Jill Dabrowski

  • Fifth-grade teacher explains why he thinks the classic kid’s book ‘Rainbow Fish’ isn’t great
    Photo credit: via AmazonThe cover of "Rainbow Fish."

    Few children’s books are as deeply ingrained into the collective millennial psyche as “Rainbow Fish.” In addition to selling a gazillion copies, Marcus Pfister’s 1992 classic has spawned counting books, board books of opposites, hand puppets, and sequels such as “Rainbow Fish to the Rescue!” and “Rainbow Fish Finds His Way.” What’s not to love about those oh-so sparkling rainbow scales and heartwarming lesson about how sharing leads to happiness far better than selfishness? Only, according to some…that’s not the story’s lesson. In fact, some believe that the book teaches all the wrong lessons.

    In a video posted to his TikTok, fifth-grade teacher Mr. Vương (a.k.a “America’s Favorite Teacher”) admitted that while the illustrations were, in fact, great, and the author probably had “good intentions”, he still didn’t like the story behind this award-winning classic. The Rainbow Fish took home the Christopher Award, the Bologna Book Fair Critici in Erba Prize, and the American Booksellers ABBY Award.

    For those who never read the book, or perhaps forgot, Vương explains that at the beginning, “Rainbow Fish is full of himself because when all the other fish wanted to play with him, he sort of swam past them and thought he was better. Then one of the fish asked for one of his scales, and he refuses.”

    The case against Rainbow Fish

    This is where Vương feels the book missed the mark, as it depicts drawing a boundary as a character flaw of Rainbow Fish (more on that later). He said, “In my opinion, I think he has the right to do that because he doesn’t have to give up part of himself or anybody.” The real flaw, Vương argues, “was that he was not humble.”

     

    Vương goes on to say that in the book, when Rainbow Fish said no, all the other fish decided not to play with him, which “made it more about how all the fish didn’t accept him because he didn’t give up his scales, rather than them responding to his stuck-up behavior.”

    Also in the book, the wise Octopus advises that Rainbow Fish overcome his pride and give up all but one of his scales to the other fish. He might no longer be the most beautiful fish in the sea, but he is finally happy. Thus, bringing in the moral of the story of sacrificing vanity for peace. “So he got acceptance…when he gave up parts of who he was…” Vương declares matter-of-factly.

    He’s not the only one with doubts

    Vương’s hot take seemed to resonate with a few other adults who thought the Rainbow Fish had lost its luster. “Rereading it as an adult now, it made me angry. Little fish has the audacity to ask for a shiny scale, Rainbow Fish says no, so little fish goes and bad mouths him to all the other fish so they all turn on him and only become his friends when he gives up a part of himself,” one viewer wrote.

    “I feel like the book had more of a ‘sharing is caring’ moral and just carried out the message in a weird way with the scales” another said. One person even quipped, “…and now I know where I learned to be a people pleaser from. Thanks FYP.”

    It’s worth noting that regardless of his own personal opinion of the book, Mr. Vương still uses it to “teach about how to think critically about themes.”

    Changing the narrative

    “I opened up with what the theme was and then I read the story without telling them my opinion,” he says. “Then the kids made all these connections themselves and some of them looked at it through the lens of, ‘Oh it’s selfishness.’ And some of them were like, ‘Wait, is he buying his friends?’”

     

    Not only that, but the class had “really good discussions” about transactional relationships, as well as dissecting what the author’s original intent might have been. They will also be creating their own alternate endings, “where the theme is not that you gotta, you know, pay for your friends,” as the last part of their assignment.

    While not everyone might share Vương’s opinions on this kid’s book, we can probably all agree on his stance that “just because it has an award-winning sticker on it, it does not make it top-notch.”

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Man takes group of boys grocery shopping, teaching them to use their best instincts to be helpful
    Photo credit: CanvaA young boy pushes a cart in a grocery store.
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    Man takes group of boys grocery shopping, teaching them to use their best instincts to be helpful

    “Sir, you have no idea of the ripple effect you are making on future generations.”

    In many families, the wife often does the bulk of the grocery shopping. But as younger generations of men take on a more active role in day-to-day household management, there can be a learning curve. One man is trying to get ahead of that by teaching young boys how to shop for groceries on a budget using their own instincts.

