5 ways everyday citizens can start holding police departments accountable

This article first appeared on ProPublica. You can read it here. The death of George Floyd at the hands of police in Minneapolis has drawn historic levels of interest in police misconduct and drawn condemnation from law enforcement leaders nationwide. As a reporter covering law enforcement for the Asbury Park Press in New Jersey, and…

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This article first appeared on ProPublica. You can read it here.

The death of George Floyd at the hands of police in Minneapolis has drawn historic levels of interest in police misconduct and drawn condemnation from law enforcement leaders nationwide.

As a reporter covering law enforcement for the Asbury Park Press in New Jersey, and now in partnership with ProPublica’s Local Reporting Network, I use investigative reporting techniques to strengthen police accountability. Other journalists do the same. But, in truth, any citizen can apply the same methods to ensure the law enforcement system they’re funding is serving them well.

Police culture can be insular and tough to penetrate. But I’ve been surprised by how often it’s possible, though time consuming, to expose important issues by requesting and examining records and data from police departments and other government agencies and engaging citizens and key leaders. So here are five techniques concerned citizens, journalists and policymakers can use to examine police conduct in their communities.


1. Understand the policies and laws that govern police conduct.

If you’re alarmed by what you saw in Minneapolis, or other recent incidents of apparent police misconduct, the first step is to find out if the agency in question has a written policy on the use of force. Does the policy dictate when officers should or shouldn’t use force? What tactics are they allowed to use? Is there any rule against choking a suspect?

It’s important to know if the officers involved were following the policies and procedures that are supposed to guide their behavior. Police actions that strike an onlooker as inappropriate may actually be within a department’s rules. It’s possible the rules themselves are inconsistent with best practices elsewhere.

Ask the department for its policies on the practices that concern you, like restraining suspects or the use of pepper spray or Tasers. You may also need to request rules set by a county or state authority. Ask for written copies. You may be required to file a formal public records request, which I will describe below. And if there is no existing written policy, that might be something worth questioning itself.

If you’re having trouble understanding a policy, try running it by an attorney, academic, elected official or a journalist in your community.

How I did it: I did a deep dive into policies about drug testing after a police captain was killed in a car crash in 2016, and I exposed that he was drunk and on drugs at the time. I spoke to his chief and learned their department didn’t have a policy for random drug testing. I wondered why that was the case and looked to the state attorney general’s office, which sets many police rules. The rules allowed departments to choose whether they wanted to do random testing, and my reporting identified more than 100 that did not. After our story, the state attorney general mandated random drug testing for cops across the state.

2. You are entitled to public records that can show whether rules are being followed. Get them.

Your tax dollars pay for just about everything a police department does, which includes generating tons of reports, dispatch logs, video recordings and data about what officers do every day. Any citizen is entitled to see those public records to understand how the government works.

The agency may say the public records law does not allow you to have access to some documents — information about confidential informants and medical records, for example. The laws that dictate what’s considered public vary by state, so check out the national guide by the Reporters Committee for Freedom of the Press. Information the agency considers off limits may also be redacted, and it may take time to get a response.

Even with the hassles and limitations, public records laws are empowering and I’ve been surprised by how much I can obtain. My policy is always to ask and make a records clerk explain why I can’t have taxpayer-funded records. Follow up to ensure important requests aren’t lost or ignored. Assume you should be able to see everything. Your state’s public records law may even include a presumption that records are open and exemptions are an exception. You may run into roadblocks that you can’t overcome on your own. In some cases, journalism organizations have had to sue to obtain public records. Your budget may not allow for an attorney, but some states have mediators that you can go to if you think your request is being wrongly denied.

It’s striking how much information the government collects but then does not review. So you might be the first person to ask for a particular body of records and put them together to identify an important trend which you can share with leaders who weren’t paying attention to the issue. Your local journalists may also be very interested in the information you have gathered.

Sometimes it’s hard to even know which records exist. That’s where documents commonly known as records retention schedules come in handy. Government agencies use these to track which records they keep and how long they hold onto them. Use the schedules to help you see what you might be able to obtain. These are available all over the country. Just for fun, I looked up the city of Los Angeles — they call them records disposition schedules and found them for agencies ranging from the Police Department to the zoo. The agency of interest to you might use a different name for the document, so call them and ask if they have a written guide that shows which records they maintain and for how long.

How I did it: I started investigating police car chases after I saw the government keeps summaries of those incidents, including how many people are arrested or injured. I saw I could add up those figures and see if the benefits of the chases outweighed the risks and harm. I discovered that chases in recent years usually didn’t end with an arrest, and that lots of people get hurt, including cops and bystanders.

If you’re interested in scrutinizing the type of misconduct we saw in Minneapolis, you could request use of force reports. New Jersey made those public a few years ago, and Newark Star-Ledger journalists used them to great effect. ProPublica has that data available here for a fee.

If I were investigating a case of violence by the police I’d ask for:

  • The use of force reports filed by the officers involved.
  • Related incident reports.
  • Computer-assisted dispatch reports.
  • 911 phone call recordings.
  • Body-worn and vehicle-mounted camera recordings.

