Andie MacDowell shows what we can all learn about beauty and age from the gray hair movement
"Honestly, it's exhausting to have to be something that you no longer are."

Andie MacDowell in Cannes, 2003.
For many, even those that proudly wave the flag of self-love, the sight of that first gray hair is anxiety inducing. That single strand is a harbinger of the doom of our youth. More than one, and you might as well weave them together to create yourself a noose. Itโs time to kiss your beautyโand therefore, your valueโgoodbye.
But what if, instead of marking the end of our glory days, we could see this change as a new chapter with equally glorious reveals? Something worth presenting, rather than hiding?
Back in July 2021, actress Andie MacDowell made headlines for rocking the silver vixen look at the Cannes Film Festival. MacDowellโs hair has always been a defining feature, but previously she had been coloring her raven locks to maintain her signature look. This was at the behest of her managers, according to an interview with Vogue.
But after her kids officially declared the salt-and-pepper look was โbadass,โ MacDowell started to see going natural as a โpower move.โ So she followed the impulse, and you donโt need me to tell you it was a bit of a social media sensation.
MacDowell reflected on how freeing the experience was in a conversation with Interview Magazine. โI feel better like this. Honestly, itโs exhausting to have to be something that you no longer areโฆI was finally like, โYou know what? Iโm not young. And Iโm OK with that..I feel so much more comfortable. Itโs like Iโve taken a mask off or something.โโ
Isnโt this a battle so many of us fight? Instead of basking in how far weโve come, we spend so much effort trying to wind back the clock. And in all the rigamarole of trying to delay the inevitable, we forget that aging is a glorious gift. One thatโs not guaranteed.
Even when we use terms like โembrace the gray,โ thereโs this connotation that aging is this frightening tidal wave that we simply need to bolster ourselves for. Whereโs the grace in that? I mean, yes, as the end of life approaches, it is scary to think about the impending unknown. But the process of getting there? Perhaps not so much.
In the same article, MacDowell reflected that she, too, โhates the word 'embrace,' because it always sounds like youโre having to accept something, and I donโt feel like that.โ I love this viewpoint. Accept it? Why not value it? Letโs come back to the original meaning of the word โฆ and welcome it warmly.
MacDowell continued โWe do have something unique to offer. You canโt be young forever, but you can always be considered beautiful, fashionable, and glamorous.โ
The cynical voice in your head might say, โsure easy for someone whoโs already glamorous to say that.โ But MacDowell isnโt the only one who made this discovery. Tons of โrealโ women have had the same revelation.
Once the pandemic caused salons across the country to close down (coupled with major pay cuts and job losses), a surge of women chose to stop coloring their hair. Butโas with many life aspects affected by COVID-19โwhat started as a forced restriction became an opportunity for reinvention. In ditching the hair dye, many women found that their silver strands were not only tolerable, they were empowering.
Now you could even say gray hair is โinโ and making a comeback tour. And trust, these dames are definitely glamorous. This is not just an experience for A-listers.
Of course, this movement is not just about aesthetics. There is a bigger idea here. Itโs no secret that our society has some deep-seated stigmas when it comes to aging, for women in particular. We place a high value on those "30 Under 30" lists, seek out the strongest retinol to erase all signs of life and stand mouth agape in horror at the first mention of the word โmaโam.โ But it doesnโt have to be that way. All chapters of life are precious, and worth celebrating.
Iโm a firm believer that glamor is only a result of confidence. And as we grow older, we only become more dynamic, more nuanced, more interesting. If thatโs not a confidence booster, I donโt know what is.
Going gray wonโt be the answer for everyone. I certainly donโt plan on trading in my signature red anytime soon. But the real call to adventure is: How can you feel good about yourself at every stage of life? How can you throw away the (false) notion that you somehow lose your shine with every passing year?
As the saying goes, โbeauty is truth, truth beauty.โ I think we can really see that in stories like these. To age gracefully is to age fearlessly. Radical self-acceptance is gorgeous.
This article originally appeared on 02.25.22
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