The QAnon cult: What it is, how it works, and how to help deprogram your loved ones

Two weeks ago, we watched a pro-Trump mob storm the U.S. Capitol in an attempt to overthrow the results of a U.S. election and keep Donald Trump in power. And among those insurrectionists were well-known adherents of QAnon, nearly every image of the crowd shows people wearing Q gear or carrying Q flags, and some…

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Two weeks ago, we watched a pro-Trump mob storm the U.S. Capitol in an attempt to overthrow the results of a U.S. election and keep Donald Trump in power. And among those insurrectionists were well-known adherents of QAnon, nearly every image of the crowd shows people wearing Q gear or carrying Q flags, and some of the more frightening elements we saw tie directly into QAnon beliefs.

Since hints of it first started showing up in social media comments several years ago, I’ve been intrigued—and endlessly frustrated—by the phenomenon of QAnon. At first, it was just a few fringey whacko conspiracy theorists I could easily roll my eyes at and ignore, but as I started seeing elements of it show up more and more frequently from more and more people, alarm bells started ringing.

Holy crap, there are a lot of people who actually believe this stuff.

Eventually, it got personal. A QAnon adherent on Twitter kept commenting on my tweets, pushing bizarro Q ideas on many of my posts. The account didn’t use a real name, but the profile was classic QAnon, complete with the #WWG1WGA. (“Where we go one, we go all”—a QAnon rallying cry.) I thought it might be a bot, so I blocked them. Later, I discovered that it was actually one of my own extended family members.

Holy crap, I actually know people who actually believe this stuff.


I’ve written articles about how QAnon’s pedophilia-obsessed mythology does real harm to actual anti-child trafficking organizations. After the “Save the Children” hashtag started going viral based on (false) messages and memes about hundreds of thousands of children going missing every year as part of a Democrat-and-celebrity-run pedophile cabal, I interviewed international organizations that truly battle child sex trafficking. I shared their plea to stop pushing QAnon lies.

That brought to my inbox QAnoners accusing me of being a pedophile and part of “the Deep State.” And now we’ve watched some of these folks stage a violent attack on our government.

Holy crap, this stuff actually has serious, real-world consequences.

At this point, it’s not overstating to all QAnon a destructive cult. And it’s likely that we all know someone who have been sucked into it. I know people who have lost friends and family members to this stuff, as reasoning with them goes nowhere and their constant conspiracy talk becomes unbearable.

That’s where deprogramming comes in.

I’ve followed the QAnon saga for a long time, and it’s a little tricky to know where to start if you’re trying to make sense of it. (Trying to make sense of something that inherently doesn’t make sense is always fun.) This documentary that was recently posted from a YouTuber called Infranaut is the best comprehensive overview of QAnon—and what to do about it on an individual level—that I’ve seen yet. If you want to understand what QAnon is, how it works, why it draws people in, and how to help loved ones get out, this video covers it all succinctly.

In addition to his own explanations, Infranaut interviews professional cult deprogrammer and founder of the nonprofit Cult Education Institute, Rick A. Ross, who shares steps families can take to help extract their loved ones from the QAnon cult.

I’m going to summarize some of the main points below the video but I highly recommend you go ahead and watch the whole thing. It’s well worth it. If you want to skip to specific sections, here’s a handy guide the creator shared.

0:00 Introduction

7:21 Part I – Defining “Q”

10:01 Part II – Becoming a Believer

20:39 Compliance Interlude

22:44 Part III – Staying a Believer

36:45 Capitol Interlude

39:14 Part IV – The Future of Q

53:28 Part V – A Way Out

1:05:52 Outro

The video starts by describing a bit about how cult thinking works and giving an example of a doomsday cult from the 1950s called “The Seekers,” which serves as a comparative example throughout the video.

Then Infranaut gives a brief definition of what QAnon is:

“QAnon refers to the belief that the United States government, if not the entire world, is secretly run by the “Deep State,” a shadowy organization that exists above and behind the current government as we understand it,” he says. “While the exact size and goals of the Deep State are ambiguous, it’s taken that their ranks include several figures in the public eye, that they are largely pedophiles, and depending on who you ask, also Satanists.”

