Viral post about a woman who stole money from a man at a bar turns the table on rape culture.

The internet has taken a guy-at-a-bar's sob story and turned it into a biting commentary on consent.

Occasionally the internet cesspool (also known as the comment section) churns out some of the best satire known to humanity. And thanks to a vicious girl at a bar who suckered a man out of $2,000, we now have a running list of comments that perfectly illustrate why so many of the arguments people make against sexual harassment are bunk.

A woman who works in a bar (@SydneyShyanneS on Twitter) tweeted a story about a guy who had $2,000 stolen by a girl he was trying to pick up. The tweet reads, "This dude has been calling my bar to check the cameras because he asked a girl to put her number into his phone & she Venmo'd herself $2000 [cry laugh emoji] drunk bitches are GENIUS."


Venmo is an app that allows people to transfer money to one another. Presumably, this guy thought this girl had shown sufficient interest in him to ask for her number, so he gave her his phone to have her put her phone number into his contacts. But instead, she must've gone straight to his Venmo app and transferred $2,000 to herself. Ouch.

The Facebook page Bitch Code shared the tweet, and comment gold was forged.

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Posted by Bitch Code on Saturday, November 17, 2018

While no one advocates stealing, people in the comments section used the same language people use to discount #MeToo stories.

Whatever sympathies folks may have for the guy were quickly overshadowed by statement after statement highlighting the language often used when a woman claims she was sexually harassed or assaulted.

"How do we even know she did it?" writes one commenter. "Maybe it's just another jealous man who has it out for her. We have to be careful with accusing women because an allegation like this could ruin her career and her future. This could follow her around for life. She has a family to take care of!"

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Another commenter took on the notion that if someone agrees to something once, that's an open invitation to do it again. "Well, if he opened up his wallet once to spend money in the past," they wrote, "why is he upset that he spent money here too? It's not like his bank account is pristine."

One person summed up a common argument with, "Check his previous reports. Maybe he's cried robbery before," and then followed it up with "He was probably wearing a suit. That screams 'I want you to take my money.'"

BOOM.

There's seemingly no end to the number of ways people can turn the tables on rape culture rhetoric with this one story.

The first few comments are nod-worthy, but then they just keep going, driving home the absurd number of ways people brush off sexual assault victims.

"If he didn't complain in that moment, he wanted it to happen and cannot complain now," wrote one commenter. Another agreed. "Clearly a case of regret, not theft, here. Just because he changed his mind the next day he's trying to ruin this woman's future. Disgusting."

Another commenter offered a clear shout out to former Representative Todd Akin (R-MO): "If it's legitimate robbery, the phone has ways to try to shut the whole thing down." (Akin, in an infamous interview regarding rape victims getting pregnant, said “If it's a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down." Yeah, that happened.)

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How about the fact that he didn't explicitly tell her not to take his money? "I mean he did give her his phone..." wrote a commenter, "& he didn't exactly say that she CANT have $2,000 sOoOo..."

"Assuming this happened," wrote another, "how do we know he didn't send it to her and he's just having post-payment regret?"

The comments go on And on. And on. It's beautiful and horrifying at the same time.

The fact that there are so many ways to turn this situation into a commentary on consent is actually pretty horrible, but the fact that people are doing so with such aplomb is awesome.

The post has more than 12,000 comments, many of which are satirical , some that celebrate the satire, and some that predictably complain about "misandry." But one thing is clear: A whole lot of women—and men who support women—are sick of rape culture rhetoric and are 100 percent here for the example being made out of this story.

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Brian Olesen never imagined he would end up homeless.

The former U.S. Air Force medic had led a full and active life, complete with a long career in the medical field, a 20-year marriage, and a love of anything aquatic. But after hip surgery and chronic back pain left him disabled in 2013, he lost his ability to work. Due to changes in eligibility requirements, he couldn't qualify for federal veteran housing programs. His back issues were difficult to prove medically, so he didn't qualify for disability. Though he'd worked his whole life, having no income for five years took its toll. He got evicted from a couple of apartments and found himself living on the streets.

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When people think of affordable housing, they don't usually picture a place like Karis Village. The 88-unit development is brand new, and built with an attention to design that is not always expected for developments that serve as home to people on limited incomes. The apartments have tile floors, marble countertops, and all new appliances and furniture, and the grounds are beautiful and well-kept, with a playground and common areas for residents to gather.

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Karis Village isn't just a housing development; it's a home and a community. Half of the units are set aside for veterans who have experienced homelessness, like Olesen. The other half are largely occupied by single-parent families.

"To me, this building was just a gift," says Olesen. "All of the different parties that got together to put this building together… making half the building available to veterans. We've got no place to go."

Addressing veteran homelessness was one of the goals of Karis Village, which was built through a partnership that included Carrfour Supportive Housing — a mission-driven, not-for-profit affordable housing organization in southern Florida — and Capital One's Community Finance team. More than just an affordable place to live, the community has full-time staff on hand to help coordinate services—from addiction recovery programs to transportation options to job search and placement. Also included are peer counselors who provide emotional and psychological support for residents.

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Carrfour President and CEO Stephanie Berman says the core function of the services team on site is to build a supportive community.

"Often when you think of folks leaving homelessness and coming into housing, you think of shelters or some kind of traditional housing," she says. "You don't really think about a community, and that's really what we build and what we operate. What we're really striving to create is community. We find that our families thrive when you create a sense of community."

The intention to create a supportive community at Karis Village was a priority from the get go. Fabian Ramirez, a Capital Officer on Capital One's Community Finance team, says the bank did a listening tour in southern Florida to explore community development and affordable housing options in the area and to hear what was most needed. After deciding to partner with Carrfour, the bank provided not only an $8 million construction loan and a $25 million low income housing tax credit (LIHTC) investment to help build Karis Village, but it also kicked in a $250,000 social purpose grant to help fund the social support services that would be put in place for residents.

"It's not just all about providing the brick and mortar," says Ramirez. "It's about being able to contribute to the sustainability of the development and of the lives of the people who move into the building."


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Olesen says he and his fellow residents benefit greatly from the network of support services offered in the building. He says a counselor comes to meet with him once a month, sometimes right in his apartment. He also gets help maintaining a connection with the Veteran Affairs office. Other services include social workers and counselors for drug addiction and alcoholism.

Olesen loves being around other veterans, and he says hearing the sound of children playing keeps the community lively. He says anywhere else he could afford to live on disability wouldn't be nearly as nice and would likely involve shared kitchens and bathrooms and neighborhoods you wouldn't want to go out in at night.

If it weren't for Karis Village, Olesen says he doesn't know where he would be today: "I had nowhere to go and this is a safe, beautiful place to spend my retirement."

"I don't think they could have done a much better job of putting this place together and supplying us with what we need," he says. "I have so much appreciation for the ability to have a place to live. And then you add to that that it's beautiful and completely furnished and you didn't need to bring anything—I don't know what more you could ask for."

Karis Village and another development for veterans built the same year enabled the neighborhood of Goulds to meet the requirements set forth by the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development to declare an end to veteran homelessness in the area.

Ending veteran homelessness altogether is a complex task, but communities like Karis Village show how it can be done—and done well. When government agencies, non-profit organizations, and corporate funding programs come together to solve big problems, big solutions can be built and maintained.

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