I might also request policies that dictate how an agency handles complaints against officers. Some states consider substantiated complaints against individual officers to be public records, so you could request them, depending on where you live. WNYC has a helpful breakdown of where that information is public. If you’re looking for video from police body cameras, the Reporters Committee has a guide that shows the places where those are considered public. If you want to obtain recordings of 911 calls, they have a guide for those, too.

You could also be more general and ask the relevant department for substantiated internal affairs complaints alleging excessive force in the past year or so, if those are public in your state. Departments might keep summary data on internal affairs complaints, so ask for the most recent copy of that, too.

3. Identify the power players and engage them.

Engaging law enforcement leaders is essential to understanding policing, and their involvement is key to fixing problems. My access and experience as a white man who works for a news organization may be different than someone else’s experience. It also depends on who you talk to and their openness to criticism. But I think we stand the best chance of a good outcome if we deal with each other respectfully.

Many policing issues are handled at the local, county or state level. Part of your work will involve figuring out who is responsible for the issue you’re concerned about.

“All policing is local,” former Milwaukee police Chief Edward A. Flynn told me. Like many cities, Milwaukee is also experiencing unrest and criticism of the police. Flynn, a well-known law enforcement leader, encouraged conversations between citizens and cops, possibly aided by a neutral third party like a local faith leader.

“The key to changing policing is on the ground level,” he said. He added that it helps for citizens to praise the good work they see from their officers. He encouraged the public to consider crime statistics when scrutinizing police tactics.

I have found that the police themselves are often open to talking to me about the problems in their profession. Many I have talked to feel bad when things go wrong.

How I did it: I’ve been amazed at who is willing to talk to me when I simply take the time to ask. As part of my investigation into police car chases, I talked to a former cop who lost her police officer husband when his vehicle was struck during a high-speed pursuit. I was touched by the way she took hours from her busy life to tell me some of her most painful memories and share her insights as a former cop.

I took my findings to the attorney general, the state’s largest police union and to lawmakers who vowed action. “It appears to me there’s a lot more harm done than good right now,” one of them said about the high-speed incidents.

“If the community has an issue either positive or negative with their law enforcement, then they should definitely have a conversation with the mayor, council and police chief,” said New Jersey Assemblyman Gordon Johnson, a former cop who has participated in community discussion about police issues.

Contact information for law enforcement leaders is often available online. They may regularly attend meetings that are open to the public.

4. Presenting findings in a fair and persuasive manner is a powerful way to spur reform.

Show police leaders the problem that concerns you, using specific examples and quantifying the damage broadly. Show them the harm. Be careful to be fair. Frame the violations by showing how they go against policies or laws or best practices. Back up what you’re saying with the evidence you’ve acquired.

How I did it: To highlight the dangers of police car chases, I introduced readers to Eric Larson, a young father killed when his car was hit by a motorcyclist fleeing police. Then I quantified the harm based on the records I had obtained: “New Jersey police pursuits killed at least 55 people in the past decade and injured more than 2,500.”

Remember that there’s always a different view to your perspective. Integrate it into your presentation if it is legitimate. Acknowledging the counterpoints helps you focus and ask tougher questions. In the car chase story, I made sure to also note incidents in which police chased a suspected killer and men wanted in connection to a shooting. Sometimes police chase violent criminals, but is it worthwhile for cops to chase someone for a traffic violation?

Policing is tough work, and there are times when cops use justified force. Differentiate how the issue you identified deviates from what’s appropriate.

5. Follow up relentlessly until change is made.

Change is incremental and can take years. You will likely have to repeat yourself and persist in your efforts. But if you’ve found an issue of serious public importance — like the use of force incidents we’ve seen lately from the police — there may be ongoing examples you can point to as you make your case to decision-makers.

It may be worthwhile to reach out to local journalists with what you’ve found. News outlets often have a tip line you can call. Or, find a reporter who covers similar issues and call or email them with what you’ve found. I take calls like this frequently and look forward to them. Academics who study criminal justice may also be interested. You can look them up at your local college or university. When reaching out to reporters or academics, keep it brief and focus on the facts.

The wave of protests is hitting home for many people, including in my newsroom in New Jersey. On Monday, police arrested my Asbury Park Press colleague Gustavo Martínez Contreras after he filmed officers tackling two minors to the ground in Asbury Park.

I’m continuing to investigate police accountability problems in New Jersey this year in partnership with ProPublica’s Local Reporting Network. If you have a tip for me, please share it.

If you have questions about applying the suggestions in this column, please email me at aford3@gannettnj.com. And if you find anything interesting as you start to investigate law enforcement practices, please let me know. I may want to follow up or promote your work online.

  • Gen Z’s ‘Western Revival’: Why line dancing, rodeos, and honky-tonks are exploding in cities like NYC and Atlanta
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    Gen Z’s ‘Western Revival’: Why line dancing, rodeos, and honky-tonks are exploding in cities like NYC and Atlanta

    Rodeos sold out Madison Square Garden in 2026, and line dancing events are up 165 percent.

    Picture this: It’s a Tuesday night in Queens, New York—the kind most young people spend doomscrolling on their couches or making out at a local bar to Ariana Grande songs. But at a packed honky-tonk, a room full of twenty-somethings in cowboy boots is learning to two-step. By the end of the night, they don’t want to leave.

