Not everyone is born to be assertive. There are billions of people on the planet so there are billions of different personalities. Some people are sweet and accommodating by nature while others…not so much. But there’s something to be said about the people that have more of a no nonsense approach to life–they tend to stick up for others.
Lydia Kyle recently uploaded a video to her Instagram page advocating for “sweet” people to have a “mean friend.” In the video she explains that she watched a clip where a woman complained about the frat boys that live next to her who borrowed her porch swing without asking. The woman who was now missing a swing didn’t march over and demand to get the swing back, instead she watched the group of guys use the swing that belongs on her porch.
Kyle says, “the only thing I could think when I was watching that is, ‘girl you need to get yourself a mean friend.”
She goes on to explain that not everyone is cut out to say something in uncomfortable situations. “There’s some of y’all that God made gentle and docile and kind, and I can assure you if God made you that way, he also made you a best friend who is not that way,” Kyle declares.
Listen to her argument below:
Commenters were quick to agree with the points Kyle was making, some even volunteered their own services to be the mean friend for someone else.
“Volunteering to be that friend for any ladies who need my services. I do not back down and have zero problems with confrontation,” one person says.
“Ma’am, we aren’t “mean.” We simply have clear boundaries that we don’t mind enforcing,” another reminds.
“This is me! I will be that mean friend for you. I will uphold those boundaries come hell or high water. Mess with my bestie, you mess with me. And that ain’t a pretty picture,” someone writes.
“The mean friend is like the cat distribution system. We are out there ready to love you gentle girlies and scrap with anyone on your behalf,” one commenter explains.
Is there an app for this sort of pairing or do you stand out in the wild and wait for a mean friend to home in on you? The nice humans have questions that need answers.
