10 photos of seriously wounded vets remind us about the real costs of war.

Their wounds belong to all of us.

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Photo credit: Image by David Jay/ David Jay Photography.Maj, Matt Smith at Walter Reed Medical Center in Bethesda, Maryland.

Photographer David Jay specializes in fashion and beauty, stuff that’s “beautiful and sexy — and completely untrue,” as he puts it. But that’s not all he photographs.

Three years ago, Jay began to take pictures of young, severely wounded soldiers returning home from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Trigger warning: These portraits don’t shy away from wounded bodies.


Be prepared. I found them shocking at first. But keep looking. The more I looked, the more beauty and humanity I found reflected here. (The photo captions are from the Jay’s Unknown Soldier Project Facebook page. All images used with permission.)

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Lt. Nicholas John Vogt, U.S. Army Image by David Jay/ <a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

This is 1st Lt. Nicholas John Vogt, U.S. Army. On Nov. 12, 2011, he was severely injured by an IED while on a foot-patrol in Panjwaii, Afghanistan. We took these pictures this past weekend in the swimming pool at Walter Reed Medical Center. I asked Nicholas for his permission to post these images and this was his response: “The only thing that I want to pass on is this: Losing limbs is like losing a good friend. We wish we could still be with them, but it wasn’t ‘in the cards.’ Then we get up, remember the good times, and thank God for whatever we have left.” Image by David Jay/ David Jay Photography. All images used with permission.

In a National Public Radio interview about his project, Jay said, “You can imagine how many times each of these men and women have heard a parent tell their child, ‘Don’t look. Don’t stare at him. That’s rude.’”

“I take these pictures so that we can look; we can see what we’re not supposed to see. And we need to see them because we created them.” — David Jay

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Taking a swim. Image by David Jay/ <a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

Jay wants us to see, to become even a little familiar with the tragic loss of limbs and burned skin of wounded vets — his portraits are 4 feet wide — but he also wants us to see them as people and to think about their experiences and those of people in their lives.

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Bobby Bernier with daughter Layla. Image by David Jay/ <a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

This past week, I went to San Antonio, Texas. There I had the privilege of photographing both Daniel Burgess and Bobby Bernier. They are friends. Daniel stepped on a IED, losing one leg and destroying the other. Bobby was hit by incoming artillery, sustaining burns over 60% of his body. He is pictured here with his daughter Layla.

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Maj, Matt Smith at Walter Reed Medical Center in Bethesda, Maryland. Image by David Jay/ <a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

This is Maj. Matt Smith. This past week, Matt allowed me to photograph him in his room at the Walter Reed Medical Center in Bethesda, Maryland. Less than three months ago, on June 8, 2013, in Paktika province, Afghanistan, Matt was shot along with five others by a member of the Afghan National Army. The bullet severed his femoral artery, resulting in the amputation of his leg. A private and soulful man, it was an honor to photograph him. Thank you, Maj. Smith.

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Spc. Marissa Stock injured by an IED. Image by David Jay/<a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.
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Jerral Hancock survived a roadside bomb. Image by David Jay/ <a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

This is Jerral Hancock. He was driving a tank in Iraq. A roadside bomb pierced the armor, breaching the interior. We shot these pics two weeks ago at his home in Lancaster, California, where Jarral lives with his two beautiful children. We ended up hanging out into the night, smokin’ ciggys … so I kept taking pictures.

“To the men and women of The Unknown Soldier, I can’t thank you enough for your courage and sacrifice … both on and off the battlefield. It is an honor to photograph you.” — David Jay

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SFC Cedric King floats in the pool. Image by David Jay/<a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

On July 25, 2012, SFC Cedric King, an Airborne Ranger, was severely injured by an IED while serving his country in Afghanistan. Due to the explosion, Cedric sustained a multitude of internal and external injuries, losing both his legs. Cedric was doing his laps while I was photographing 1st Lt. Nicholas Vogt in the pool at Walter Reed Medical Center last week. Cedric kept watching, so I had to ask. Cedric said, “That man (Nicholas) doesn’t know it, but he changed my life. There was a point when I was so down that I thought I couldn’t go on. And then one day I saw him swimming … and I just thought, wow … if he can go on like that, then I can go on too.” Cedric will also change people’s lives. Already has.

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Michael Fox, 27-year-old Marine. Image by David Jay/<a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

This is Michael Fox, a 27-year-old Marine and an amazing man. On Nov. 15, 2011, Michael was on foot-patrol in the Helmand province of Afghanistan. His is the first picture of “The Unknown Soldier.”