    This isn’t a one-off or a dream scenario. It’s a reality happening all over the country. In Atlanta and Boston, in San Francisco and Washington, D.C., young people who grew up glued to their phones are lacing up boots, heading out to line dancing classes, trail rides, and rodeos, and finding something they didn’t know they were missing: each other.

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    Young people all over the country are participating in "Western" socializing events like never before.

    Welcome to the “Western Revival.” It’s a lot bigger than you think.

    The numbers will stop you in your tracks

    Let’s drop some statistics that’ll make you do a double take. According to Eventbrite data comparing 2024 to 2025, line-dancing events grew by 165%, and attendance jumped by a staggering 254%.

    Trail rides? Attendance is up 374%. Professional Bull Riders sold out Madison Square Garden and TD Garden in Boston. The Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo drew 2.7 million people in a single year—a new all-time record.

    And here’s the part that really says something big: the fastest growth isn’t happening in country-friendly places like Texas or Nashville. It’s happening in New York, Atlanta, Boston, and San Francisco—cities where, until recently, the closest thing to a cowboy was a Halloween costume.

    Nearly half of all young adults—49%—say they’re actively seeking experiences that feel less curated and more real. Another 79% say it’s important that events feel spontaneous or unpredictable, and 44% say they’re willing to spend more if a venue feels genuinely unique. So what about a ranch bathed in golden-hour light? Or a neon-lit honky-tonk with a live fiddle player? Yup, that’ll do it.

    No, it’s not really about the boots

    Sure, the cowboy boots are cute. Okay, make that really cute. But this isn’t a fashion story…or at least, it’s not only a fashion story.

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    The amazing thing about Western Revival events is that they’re inherently participatory. You can’t passively attend a line dancing class. You have to show up, plant your feet, and be a little bit goofy while you learn the steps. There’s something deeply human about that. And for a generation that spent its formative years staring at screens during a pandemic, it turns out that “a little bit goofy in a room full of people” is exactly what the doctor ordered.

    Of course, Beyoncé helped start the fire

    You can’t tell this story without talking about Cowboy Carter. When Beyoncé released her country album in 2024, she didn’t just make great music; she rewrote the rules about who gets to claim Western culture. More than a third of Gen Z music fans say they first explored country music because of that album. She took a genre that had long felt exclusive and made it feel like it belonged to everyone.

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    Cowboy culture didn’t start in Hollywood. The original cowboys were Mexican vaqueros: Indigenous, Afro-Mexican, and mestizo horsemen who developed the techniques, tools, and clothing we now associate with the American West. After the U.S. took over northern Mexico, including what is now Texas, that culture was appropriated, repackaged, and whitewashed. Beyoncé’s Cowboy Carter era isn’t just about country music or fashion. It’s a powerful act of reclamation. As a Black woman from Texas, she’s tapping into a legacy that’s been erased: the deep, intertwined roots of Mexican and Black communities in shaping cowboy life. From the sombrero to the rodeo, from Black cowboys post-emancipation to Afro-Mexican vaqueros before the U.S. even existed, this is the real story behind the cowboy hat. #beyonce #cowboy #vaquero #cowboycarter

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    And she wasn’t alone. Post Malone, Chappell Roan, Jelly Roll, and Shaboozey represent a wave of artists who have been cheerfully demolishing the walls between country, hip-hop, and pop. Today, two out of three Gen Z listeners say they’re now tuning into country more than ever. When the music changes, the culture follows.

    A lonely generation is finding its people

    Here’s the part of this story that matters most: Eight out of ten Gen Z respondents in a recent survey said they’d felt lonely in the past year. Eight out of ten. Think about that: This is a generation that has more ways to “connect” than any in history, and yet so many of them feel profoundly alone.

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    Freeman survey of 2,000 adults found that 91% of Gen Z respondents want more in-person events in their lives. They want real friendships. This is such a vulnerable truth: these young people want to show up somewhere and matter to the people around them.

    Funnily enough, honky-tonks and dance halls are becoming exactly that: a new kind of communal third space, somewhere between home and work where you don’t have to perform for an algorithm. You just have to know how to count to eight.

    As one line dance instructor put it: “It’s pretty low risk, high reward. Come out, have fun, learn something, and enjoy time with your friends.” There’s a beautiful simplicity to that. In an era of infinite options and zero commitment, sometimes the most radical thing you can do is just show up.

    Is this bigger than a trend?

    Short answer: yes. Trends come and go, but what’s happening here feels different—it’s more like a generation quietly course-correcting. Young people are choosing presence over passive scrolling. They’re putting their phones in their pockets and their boots on the floor. It’s just like Nancy Sinatra sang in 1966: “These boots were made for walkin’, and that’s just what they’ll do.”

    It’s refreshing to know that, sixty years later, there’s still a kernel of truth in that line.

    And what Gen Z is finding there, in the middle of a line dance or on the back of a horse at sunset, is something the Internet can never replicate: the feeling of belonging somewhere real.

    You don’t have to be a country music fan to understand that. You just have to be human.

    So if you’ve been curious, maybe grab a pair of boots and find a class near you. The strangers waiting on that dance floor might just become your people.