QAnon believes Trump ran for president in 2016 in order to expose and dismantle the Deep State. “Q” is a nameless someone who claims to be a high-ranking ally of Trump, working alongside him to defeat this Deep State, and who posts cryptic messages on anonymous online boards with information about how that fight is going and what’s coming next. Many of these messages, or “Q drops” make reference to The Great Awakening or The Storm—the big finale when Trump and his allies will arrest prominent members of the Deep State and expose them in public.

Here’s where it gets tricky, though. The QAnon world contains a mind-bogglingly large and complex set of beliefs, so it’s a bit difficult to synopsize. The basic details above are pretty much agreed upon by all, but beyond that, it’s an octopus with tentacles all over the place, and some beliefs contradict one other. For example, some believe Mike Pence is helping Trump fight the Deep State; some believe Mike Pence is a part of the Deep State. But no one seems to care about those inconsistencies much.

In fact, these various, inconsistent tentacles are part of what makes QAnon so strong. If you point to one super out-there belief (as if it’s not all super out-there, but we’ll hold that thought for a minute) there will always be a bunch of people who can say, “That’s fake news. We don’t believe that. You’re just trying to make us look bad.” If you get five different QAnon adherents together, you’ll get five different explanations of what QAnon is.

That’s because it’s less of a defined set of beliefs, Infranaut explains, than “an explanation for why the world feels dark, confusing, and wrong.”

And there are a dozen doorways to get into it. Some come through classic conspiracy thinking (JFK, Jr. is still alive, for example), some through bigotry (there’s anti-Semitism in some core elements of QAnon belief), and some through a righteous desire to rid the world of evil.

The whole child trafficking/pedophilia thing has proven to be a big draw. After all, there is a grain of truth, in that those things actually do exist in the world (just not the way QAnon paints it). And is there anything worse than child sacrifice and sex slavery? No, there’s not. Fighting to save children from such a horrific fate is an “inarguable moral good.” If you truly believe that Democrats and celebrities are trafficking hundreds of thousands of children for heinous purposes, it would actually be wrong not to be part of a movement against it.

Infranaut and Ross explore a bit about how Christianity has overlapped with QAnon iconography, which Ross says is common in cults as people come up with ways to market the belief system and make it more palatable.

When you just look at one tentacle, you can see how people get pulled in. And then once you’re in, the other beliefs become easier to accept.

It would be easy to call people who fall down the rabbit hole stupid because the entire thing sounds so ridiculous, but as Ross explains, it’s not that simple. “I’ve seen people that are highly educated, very sophisticated people. I’ve done five interventions with medical doctors. One was an orthopedic surgeon, another an anesthesiologist. One woman that I worked with was a clinical psychologist, and she was, in my opinion, totally brainwashed. So very sophisticated, highly educated people can succumb to this kind of manipulation, and it behooves us to understand all the tricks and the methods that can be used to gain undue influence over us. And that’s the inoculation. That’s the vaccine, if you will.”

None of us want to admit that we are vulnerable to such persuasion, but Ross points out that the world of advertising wouldn’t exist if we weren’t.

One of the tricks of QAnon is the central tenet of the Deep State and also “false flags”—the idea that the Deep State will do things that make QAnon look crazy or throw Q adherents off track. So when facts fly in the face of the belief, or when something that was supposed to happen doesn’t, or when something that wasn’t supposed to happen does, you can immediately blame the Deep State and dismiss it.

For example, when QAnoners do something violent or dangerous, that’s the Deep State planting a false flag. We see a similar narrative in the “Antifa did it!” response to the Capitol riots. It doesn’t matter that the FBI or the DOJ say that they don’t have evidence of Antifa involvement—that’s all part of the Deep State.

Trump hasn’t helped any of this, of course. He has never denounced QAnon ideology. In fact, he’s said he doesn’t know much about it but they seem like people who love America. And his claims of election rigging have been fuel for QAnon belief; that’s totally something the Deep State would do.

It doesn’t matter that specific Q prophecies don’t come true. Adherents just keep saying, “Trust the plan,” even though the plan isn’t clear. It’s a test of faith. They also come up with ways to explain away facts that counter the belief.

This is what’s the most bafflingly frustrating thing about trying to reason with a QAnoner. You just can’t. It doesn’t matter how many facts you bring in or logical inconsistencies you point out. “The lengths to which a true believer will contort the truth or manufacture evidence really can’t be overstated,” say Infranaut.

