'You set the standard': Woman praises random dad for how he handled toddler's Target meltdown
The dad "grounded him" and brought him "back to reality."

TikToker praises a dad for his amazing parenting skills.
One of a parent's biggest fears is dealing with a toddler having a full-blown meltdown while shopping. The common sense parenting suggestion is to ignore the meltdown and the child will eventually stop. Easier said than done. Thereβs nothing more embarrassing than doing nothing while your kid is kicking, screaming, and flailing in the cereal aisle.
It can also feel humiliating to have to reason with a 3-year-old in front of dozens of peering eyes, silently judging while they pretend to be grabbing a box of Frosted Flakes.
On the other hand, a toddlerβs tantrum can be an opportunity to showcase your excellent parenting skills. Thatβs what one dad did in a Target, and his ability to bring his son back to reality earned him praise from a stranger on TikTok.
In a video thatβs been seen over 370,000 times, TikToker Cari Izaguirre shared how a father brilliantly handled a toddler throwing a tantrum in the Target book section.
I legit felt like i was grounded and came back to reality at that momentπ #parenting #incredible #toddler #shopping #grounding
@cari.izaguirre I legit felt like i was grounded and came back to reality at that momentπ #parenting #incredible #toddler #shopping #grounding
"This is to the dad that was just in Target with your young boy. You guys were walking past the books and he threw a huge fit because you didn't allow him to get a book," Izaguirre began in her video. βSo he started throwing himself all over. I just wanna say bravo to you. You did the most incredible job with him.β
The father took the boy to the side and asked him to take a deep breath. The father hugged his sobbing son and asked him directly: βWhere are we right now?β
βTarget,β the little boy responded.
βWhat are you standing on?β the father asked.
βThe floor,β the boy responded.
βIs it carpet or is it tile?β the father continued.
βTile,β the boy responded.
"He was grounding him, bringing him back to reality was like 'Dude, it's all gonna be good.β It worked," Izaguirre said in amazement. βThis little boy came so quickly back to his senses and stopped crying and was having this really awesome conversation with his dad. It was incredible.β
Izaguirre thought the fatherβs actions in the Target were commendable because he didnβt lose his temper which has always been hard for her. βI was that mom that lost my temper,β she admitted.
The father did a great job calming down his child with a few choice questions. But is that the only way to stop a public tantrum? Dr. Daniel Siegel, co-author of The Whole-Brain Child, says that you'll get two types of tantrums in a store. The first is the βupstairsβ tantrum where a child is pushing your limits and making a power play. The second is the βdownstairsβ tantrum, which results from a child being overstimulated, also known as a meltdown.
Dr. Siegel says that when your child throws an upstairs tantrum, it's best to ignore and not react because the kid is looking for a response. In the case of a downstairs tantrum, itβs best to try to calm the childβs emotions like the dad did in Target.
This article originally appeared last year.
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