  • A pageant winner boldly calls out her abuser in the audience during her final interview
    Alexis Smith being crowned crowned Miss Kansas in June 2024.Photo credit: Miss Kansas/Facebook
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    A pageant winner boldly calls out her abuser in the audience during her final interview

    “I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening.”

    Domestic violence survivors cheered on the winner of the 2024 Miss Kansas competition after she stood on stage and called out her abuser who showed up to the pageant. Before Alexis Smith was chosen from 26 participants in the state competition on June 8, 2024 to represent Kansas in the 2025 Miss America contest, she was asked to speak on stage about her Reclaimed Respect initiative.

    “My vision as the next Miss Kansas is to eliminate unhealthy and abusive relationships,” Smith said. “Matter of fact, some of you out in this audience saw me very emotional because my abuser is here today. But that’s not going to stop me from being on this Miss Kansas stage and from representing as the next Miss Kansas. Because I, and my community, deserve healthy relationships. We deserve a domestic [violence] free life.”

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    Respect Reclaimed is about reclaiming your power and standing firmly in it. On the night of Miss Kansas, my journey took an unexpected turn when someone I have been healing from tried to disrupt my peace. Instead of falling into silence, I chose to live out my vision for a better world. I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening. This isn’t about shunning others; it’s about turning our pain into purpose and channeling it in a way that unifies and uplifts. I’m ready to use my story, tools, and resources to end unhealthy relationships in all forms. My voice and advocacy will empower everyone to reclaim their own power in their own unique way. I might be small in stature, but I stand tall in strength, purpose, and power with hopes of inspiring others to do the same. #fyp #abuse #miss #misskansas #missamerica #pageant #awareness #me #relationship #respect #tiktok

    ♬ original sound – Alexis Smith

    In the video shared on TikTok, the freshly-crowned Miss Kansas wrote, “Respect Reclaimed is about reclaiming your power and standing firmly in it. On the night of Miss Kansas, my journey took an unexpected turn when someone I have been healing from tried to disrupt my peace. Instead of falling into silence, I chose to live out my vision for a better world. I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening.”

    She wrote that it wasn’t about shunning anyone, but about “turning our pain into purpose and channeling it in a way that unifies and uplifts.”

    “I’m ready to use my story, tools, and resources to end unhealthy relationships in all forms,” she wrote. “My voice and advocacy will empower everyone to reclaim their own power in their own unique way.

    I might be small in stature, but I stand tall in strength, purpose, and power with hopes of inspiring others to do the same.”

    People who have experienced abuse themselves applauded her advocacy.

    “As a victim of domestic violence I applaud you for speaking out!! I watched this 10 times!! I’m still getting bullied by his parents even with a no contact order. I plan on helping women like us as well.”

    “WHAT A WOMAN. This is absolutely incredible. From one survivor to another, I am SO SO proud of you for reclaiming this moment for yourself. You will do amazing things “

    “Incredibly brave of you. You just made a statement for all women. I appreciate you so much.”

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    “As an old survivor…I’m so damn PROUD OF YOU!! Love, A Stranger “

    “We got to see you ACTIVELY showcasing your platform LIVE IN PERSON! My utmost respect to you Miss Alexis. This is beyond any crown, I cannot wait to watch your journey. As someone who grew up around domestic violence, I have chills watching you. You will always have a supporter in me. You absolutely ate that. “

    “YAS GIRL! As a fellow survivor, you are an inspiration and I’m so proud of you for using your voice and showing your strength.”

    “”I experienced emotional and psychological abuse for a very long time,” Smith shared with KMUW, “and it was recognizing that I was losing control over my own personal emotions, trying to save the emotions of someone else, and so to be able to save myself. I recognize that we don’t want to both go down together. I need to be able to leave this relationship. That way, I’m able to pursue a future, because you just never know what can happen to your partner or happen to yourself when you’re in those relationships.”

    According to The Wichita Eagle, Smith uses her 19 years of experience as a ventriloquist to teach kids about healthy relationships with puppets as part of her Reclaimed Respect initiative. She also works full-time as a cardiothoracic ICU nurse. And she went on to compete at Miss America 2025 in Orlando in January, where Miss Alabama Abbie Stockard was crowned.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • She reached out to her husband after a ‘rough week.’ His loving response was everything.
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    She reached out to her husband after a ‘rough week.’ His loving response was everything.

    “Marry him. I don’t care if you’re already married, marry him again.”

    An ideal partner isn’t just someone you can celebrate with. They’re the person who makes the bad times feel just a bit better. One husband is getting a lot of praise online for doing just that. 

    In a Reddit post titled “My Husband’s Response to My Really Bad Week Made Everything Just a Bit Better,” a wife explained how she had really been having a “rough week” on multiple levels. Not only had she faced a setback at work, but she also “accidentally ripped off a fingernail.” Talk about adding injury to insult.

    Needing to vent, she texted her husband, saying, “I think I’m having a bad day 😕 like, I’ll be fine. I just wish I could curl up on the couch and feel all the feelings and also nap for three days 😅.”

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    What followed was a text that had viewers saying she should “marry” her husband all over again. 

    From the start, her husband both validated her emotional state and reminded her that it was temporary.