Rick Ross explains that people often follow QAnon in a cult-like way, gradually alienating or cutting themselves off from their families and social circles, making the QAnon world their primary community. The cult becomes the social circle, and that’s an incredibly powerful pull for people.

No one knows what’s going to become of QAnon after Trump is out of office, but there’s very little chance of it going away. Most cults die out when a leader dies or goes to jail (though there are always believers who maintain loyalty no matter what). But barring those things happening to Trump, the QAnon movement will continue in ways we probably can’t even imagine at this point.

So how do we get people out? The key hurdle is people’s inability to accept and admit that they were wrong. Infranaut calls “the beating heart” of the QAnon movement is the idea of “I didn’t get duped.” No one wants to believe they voted for a conman, or that they supported a sexual predator, or that they are still waiting around for him to save the world.

Ross offers some hope for families, though. If done effectively, a deprogramming intervention process can extract around 70% of people who have been taken by a cult. For some who aren’t as deep into the movement, it might not be as hard as for the long-timers, but the key to both is having the intervention come from people they are close to.

Unfortunately, it also entails a bit of what will feel like coddling. Some of us just want to confront them with the truth, to somehow shake them out of their brainwashed stupor, to scream, “How can you believe something so outrageously stupid!” But Ross says not to be confrontational or judgmental, but to keep the line of communication going to see how deep they are into the brainwashing.

Ross says if a family decides to stage an official intervention, it takes three or four days of dialogue in which loved ones supply support and love as they go step by step through the process.

Those basic steps of dialogue look like this:

1. How do you define a destructive cult? (Walk them through a different cult. Ross uses Scientology as an example.)

2. How does that cult gain influence over a person? (General methodology for brainwashing and manipulation the cult uses.)

3. What problems are you not aware of related to your group? (How those methods are used in your group, even if you don’t think it’s a cult.)

4. Why is your family so worried about you? (There’s obviously a reason for this intervention. Each person explains what their concerns are, hoping the person will stay and listen because they care about the people intervening.)

Ross offers more details about how to go about that process on the Cult Education Institute website and he also recommended some books to read, which you can find around the 1:03:45 mark.

I wish I could say that QAnon will just fade away, but it does not appear likely that it will. It’s endlessly annoying and clearly dangerous, but it’s where we are. Hopefully, people can help their loved ones climb back out of the rabbit hole and rejoin us in reality.

  • A school counselor comforted her crying student new to the United States. Her tender response is an emotional lesson in empathy.
    Photo credit: TikTok/@theclassyclinician [with permission]School counselor and social worker Korynn Patterson comforts new student.

    Korynn Patterson, an elementary school counselor and social worker in Maryland, knew exactly what she needed to do when a brand new student walked into her office “sad” and “scared”—she took her into her arms for an empathetic embrace.

    Patterson shared the sweet interaction with the young student who recently moved to the United States from a Spanish-speaking country. And with the help of a fellow female student to translate, she was able to comfort her.

    “Our new student doesn’t speak any English and I paid my translator in fruit snacks ☺️,” she wrote in the caption.

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    Our new student doesn’t speak any English and I paid my translator in fruit snacks ☺️ How would you comfort and empower her? #fyp #explore #schoollife #schoolcounselor #socialwork

    ♬ Relaxing Music – kucing tetangga

    Ms. Patterson models empathy with emotional student

    In the viral video shared with her followers on TikTok, Patterson hugged her student and asked her student translator to say, “I know you must be very scared, but can you tell her you’re very brave? You’re a very brave girl.”

    The student is crying and tells Ms. Patterson that she misses her mom and doesn’t want to go to class. Patterson responds, “Tell her I am going to sit in class with you for a little bit, okay?”

    Patterson offers her a fidget toy to help her with anxiety and more reassurance that she “knows she is scared [and] that she is there to help her.” The three keep things light talking about Paw Patrol. Ms. Patterson then tells the upset student that they can spend time at lunch and recess together as well.

    @theclassyclinician

    #stitch with @theclassyclinician Here’s the update before the real update! ☺️ I will be posting the students update video on Monday. Stay TUNED and Thank you guys so much for ALL of your support! Welcome to the family! ❤️✨ #schoolcounselor #socialwork #fyp #explore

    ♬ Relaxing Music – kucing tetangga

    In the video overaly, Patterson explains more about the girl’s story.