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Staff Sgt. Shilo Harris in Houston, Texas. Image by David Jay/<a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

This past weekend, I photographed Staff Sgt. Shilo Harris in Houston, Texas. He came up from San Antonio to see one of my other exhibitions, The SCAR Project (www.thescarproject.org). Shilo was severely burned on Feb. 19, 2007, by a roadside bomb estimated at 700 pounds. He lost three men out of a crew of five. Only Shilo and his driver survived the blast. Shilo has a book coming out soon. He is truly an amazing man, and I am honored to call him a friend.

“The Unknown Soldier is about neither war or politics … but rather something infinitely simpler and more powerful.” — David Jay

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Thomas Young in Kansas City, MO. Image by David Jay/ <a href="https://farm.upworthy.com/nuggets/5564a2bd633239000c2f0100/www.davidjayphotography.com">David Jay Photography</a>.

The Library of Congress has acquired images from Jay’s The Unknown Soldier project as part of its documentation of the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. This speaks to the power of these images in capturing war’s aftermath. But they are so much more than documentation.

Pictures like these help those of us who remain at home to begin to comprehend the true human cost of war.

This article originally appeared on 05.31.15

  • Millennial has brilliant clapback for Gen Zers who try to say they haven’t aged well
    Photo credit: CanvaA millennial vs a Gen Zer

    Millennials and Gen Z truly have a sibling kind of relationship. They take turns teasing each other but in the end it’s nothing but love between the two generations. One such viral taunting involved people saying that Gen Zers have aged like milk. Several Gen Zers themselves even agreed that people often mistake them for much older than they are. But that’s neither here nor there.

    Gen Z eventually fired back with their own commentary about how poorly millennials age. But millennials came with receipts to prove that this was beyond untrue. Millennial Chris Bautista uploaded a pretty savage video response to these young whippersnappers explaining why they feel that way.

    According to Bautista, the answer is quite simple. Millennials set the bar for what aging looks like for people approaching middle age.

    Why millennials think they’re aging better

    “I’m gonna say this a little bit louder for the Gen Zers in the back that didn’t hear me the last time. Millennials look fantastic for our age and you cannot tell us otherwise,” Bautista starts. “The reason why you think we don’t look great for our ages is because we have set the new standard of what it looks like to age.”

    Then he pulls out the evidence. Pictures of celebrities who were the age millennials are right now when the pictures were taken. Yikes! Most millennials look nowhere near the age of the people in the pictures.

    Watch the video:

    Fellow millennials were quick to chime in with their guesses as to why they are the poster children for anti-aging.

    “It’s cause all millennials used the St. Ives peach scrub exfoliating wash and we achieved eternal youth,” someone surmised.

    “It’s gotta be the Flintstone vitamins,” another quipped.

    “I don’t know, I am 40 and got stopped at my son’s high school security guard because he thought I was a student. No one ever believes my age,” wrote a third.

    A fourth shared, “But seriously like what’s the reason? Cause this life has been stressful.”

    Experts actually have some answers

    There are several theories as to why the anti-aging phenomenon has occurred. None of them actually involve Flintstones vitamins or St. Ives scrubs, but they do have that signature self deprecating millennial humor. They range from being the first group heavily indoctrinated to cosmetic “tweakments,” to being depressed and therefore indoors all day, to simply having youthful energy due to never being able to truly grow up.

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    However, according to experts, it really comes down to millennials being among the first group to take the basics seriously. By basics, we mean, sunscreen (and somehow bypassing the anti-sunscreen conspiracy theory craze via TikTok) as well as hydration (hellooooo Stanley water bottles). Plus, millennials aren’t as known to have a proclivity towards vaping, like their Gen Z counterparts. Sometimes it really comes down to the simple things.

    Regardless of aging it seems that the sibling banter between these two generations will remain alive and well forever and ever.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • 20-year-old woman agreed to a closed adoption for her baby, then got a wonderful surprise
    Photo credit: via CBS News/YouTube A journal detailing Steven Schoebinger's young life.
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    20-year-old woman agreed to a closed adoption for her baby, then got a wonderful surprise

    Opening up a closed adoption is a risky decision. For this family, it paid off.

    At Upworthy, we love sharing the “best of humanity” with our audience, and this story out of Utah, originally reported by CBS News’ Steve Hartman, shows the power of love to break down barriers.