    “My sweetheart,” his message began. “I know you’re going through a lot, both emotionally and physically with how draining the last week has been. I also know you’re resilient as heck and you’ll be fine, but that doesn’t make those feelings right now any less real.”

    That alone earned him major brownie points, but then he sweetened the deal—literally, with ice cream. 

    “But we’ve got a pint of Ben and Jerry’s at home…and a lot of Critical Role to catch up on,” he wrote, referencing one of their beloved television shows. “I’m all for the curling up part of your plan.” 

    Then he asked, “In the meantime, want to meet up for lunch today?”

    It’s easy to see why this response won over so many. It was emotionally aware, attentive, and generous, leaving many to call him a “certified keeper.”

    “The ‘curling up’ part of the plan is elite support honestly.”

    “Man, when someone is happily willing to just slow down with you for a bit and not find more and more reasons to be busy or not available, that’s someone that really sees you and wants to be there for you and with you. It makes it feel like it’s ok to take care of you instead of feeling guilty and like you’re just lazy.”

    Marry him. I don’t care if you’re already married, marry him again.”

    “This is what love should look like.”

    “Having a love like that is truly a blessing!” 

    On a wholesome note, it also inspired many others to share some love for their equally attentive and supportive partners. 

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    “I have one like this and it’s nearly impossible to describe to other people how very much I love and appreciate him without looking like I’m a boasting a*****. I’m just so glad you have one too.”

    “Same. I wish I could clone mine and give him out as gifts to friends I love, because I wish everyone could experience this kind of amazing love and support. It is sadly so so rare.”

    “Legends like this are one in a million!! I’m lucky enough to have one too.”

    This is what everyday romance looks like: rough weeks turned into cozy date nights, solitary struggles made more manageable by knowing someone is in your corner, and challenges transformed into opportunities for connection. It’s not necessarily the kind of romance we see in the movies, but it’s magical nonetheless.

  • She worked as a janitor at Yale hospital for 10 years. Now, she’s returning as a doctor.
    Shay Taylor-Allen worked as a janitor at Yale New Haven Hospital before becoming a doctor there.Photo credit: Shay Taylor-Allen/GoFundMe

    Shay Taylor-Allen’s dreams came true on March 20. The Howard University College of Medicine student was matched into the anesthesiology residency program at Yale New Haven Hospital—the same hospital where she was born and later worked as a janitor for 10 years.

    In an emotional clip on TikTok, Taylor-Allen shared the moment she found out she had been matched at Yale. “#1 match and so happy to come back not as a janitor this time but as a doctor!” she captioned the video.

    She told ABC News, “I was jumping up and down to the point I [thought] the concrete was going to break!”

    Taylor-Allen’s mom inspires her journey

    Back when she was just 18, Taylor-Allen took a job as a janitor at Yale New Haven Hospital to earn extra money. At the time, she didn’t know she would later pursue a career as a doctor.

    “I was working full-time as a janitor because around that time also my mom got sick, and she was in and out of hospital,” Taylor-Allen told People. “They couldn’t figure out what was going on with her.”

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    #1 match and so happy to come back not as a janitor this time but as a doctor! #matchday #medstudent #doctorsoftiktok

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    After years on the job, Taylor-Allen leveraged a connection she had made with the hospital’s CEO—whose trash she once emptied—according to ABC News. She reached out directly to ask for help with her mother’s care and finding a diagnosis.

    “She got back to me literally within that same day because she knew me from cleaning her room,” Taylor-Allen said. “She was like, ‘We’re going to do whatever we can to help your mom. Let me figure out what’s going on with the team.’ And within the next week, they figured out that she had a vocal cord dysfunction and everything completely changed. It was just night and day.”

    She decides to become a doctor herself

    The experience led her to pursue a career as a doctor and future patient advocate. “I started Googling how to become a doctor and I just went on from there,” she added.

    Taylor-Allen was accepted into Howard University College of Medicine in 2021 and is set to graduate in May 2026.

    “I could have never imagined that I would be going back to the same hospital that I was not only born at, but a janitor at, to be a doctor,” she told ABC News.

    To support Taylor-Allen in her journey, check out her GoFundMe.

  • Watch the tense moment Lucille Ball tells a host to take his hands off female audience members
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    Watch the tense moment Lucille Ball tells a host to take his hands off female audience members

    People laughed every time she told him ‘hands off,’ but she was stone cold serious.

    According to her daughter, Lucille Ball never considered herself a feminist, but there’s no question she blazed many a trail for women. A working mother in real life, she depicted issues facing housewives with her brilliant television comedy and became the first female studio head in Hollywood. She broke glass ceilings but wasn’t particularly outspoken about women’s rights. In fact, in a 1980 interview with People she said, “They can use my name for equal rights, but I don’t get out there and raise hell because I’ve been so liberated, I have nothing to squawk about.”

    Ball empowered women by example—and by speaking her mind. Carol Burnett shared a story on PBS about how Ball was unhappy with a script for her new show, but women at that time didn’t raise concerns about such things. Men could express criticism and demand changes, but women simply didn’t. Ball did—and firmly—despite being non-confrontational by nature. Later she told Burnett, “Kid, that’s when they put the ‘s’ at the end of my name.”

    Lucille Ball shuts down TV host 

    A video has been circulating on social media showing Ball’s no-nonsense way of speaking up when she felt the need to, and people are gushing over it.