    King Randall founded The X for Boys, a nonprofit that helps underprivileged boys access the resources they need to succeed. The organization also teaches life skills they may not be learning at home. In a recent video posted to Instagram, Randall is seen in a grocery store with another man and a group of boys, introducing the idea of men grocery shopping for their families.

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    A man and woman in a grocery store.
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    Randall explains that the boys should come to the grocery store prepared with a list and a strategy. As they shop, items should be checked off, even if the list isn’t organized by where things are located in the store.

    “So in order to lessen our time in the store, what we’re going to do is, we’re going to categorize these,” he says.

    After one of the boys grabs a shopping cart, Randall explains they have a $150 budget before asking what section of the store they’re in.

    “We’re in the produce section, right?” he asks. “So what we’re going to do is we’re going to go down our list, and we’re going to go one by one and see what’s in produce.”

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    A little boy putting milk in a grocery cart.
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    The boys enthusiastically agree and follow along. Randall adds that they’re shopping for a family of four, then shows them how to compare prices as they look for apples their family would eat. They continue through the produce section, checking off items along the way. Throughout the grocery run, Randall uses an imaginary wife in his examples, joking that when they’re newly married, they may need to call and confirm certain products.

    Commenters thought the grocery store run was an important experience for the boys. Many viewers of the now-viral video praise him for putting effort into teaching young boys how to be helpful using their own instincts throughout.

    One person says, “I absolutely love this. This is definitely needed in our community. All young men need to learn these skills to develop their young lives ~ It will last them their lifetime!”

    Another writes, “As an educator, MORE OF THIS!!! Life skills! Executive functioning and money management, family planning, communication-I want to hear the debrief. What did we learn? When can we apply this? What transferable skills can we identify? Bravo”

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    A little boy putting bread in a shopping cart.
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    Someone else chimes in, “Sir, you have no idea of the ripple effect you are making on future generations. May God bless you and give you favor.”

    “I am so obsessed with this,” another person writes. “These kids won’t forget this lesson!! They’re so engaged and listen so well.”

    “I love this!!! Keep this up sir!” a commenter adds. “And key…when youve been married a while and knowing what is needed will go a long way in the home with lowering your wife’s mental load. Glad you mentioned being newer to married and after been married you would know. This teaches to not use weaponized incompetence.”

    This isn’t the only life skill Randall is teaching. His program also teaches the boys how to iron, order at a restaurant, pump gas, and more. They’re learning skills they’ll use for the rest of their lives.

  • Comedian struggles to accurately explain how people used to get online with AOL
    Photo credit: Hayden Shiff/FlickrComedian Josh Johnson.
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    Comedian struggles to accurately explain how people used to get online with AOL

    “Do you want to hear any other facts that sound like they’re from the Middle Ages?”

    Coming of age at the same time as the Internet is a wild experience that can be hard to explain to younger generations. At a recent stand-up event, comedian Josh Johnson found himself in a mixed-age crowd discussing early Internet use. He quickly realized just how difficult it would be to explain how people got online in the early 2000s.

    For one, the process of getting onto the World Wide Web would likely sound made up to anyone under 30. And honestly, is there anyone who fully understands how it worked? Still, the comedian gives it his best shot, and hilariously struggles through it in a clip shared on his Instagram.

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    Josh Johnson.
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    “When I got the Internet, it was on CD,” Johnson reveals. “To this day, I don’t know how that worked. What…what…what is on the CD? What is that, because I thought you had to have…”

    That’s when he realizes he’s going to struggle with the explanation. Johnson warns the audience the process is going to be annoying, drawing even more laughter from those watching.

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    Audience members laughing.
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    “Some of you are young, and this is going to sound fake, but you used to…” he says before pausing to laugh with the audience. “No. You used to get Internet…okay…you would get an offer in the mail. They would mail you Internet. You would open the mail, and it would be Internet in the mail, but it would be a CD.”

    He then explains that a CD is a compact disc, and that Internet companies like AOL would send them through the mail as free trials. They could also be picked up at grocery stores near the checkout lanes.