    When Schauna Austin was 20 years old, she got pregnant and knew she wasn’t ready to raise a child, so she made the difficult decision to give the baby up for adoption.

    She gave birth to a son she named Riley and only had three days to spend with him before surrendering him to his new family. So, she held him tight for 72 hours straight.

    “It was perfect,” Austin said about those three emotionally-charged days. “I knew I would have him for a short time, so I made every minute count of it. I didn’t sleep for three days.” It must have been tough for Austin to give up her son because the grieving process of surrender and adoption can be incredibly difficult.

    The beginning of an unlikely journey

    Riley was placed with Chris and Jennifer Schoebinger through a closed adoption, and they decided to rename him Steven.

    In a closed adoption, the birth mother, Austin, would not receive any information about the adoptive family. In Utah, closed adoptions are a rarity these days, with about 95% allowing some exchange of information between the birth and adoptive parents. Usually, the birth parents have a good deal of input over whether they prefer to have regular contact or not with the adoptive family.

    However, about a week later, the Schoebingers made a major decision.

    The Schoebingers decided Austin should be involved in Steven’s life. They wanted to officially open the closed adoption.

    You can imagine that it’s a big and potentially risky decision for adoptive parents to bring in a birth parent. It could complicate things, stir up difficult feelings, or even bring conflict into their lives. But the Schoebingers weren’t worried about any of that.

    “It was like, ‘OK, this is the way it should be. She was part of our family,’” Jennifer told CBS News.

    “You know, you can’t have too many people loving you, right? Why couldn’t he be both of ours?” Chris added.

    A life documented in books and photos

    Every year, the Schoebingers sent Austin pictures and bound journals showing Steven’s journey in deep detail. They even had lists of all the new words he learned each year. The books were titled “The Life and Times of ‘Riley,’” paying homage to Steven’s original name.

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    The Schoebingers sent Steven’s mother photos every year until the two were ready to meet. Photo by Kenny Eliason on Unsplash

    The hope was that one day when the biological mother and son were ready, they could pick up where they left off. That moment came when Steven was seven years old and his biological mother taught him to fish. The unique arrangement has been fantastic for both Austin and her biological son. “I was blessed beyond words,” Austin said. “I kind of got the best of both worlds, for sure,” Steven agreed. It may seem like relationships between children and those who gave them up for adoption would be complicated, but studies show that 84% of adoptees reported high levels of satisfaction when maintaining ongoing contact with their birth parents. It’s considered the standard these days unless there are specific reasons why it’s in the best interest of the child to have the adoption be closed.

    Steven is now 28 and in August 2022, he and his wife, Kayla, had their first child, a boy they named…wait for it…Riley. Austin, herself, is now a grandmother.

    The remarkable story of Austin and the Schoebinger family proves that when we put walls between ourselves and others, we are often blocking everyone off from more love and support.

    The emotional response to their story

    People on social media were incredibly moved by the story. Dozens of commenters chimed in on YouTube to express their gratitude for the families involved:

    “Steven’s adoptive parents are WONDERFUL! They weren’t selfish, and did what was best for STEVEN, His dad said it best—–the more love a child has, the better. His bio mom lucked out with this special couple as well, especially when they sent her the books each year! This story was ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!!” one user wrote.

    “Speaks volumes of his adoptive parents and also the love of his natural mother to make the hardest decision on earth,” another said.

    “Thank you for including the birth mom in the raising of your son. I’m adopted and it was a closed one. the struggle of not knowing your birth parents is real. I just spent my first Christmas in 56 years with my Ukrainian birth family. Full circle family is love. Oh what a ride!” someone added.

    Ultimately, Chris Schoebinger, the adoptive dad, said it best:

    “I think the lesson we learned is that sometimes we create barriers where barriers don’t need to be. And when we pull down those barriers, we really find love on the other side,” Chris said.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Responses to silly ‘depluralize a movie’ prompt showcase how delightfully clever people can be
    Photo credit: CanvaDepluralized movie titles have brought out people's wordplay skills.

    For all of the downsides of social media, one of its biggest upsides is how it highlights how incredibly funny some people are. Short form posts are a perfect place for quippy wit and humor to shine, and when you toss in a prompt with a grammatical twist, the result is a showcase of human cleverness.

    A perfect example is the “Depluralize a movie” prompt, which has made its way around various social media sites and brings out the most concisely skilled word nerds among us.

