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It's no secret that everybody loves good moms.

I know I do.

My wife is an amazing mom, and my kids love her to pieces.


I'm a grown man, and my own mama is still one of my favorite people on the planet due to all the love she provided and sacrifices she made to get me and my brothers to where we are today.

Identical twins giving our mama some identical holiday love. Photo provided by me.

But you know what? Everybody loves good dads, too. Their partners find them to be sexy, their friends enjoy being around them, and most importantly — their kids absolutely cannot get enough of them.

Why? Well, it's not only because they aren't interested in spending a random Tuesday night doing this.

Most good dads I know aren't making it rain at the club instead of being with their families. GIF from "Parks and Recreation."

Here are five simple reasons why good dads are so adored by their loved ones.

1. They love to wear their babies.

You don't have to wear babies to be a good dad, but good dads aren't afraid to try. Other than understanding that it's great for the baby's development, it's a beautiful thing to see a big strong man take part in a gentle act like strapping an infant to his chest. Not to mention, men who are willing to do this show their confidence, and most people I know love confident dudes.

These guys also aren't worried if Neanderthals laugh at them for using a baby carrier. They do it because they're demonstrating that building a bond with their babies is way more important than trying to impress the clowns who don't get it.

All photos are from Daddy Doin' Work Instagram, used with permission.

2. They're affectionate toward their children.

You know that "emotionally unavailable dad"? Sure you do. He's the guy who thinks he's an awesome father just because he brings home a paycheck. He never plays with his kids, he never tells them he loves them, and the only time he touches them is during a spanking when they "get out of line."

I'll go out on a limb here and say that nobody likes that dad.

But do you know the type of dads that everyone likes?

The dads who come home from work and instantly transitions into "play mode" (even without changing their clothes).

The dads who truly enjoy the bonding moments with their children.

The dads who hug and kiss their kids often.

It's a new world now and that emotionally unavailable nonsense is as played out as the Macarena and the Harlem Shake. Nowadays affection is the new toughness.

3. They aren't "too cool" to be a little silly.

The kids want to reenact a Disney movie scene? They're the first ones to set the stage.

Their daughters want a date for their tea parties? They're the first ones to put on dresses to own their fabulousness.

Good dads aren't "too cool" to do anything for their kids because they understand that making their kids happy is the coolest thing ever. Again, the level of confidence it takes to look silly and not care about anyone's opinion (other than his family, of course) is a great quality to have.

Not to mention, the silliest times always lead to the best memories.

4. If they're in romantic relationships, they choose to be parenting partners without being asked.

If the baby's crying in the middle of the night, they're the ones who quickly get up to tend to her so their partners can receive some much-needed rest.

And no, it doesn't matter to them if their spouses stay at home with the kids all day while they go to the office. These men are smart enough to know that they're both working and that everyone deserves a chance to enjoy a good night's sleep.

If they notice their partners are overwhelmed, they get busy in the kitchen to whip up a nice dinner for the family. Or, if they can't cook, they're thoughtful enough to bring home some take-out food instead.

Nobody asked them to do these things. They just do it because they're good people.

And that's what's up.

5. If they're in romantic relationships, they take the time to let their partners know that they're appreciated.

Newsflash: Raising kids is no joke. Between managing toddler tantrums, diaper changes, teenage hormones, and kids doing the complete opposite of what's asked of them, it can be a maddening and thankless gig at times.

But likable men are empathetic enough to know when their spouses need a pick-me-up. It doesn't take much, either. Just a simple, "You know what, honey? I appreciate everything you do for our family," and all of the stress seemingly disappears.

It takes so little effort to say thank you, but it has a ridiculously profound impact.

I'm sure it would have an even more profound impact if the Old Spice guy said it, but we don't need to go there. GIF from Old Spice.

In closing, I want to reiterate how awesome moms are.

Even though my dad is easily the best man I know, there's no chance I'd be the man and father I am today without my mom's guidance. But dads play an integral role in the parenting game too. The more involved we are, the better off it is for everyone.

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to put on my blonde Queen Elsa wig and sing "Let It Go" about a dozen times. Because, you know, fatherhood.