    “At her age, school was optional in her country,” she shared. “She is experiencing HUGE culture shock…I’m always happy to be a safe space for my students. Being that her whole world is changing, she needs to feel some sense of safety. I affirm them just as they affirm me.”

    @theclassyclinician

    Here’s the update on the girls that have stolen our hearts, our little translator and new student. She calls me azul 🦋🩵 Thank you all SO MUCH for your love and support. All links to support us are in my bio 🥹💙 Stay tuned for the next update! #schoolcounselor #socialwork #fyp #explore #schoollife

    ♬ original sound – theclassyclinician

    Ms. Patterson reacts

    In an interview with Upworthy, Patterson shared, “I am overwhelmed in the best way by all the love and the support that we have gotten from all of you! I am so grateful to be in position to touch so many lives of all ages, races, and walks of life.”

    She created an Amazon Wishlist for those looking to support her students.

    Patterson also created two follow-up videos (here and here) that updated viewers on the student. In one video, the girls are back in Ms. Patterson’s office eating lunch and chatting with each other. They tell her they are now “best friends.”

    Ms. Patterson shared that the student was moved down a grade to help her “catch up” with English, and the young girl notes that she is trying to learn English through her schoolwork. Ms. Patterson continues to pick up Spanish through her students.

    Viewers respond

    The emotional video garnered an overwhelming response from viewers, who praised Ms. Patterson for her tenderness towards the student as well as her translator:

    “the baby who’s translating is such an empath i’m crying rn🥺.”

    “She is not only translating words, she translates empathy. That girl did an amazing job.”

    “As a future school counselor, I am CRYING 🥺 kids are so precious.”

    “All of us immigrant kids are crying coz we know exactly how that lil girl feels 🥺🥺”

    “I cried for this whole interaction. My heart breaks for baby girl but you guys are awesome.”

    “The fact she felt SAFE with you speaks volumes!!!!! Great job Queen 👸🏽.”

  • She didn’t tell anyone about the divorce. Then a neighbor noticed the running.
    Photo credit: CanvaA woman jogs with her little dog.

    Hope MacGregor (@hopemacgregormusic) had been going through her divorce quietly. No announcements or no dramatic posts, just long walks with her dog through her neighborhood in Jackson, Tennessee, sometimes twice a day, letting the movement help her think. After a while she started running.

    She didn’t know anyone was watching.

    One afternoon a neighbor stepped out of her house and waved her down mid-run. MacGregor stopped, assuming something was wrong. The neighbor came toward her and said she didn’t want to seem intrusive. Then she said what she’d stepped outside to say.

    “I just want to let you know how proud I am of you. You were walking, and now you’re running.”

    MacGregor burst into tears on the spot.

    The neighbor hadn’t known about the divorce. She’d just been watching someone move through the neighborhood over weeks and months, noticing the quiet progression from walks to runs, and decided one day that she was going to say something about it. She hadn’t known what it would mean.

    MacGregor shared the story on her Instagram account @hopemacgregormusic on April 18. “It meant so much to me,” she said in the video. “This genuine angel came out of her house.”

    They didn’t exchange numbers. MacGregor kept running. But the moment stayed with her in the way that only certain unexpected kindnesses do — the ones that arrive at exactly the right time from someone who had no way of knowing that.

    MacGregor is a West Point graduate and former Army helicopter pilot who later became a lawyer and then an Americana singer-songwriter. Her music, she’s said, is about helping people feel a little less alone when they’re lonely. Apparently the same is true of her neighbors.

    Follow @hopemacgregormusic on Instagram for more entertaining content.

  • Buffalo fans come together to sing Canadian national anthem after singer’s mic cuts out
    Photo credit: CanvaA man holds Canada's flag.

    National anthem fails can be really uncomfortable. Sometimes, a singer just can’t hit the notes, or worse, they forget the words mid-song. The American national anthem, for example, is notoriously difficult to sing due to its unique pacing and wide vocal range. Other times, even when the singer is flawless, technical difficulties involving stadium equipment can cause the whole thing to go awry.