    “JAW.” Cute, simple, straightforward. You can take any movie with a plural “s” and just remove it for a tiny chuckle. “The Avenger.” “Star War.” “Heather.” But the best responses make you think for a minute before the light bulb goes on and the belly laugh hits:

    “Lion and Prejudice.”

    “Tree Gump.”

    “Snow White and no one else.”

    “A Crow on the Orient Express.”

    “Gone with the Air Molecule.”

    “The Breakfast Individual.”

    “Fish of rock.”

    “Indiana Jone.”

    “Child of the kernel.”

    “Clause of Endearment.”

    “Cheaper By Myself.”

    “Chitty Bang”

    “Monster, Sole Proprietor.”

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    “Inchloose.”

    “A Single Ado About Nothing”

    “One Good Man.”

    “Something, Somewhere, Once”

    “Saturday at Bernie’s”

    “One Dollar Baby.”

    “Mario Only Child”

    “The Postman Rang Once The One Time He Stopped By.”

    “I for Vendetta”

    “Malcom I”

    “Jumanjus.”

    That last one is a perfect example of why people are loving the responses to this prompt. “Jumanji” isn’t even plural, but applying the rule that gives us cactus/cacti and octopus/octopi, we get “Jumanjus.” Cleverly hilarious.

    Some adjustments are just so silly, you can’t help but laugh, like “Indiana Jone.” Many of them use animal groups (pride of lions, murder of crows, school of fish) that you have to decipher or stretch your logic to break down things we don’t think of as plural (wall to brick, wind to air molecule, corporation to sole proprietor). And “I for Vendetta” and “Malcolm I”? Perfect. (As one person said, we don’t have enough Roman numeral humor in the world.)

    People loved seeing how creative others were in their responses:

    “This thread is for the ‘pleasure to have in class’ kids only and I love it. 😂”

    “Gods everyone is so much smarter than me. I’m just over here trying to think of titles ending in S.”

    “I’ve never been more ok with everyone been smarter than me. 😂”

    “I cannot read this thread while my partner is trying to sleep beside me. I am SHAKING the bed, laughing.”

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    Why do we find wordplay so funny? Photo credit: Canva

    Why do people find these depluralized titles so funny, though? Likely the same reason we delight in puns and spoonerisms. Wordplay tickles our brains and our funny bones.

    As neuroscientist Dean Burnett shared with BBC Science Focus, “Humor is essentially our brain going ‘This isn’t how things usually work… but I’m okay with it!’”

    Burnett explains that humor happens in our brains when there’s incongruity between what we expect to happen and what actually happens and we resolve that incongruity.

    “Basically, thanks to these complex systems in our brains, humour can be derived from things being surprising, unexpected or wrong in some form, as long at it’s resolved, without negative consequences,” he writes.

    That’s essentially what’s happening when we see a familiar movie title altered in a way that we don’t expect but that ultimately makes sense. Whatever the humor trigger, it’s so fun to have so many people enjoy some wordplay together.

  • Why parents should be celebrating the Gen Z ‘boy kibble’ craze
    Photo credit: Canva(Left)Mom prepares healthy meal and (Right) teenager eats junk food.

    Parents might have noticed their teens feasting on a plain bowl of meat and rice. The ‘boy kibble’ craze started as a simple joke to get likes on social media. Kids are now consuming the same meal every day, no complaints.

    Parents can spend years of time and energy attempting to fix how their kids eat. But this viral trend offers an opportunity to embrace a different strategy: work with what they already want to do and make it healthier.

    The good and bad story of ‘boy kibble’

    The trending three-meals-a-day, seven-days-a-week meal plan is one simple dish on repeat. A bowl consisting of meat, usually beef, for the high iron and protein, and rice. That’s it.

    Teens like it so much because it’s straightforward, easy to prepare, and removes some of the obstacles to healthy eating. It can take a lot of time to learn how to make a tasty, healthy meal.

    Healthline reported that the trend is inexpensive and offers young men interested in muscle building a basic high-protein meal. Nutrition experts agree that the dish provides important nutrients. However, without modification, it has nutritional gaps. Even eating very healthy foods without variety leads to deficiencies.

    Dr. Sanjai Thankachen, medical director at New Leaf Detox, explained how some eating habits can be concerning. “If eating patterns become very restrictive or tied to body image concerns, it may signal disordered eating, which is an unhealthy relationship with food and weight.”

