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What The Hell Do People Believe In If They Don't Believe In God? This Guy Has One Heck Of An Answer.

Stephen Fry explains what the meaning of life is to him as a nonreligious person. In three minutes. Which is pretty impressive. It doesn't matter what you believe; these things seem pretty universal to me.

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Food banks are a community staple for millions of Americans. Not only do they provide nutritional assistance to low-income families, they’re also often one of the few places where people can get non-food essentials like diapers, toiletries, paper towels, clothing and more. For the 44 million people in the United States facing food insecurity, pantries can literally be a lifeline.

But that lifeline is at risk. Food pantries rely on donations, both from individuals and government programs, to stay stocked. Rising poverty levels and budget cuts mean that food pantries sometimes can’t meet the demands of their communities—and as a result, families go without.

No person should struggle for basic needs—which is why Land O’Lakes is teaming up with Clove in the name of comfort ahead of the 2025 holiday season.

Comfort, meet comfort.

A partnership between a farmer-owned cooperative and a modern footwear brand might seem like an unusual pairing. But the reality is that both organizations provide things that are enjoyable and much needed for American families.

You might be surprised to learn, for example, that dairy is one of the most requested but least-donated items at food banks around the nation. From a nutritional lens, dairy is a source of high-quality protein that provides 3 of 4 nutrients—calcium, potassium and vitamin D—that low-income households are at risk of missing from their diets.

But on a larger scale, dairy provides comfort. Items like butter, milk and cream are in high demand, particularly around the end of the year since so many families use these items for baking holiday treats. And while shoes can be stylish gifts, they’re also a basic necessity for hardworking frontline workers who provide care for others and spend hours on their feet. In fact, 96 million people in the U.S. spend their work shift standing.

"We are so excited to collaborate with Clove Shoes and take a moment to celebrate the color of the moment, but also our everyday favorite, butter yellow," said Heather Anfang, president of Land O'Lakes Dairy Foods. "As a company who shares our values of community, hard work and comfort, we are thrilled for the launch of their shoe but also for our shared donation to those in need in an important area for our two brands in Philadelphia."

Meaningful giving when people need it most

Together, the organizations have donated dozens of sneakers and more than 3,750 pounds of butter to Philabundance, one of the largest food banks in Philadelphia and part of Feeding America’s nationwide network of food banks, pantries, and meal programs. As they team up to donate needed supplies, they’re also helping families feel nourished—inside and out—ahead of the cold winter months.

"As a Philadelphia-based brand, we’re proud to give back to the community we call home—nourishing our city and supporting those who care every day," shares Jordyn Amoroso, Co-founder and CBO. Clove has also gifted 88 shoes to the students enrolled at Philabundance Community Kitchen: a free, life-changing workforce development program run by Philabundance.

At a time when so many are stretched thin and families are moving into the holiday season facing food insecurity, collaborations like these can provide an unexpected value—a chance to revitalize local communities, to nourish families, and show how comfort can take many different forms.

Learn more about this unexpected partnership here.

An angry man in front of the American flag.

America has never been a perfect place, but since the Civil War, it has been one where most people bought into the idea of the country and supported the institutions that keep it running. People may disagree on politics and culture, but when America was threatened, whether it was 9/11 or World War II, people came together to fight for the country they love, even though the reasons may have differed.

However, it’d be naive to say that sentiment is still as strong as it once was. Since The Great Recession, many people have felt that the vibes are off in America, and polls and research back those feelings. Right around 2012, when smartphones became ubiquitous, there was a considerable rise in the number of people who felt that America was on the wrong track and that racism and sexism were considerably worse than they were just a year before. There was also a big spike in mental illness.

So what happened in 2012? Did the world suddenly become drastically worse overnight, or had our perceptions been changed?

woman, dispair, smartphone, bad news, woman in kitchen, upset woman A woman is upset looking at her smartphone.via Canva/Photos

Why does it feel like America is on the decline?