    The comedian says that when you received the CD, “you would put it in the computer and for whatever reason, you got like 30 hours of Internet, which was a lot back then. I know y’all use it up in a day, today, but 30 hours used to be a lot of Internet, and you would surf the web. It was called surfing. We had a name for the World Wide Web, that’s where the WWW comes from. Do you want to hear any other facts that sound like they’re from the Middle Ages?”

    The more he explains, the more ridiculous it sounds out loud. With the Internet now easily accessible through Wi-Fi—not weird discs that mysteriously connect you—the old way feels almost unbelievable. But it’s true. There are likely storage boxes and landfills full of free Internet trial discs, long forgotten after cable Internet replaced dial-up.

    People can’t get over how the world worked in the early days of the technology boom.

    “Wait until the youths find out Netflix used to send DVDs to rent through the actual mail,” a commenter writes.

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    Audience members laughing.
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    Another person writes, “Not to mention we would have several different internet providers because of all the ‘free trial’ disks. Each month or whenever you ran out of internet from the previous disk…what a time to be alive.”

    Someone else jokes, “They weren’t just mailed. They came flying in like letters to Harry Potter’s front door…”

    One person says, “My frugal midwestern mom had us on dialup for ages bc she hoarded all the AOL free trial CDs. I will hear that dialup tone on my death bed good lord.”

    “And had bout 8 different email addresses so you could keep getting multiple free trials,” another person writes.

  • Woman surprises grandma with simple trick to remove corn husk. Everyone is gobsmacked.
    Photo credit: CanvaWoman surprises grandma with simple trick to remove corn husk. Everyone is gobsmacked.

    Removing a corn husk can be an annoying task when cooking dinner. After peeling the “jacket” layers off the delicious vegetable, you’re stuck pulling fibers out for what feels like an eternity. But there’s a simple trick that stops you from having to go through the whole fiber-finding mission, and a woman named Bella Devereux just revealed the secret to her grandmother.

    Recently, the woman spent time with her grandmother and decided to share an easier way to de-husk a corn cob. Devereux filmed the interaction and uploaded the video to social media, sharing the hack with everyone.

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    Corn cobs with husks.
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    In the video, the granddaughter unrolls a corn cob from a wet paper towel. The cob is on the counter after microwaving it for four minutes. It still has the husk. She then takes a paper towel to hold the corn cob in place while she cuts off the bottom. Once the bottom is cut, she uses the paper towel to stand the cob up, then squeezes it from the top.

    The corn smoothly slides out of its green jacket, still standing. No stringy fibers are seen hanging onto the golden vegetable. The ease with which the corn cob came out of the husk amazed the grandmother.

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    Grandmother smiling at blonde woman.
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    “Oh, for goodness sake, I never thought of doing that! And it comes out perfect every time!” the grandma exclaims. “Why hasn’t anyone told us about that before? Because by the time you do this with each piece, then you’ve got to go pick all the bits off of it. Ahhh!”

    Devereux’s grandmother can barely get out another sentence due to her bewilderment. She asked how long Devereux’s mother had known about this hack and how. The grandmother says, “It couldn’t be better. That is amazing!”

    Eventually, they heat another piece of corn to give the grandmother a chance to do it herself.

    “I cannot believe it. It was so clean,” the grandma says before she excitedly does her own corn cob. “I cannot believe that it’s as easy as that. How many years have I struggled to get it all off, and then I’ve had to go and do this and take off all the hair. Where have I been all this time?”

    Devereux’s grandmother isn’t the only one gobsmacked by how easily the corn came out of the husk. Others simply cannot get enough of how excited the grandma is with her new discovery.

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    Grandmother and granddaughter looking at laptop.
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    “Thank you for actually letting us witness her get a chance to do it as well,” someone says.

    “Oh my, I love this so much,” another writes.

    One person chimes in, “Amazing life hack and a wonderful reaction.”

    Someone else admits, “Her reaction speaks for all of us!”

    This person came across the video a week too late, writing, “I just fixed corn on the cob last week. I would have loved knowing this as I cleared those numerous corn silks.”

    One viewer adds, “I love how excited she was. I also did not know this trick.”

    “This is brilliant & who in this world came up with this hack first,” another asks.