    Viewers and fans watching the Buffalo Sabres vs. Boston Bruins NHL playoff game the other night were nearly treated to yet another national anthem disaster. Instead, something pretty amazing happened.

    Singer’s mic cuts out, fans pick her right up

    The Sabres have a tradition. They play the Canadian national anthem—”O Canada”—before each and every game, even when their opponent is not Canadian. It is a noble way of honoring the sport’s large Canadian fan base and a friendly wave to Buffalo’s nearby neighbors in Ontario. Residents of the two regions intermingle constantly, and Southern Ontario is actually visible from Buffalo’s arena.

    But when singer Cami Clune stepped up to perform the anthem before Game 5 of the NHL playoff series between the Sabres and the Bruins, she immediately ran into technical difficulties. Just seconds into the song, her mic cut out.

    The 19,000 or so hockey fans at KeyBank Center—most of whom are American—didn’t skip a beat. They chimed in without hesitation and helped Clune finish the anthem with flair as her mic went in and out.

    Just listen to the incredible unscripted moment:

    Moment sparks a huge reaction

    The clip of the group singing went viral across social media, racking up more than 100,000 views on the official NHL YouTube channel. Clune’s video drew another 60,000 views. The Sabres post, captioned simply “Chills,” racked up nearly a million views on its own.

    Commenters from Canada were incredibly moved by the seemingly simple gesture:

    “Thanks Buffalo fans, means a lot in these times, it’s good to see this.”

    “This is exactly what Canada needed. Thank you Buffalo!”

    Americans, for their part, were proud to be reminded of the goodness of their friends and neighbors:

    “Was at the game last night and we did not hesitate. We Love You Canada our great neighbors.”

    “Thats the America I remember. Thank you, Buffalo.”

    Clune, meanwhile, took the near-gaffe in stride. She was moved by the way the entire stadium came together to have her back.

    “Well that was interesting!! Thank you all for singing along with me. We have the best fans ever!” Clune wrote on Instagram.

    It’s common for sports fans to boo other countries’ national anthems. Buffalo fans made an inspiring choice.

    Booing at sports games does not usually come from a place of hatred. It is often a playful way to engage in the rivalry. For example, American and Canada hockey fans have long booed each other’s national anthems during high-stakes Olympic Games matchups.

    However, Buffalo fans have proven themselves over and over to be a little bit different. Not only are they some of the fiercest (and wildest) sports fans around, but they are also among the most hospitable.

    In this case, maybe they just sensed the moment. It has not been an easy year or two when it comes to United States-Canada relations. And let us be frank, Canada has not been super pleased with the U.S. for some time now, as evidenced by its own sports fans’ reactions to our anthem.

    But the real story is not on the news every night or coming out of the mouths of politicians. Basic human kindness and mutual respect between neighbors still exist. Buffalo fans took the opportunity to remind us that we are all on the same team. The fact that they already knew every word of their neighbor’s national anthem is incredibly moving and powerful.

  • The strange, forgotten reason so many movies have that ‘all characters are fictitious’ disclaimer
    Photo credit: @treehousedetectiv/Instagram, used with permissionRasputin is a notable figure in Russian history. But he made his mark on Hollywood as well.

    If you’ve ever watched an outrageously outlandish movie with the warning “All characters in this movie are fictitious…” and thought, “Well, duh,” it turns out Hollywood had a very specific (and very expensive) reason for spelling that out. It ties into not only forgotten cinema history, but Russian history as well.

    A mystic, a murder, and a very messy memoir

    In a video by Andrew Price, known for his deep dives into pop culture via @treehousedetective, we go back to the early 1900s, when Siberian peasant turned mystic power player Grigori Rasputin had already made more than a few enemies with his superstition-fueled cons. 

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    A portrait of Rasputin Wikipedia

    By 1916, a group of aristocrats led by Felix Yusupov decided enough was enough. What followed, ironically, does sound like something out of a movie script.  Cyanide-laced cakes and beverages didn’t poison him. Multiple bullets, including a headshot, did nothing. The only thing that did finally put Rasputin in his final resting place was getting tied and thrown into an icy river. All of these details came from Yusupov alone, who later published a wildly popular memoir while living in exile. Not exactly an unbiased narrator, but certainly an entertaining one.