Other developed countries have experienced similar vibe shifts since 2012, but it has hit America the hardest. Economics blogger Noah Smith explains why this feeling of malaise has hit America so hard, and he illustrates it perfectly in a viral Substack piece called “Social media destroyed one of America's key advantages.” Smith is an American blogger and commentator on economics and current events and former assistant professor of behavioral finance at Stony Brook University.

In his Substack post, Smith postulates that the technological change hit America the hardest because it punctured our geographical buffers. “A hippie in Oakland and a redneck in the suburbs of Houston both fundamentally felt that they were part of the same unified nation; that nation looked very different to people in each place,” Smith writes. “Californians thought America was California, and Texans thought America was Texas, and this generally allowed America to function.”

Why did America fundamentally change in 2012?

Here’s an excerpt from Smith’s piece. Please check out the entire piece on the Noahpinion Substack.

Like some kind of forcible hive mind out of science fiction, social media suddenly threw every American in one small room with every other American. Decades of hard work spent running away from each other and creating our ideologically fragmented patchwork of geographies went up in smoke overnight, as geography suddenly ceased to mediate the everyday discussion of politics and culture.

The sudden collapse of geographic sorting in political discussion threw all Americans in the same room with each other — and like the characters in Sartre’s No Exit, they discovered that “Hell is other people.” Conservatives suddenly discovered that a lot of Americans despise Christianity or resent White people over the legacy of discrimination. Liberals suddenly remembered that a lot of their countrymen frown on their lifestyles. Every progressive college kid got to see every piece of right-wing fake news that their grandparents were sharing on Facebook (whereas before, these would have been quietly confined to chain emails). Every conservative in a small town got to see Twitter activists denouncing White people. And so on.


protests, american protest, protest sign, demonstration, mass gathering A group of people protesting in the street.via Ted Eytan/Flickr

It may sound cynical to believe that America was a better place when people were less likely to talk to people with a different worldview. But, given how things have gone in the past 15 years, it’s fair to say that putting every American in a proverbial ring to fight it out just makes everyone feel under attack... and the fight never ends.

The problem with the Like button

Another development around the same time that many believe negatively affected the country was the development of the Like button on Facebook. The button made its debut in 2009, and it, along with the share button, which came in 2010, incentivized people to create content that their audience agreed with, creating echo chambers. The buttons also incentivized people to make outrage-provoking posts and create fake stories to go viral and increase advertising revenue.

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The positive takeaway from Smith’s geographical sorting theory is that, quite possibly, many people’s perceptions about life in Amerca are wrong because we’re seeing it through the distorted, funhouse mirror of social media that shows us every bad deed in a country of 330 million people and amplifies the voices of the unscroupulous. By pinpointing the moment that America “went to hell,” as author Jonathan Haidt says, we also have a roadmap to get back to when people had greater faith in America’s institutions and people.

This article originally appeared in June.

Community

Man spends all year thrifting Halloween costumes to give them away to kids for free at annual event

Christophe Waggoner has gifted free Halloween costumes to kids in Austin, Texas, since 2016.

Images courtesy of Christophe Waggoner/Nathan Richardson (used with permission)

Christophe Waggoner collects Halloween costumes all year long and gives them to children in need at annual October's Child giveaway event.

When you think of the holiday that brings out generosity and good cheer, you don't think Halloween. But Christophe Waggoner of Austin, Texas, is trying to change that.

On September 27, Waggoner held his annual nonprofit October's Child event, where he gave away over 2,000 free Halloween costumes for kids (and pets), as well as decorations.

"This year we had four 10'x30' tents and four 10'x10' tents that we formed in a square," Waggoner tells Upworthy. "It was so crowded, it was so wonderful. As you can tell, I love this program and I am so happy more people get to share in those feelings."