  • The Bee Gees perform ‘How Deep Is Your Love’ live and a capella in resurfaced 1998 clip
    Photo credit: via Edu Seijas/YouTubeThe Bee Gees singing "How Deep is Your Love" in 1998.

    In 1998, The Bee Gees, brothers Barry, Robin and Maurice Gibb, stopped by ITV’s “Des O’Connor Tonight” with acoustic guitars in hand to promote their recent release, “One Night Only,” an album and live concert DVD featuring many of the band’s biggest hits.

    The highlight of the performance was when Barry got ready to strum his guitar for a performance of “How Deep Is Your Love,” the 1977 megahit from the “Saturday Night Fever Soundtrack,” but instead chose to sing the song a cappella.

    Their signature sound

    Barry starts the song solo in his beautiful falsetto, but then, when his brothers join him, they create a wonderful harmony that only brothers can make. The show’s host, Des O’Connor, a notable singer himself, even joins in for a few bars.

    Earlier in the performance, the brothers played their version of “Islands in the Stream,” a song made famous by Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers in 1983 that was written by the Bee Gees. In 1998, the song was enjoying a resurgence as its melody was used in the song “Ghetto Supastar” by Pras of The Fugees.

    Writing for music icons

    Robin Gibb later admitted that the song was initially written for Marvin Gaye to sing, but he was tragically murdered in 1984 by his father. The band also had Diana Ross in mind while composing the tune.

    During the appearance, the band also sang “Guilty,” a song that the Bee Gees wrote for Barbara Streisand and Barry produced in 1980.

    You can watch the entire performance here:

    The Gibb brothers started making music together when they were children, and after their first public appearance together at a local movie theater in 1956, they were hooked on performing.

    “It was the feeling of standing in front of an audience that was so amazing,” said Barry. “We’d never seen anything like it. We were very young, but it made an enormous impression. We didn’t want to do anything else but make music.”

    After the family moved to Australia in 1958, Barry, Maurice, and Robin were “discovered” at the Redcliffe Speedway, where they had asked to perform between races. Even over the tinny PA system, their harmonies made an impression. Speedway manager Bill Goode introduced the trio to DJ Bill Gates, who set them up with a recording session.

    From a land down under

    If you’ve ever wondered how the Bee Gees got their name, that was it: Bill Goode, Bill Gates, Barry Gibb, and the brothers’ mother Barbara Gibb all had the initials B.G. After a strong reception on the airwaves in Brisbane, Gates forwarded the brothers’ recordings to a Sydney radio station. They got a lot of airtime there as well, and the band had a run of success performing in Australia, but it wasn’t until their return to England in 1967 that they became the international sensation we all know today.

    Manager Robert Stigwood had received tapes from the Gibbs brothers and called them up within weeks of their arrival in the U.K.

    “I loved their composing,” Stigwood told Rolling Stone in 1977. “I also loved their harmony singing. It was unique, the sound they made; I suppose it was a sound only brothers could make.”

     

    More than just disco

    And, as they say, the rest is history. The award-winning 2020 HBO documentary, “The Bee Gees: How Can You Mend a Broken Heart” tells the story of the band with loads of footage from throughout their 40-year career, which includes not only their disco-era fame, but the various phases of their musical journey and the countless songs they wrote for other artists.

    As one commenter wrote, “People that call the Bee Gees a ‘disco group’ don’t have a clue. They had 10 albums out before they ventured into ‘disco.’ Their song catalogue is amazing and some of their very best songs were written long before Saturday Night Fever. Those ‘disco’ songs are classics as well. It is nice to see they are finally getting the recognition they deserve.”

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

     

  • Prince wrote a singer an original song. Her performance left ‘AGT’ judges astounded.
    Photo credit: Flickr/Wikipedia, America’s Got Talent/YouTubePrince would be so proud.

    When the 2024 Summer Olympics ended, few knew we weren’t quite done marveling at elite-level humans at the top of their game. America’s Got Talent returned from its two week hiatus in August 2024 with eleven incredible acts, but it was R&B singer Liv Warfield who stole the show with her rendition of “The Unexpected,” a song that just so happened to be written specifically for her by Prince. No big deal.