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    Felix Yusupov and Princess Irina with their child Wikipedia

    That exile, by the way, came courtesy of the Imperial Russian Family as punishment for the assassination. That consequence was a blessing in disguise, because when the Bolsheviks later rose to power and executed members of the aristocracy, the Yusupovs were already safely out of reach. Not the worst trade-off, all things considered.

    When Hollywood got a little too inspired

    Fast forward to 1932, when MGM released Rasputin and the Empress, dramatizing the infamous killing. The studio took some liberties, like combining the group of assailants into a singular fictional character named Prince Chegodieff. Yusupov, now living in Paris, found out about the movie and tried to sue MGM for defamation of character. Considering he outright confessed to the crime in the source material, that case had no legs. 

    However, the film also added a scandalous subplot involving Yusupov’s wife, Princess Irina. In the film, her fictional counterpart is hypnotized and seduced by the titular villain. In reality, however, that never happened. And unlike her husband’s case, Irina’s lawsuit for libel had real teeth. She won a massive settlement, to the tune of what would be around three million dollars today.  

    The disclaimer that stuck

    The real kicker was MGM’s own prologue, which practically invited trouble by suggesting the characters were, in fact, based on real people. That line helped seal the studio’s fate, which prompted the company to make a change that would ripple across the entire film industry.

    From then on, studios started adding that now-familiar disclaimer distancing their stories from real individuals, just in case anything felt a little too familiar.

    So, the next time you see that “purely coincidental” message pop up before a film, remember that’s not just legal fluff. It’s a bona fide Hollywood story in its own right. 

    For even more fun tidbits, be sure to give @trehousedetectve a follow

  • 13-year-old’s unique ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’ rendition was so impressive it even wowed Queen
    Angelina Jordan performs on AGT.

    We’ve shared a lot of memorable “America’s Got Talent” auditions over the years here at Upworthy, from physics-defying dance performances to jaw-dropping magic acts to heart-wrenching singer-songwriter stories. And after watching Angelina Jordan’s “AGT: The Champions” audition, we’ve added it to the list because wow.

    Jordan came to “AGT: The Champions” in 2020 as the winner of Norway’s Got Talent, which she won in 2014 at the mere age of 8 with her impressive ability to seemingly channel Billie Holiday. For the 2020 audition, she sang Queen’s “Bohemian Rhapsody,” but a version that no one had ever heard before.

    With just a guitar, a piano, and her Amy Winehouse-esque voice, Jordan brought the fan-favorite Queen anthem down to a smooth, melancholy ballad that’s simply riveting to listen to, especially considering that Jordan was only 13 years old when she did this.

    The judges didn’t see this coming

    What this video doesn’t show is Heidi Klum hitting the Golden Buzzer faster than you can sing, “Nothing really matters to meeee.” The judges were blown away by Jordan’s performance, as were the people in the comments.

    “That’s a ONE in A BILLION voice right there. Just amazing,” wrote one commenter.

    “I am typically not a fan of songs being redone particular to such a magnitude,” shared another. “They almost always fall short of the original. But to completely rearrange a song in the manner that she has, from a legend, and then make you forget about how the original even sounded because her rendition is so good is utterly amazing.”

    “As Freddie once said, ‘Do whatever you want with my music as long as you don’t make it boring.’ I think he’d really like this,” shared another.

    Though Queen’s beloved lead vocalist Freddie Mercury is no longer with us, the band did offer words of praise for Jordan’s performance, retweeting her audition video with the comment, “Wow! What a rendition of #BohemianRhapsody.”

    Why she always performs barefoot

    “Bohemian Rhapsody” is such an iconic song, it’s hard for anyone to do a cover of it justice. But 13-year-old Angelina Jordan managed it masterfully. In bare feet, no less, which she explained in a thank you video to Heidi Klum for the Golden Buzzer honor.

    “When I was around 6 years old, I see this little girl around my age,” Jordan shared. “I gave my shoes to her because she had scars on her feet and it was really cold. So whenever I’m on the stage, I was reminded about all the children that don’t have any parents, clothes, and shoes. She’s always in my heart.” Jordan has shared that she “made a promise many years ago to a beautiful soul” to not wear shoes on stage—a promise she has kept.