    However, Thankachen does recognize the value and draw for teens, “Trends like ‘boy kibble’ often appeal to teenagers because they simplify decision-making. Fewer choices can reduce stress and make it easier to meet basic nutrition goals, especially protein intake. That part can be useful.”

    Parents can use the trend to their own advantage

    The simple truth is that ‘boy kibble’ is much healthier than typical teen diets. Avoiding highly processed foods, sodas, fast food, and sugary snacks and replacing them with more protein and consistency is a positive step in the right direction.

    The Society of Behavioral Medicine suggests consistency beats chaos trends like skipping meals or binging junk food. Regular eating patterns offer better energy, nutrition, and brain function, especially in teens.

    There is a real, hidden parenting upside to this new eating plan, too. A psychiatrist, Sam Zand, told Upworthy the trend was a strong starting point for modeling healthier eating habits. “One approach is by taking advantage of the ‘trend’ and have your teen continue to use easy and independent meal options, while incorporating more variety and nutritional quality.”

    Zand continues, “This will also provide parents the opportunity to model how to have a flexible, unrestricted approach to eating, which can buffer their children from developing a negative self-image and/or problems with physical and/or emotional health at a later age.”

    Teens adopt simple systems

    A 2025 study in the National Library of Medicine found adolescence was the critical window during which diet shapes lifelong health outcomes. Parents have a little over a decade to encourage imperfect, but better habits. Basic protein and carbs, not fast food, can have a lasting, long-term impact.

    Parents understand that guiding teens in the right direction takes a strategic and patient skill set. A 2024 study in Frontiers found that overcontrolling parents led to worse eating habits. Parents who provide structure and support while allowing some autonomy bring healthier eating habits.

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    A simple step up to your kids’ kibble plan

    Teens don’t fail at nutrition because they’re apathetic or don’t care. They struggle because food choices can be overwhelming, and healthy options aren’t the easiest to make. It’s exactly why ‘boy kibble’ is so appealing.

    These are some simple suggestions to encourage a step up to the kibble plan:

    • Stock the freezer with frozen veggies
    • Buy more healthy sauces instead of sugar-based ones that high in preservatives
    • Have pre-cut veggies available
    • Keep a variety of pre-cooked proteins
    • Store up on microwaveable grain options like Quinoa blends, Couscous, and Farro
    • Let them keep the ‘boy kibble’ and avoid shaming the repetition

    Sometimes these healthy habits don’t start with perfect choices. Workable choices, however, can be easy for parents to get behind. How can you make what they’re already willing to eat a little better?

  • Mom wonders if she should ‘manufacture hardship’ for her kids to build resilience. Other parents sound off.
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    It’s a challenge every parent faces: striking that precarious balance between providing for their kids while still fostering independence. In today’s world, previous generations‘ struggles are a thing of the past, making that balance even harder to strike. 

    One parent recently found themselves at a loss with this predicament. They took to Reddit to see if they should “manufacture hardship” for their kids.

    In their post, they explained how they and their husband grew up “poor,” but managed to create a “very comfortable upper-middle-class life.”

    Because they freelance, they’re able to be a completely “engaged” parent as well—always there for “school pick-ups and getting driven around to extracurriculars.”

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    A mom driving her two children. Photo credit: Canva

    And while the OP’s kids don’t act spoiled with material things, they noticeably lack a “capacity for dealing with even slight inconveniences.” From getting picked up five minutes later than their normal time, to minor switches to dinner plans, to non-VIP experiences at theme parks, this parent noted “attitudes” and “unregulated frustrations.”

    “If they ever face a college essay question about overcoming adversity, I don’t think they would even be able to answer it,” they wrote.  

    Why kids today aren’t as resilient

    In an article for Psychology Today, Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. noted the rise of “helicopter parenting” and living life via a curated social media algorithm makes unregulated kids a common dilemma. Both, she argues, are symptoms of a modern culture that “conditions us to believe that life should be how we want it to be, that we shouldn’t have to struggle, and that our children shouldn’t have to, either.”

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    She goes on to say that “we don’t do our kids any favors” when we erase any trace of character building discomfort, and instead, “we create people who are dissatisfied and unhappy, and ultimately, are unable to deal with real life.”

    However,  Dr. Kate Renshaw, Director at Play and Filial Therapy, argues that “the real issue isn’t that children’s lives are too easy, it’s that they’re too tightly managed.” Furthermore, she tells Upworthy that “manufacturing hardship” can cause more harm than good.

