A lot of people are arguing that we ban the word “bossy” to describe girls who assert themselves. But maybe the word doesn't need to be banned at all. Perhaps — as feminist bell hooks has stated on Twitter — it needs to be reclaimed and embraced. I absolutely love what Nicki Minaj has to say below about being “bossed up” below, especially the line, “There’s no negative connotation behind ‘bossed up,’ but lots of negative connotation behind being a ‘bitch.’ ”
What do you think? Can you ban the word “bossy” and still be badass boss, or is it time we encourage girls to not give a damn about being called it?
Nikki Minaj:You have to be, like, a beast. You have to be a beast. That's the only way they respect you. I came up under Wayne, and Wayne has his way of doing things.
When Wayne walks onto a (bleep)ing set, and say, "Don't talk to me. Have my (bleep)ing music ready. Get the (bleep) up outta my face. I'm a blow this (bleep) (bleep) in your face all day." [laughter] It's cool. But, every time I put my foot down and stand up for myself, it's like, "We've heard about Nikki Minaj." [laughs] "Nikki Minaj shut down a photo shoot. Oh my god. Anyways, no one wants to work with Nikki Minaj."
I'm glad you heard. Now, when I come to a photo shoot, let it be of quality. You know why? Because I put quality in what I do. I spend time, and I spend energy, and I spend effort, and I spend everything I have, every fiber of my being, to give people quality. So, if I turn up to a photo shoot, and you got a $50 clothes budget, and some sliced pickles on your (bleep) floor, you wanna know what? No. I am gonna leave.
Is that wrong? For wanting more for myself? Wanting people to treat me respect? But, you know what? Next time, they know better. But had I accepted the pickle juice, I would be drinking pickle juice right now.
When I am assertive, I'm a bitch. When a man is assertive, he's a boss.
Male: He bossed up.
Nikki Minaj: He bossed up.
Male: Yeah, he bossed up.
Nikki Minaj: No negative connotation behind bossed up. But lots of negative connotation behind being a bitch. Donald Trump can say, "You're fired." Let Martha Stewart run her company the same way and be the same way. (bleep) Oh, evil (bleep). But Donald Trump, he gets to hang out with young (bleep). And have 50 different wives, and just be cool. Oh, Donald, we love ya. Donald Trump.
But when you're a girl, you have to be, like, everything. You have to be dope at what you do, but you have to be super sweet. And you have to sexy, and you have to be this, and you have to be that, and you have to be nice, and you have to...it's like, I can't be all those things at once.
I'm a human being.
I don't mean to be ranting and raving like this. I don't...don't use this footage, please. It's just gonna make me look stupid.