    Jordan would move on to the Top 10 in “AGT: The Champions,” and though she didn’t take home the top prize, she did impress the audience with another classic rock tune, Elton John’s “Goodbye Yellow Brick Road.”

    Since her time on AGT, Angelina has been building a full career as a singer-songwriter, releasing original singles throughout 2024 and two full albums in 2025. You can follow her on YouTube and TikTok and find her growing catelog of music (including “Bohemian Rhapsody”) on Spotify.

    This article originally appeared three years ago. It has been updated.

  • Why Dwayne Johnson’s advice for new dads comes down to one simple thing: take off your shirt
    Photo credit: Harald Krichel via Wikimedia CommonsDwayne 'The Rock' Johnson at the 2025 Venice Film Festival.
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    Why Dwayne Johnson’s advice for new dads comes down to one simple thing: take off your shirt

    “Take your shirt off. I need you to go skin to skin.” The Rock’s advice for new dads is simple, a little unexpected, and completely backed by science.

    When Canadian TV host Chris Van Vliet (@CVVClips) told Dwayne Johnson he was about to become a father for the first time and asked for advice, Johnson didn’t hesitate. He gave him a hug, told him his instincts were right, and then got specific.

    “Take your shirt off,” Johnson said. “I need you to go skin to skin.”

    Johnson explained that holding a newborn skin-to-skin right out of the womb builds what he described as an energetic and emotional anchor between parent and child. He’s not just talking theoretically. When his daughter Tiana was born in April 2018, he posted a photo to Instagram of himself cradling her against his bare chest, shirtless in the hospital, with a caption about how being her dad was the role he was most proud of. Days later, her mother Lauren Hashian shared her own photo doing the same.

    The practice Johnson is describing has a clinical name: kangaroo care. According to the Cleveland Clinic, skin-to-skin contact involves holding a newborn against a bare chest and has well-documented benefits for both the baby and the parent. For the baby, it helps regulate body temperature, stabilizes heart rate and breathing, supports early breastfeeding, and reduces stress. For the parent, it triggers hormonal responses that promote bonding and can reduce postpartum anxiety. The research backing it is extensive and the recommendation applies to both mothers and fathers.

    What Johnson is doing is essentially making the case for something pediatricians have been saying for years but that new dads don’t always hear directed specifically at them. Most kangaroo care conversations are aimed at mothers. Johnson’s version of the advice is pointed squarely at fathers, delivered by someone whose public identity is built on being the biggest, toughest person in the room — which probably makes it land differently.

    Van Vliet, for his part, went on to have a daughter. He hasn’t said whether he followed the advice. But the comment section on the video is full of fathers who either did and are glad they did, or didn’t and wish they had.

    “I got a bit teary-eyed during that,” one wrote. “I regret not doing the skin-to-skin with my son.”

  • He saw a driver put in $7 of gas and felt something click. By the time he left, several strangers were in tears.
    Photo credit: CanvaA man pumps gas; woman cries in her car.
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    He saw a driver put in $7 of gas and felt something click. By the time he left, several strangers were in tears.

    He’s been doing this quietly every time he fills up. One night in Perth, someone caught it on camera.

    It was 10:30 at night at a BP station in Currambine, a suburb north of Perth, Australia. Monty Van Der Berg, 34, was waiting in line to fill up his tank when he noticed something about the car ahead of him. The driver had put in $7 worth of fuel and pulled away.

    That small detail stuck with him. He knew what $7 of gas means.

    When the next car pulled up beside him, he leaned over. “I hope you’re filling up,” he said, “because I’m going to pay for it.” Then he walked to the kiosk and kept going, paying for car after car until he’d spent around $340, as People reported on April 9.

    One woman pumping gas broke down crying. She’d just finished a brutal shift at work and was running on empty in every sense. The gesture hit her somewhere she wasn’t expecting. Another woman named Gerville gave an interview to 7NEWS afterward, still visibly moved. She works three jobs as a single mother. Someone quietly paying for her fuel at 10:30 on a Monday night was not something she had any framework for. “It was so nice to see other people light up,” Van Der Berg said afterward. “It was such a nice moment.”

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    Woman smiles at the gas station pump. Photo credit: Canva

    Van Der Berg owns a construction business now, but it wasn’t always that way. He said there were years when he was living paycheck to paycheck and a full tank wasn’t always possible. He knows what it feels like to pull up to a pump and do the math in your head. So now that he’s doing well, he has a rule: every time he fills up, he pays for at least one other person.