Waggoner had the help of a team of local volunteers, who welcomed families to try on costumes and bring them home to dress up on Halloween. It's a small luxury that he notes many families struggle to provide their kids, especially during tough financial times.

christophe waggoner, halloween, halloween costumes, free halloween costumes, october's child Christophe Waggoner poses with Halloween costumes in front of his storage units.Image courtesy of Christophe Waggoner (used with permission)

"While it's great to see the smiles on the children's faces, I'm most moved when I see parents get teary eyed or see them happy that they can give their child something they maybe didn't think they'd have the ability to do," he says.

Waggoner began collecting costumes in 2016, and he gave them away from his garage.

"When I did it the first year, I didn't have a lot--half a garage, one shower rod of costumes," says Waggoner. "But I was watching the kids, and they were laughing and giggling. It just made me feel good."

halloween, halloween costume, halloween costumes, free halloween costume, halloween charity Kids pick out free Halloween costumes at October's Child giveaway.Image courtesy of Nathan Richardson (used with permission)

One of six kids, he says that he had a "wonderful childhood" in Arkansas, where his parents, "taught us right. They taught us to do stuff for other people."

And after a fire destroyed the family home in 1976, Waggoner saw first-hand how his community rallied around them to provide housing, food, and more during their time of need. Fast forward, he adds that he always loved holidays—especially Halloween. During grad school, he would throw an epic Halloween party every year where he sent out "over 300 invites."

Eventually, Waggoner noticed that people were always more generous around Christmas time—but not Halloween.

"Nobody does anything [charitable] for Halloween," he says. "So I thought, why not give costumes to kids for Halloween? I feel like I found a niche."

halloween, kids halloween costumes, free halloween costumes, october's child, kids halloween Kids pick out free Halloween costumes at October's Child event.Image courtesy of Nathan Richardson (used with permission)

With a self-proclaimed "shopping addiction," he began thrifting costumes and decorations anytime he saw them. "I go to the Goodwills [around me] multiple times a week collecting," he shares.

Eventually, he bought tents and two storage units--one for costumes and one for accessories (like wigs) and decorations. With the help of his friend Sam, who created a website, Waggoner officially made October's Child a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. He advertised the event within local Austin Facebook groups, the Nextdoor app, and flyers—and word has continued to spread.

This year was October Child's biggest, and the first to offer pet costumes as well.

"Size-wise go from newborn up to 3X, tiny dogs and cats to big dogs and cats," he says. "I'm very empathetic and very emotional. At this year's event, I broke down multiple times. It's just overwhelming the way things have gone."

dog, halloween, dog halloween, dog halloween costume, free halloween costume A woman poses with her small dog and free pet Halloween costume.Image courtesy of Nathan Richardson (used with permission)

Now, word of Waggoner's work with October's Child has spread across the United States, with people reaching out to offer him more free costumes and donations.

"I had a man reach out who is 69 years old," he says. "He shared that he remembered not being able to afford a Halloween costume growing up, and he wanted to make sure others kids never have to feel like that."

To learn more about October's Child, click here.

Health

12 photos of women before and after an orgasm shines a new light on women's sexual wellness

"We hope that everyone viewing this project will feel more confident about their bodies and sexuality."

Imagine if this kind of joy had a bigger place in the world.

You might recall Marcos Alberti's mega-viral "3 Glasses" project from 2016, in which he photographed people after they had consumed one, two, and then three glasses of wine. The series was impactful in part because it showed the physical transformation that comes from being relaxed after some wine. That, and it touched on a common curiosity. Haven’t we all wondered if we look as different as we feel after getting a little tipsy? (Spoiler alert: the answer is yes.)

Using a very similar format to “3 Glasses,” as well as the elements of lightheartedness, novelty, and rawness that made it so special, Alberti utilizes his photography to delve into a topic much less discussed: women’s sexual wellness.

The concept is simple: photograph women before, during, and after an orgasm. You can see why he calls this the “O” project.

