People who don’t understand clinical depression will often characterize those suffering from its debilitating symptoms as “weak” or “lazy.”

But the disease has nothing to do with will power, it's caused by biochemical changes in the brain.

Telling people with depression to “suck it up” or “quit feeling sorry for yourself” will only pile on their frustrations, making their illness worse.


Ali, a Reddit user from Quebec with the clunky handle 0770059834333178, was dealing with depression when he saw a video of actor, eight-time Mr. Olympia, and former California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger working out in the gym. Schwarzenegger was pumping some serious iron in preparation for his next “Terminator” film.

On a whim, Ali sent The Governator a direct message through the online forum asking for some help getting motivated.

Ali was blown away when Schwarzenegger responded to his message and it wasn’t with a simple, “Snap out of it!” Instead, the “True Lies” star’s response was heartfelt and showed he understood what it’s like to have depression.

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After Schwarzenegger's response was shared on another subforum, Reddit user FormerGameDev thanked him for the inspiration. But Schwarzenegger handed all the credit to Ali.

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Ali thanked Schwarzenegger for the encouragement and the “Predator” star praised him right back.

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Later, Arnold uploaded a video to Reddit thanking Ali.

“You asked me to pump you up a little bit about your depression,” Schwarzenegger said. “I’m very happy that you snapped out of it and that now you’re pumping up other people that have depression. You’re encouraging them and giving them positive reinforcements. I love that. Hasta la vista.”

Schwarzenegger's kind works and positive attitude gives a deeper a meaning to the phrase “pumped up.” Sure, we can get jacked up on adrenaline at the gym, bit we can also pump each other up through empathy and a nudge in the right direction.

That first car is a rite of passage into adulthood. Specifically, the hard-earned lesson of expectations versus reality. Though some of us are blessed with Teslas at 17, most teenagers receive a car that’s been … let’s say previously loved. And that’s probably a good thing, considering nearly half of first-year drivers end up in wrecks. Might as well get the dings on the lemon, right?

Of course, wrecks aside, buying a used car might end up costing more in the long run after needing repairs, breaking down and just a general slew of unexpected surprises. But hey, at least we can all look back and laugh.

My first car, for example, was a hand-me-down Toyota of some sort from my mother. I don’t recall the specific model, but I definitely remember getting into a fender bender within the first week of having it. She had forgotten to get the brakes fixed … isn’t that a fun story?

Jimmy Fallon recently asked his “Tonight Show” audience on Twitter to share their own worst car experiences. Some of them make my brake fiasco look like cakewalk (or cakedrive, in this case). Either way, these responses might make us all feel a little less alone. Or at the very least, give us a chuckle.

Here are 22 responses with the most horsepower:

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Alberto Cartuccia Cingolani wows audiences with his amazing musical talents.

Mozart was known for his musical talent at a young age, playing the harpsichord at age 4 and writing original compositions at age 5. So perhaps it's fitting that a video of 5-year-old piano prodigy Alberto Cartuccia Cingolani playing Mozart has gone viral as people marvel at his musical abilities.

Alberto's legs can't even reach the pedals, but that doesn't stop his little hands from flying expertly over the keys as incredible music pours out of the piano at the 10th International Musical Competition "Città di Penne" in Italy. Even if you've seen young musicians play impressively, it's hard not to have your jaw drop at this one. Sometimes a kid comes along who just clearly has a gift.

Of course, that gift has been helped along by two professional musician parents. But no amount of teaching can create an ability like this.

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TikTok about '80s childhood is a total Gen X flashback.

As a Gen X parent, it's weird to try to describe my childhood to my kids. We're the generation that didn't grow up with the internet or cell phones, yet are raising kids who have never known a world without them. That difference alone is enough to make our 1980s childhoods feel like a completely different planet, but there are other differences too that often get overlooked.

How do you explain the transition from the brown and orange aesthetic of the '70s to the dusty rose and forest green carpeting of the '80s if you didn't experience it? When I tell my kids there were smoking sections in restaurants and airplanes and ashtrays everywhere, they look horrified (and rightfully so—what were we thinking?!). The fact that we went places with our friends with no quick way to get ahold of our parents? Unbelievable.

One day I described the process of listening to the radio, waiting for my favorite song to come on so I could record it on my tape recorder, and how mad I would get when the deejay talked through the intro of the song until the lyrics started. My Spotify-spoiled kids didn't even understand half of the words I said.

And '80s hair? With the feathered bangs and the terrible perms and the crunchy hair spray? What, why and how?

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