    He was clear that the $340 night wasn’t about the money or the attention. “That’s my one thing every time I fill up,” he said simply. He didn’t want praise for it. He just remembered what it was like, and he’s in a position to help, so he does.

    Gerville said she hopes to run into him again someday. She wants to pay him back.

    This random act of kindness at the pump reminds us of this viral classic from almost a decade ago:

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    Photo credit: Atlanta Falcons/Wikimedia CommonsA man had such a big reaction to a kicker's missed kick that he went to the hospital, where doctors made a lifesaving discovery.
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    NFL fan laughed so hard at kicker’s flub he had a seizure. Then doctors made a lifesaving catch.

    “I wholeheartedly believe I was in the right spot at the right time.”

    Football is a dangerous sport. From ACL tears to concussions, athletes risk it all from the moment they step foot on the field. An NFL career without at least one catastrophic injury is a rare exception.

    Watching it at home, however, is supposed to be relatively safe. One man’s story proves that isn’t always the case, especially when fans get a little over excited by a generational folly.

    Kicker’s flub causes fan to laugh way too hard

    Mark Toothaker of Kentucky was watching a game from the comfort of his home last season. The New York Giants were taking on the New England Patriots, and Giants’ kicker Younghoe Koo was lining up for a routine field goal.

    In inexplicable fashion, Koo missed. He didn’t just miss the field goal uprights, he missed the ball entirely, with the toes of his right foot slamming into the ground several inches away from the ball’s laces.

    Koo has been a good kicker throughout his career, but this was one of the worst misses of all time. Few analysts had seen anything like it before. The broadcasters were besides themselves. Unfortunately for Koo, the slow-motion, close-up videos of his blunder quickly became viral meme fodder.

    Toothaker was right there watching along with everyone else, but he didn’t get to enjoy the moment for long. He was laughing so hard after watching and rewatching the replay that he suddenly collapsed.

    “I’ve never felt anything like this in my life,” Toothaker told the AP. “I felt like I got electrocuted.”

    Toothaker had suffered a seizure. Further testing showed a surprising result.

    Toothaker’s wife, Malory, called paramedics and an ambulance quickly got him to the hospital. Doctors determined he had had a seizure—his first—but that’s not all.

    CT imaging revealed a large tumor on Toothaker’s brain: the source of the seizure. He’d suffered no symptoms at all until his intense laughter preceded the intense seizure.

    Seizures can have all kinds of fascinating triggers, including music, being startled, or even laughter. Some specific forms of epilepsy have precise triggers like a certain body part being touched or having your natural stride broken by someone stepping in front of you.

    It’s impossible to say if the laughter from Koo’s viral miss caused the seizure, but don’t tell that to Toothaker:

    “I wholeheartedly believe I was in the right spot at the right time, and he was the trigger for that happening. It was a miracle.”

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    Mark Toothaker’s CT scan revealed the source of his seizure. Photo Credit: Canva Photos

    He says he thinks about what might have happened if the seizure had hit him while driving or out in public; how he could have died or accidentally hurt someone else.

    Instead, the tumor was identified and removed quickly. Doctors say it was benign, and Toothaker has no lasting damage from the seizure or the surgery to remove the mass.

    In medicine, luck is a matter of life and death

    Stanford Medicine writes about how many crucial medical discoveries were happy accidents, and how good fortune always plays a big role in whether people ultimately live or die:

    “We’d be fooling ourselves if we thought that we actually had that much control over the direction of medicine. Medicine is intractable and unpredictable, and luck plays a larger role than we’d like.”

    Some people might call Toothaker’s story a miracle. Others might just call it a case of fantastic luck that he happened to be watching and just so happened to find the NFL moment so dang funny.

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    www.allproreels.com — Washington Football Team at Atlanta Falcons from Mercedes Benz Stadium, Atlanta, GA October 3rd, 2021 (All-Pro Reels Photography)

    Whatever it is, Toothaker says he’s grateful to Koo: “I know it wasn’t his best moment…For [Malory] and I to be belly-laughing at his expense, which I feel terrible about now, but it all worked out in the end, that for me it couldn’t have been a better moment.”

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