     

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    In 1978, Ball participated in a Q & A session with UCLA theater arts students on the television program “America Alive!” The viral clip shows Ball repeatedly telling one of the hosts, David Sheehan, to take his hands off of female audience members when they were asking a question.

    “Will you take your hands off, David?” she says as he introduces one young woman. “Take your hands off of her,” she says again as he places his hand on the shoulder of another. “David, would you take your hands away?” she says as he places his hands on another woman in a sparkly gold dress.

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    People laughed every time, but Ball didn’t so much as crack a smile during her clear, simple, repeated “hands off” admonitions.

    For 1978 especially, her advocacy for the women in the audience was extraordinary. Sheehan wasn’t touching these women in a lewd or sexual manner, but he was touching them in a way that he wouldn’t have touched a man who was asking a question. Most people wouldn’t have thought much of it at the time, but Lucille Ball immediately noted it and didn’t let it stand.

    Here are some of the best comments

    “I love that she didn’t even laugh when the room was. She was not joking.”

    “‘Take your hands off her, David,’ should be a sound AND a t-shirt.”

    “He kept trying. She kept telling him. Love her.”

    “Lucille Ball always reminds me of my grandma. She hated to be seen as delicate, and she hated men that would touch her even more. She would say, stone-faced, ‘Get your paws off.’”

    “The audience laughed and she said ‘ain’t nothing funny.’ Love her”

    .”This happened to me so much growing up and I noticed from very young the boys weren’t treated this way.”

    “Even then she knew how the industry was. I LOVE IT AND LOOOOVE LUCY SO MUCH.”

    A commenter on Reddit noted that Ball started her career as a chorus girl and dancer. “She knows every creepy man trick in the book”

    The wider culture of handsy TV hosts

    Television and game shows from the 70s and 80s are an incredible time capsule of the culture and norms of the era. Sheehan wasn’t the only one who tended to get a little handsy.

    It was common for male hosts to kiss female contestants. Richard Dawson, host of The Family Feud, was famous for it. Even our beloved Bob Barker of The Price Is Right often had women suggestively reach into his jacket to fish out their $100 bill.

    Richard Dawson kissing all the women in the family. YouTube

    There’s a casual lecherous-ness that famous men seemed to get away with easily at the time. For anyone to publicly challenge them on their behavior was absolutely shocking.

    Even if Sheehan was casually touching those women out of habit and not ill intent, it’s laudable that Ball made a point of making him aware of it. Unfortunately, women are still having to deal with men touching them without being invited to, but seeing Lucille Ball’s serious face while calling it out is a good reminder that women have been fighting this battle for a long time. Good for her for using her microphone and the respect afforded her to speak up for the young women in her audience.

    This article originally appeared last year.

     

  • Singer stuns Boy George with bold take on ‘Do You Really Want to Hurt Me’
    Boy George listens to "Do You Really Want to Hurt Me" on "The Voice Australia."Photo credit: Talent Snacks/YouTube
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    Singer stuns Boy George with bold take on ‘Do You Really Want to Hurt Me’

    Sheldon Riley delivered a haunting rendition of the Culture Club hit to the pop star.

    Culture Club’s “Do You Really Want to Hurt Me” is a pop song that has stood the test of time. The hit was written by the band’s lead singer, Boy George, and topped the Billboard charts in 1982.

    It continues to resonate with younger generations. During a 2018 blind audition on Season 7 of The Voice Australia, singer Sheldon Riley performed an evocative version of the song for judge Boy George himself.

    Riley’s personal touches on the hit made a deep impact on Boy George.

    Singing to Boy George

    In the viral clip, Riley takes a few deep breaths before beginning to sing, accompanied only by a piano. “Give me time to realize my crime,” he croons, as judge Joe Jonas immediately recognizes the tune, along with Boy George.

    “I know that song,” Boy George says.

    With their ears perked, Riley continues to sing, and Boy George quickly presses the button to turn his chair. Riley immediately becomes emotional as the three remaining judges—Jonas, Delta Goodrem, and Kelly Rowland—also press their buttons.

    “I love it!” Boy George continues, as Riley keeps singing a hauntingly sad version of his major pop hit. Riley bursts into tears at the end of his performance, and Boy George sings his praises.

    “Great song!” he quips. “Obviously that song is so personal to me—it’s my own personal love story in a way. And it’s almost impossible to imagine anyone else singing it. You just added so much kind of sadness to it.”

    @cultureclubofficial

    Learn the story behind “Do You Really Want to Hurt Me” on an all new episode of #BehindTheMusic streaming now exclusively on @Paramount Plus #cultureclub #boygeorge #doyoureallywanttohurtme

    ♬ original sound – Culture Club

    Boy George quickly compliments Riley on his outfit—a purple top with large faux-fur sleeves and white ripped jeans—with Riley sharing that his look isn’t “normally accepted” by others.

    Boy George says to him, “Honey, can I just say…never, ever look for acceptance. Take me as I am—that should be your motto.”

    Later in the clip when Riley is choosing his coach, he tells Boy George, “I just want to say thank you so much. You let people like me wear what I want to wear, and put these lashes on that take thousands of years. You just inspire me so much…I’m going to go Team George!”