    Warfield had already wowed audiences with her initial audition, which earned a Golden Buzzer from Simon Cowell. But her follow-up performance had Cowell saying, “If this was the Olympics for singing, you would have won the gold medal.”

    Liv Warfield after receiving the Golden Buzzer. Photo credit: NBCUniversal.

    Judges Sofia Vergara and Howie Mandel echoed similar praises. Vergara called Warfield’s set “perfection,” while Mandel, a self-proclaimed Prince fan, told Warfield that “The Purple One knew what he was doing when he gave you this gem. That was a million-dollar performance.”

    And it’s not hard to see why Warfield got such high remarks. Beyond her unbelievable vocals was her undeniable star power and ability to transport us all back in time to the days of 70s rock n’ roll.

    As one viewer put it, “If Prince and Janis Joplin had a baby = Liv Warfield!”

    Just watch:

     

    From Prince to AGT

    Warfield’s connection to Prince began in 2009, when she joined his New Power Generation band. Though she noted that “backing up Prince was a dream,” not to mention the fact that she’s already made several chart topping achievements on her own, she still felt like her ultimate potential had yet to be reached, hence her AGT audition. Now, her quarterfinal performance has made Cowell declare another defining moment in her career.

    “It felt to me like all those years you’ve been climbing the ladder to where you want to be, it all came out in those three minutes,” he said.

    Indeed, what a testament to the power of steadily going after your dreams. Raw talent is great, but even with God-given gifts, there’s still so much work that goes into being ready for big opportunities. Though she didn’t win the competition in the end, Warfield is already a winner through and through.

    Learning from the master

    Warfield is continuing on her musical path in her hometown of Chicago and was invited to perform the Star-Spangled Banner at a Chicago Cubs baseball game in May of 2025.

    @livwarfield

    Thank you @cubs for inviting me out to sing. ✨Beautiful Day, Beautiful People,Energy at @cubs game! With my @zinzannichicago Family❤️✨. Although sis, was hiding out like the 🦀 that I am. 😂😂🤘🏾 Love y’all! Yesterday was necessary 🫀. PR Queen @aidanhenri 😘✨🫶🏾 @princenolov3 😘

    ♬ original sound – LiV Warfield

    Her Prince roots are alive and well in her stage performances as she performed in a tribute concert series during the summer of 2025. She also has multiple albums under her belt, beginning with “Embrace Me” in 2006 and continuing through her 2023 album “The Edge.”

    Warfield has credited Prince with her musical development, telling NPR in 2014:

    “He’s influenced me first and foremost, as a performer. Just kind of like taking chances first. It took me a while. Like I thought I was a good performer, but when I got part of the New Power Generation, I was like, ‘Whoa this is a whole new world for me.’ And even in the writing and arranging, and him just teaching me how to really listen to the music. Listen to every instrument, give space, and I wasn’t really thinking about those things. I just wanted to hear everything. I thought, ‘If everybody plays, it’s good.’ … Sometimes it could sound like noise, but he just really kind of developed my ear.”

    Liv Warfield performing on AGT. Photo credit: NBCUniversal

    Just more proof that musical legends live on not only in the music they leave behind but in the talent they help nurture and develop.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • 15 old-school casserole recipes that feel like home for boomers and Gen Xers
    Photo credit: Image via Reddit/MyDogGoldiVintage casserole recipes from Gen X and boomer childhoods.

    Childhood dishes can take you straight back to your seat at the family dinner table. Comfort meals that were served there are uber nostalgic. And there is one dish represents the epitome of Gen X and baby boomer childhoods: casseroles.

    These one-dish wonders were loaded with flavor and baked to perfection. Pulled straight from the oven to the dinner table, casseroles filled the house with the smell of unique home-cooked recipes.

    And while most of us are eating casseroles today at Thanksgiving, Gen Xers and boomers grew up eating casseroles on the reg.

