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Why you may be an erotic person and not even know it

Imagination may play a bigger role in our sex lives than we know.

Why you may be an erotic person and not even know it

When you hear the word "eroticism," what comes to mind?

Maybe an X-rated, not-safe-for-work image?


But according to psychologist Esther Perel, we're thinking about it all wrong. When it comes to eroticism, we might actually be missing out on a lot of good stuff that makes our bodies and minds really happy.

It starts with understanding what it really means to be erotic.

Merriam-Webster defines erotic as "of, devoted to, or tending to arouse sexual love or desire." But Esther would probably give that description the side-eye. For her, sex only scratches the surface.

Wait, you mean erotica isn't just about getting it on?

Nope.

Here are three things that eroticism is all about:

1. An erotic person savors their life.

Esther says that, historically, mystics saw eroticism as an important part of maintaining vitality and having a vibrant life.

Well, that sounds fun. And it actually doesn't sound overtly sexual at all. It sounds practical, internal, and thoughtful.

2. Turns out, being erotic also means finding time to feel good whenever you can.


Ahhh, that gives me all the magical feels.

3. Eroticism and creativity often go hand in hand.

Why? Because when you let your creative juices flow and activate in your brain (aka the biggest sex organ in your body), you're more likely to feel alive, confident, and even imaginative.

Let your imagination run wild — without a leash.

Whoa ... that's some intense stuff! I feel like my brain was just hugged.

And that, my friend, is why you may be a much more erotic person than you thought you were when you started reading this post.

To hear more of Esther's bright thoughts on celebrating eroticism and how it's nothing to be ashamed of, check out the video below.


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