    “Hardship without a consistent trusting relationship is confusing and stressful,” she says. “The neuroscience is clear: a child’s nervous system needs a co-regulatory anchor—a safe adult—to process difficulty in a way that builds resilience rather than artificially add to states of dysregulation.”

    This is why she suggests encouraging “unstructured, child-led play” where frustration tolerance can “naturally develop.” This can look like a stuck Play-Doh lid, navigating friendship decisions about gameplay, or outdoor play where the natural elements cannot be controlled by adults.

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    Suffice it to say, if even experts can’t agree on which approach is best, there isn’t exactly a one-size-fits-all solution. Even in the Reddit comments, some agreed that the parent should introduce some friction, while others said the attitude might go away on its own. So at the very least, maybe parents in this situation can give themselves a little grace. 

  • Man explains the counterintuitive reason Norwegians love fishnet underwear
    Photo credit: CanvaFishnet stockings have multiple purposes.

    When you think of mesh shirts and fishnet stockings, you might picture a goth, punk, or other brands of night club fashion. Most wouldn’t associate fishnet garments with hiking, skiing, or dogsledding.

    But as Michael Kristy from The Iron Snail Clothing Co. explains, fishnets are the underwear of choice for many. In particular, Norwegians who want to enjoy the great outdoors in all temperatures wear them. It may seem counterintuitive to wear something holey to stay warm, but there’s a reason it works better than most base layers.

    Kristy explains that Norwegians have been wearing fishnets under their clothes for over 100 years. And they’re not the only ones. The first people who summited Mt. Everest wore a fishnet layer under their clothing to stay warm.

    Mesh undergarments were popular around the 1950s, but they weren’t called fishnets. They were called “health vests” or “string vests” and they were touted as being “recommended by medical professionals.”

    What’s the big deal with mesh? It’s all about the air layer it creates. Wearing it under clothing serves as both an insulating layer and a moisture wicking layer.

    “It really helps regulate your overall body temperature and makes you feel a lot more comfortable when you don’t have wet, clammy clothes sticking to you at all times,” says Kristy.

    The Norwegian company Brynje manufactures mesh under layers and claims they are four to six times warmer than other base layers.

    So under other clothing, the fishnet fabric keeps you warmer. But conversely, if you get too hot, stripping down to only the mesh layer will quickly cool you down.

    In addition to plenty of punk/goth approvals, the comments included corroboration from Norwegians and others who have first-hand experience with the magic of mesh base layers:

    “Norwegian here, and proud wearer of «netting» as we call it in the military!”

    “Can confirm, most Norwegians (and neighbours) that do outdoors stuff use ullnetting/woolnet. It’s basically a cheatcode for staying warm, so I have a ton of these. The words fishnets or health/stringvests is never used. You can find very old farmers that use the word healthvest/helsetrøye, mostly people just call them ullnetting or netting if talking to outdoors people.”

    “I’m a veteran. I did training with the Norwegian army on a base north of Norway. I had so many layers and was constantly freezing my ass off. I noticed the Norwegian army guys had these fishnets as their first layer. And asked em why they all had that. He told me it was to keep them warm. Luckily i have not been in that kind of cold since. But getting those fishnet layers has been on my mind since.”

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    Fishnet leggings add a surprising amount of warmth as an underlayer. Photo credit: Canva

    “Our guide on a glacier tour in Norway had these and told me about them, so I decided to give them a go for a recent vacation to go figure skating on wild ice in northern Sweden. I wore these nets under a merino wool baselayer and a thick Norwegian wool sweater (plus an outer synthetic hard shell to keep out the wind) and it was fantastic. Spent all day outdoors at -20°C combining intense workouts with picnic breaks and never got cold thanks to my base layer always being dry. 11/10 would recommend, I haven’t shut up about these since then.”

    “Yeah, it’s absolutely true too. I’m an avid outdoorsmen, so I’ve watched lots of tests on this. Fishnets outperform even the best wool base layers in absolutely every single category except for odor. Unless we’re talking niche applications there’s nothing better than the fishnets.”

    “I’ve been wearing mesh shirts under my normal clothes for about a year now—and without knowing this was exactly what they were used for, I found it helped me keep cool in the summer and warm in the winter. Imagine my surprise when this video teaches me I’ve been continuing a longstanding Norwegian tradition as a necessity for working in a warehouse (and for punk fashion lol).”

    With as many advancements as we’ve made, sometimes the traditional methods still work best.

    You can follow The Iron Snail on YouTube for more fun clothing facts.