    Here are 15 old-school casserole recipes that Redditors grew up eating, which are just as yummy today:

     

    Chicken casseroles

    Fancy Fast Chicken casserole

    Fancy Fast Chicken is delicious and so simple. Line up chicken breasts in a casserole dish. Dump uncooked stuffing over top the chicken breasts. Pour Cream of Mushroom (Onion or chicken works too) and incorporate it into the stuffing. Top with cheese of your choice, and fried onions if you’re inclined. Bake at 350 for 45min or until chicken is thoroughly cooked.” – Applepoisoneer

    Chicken Curry Divan casserole

    “My favorite is Chicken Curry Divan. A friend made it for me in college 40 years ago and it is a favorite to this day. Never disappoints. Many people have asked me for the recipe over the years. My best friends kids now that they are grown have each approached me for it.

    1 1/2 lbs chicken breast tenders cooked and cut into bite sized pieces
    3 cups broccoli in bite sized pieces
    2 cans Cream of Chicken soup
    1 cup mayonnaise (must be Mayo)
    2 tsp curry
    Juice of 1 lemon
    Shredded sharp cheddar (use the amount you like o like a nice even cover of the top)
    3/4 cup crushed Ritz crackers
    3 tbsp melted butter
    In 9×13” baking pan layer chicken then broccoli.

    Mix the soup, Mayo, lemon juice and curry together well, pour over chicken broccoli mixture evenly and smooth out. Sprinkle cheese over top evenly. Crush crackers fine, mix in melted butter well and sprinkle evenly over top. Cook at 375° for 25-30 minutes until bubbly and top brown. Serve with rice.” – karinchup

    Chicken and Rice casserole

    “This baked rice & cheese casserole has become a staple in our house! It’s great as a side dish, or I’ll add rotisserie chicken and serve it as a main dish.” – anchovypepperonitoni

    Chicken & Dumplings casserole

    “The secret of this is not to stir anything. That’s what makes your dumplings. When you dish it out, you have your dumplings on top.
    2 chicken breasts, cooked and shredded; 2 cups chicken broth; 1/2 stick of butter; 2 cups Bisquick mix; 2 cups whole milk; 1 can cream of chicken soup; 1/2 medium onion, minced; 1 cup frozen peas; 3 tsp chicken Better Than Bouillon; 1/2 tsp dried sage; 1 tsp black pepper; 1/2 tsp salt.

    (1) Preheat oven to 350 degrees
    (2) Layer 1 – In 9×13 casserole dish, melt 1/2 stick of butter. Spread shredded chicken over butter. Sprinkle black pepper and dried sage over this layer. Do not stir.
    (3) Layer 2 – Sprinkle minced onions and peas over chicken
    (4) Layer 3 – In small bowl, mix milk and Bisquick. Slowly pour all over chicken. Do not stir.
    (5) Layer 4 – In medium bowl, whisk together 2 cups of chicken broth, chicken bouillon, and soup. Once blended, slowly pour over the Bisquick layer. Do not stir.
    (6) Bake casserole for 30-40 minutes, or until the top is golden brown.” – Superb_Yak7074

    Chicken broccoli casserole

    “I made chicken broccoli casserole last week and that’s a favorite here. This is pretty close to how I do it.” – gimmethelulz

    Potato casseroles

    Funeral Potatoes

    “The unfortunately named, funeral potatoes!” – IRLperson

    Tater Tot casserole

    Tater tot casserole. My mom made this at least once a week when I was growing up, but she added a quart of green beans to make it a meal. If you brown your ground beef in a good size cast iron skillet, you only dirty up one pan to make it!” – hcynthia1234, upperwareParTAY

    Breakfast casserole

    “I’m making a breakfast casserole this morning for brunch later—a bag of frozen hash brown potatoes thawed, a pound of sausage sauteed with peppers and onions, a brick of cheese grated, eight eggs beaten with a bit of milk and cream and some salt and pepper. Layer in a casserole, ending with cheese. Bake around an hour at 375.” – CWrend

    Hamburger pie casserole

    “One of my childhood favorites. Did not add vegetables or cheese though. This was an end of the month struggle meal that everyone loved.” – DarnHeather

    Shepherd’s pie casserole

    “Shepherd’s pie : brown 1.5 lbs ground beef with half a chopped onion, salt and pepper, drain it and then spread into a 13×9 and stir a can of cream of mushroom soup into it. Spread a drained family size can of corn on top, use a container of prepared mashed potatoes for the top layer. Bake for a half hour at 350.” – ExplanationLucky1143