    The history of “Do You Really Want to Hurt Me”

    In a 2015 interview with The Guardian, Boy George said he wrote the song about his former partner, Kirk Brandon.

    “I did play the victim. That was the role I took on: ‘Oh, why are you doing this to me?’ Back in the day, I spent so much time trying to change the people I was in love with–and not trying to change myself,” he said.

    And he didn’t think it would be a hit.

    “I thought the song was too personal to be a hit and I didn’t want it to be a single. I went to Virgin and stomped my feet and sat on the stairs saying: ‘You’re going to ruin our career before we’ve even started!’, he said. “Our audience needed something to dance to, and ‘Do You Really Want to Hurt Me’ was too slow, too personal, too long. Everything about it was wrong. So its success was a big education for me: I learned that being personal was the key to touching people.”

    The song peaked at No. 2 on the Billboard charts in March 1983 and spent 25 weeks on the chart.

  • Woman says photos prove that office air changes her appearance
    Noa Donlan shows before-and-after photos.Photo credit: @noadonlan/TikTok (used with permission)
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    Woman says photos prove that office air changes her appearance

    Fluorescent lights really do a number, don’t they?

    Office workers, has this happened to you? 

    It’s 9 a.m. You arrive at your desk feeling fresh, but by noon, when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the bathroom, you barely recognize yourself. And by the end of the workday…yeesh.

    That was the case for Noa Donlan, a flag-waving “corporate girly” who couldn’t help but notice the visible difference between how she looked when clocking in and even just hours later. So she decided to document it.

    In a series of now-viral videos posted to TikTok and Instagram, we see her face transform from glowing and vibrant to puffy-eyed, with dry, gray-toned skin and hair weighed down by oil.

    @noadonlan

    I leave the house feeling fine and by 12pm my skin is dry, my eyes look tired, and my hair is oily?? tell me I’m not the only one follow for realistic 9–5 POVs 💻✨ #creatorsearchinsights

    ♬ original sound – That Office Show
    @noadonlan

    There’s something in the OFFICE air💻 Follow if this is you by 1pm in the office🤍 someone mentioned this song in the comments and I can’t remember who it was so if this was you THANK YOU for the song idea 😉 #corporategirl #officelife #workhumor #9to5 #corporategirly

    ♬ original sound – Z

    Perhaps you could blame it on unforgiving bathroom lights, but Donlan has a different theory: office air.

    And apparently, she isn’t the only one who thinks it might be to blame. Her video drew a ton of comments from people sharing similar experiences.

    ​​“I look like a sick Victorian child by lunch,” lamented one viewer. 

    Plus, there are millions of videos on TikTok from others documenting the same phenomenon, many of whom film themselves in the exact same location for before-and-after shots. The most common complaints are dry skin, a shiny forehead, oily hair, and cracked lips.

    @bypresleemae

    10 hours later and my makeup is gone, my hair is frizzy, my skin is so dry, and I’m missing nails #corporategirlies #corporategirl

    ♬ Get It Sexyy (Instrumental) – Sexyy Red
    @lifewithmorgan_m

    What are we doing to rid this?? TIPS please!! #officelife #corporate #corporategirlies #officeoutfit #officeootd Credit: @Caroline Mackenzie 💝

    ♬ original sound – CLIPSTORM

    “Office air is the most fatal of them all,” another office worker said in a video with 1.2 million views.

    “No matter how good I try to make myself look in the morning, I’m going to leave the office looking like I just ran a marathon and washed my face with grease,” they said.  

    Now, is this a Severance-level work conspiracy? Probably not. (The odds are low, but never zero.)

    However, there are some potential explanations, one of which is the air in the office, which tends to be stripped of humidity thanks to the A/C blasting nonstop.

    Plus, offices without openable windows mean the skin may get less oxygen throughout the day. This, combined with dehydration, “leaves skin looking dull and fatigued,” said skin expert Fiona Brackenbury in an interview with Refinery29.

    There’s also something to be said about the effects that reduced circulation from being stationary, stress, and squinting at screens can have on our appearance, according to the Skin Elite blog.

    Prevent “office air” from damaging skin

    Thankfully, there are expert-approved ways to combat the effects of “office air,” particularly dryness.

    Dr. Catherine Chang, a plastic surgeon, recommends using a small portable humidifier at your desk, as well as a good moisturizer or hyaluronic acid that you can reapply as needed.

    @catchangmd

    If you work in an office 9-5, this is for you. “Office air” aka “work air” might be the reason your skin gets dry and make up patchy while at work. 👀 #skincare #skincaretips #beautytok #beautytips

    ♬ original sound – Dr. Catherine Chang

    She also suggests spraying hypochlorous acid, which can help with inflammation and free radical damage. She noted that it might not actually help with dryness, but can at least leave you feeling “refreshed.”

    In addition, experts recommend serums containing niacinamide, vitamin E, and/or resveratrol, which help protect against environmental damage, support collagen production, and soothe the skin.

    As for the stress portion? That’s a harder nut to crack, but it goes to show, once again, that stress management affects us in more ways than one. Short of packing it all up to live on a cruise ship, don’t forget that some form of relaxation—whether it’s taking a few deep breaths or going for a walk during your lunch break—is vital.