  • Woman baffled by pet snake’s ‘passionate hatred’ toward YouTuber Markiplier
    Photo credit: Ethan Nestor/Wikimedia CommonsA white snake and YouTuber Markiplier.
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    Woman baffled by pet snake’s ‘passionate hatred’ toward YouTuber Markiplier

    “What’s most hilarious to me is this is unironically possibly rewriting what is known about snakes.”

    Snakes are not for everyone, but those who love them enough to keep them as pets tend to know a lot about them. Most snake owners do thorough research on the type of snake they want before purchasing. So imagine one snake lover’s surprise when her Texas rat snake had a bizarre reaction to a YouTuber.

    Taylor Dean recently turned to social media for help figuring out what was happening with her snake. She noticed something peculiar while watching YouTuber Markiplier (real name Mark Fischbach): Tofu, her Texas rat snake, would become visibly annoyed at the sight of his face on her computer screen.

    Texas rat snake, reptiles, tofu, Markiplier, science
    Photo credit: CanvaWoman baffled by pet snake's 'passionate hatred' towards YouTuber Markiplier

    Dean has been conducting mini experiments to determine whether her snake reacts to all YouTubers who use a corner reaction camera, or just Markiplier. Time and again, Tofu reacted aggressively only to him. Given her knowledge of snake eyesight and facial recognition, Dean grew more confused.

    “The reason this was so intriguing is because snakes don’t typically have the ability to discern and recognize different faces, so I’ll forever be confused over how a hatred can be so strong that it can transcend everything I’ve ever learned about snakes,” she wrote in the caption of her Instagram Reel.

    Texas rat snake, reptiles, tofu, Markiplier, science
    Mark Fischbach, aka Markiplier. Photo credit: Gage Skidmore/Flickr

    According to Animal Club, snakes don’t recognize people by sight. Instead, they rely on scent and movement. The organization also notes that rat snakes are generally easygoing—like Tofu, when he’s not forced to see Markiplier’s face.

    This isn’t a passing dislike. Tofu is openly hostile toward Markiplier any time he appears, no matter where his face shows up. Luckily for the YouTuber, his real face has never been anywhere near Tofu. When the rat snake spots him, its attention shifts, its noodle-like body stiffens, and it strikes the screen.

    According to Dean, rat snakes have normal eyesight, but because they aren’t known to distinguish faces, she isn’t sure what Tofu is picking up on.

    In her experiment, she watched multiple other YouTubers who also use a corner reaction camera. Tofu showed no interest, slithering along and minding his own business. That is, until she switched back to Markiplier.

    Tofu clearly hates the guy, and his specific reaction may actually warrant further study. While it may seem like this Texas rat snake can distinguish between faces, science suggests they aren’t supposed to be able to do that.

    To confirm that Tofu was indeed reacting to Markiplier’s face, and not something in the background, Dean took the experiment IRL. She printed color photos of the YouTuber and attached them to a crafting stick. Tofu was neither fooled nor amused.

    Every time his owner brought the photo close, he recoiled, nearly folding himself into a knot to get away. It seemed that if she hadn’t been holding the stick, he would have struck, just as he did at the laptop screen.

    Texas rat snake, reptiles, tofu, Markiplier, science
    Photo credit: CanvaWoman baffled by pet snake's 'passionate hatred' towards YouTuber Markiplier

    Dean assured viewers that the snake is not experiencing stress, but instead shows a “passionate hatred” toward Markiplier. In the video, she said she had seen enough to conclude that Tofu recognizes and hates the YouTuber. Tofu will be safe from any further exposure to Markiplier content.

    People in the comments found Tofu’s hatred of Markiplier amusing, while others offered theories about his reaction.

    “What’s most hilarious to me is this is unironically possibly rewriting what is known about snakes,” a commenter wrote.

    One commenter joked that the snake might be a bit prejudiced, writing, “Imma say it again, you might need to show other Asian/wasian people to rule out racism.”

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    A woman holds a white snake. Photo credit: Canva

    Another commenter wrote, “Markiplier’s continued silence on Tofu’s damning accusations is very telling… what did you do to Tofu, Markiplier? The people deserve the TRUTH!”

    One commenter noted that snake science might never be the same, writing, “I love how Tofu’s hatred is cutting-edge snake science.”

    This commenter shared a theory they came across on Tumblr:

    “Saw a theory on tumblr that, long story short, Tofu has seen you respond to jumpscares in his videos and thinks Mark, Personally, is a threat to you. Like crows recognizing the faces of people that have wronged their flock. Tofu doesn’t understand that humans like to be a little scared for fun and he’s trying to protect you.”