    Noodle casseroles

    Tuna casserole

    “Love my mom’s tuna noodle casserole: 1 bag broad egg noodles, 1 can cream of mushroom soup, 2 cans tuna, 1 cup frozen corn or 1 can kernel corn, 2 cups shredded sharp cheddar cheese, 1/2 cup seasoned bread crumbs, 1 tbsp celery salt
    Cook noodles per package directions, drain, then place in a 13×9 casserole dish. Mix in cream of mushroom soup, tuna, corn, 1 cup of the cheddar cheese, and celery salt. Top the casserole with the remaining cheese and bread crumbs. Bake at 350 for 20 minutes or until done enough for you.” – Pinkleton

    Mock Stroganoff casserole

    “Mock stroganoff – brown 1lb ground chuck. Mix in 8 oz sour cream and 1 can cream of mushroom. Add to 1 lb of cooked egg noodles. Season with black pepper. Extras – fresh mushrooms and/or onion cooked with the beef. Any precooked veggies of your choice, peas or broccoli work well. Splash of Worcestershire, soy sauce, or fish sauce. Garlic or onion powder. Parsley, thyme, or cilantro.” – Nathan_Saul

    Cabbage noodle casserole

    “I have a quick cabbage and noodles that uses bagged cole slaw. Cook a bag of noodles. Put aside. Cut up a lb of bacon and a med onion. Cook in pan until bacon is slightly fried and onions are clear. Add cabbage(without carrots) let sit 10 min or so. Add to noodles. It’s so easy.” – conjas11

    @allrecipes

    Thanksgiving prep class is now in session! 🍂🧑‍🏫 If there’s one thing you need to nail on the big day (other than the turkey, of course), it’s Green Bean Casserole. This recipe tastes just like the one your grandmother used to make, if not even better! 😋 Continue reading or click the link in the @allrecipes bio to get the full recipe. Ingredients: 2 (15-ounce) cans cut green beans, drained 1 (10.5-ounce) can condensed cream of mushroom soup ¾ cup milk 1 (2.8-ounce) can French fried onions salt and ground black pepper to taste Directions: Gather all ingredients. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Mix green beans, condensed cream of mushroom soup, milk, and 1/2 of the fried onions in a 1.5-quart casserole dish. Bake in the preheated oven until heated through and bubbly, about 25 minutes. Sprinkle remaining onions on top and return to the oven for 5 minutes. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Let rest for a few minutes before serving. 🧑‍🍳: Nicole #thanksgiving #greenbeancasserole #greenbeans #thanksgivingsides

    ♬ Greens Bean Potatoes – Thanksgiving Music

    Vegetable casseroles

    Green bean casserole

    This is the best green bean casserole recipe, it does use the canned onions but you make your own cream of mushroom and it’s soooo good. I’ve made it on random weekends, it’s not just a Thanksgiving food. I don’t know much about older foods, I just really wanted to share that recipe.”

    Corn casserole

    “Our family Corn custard doesn’t have crackers but we double the recipe and there’s never any left over. 2 eggs, 1 cup of sweetened condensed milk, 1/2 flour, 2 T soft butter, 1 tsp sugar, 1 can of creamed corn, 1 can of whole corn. Mix all together and bake in a 8×8 about 45 min at 350. Gotta have that!” – Psychological_Bat890

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

  • Therapist shares 3 life-changing quotes she uses ‘almost daily’ with her patients
    Photo credit: Courtesy of @miss.mad.hatter/TikTokTherapists can be great at helping us understand how our brains work.

    Therapist shares 3 life-changing quotes she uses ‘almost daily’ with her patients

    “Your nervous system will choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven every day of the week.”

    Millions of Americans seek the help of therapists for mental health struggles, and many more could use some psychological care but aren’t getting it due to affordability, lack of access, or other barriers. One of the positives to come out of the social media era is professionals sharing thoughts, opinions, approaches, and tools that the public might find helpful. While “TikTok therapy” is certainly not a replacement for actual therapy, you can sometimes find some useful nuggets.