    So, while “office air” might not be fully researched or proven, it serves as a reminder that our work environments shape how we feel—and even how we look—throughout the day. Hopefully, it only takes a few small adjustments to help you leave the office matching the person who walked in that morning, inside and out.

  • LAPD’s 90-year-old ‘Volunteer of the Year’ just happens to be Bruce Willis’ mom
    Bruce Willis’ mom is a volunteer for the LAPD.Photo credit: Gage Skidmore/Wikimedia Commons & Canva
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    LAPD’s 90-year-old ‘Volunteer of the Year’ just happens to be Bruce Willis’ mom

    “Someone said, ‘Well, this is Bruce Willis’ mother.’ And she never mentioned it.”

    Picture this: A 90-year-old woman has been diligently volunteering with the Los Angeles Police Department for 22 years simply because “she loves to help.” Now here’s the kicker: That’s not even the coolest thing about her. The thing is, she’s actually Bruce Willis’ mom.

    But those at the police station might never have known because, apparently, she doesn’t bring it up. Not that she isn’t proud. She even has a giant screensaver on her computer of Bruce hugging her. But she doesn’t lead with that. Giving back to the community is incredibly important to her, and she doesn’t want anything to distract from that work.

    In a clip posted on NBC LA, reporter Robert Kovacik highlights how much she’s appreciated: “There is often that colleague who makes the day a little easier. Who makes the week go a little faster. But this is no ordinary workplace. This is the Los Angeles Police Department’s West LA station.”

    “Integral” part of the LAPD

    Though her first name is Marlene, she is affectionately referred to as Mrs. Willis by the police force. We see her sitting at a computer, a jet-black streak contrasting beautifully against her thick white hair. She wears a volunteer vest and badge over a lacy, satin taupe blouse. She means business, but it’s her kindness that seeps through.

    The police station’s commanding officer, Captain Rich Gabaldon, shares, “Mrs. Willis is a very integral part of West Los Angeles and the LAPD. She is an icon here, really. 22 years she’s been a volunteer.”

    Willis, who is sitting next to Gabaldon for the interview, interjects: “Yeah, what did you think of me when you first came here?”

    He answers passionately: “You said, ‘I’m Mrs. Willis. I’m a volunteer here, and it’s a pleasure to meet you, Captain. Anything you need, you let me know. I’m here to help.’”

    Willis seems choked up by his memory. “You see,” she says, “that’s how I feel inside. And he remembered it. That’s wonderful!”

    Volunteer of the year

    Kovacik goes on to share, “She’s been recognized as LAPD’s ‘Volunteer of the Year,’ an award presented by then–Chief of Police Michael Moore, who then went one step further.” He gave her an LAPD badge.

    We then see a clip of Moore, speaking from his home in Tennessee, who has this lovely message for Willis: “Marlene, there are people in our lives that when you cross their path, they leave a lasting impression. To you and the work you do, we’ll be forever grateful.”

    Gabaldon says directly to her, “She is part of our family. I don’t know what we’d do without you.” Willis seems overjoyed and moved by his words, echoing the sentiment: “This,” she says, pointing around the room, “is my family. I mean that. I mean that a hundred percent, okay?”

    Willis certainly has her son’s charm. In relaying a story about some of her kids and grandkids coming over on Sundays, she shares that she “cooks a big meal for” them. When asked if she likes to cook, she doesn’t even skip a beat, deadpanning, “No.”

    Bruce Willis is beloved

    Speaking of Bruce, much of the police department is made up of fans as well. Moore shares, “When I first met Marlene, ya know, someone said, ‘Well, this is Bruce Willis’ mother.’ And she never mentioned it. And in each of our encounters, I would never have know that. And, by the way, I think he’s a gentleman, and I’m sorry he’s gone through such a challenging disease and circumstances of his life.” (He is referring to Bruce’s diagnosis of frontotemporal dementia.)

    Moore continues, “But again, Marlene was never one to wear her identity as his mother on her sleeve, or even involve him in even passing references of her life, which impressed me.”

    Willis’ role is no small task. Gabaldon explains just some of her duties: “She reviews reports. She makes notes. She’s very good with English grammar, what’s right and what’s wrong.” We hear her laugh heartily at this.

    Detective Justin Malcuit takes it a step further:

    “One of the duties that she doesn’t even maybe know that she’s doing is just her presence here with the officers is huge. So for instance, when an officer comes to the station from whatever God-awful incident they dealt with in the field during the day, she comes up to that officer to give him a hug. That is beyond words and tremendous help to all of us here at the station, just in her day-to-day. And that happens every single day here at the station. And it’s just truly a testament to who she is.”

    “The city needs that”

    On every platform where the video has been posted, the comments are incredibly supportive.

    One person writes, “Looove that she is like the station’s ‘mother’ giving hugs to the officers. Truly. The city needs that.”

    Another commenter suggests it may be an attribute of the Silent Generation: “No wonder she has lived to be 90. That generation was built to serve.”

    And many are simply inspired to be like her. “This is so wonderful! 90 years old still feeling useful and strong,” a commenter writes. “Working her computer, doing paperwork. I admire her and hope I am just as active at 90!”

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