Photo courtesy of Girls at Work

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When we’re kids, fun comes so easily. You have coloring books and team sports and daily recess … so many opportunities to laugh, play and explore. As we get older, these activities get replaced by routine and responsibility (and yes, at times, survival). Adulthood, yuck.

Many of us want to have more fun, but making time for it still doesn’t come as easily as it did when we were kids—whether that’s because of guilt, a long list of other priorities or because we don’t feel it’s an age-appropriate thing to long for.

Luckily, we’ve come to realize that fun isn’t just a luxury of childhood, but really a vital aspect of living well—like reducing stress, balancing hormone levels and even improving relationships.

More and more people of all ages are letting their inner kids out to play, and the feelings are delightfully infectious.

You might be wanting to instill a little more childlike wonder into your own life, and not sure where to start. Never fear, the internet is here. Reddit user SetsunaSaigami asked people, “What always remains fun no matter how old you get?” People’s (surprisingly profound) answers were great reminders that no matter how complex our lives become, simple joy will always be important.

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Adewole Adamson, MD, of the University of Texas, Austin, aims to create more equity in health care by gathering data from more diverse populations by using artificial intelligence (AI), a type of machine learning. Dr. Adamson’s work is funded by the American Cancer Society (ACS), an organization committed to advancing health equity through research priorities, programs and services for groups who have been marginalized.

Melanoma became a particular focus for Dr. Adamson after meeting Avery Smith, who lost his wife—a Black woman—to the deadly disease.

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This personal encounter, coupled with multiple conversations with Black dermatology patients, drove Dr. Adamson to a concerning discovery: as advanced as AI is at detecting possible skin cancers, it is heavily biased.

To understand this bias, it helps to first know how AI works in the early detection of skin cancer, which Dr. Adamson explains in his paper for the New England Journal of Medicine (paywall). The process uses computers that rely on sets of accumulated data to learn what healthy or unhealthy skin looks like and then create an algorithm to predict diagnoses based on those data sets.

This process, known as supervised learning, could lead to huge benefits in preventive care.

After all, early detection is key to better outcomes. The problem is that the data sets don’t include enough information about darker skin tones. As Adamson put it, “everything is viewed through a ‘white lens.’”

“If you don’t teach the algorithm with a diverse set of images, then that algorithm won’t work out in the public that is diverse,” writes Adamson in a study he co-wrote with Smith (according to a story in The Atlantic). “So there’s risk, then, for people with skin of color to fall through the cracks.”

Tragically, Smith’s wife was diagnosed with melanoma too late and paid the ultimate price for it. And she was not an anomaly—though the disease is more common for White patients, Black cancer patients are far more likely to be diagnosed at later stages, causing a notable disparity in survival rates between non-Hispanics whites (90%) and non-Hispanic blacks (66%).

As a computer scientist, Smith suspected this racial bias and reached out to Adamson, hoping a Black dermatologist would have more diverse data sets. Though Adamson didn’t have what Smith was initially looking for, this realization ignited a personal mission to investigate and reduce disparities.

Now, Adamson uses the knowledge gained through his years of research to help advance the fight for health equity. To him, that means not only gaining a wider array of data sets, but also having more conversations with patients to understand how socioeconomic status impacts the level and efficiency of care.

“At the end of the day, what matters most is how we help patients at the patient level,” Adamson told Upworthy. “And how can you do that without knowing exactly what barriers they face?”

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The American Cancer Society believes everyone deserves a fair and just opportunity to prevent, find, treat, and survive cancer—regardless of how much money they make, the color of their skin, their sexual orientation, gender identity, their disability status, or where they live. Inclusive tools and resources on the Health Equity section of their website can be found here. For more information about skin cancer, visit cancer.org/skincancer.

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It's all good. Those jokes gave me a respite from the "Annie get your gun" and "little orphan Annie" ones, and besides, it's a great song. It wasn't Jackson's biggest hit, but it was always my favorite, and not just because it bore my name. The music video—a nine-minute, dance-heavy mini-movie set in the 1930s gangster era—made it even better.

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