both ways.”

    Kids are figuring things out, too

    That symmetry is easy to miss in blended families, where so much of the emotional weight tends to fall on the adults trying to figure out their role. Kids are often doing the same calculus quietly on their end, watching to see if this person is going to stick around, wondering what to call them, not wanting to get it wrong either.

    Julian ended his video saying he was going to take her out for food — which, as many commenters pointed out, is about the most dad response imaginable.

    The title of “dad” isn’t something you can ask for or negotiate. It’s conferred. And apparently, a school pickup on an ordinary afternoon is exactly the kind of place where it happens.

    You can follow Julian (@jayvalenz_20) on TikTok for more content on parenting and family. 

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