    For instance, clinical therapist Hattie Awe, LPC, shared a video laying out three things she tells her patients all the time, and judging by the four million views and 124,000+ saves of the video, people are finding it helpful.

    “I am a therapist in higher level of care, and these are the three quotes that I use almost daily with the patients that I work with,” Awe begins. “It’s more of a fact, the first one, but your brain has never existed and will never exist to be happy. Your brain has no rationale of what that means, and your brain strictly operates off of safety and knowing. which doesn’t always align with what we want out of life.”

    Neuroscience backs this up. Evolutionary psychologists say our brain’s primary goal is survival, not happiness. That doesn’t mean we don’t want to be happy—of course we do. It means our brain isn’t hardwired for that. It’s wired to keep us safe and secure, which means it’s naturally prone to focus more on the negative than the positive.

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    Awe says that idea connects to the second quote that she probably uses more than any other: Your nervous system will choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven every day of the week,” she says. “Your nervous system will gravitate towards the things that we know, the things that we see, the things that we’ve done over and over and over again because to the brain that’s safety. It doesn’t matter if the outcome is something that we don’t want, as long as our brain knows what’s coming, as long as we know what this is, as long as this is familiar, there’s a safety in that, which is why we might find ourselves doing the same shit, engaging in the same toxic relationships, engaging in the same behaviors over and over and over again, not knowing why we keep doing it, because it’s safe to the brain.”

    Somatic therapist Sarah Alpern used a similar phrase, “Your nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven” to explain why we might resist change even when it’s good for us and why we tend to gravitate toward the same patterns, behaviors, and situations even though they may be harming us. Predictability feels safer than change.

    “Change for the better represents uncertainty, and our brains perceive uncertainty as a potential threat,” Alpern writes. “It disrupts the familiar patterns and forces our nervous system to adapt to new circumstances, which can be scary and uncomfortable.”

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    Change is often seen as a threat by the nervous system. Photo credit: Canva

    Understanding this can help us recognize when our instinctual brain functions are fighting us and why.

    “That leaves me to my third favorite little tidbit, little quote, which is you literally cannot hate yourself in the loving yourself,” says Awe. “There is no criticizing your way to confidence. There’s no shitting on yourself into a version of yourself that you enjoy. It doesn’t exist. and you’ve probably learned all of the lessons of life that you need by hating yourself. You might as well get to the fun part of life where you learn all the lessons of life by loving yourself.”

    “So validate the past versions of yourself,” she continues. “Validate the functions of the brain and the fact that it’s never really cared if you were happy. Validate how easy it is to fall in the habits of cyclical behavior, given the fact that our nervous system and brain is drawn to it. Have acceptance for that and be able to move forward. But we can’t act like the person before us doesn’t exist. And we can’t hate her for existing.”

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    Therapy can help people better understand how their brain works. Photo credit: Canva

    People in the comments of her video shared how helpful they found Awe’s concise breakdown of these concepts.

    “There is no criticizing yourself into confidence HITS.”

    “u just linked up like 12 different concepts in my brain thank u.”

    “This was gold! How much do I owe you?”

    “I just listened to this three times through to let it sink in. I’m in a transition phase and finding it hard and I needed to hear this. Thanks!”

    “I love that by being happy, you’re basically being a rebel against your own brain and nervous system.”

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    Other therapists weighed in on her video as well, some with quotes they frequently share with their clients:

    “As a fellow staff with youth in higher level of care, I can confirm that this way of thinking is their only way to get through everyday . It’s so black and white and everyday is such a struggle trying to get them back to baseline.”

    “Along with your third quote, something I’ve said to clients is something to the effect of ‘if talking to yourself that way/thinking that way worked, it would’ve worked by now.’”

    “I’m a therapist, and a quote I use frequently is ‘you can be comfortable or you can grow, but you can’t do both.’”

    “Psychiatrist here…. ‘Acceptance does not require approval’ is one of my favorites. I feel like acceptance is such a huge part of life but it’s such a struggle for so many people.”

    A two-minute video definitely won’t cure anyone’s mental health issues, but even short tidbits like this can sometimes help shift our perspective and allow us to see the workings of our brains in a new and helpful light.

    You can follow Awe at @miss.mad.hatter on TikTok for more.

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

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