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Mom has a calm, pointed response to a stranger who posted video of her breastfeeding

"You've got your own set of issues."

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Izabele Lomax was secretly filmed breastfeeding on the beach.

A woman who was livid after seeing another mom breastfeed her hungry baby on the beach reacted in a way that completely violated her privacy. She secretly recorded the mother and child and then posted a video of them on social media. To make things even worse, she shamed her in the caption.

"I'm not shaming women who breastfeed their babies. I'm shaming the woman who [breastfed] in public with no respect to cover themselves up and just let their boobs hang out (nipple included) for everyone to see!" the woman captioned the photo.

"I shouldn't have to cover my son's eyes and explain why your boobs are out, and quite frankly, I don't want to see it, either. Have some respect!" she continued.

The video first appeared on Snapchat and then was posted to Facebook, where it was later removed. It’s puzzling that the woman posted the breastfeeding video when she found it so disgusting. If she didn’t think it was appropriate for people to see, why share it with the world?


The woman in the video, Izabele Lomax, saw the video online and couldn’t believe that a stranger would violate her and her child that way. So, she posted a reaction to the video on TikTok, and it’s been seen over 750,000 times. What’s excellent about Izabele’s reaction is she is calm and respectful about a situation where she had all the right in the world to be enraged.

ill leave this here 😊 #breastfeeding

@izlomax

ill leave this here 😊 #breastfeeding

The mother also turned the situation positive by suggesting another way for people to react when they see a woman breastfeeding in public.

"Imagine waking up, getting on Facebook, and seeing this video of yourself from yesterday at the beach,” Izabele started her video. “What if you were told that the only way that you could eat at the beach is if you were covered up by a towel?”

She then noted that the woman and her child walked past her more than once, even though she didn’t want her son to see her breastfeed.

“Not only did this woman walk past me multiple times with her son, you had every opportunity in the world to say something to me. Not that I would’ve cared or stopped what I was doing. My child was also hungry in multiple restaurants and while we were walking down the street, and guess what? He ate,” she continued.

Izabele finished the video by providing a new way for people to react to seeing a mother breastfeeding in public. "Next time you see a mom breastfeeding her child in public, covered up or not, tell her how good of a job she’s doing. If you are sexualizing a breast to a four-year-old, you’ve got your own set of issues.”

The video received a lot of love from women in the comments who supported her right to breastfeed on the beach and how she handled being shamed by a stranger.

"YES GIRL! Feed your baby any way you choose. You are doing AMAZING," Emma Clark wrote. "I nurse publicly and have for 8 months now, and this is my worst nightmare. I can’t imagine how you felt. I’m so sorry," A added.

"You’re one strong momma. I’m sorry you had to go through this, but I’m proud of how you’re handling it," another user wrote.

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