  • 56 years after it first debuted, Robert Plant  performs a majestic version of ‘Ramble On’
    Photo credit: Raph_ph, Ella Mullins/FlickrRobert Plant, then and now.
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    56 years after it first debuted, Robert Plant performs a majestic version of ‘Ramble On’

    “It’s why this man is on the shortest of short lists of the best front men of all time.”

    In 1969, the Juggy Sound Studio in New York City was forever changed. It was that year and place that Led Zeppelin recorded (at least part of) their album Led Zeppelin II, with the song “Ramble On” its 7th track. The song, co-written by front man Robert Plant and guitarist Jimmy Page (who also produced the track), has remained a staple in their extraordinarily rocking catalogue for over half a century.

    So when Robert Plant, at the ripe young age of 77, casually strolled onto the set of The Late show with Stephen Colbert and flawlessly belted out the song, fans sure noticed. Yes, his face has more wrinkles – time will do that to a person. But it’s time itself that made the lyrics to this particular song all the more meaningful.

    “Like he wrote it this morning”

    Guitar Gods Unleashed took to X to share the video, writing “’Ramble On’ is 56 years old, and Robert Plant just walked onto The Late Show and made it sound like he wrote it this morning.”

    The comments are so fitting for such a powerhouse performance. One X-er notes that some rock stars age. But Robert Plant? “You see the aging rock star trying to replay their youth, then you have Robert Plant being Robert Plant, and it rivals the original from a half century ago. Just incredible.”

    Lord of the Rings

    Another points out the lyrics, which reference J.R.R. Tolkien’s popular book series turned movies, Lord of the Rings. “I like that ‘Ramble On’ has Lord of the Rings references from back when Robert was reading the book series. I had no idea what Lord of the Rings was back when I first became a fan of the song, but eventually I said, “wait…did he mention Gollum and Mordor?”

    In a piece for Far Out Magazine, Jack Whatley discussed the fact that many bands are influenced by authors. “The singer used moments throughout the lyrics to express his connection; lines like ‘the darkest depths of Mordor’ and ‘Gollum and the evil one’ are both doffs of the caps to the writer. Many artists have made references to great literature in their time; whether it is The Beatles and C.S. Lewis’ influence on ‘I Am The Walrus’ or The Cure’s nod to Albert Camus.”

    The lyrics

    The lyrics are so hauntingly beautiful and even more impactful now that Plant is older.

    “Leaves are fallin’ all around
    It’s time I was on my way
    Thanks to you, I’m much obliged
    For such a pleasant stay

    But now it’s time for me to go
    The autumn moon lights my way
    For now, I smell the rain, and with it, pain
    And it’s headed my way

    Ah, sometimes I grow so tired
    But I know I’ve got one thing I’ve got to do

    Ramble on
    And now’s the time, the time is now
    Sing my song
    I’m goin’ ’round the world, I gotta find my girl

    On my way
    I’ve been this way ten years to the day
    I’m gonna ramble on
    Gotta find the queen of all my dreams

    Got no time for spreadin’ roots
    The time has come to be gone
    Though our health, we drank a thousand times
    It’s time to ramble on

    Ramble on
    And now’s the time, the time is now
    Sing my song
    I’m goin’ ’round the world, I gotta find my girl

    On my way
    I’ve been this way ten years to the day
    I’m gonna ramble on
    Gotta find the queen of all my dreams

    I ain’t tellin’ no lie

    Mine’s a tale that can’t be told
    My freedom I hold dear
    How years ago in days of old
    When magic filled the air

    ‘Twas in the darkest depths of Mordor
    I met a girl so fair
    But Gollum and the evil one
    Crept up and slipped away with her, her, her, her, her, yeah

    And ain’t nothin’ I can do, no
    I guess I’ll keep on

    Ramblin’, I’m gonna say
    Sing my song, I’ve gotta find my baby
    I’m gonna ramble on, sing my song
    Gonna work my way, gonna ramble on
    Gonna ramble on, yeah-yeah”

    “A completely new composition”

    Another fan shares their thoughts on just how brilliant the performance was. “To craft a new arrangement of a rock classic – a completely new composition – centered around the limitations your aging 80-year-old voice… and create something still so artistic and beautiful… it’s why this man is on the shortest of short lists of the best front men of all time.”

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