Despite the subject matter, Alberti assures viewers that the intention wasn’t to be explicit, or even erotic, for that matter. The 20+ women who participated, of varying ethnicities and varying levels of sexually liberated versus conservative countries of origin, were completely covered below the waist while using personal massagers.

“The underlying message: all women deserve to be in control of their sexuality, no matter their background. Women should be free to be empowered by–and have a little fun with–their sexuality,” Alberti wrote on his website.

Similarly, Fan Yang, Global Brand Manager of Smile Makers (a sexual wellbeing brand that partnered with Alberti for this project) noted that the goal was to break through stigma and show female pleasure in a positive, healthy light. The hope is that not only society normalizes female pleasure, but that women themselves connect to their sexuality without “shame and secrecy.”

Given that all the women who participated were “in awe” seeing themselves “glowing and radiant” in their final photo, as Yang put it, it feels safe to say mission: accomplished.

Take a look:

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marcos alberti, 3 glaas, big o, orgasm, sexual wellness, womens sexual wellness, personal massager, female pleasure An O Project participant. marcosalberti.com

In a video posted to YouTube, we get a behind-the-scenes look at Alberti’s process. Welcoming the models in, setting up his camera behind a curtain for privacy, talking them through the process, making them feel safe and comfortable, etc.

We also get to see the “awe” that Yang spoke of. It’s palpable.

“Initially, I was still apprehensive… [with] a lot of worry. And this one [referring to the final image] is like “Ha! Life is beautiful!” one woman shared, grinning ear-to-ear.

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We can talk ad nauseam about how women’s pleasure shouldn’t be a taboo subject, about how it’s a natural, vital part of her overall wellbeing, how it can lead to better mood, heart health, immune function, sleep, intimacy, self-esteem…yadda, yadda yadda…but there’s nothing like actually witnessing its semi-miraculous powers firsthand. It’s one of the things that make photography so powerful. We feel something raw and honest on a visceral level, so that we can THEN talk about it with empathy and understanding. It’s clear that Alberti knows this on a deep level and is using that knowledge for something truly good.

Be sure to follow Alberti (@marcos_alberti ) on Instagram to keep up-to-date with all his work.





Photo by Ravit Sages on Unsplash

A gray dragon statue.

As Halloween creeps ever closer, there's an interesting, yet scary brain phenomenon gaining attention that has neuroscientists a tad puzzled. Imagine this: You're talking to a neighbor and there's nothing out of the ordinary. Suddenly, their face gruesomely twists itself into something unrecognizable, morphing into—well, for lack of a better word—a demon or dragon face.

Also referred to as "Demon face syndrome," its medical name is prosopometamorphopsia (say THAT three times fast), and it was first coined by British neurologist MacDonald Critchley in 1953.

It sounds like something out of a horror film, but it's very real. In an 2014 study, four neuroscientists and psychologists—Dr. Jan Dirk Blom, PhDa, Iris E. C. Sommer, PhDc,d, Sanne Koops, MScc,d and the world-renowned Oliver W. Sacks, MDe—shared their case report in The Lancet Journal, entitled, "Prosopometamorphopsia and facial hallucinations." They discuss a 52-year-old woman who, in the midst of staring at a face, would experience something terrifying. "In just minutes, they (the faces) turned black, grew long, pointy ears and a protruding snout and displayed reptoid skin and huge eyes—bright, yellow, green, blue or red." This happened multiple times a day.

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Upon studying her case, they found she also experienced "occasional zoopsia," which is described as the sensation of "seeing large ants crawling over her hands." They say she was fully aware she was seeing hallucinations. In other words, she knew the phenomenon wasn't reality.

After looking at her blood test results and extensive neurological exams, they found very little out of the ordinary, other than some "white matter abnormalities." The condition is rare, but usually attributed to occipital lobe functioning (the part of the brain that controls visual perception) or, in some cases, tied in with "epilepsy, migraine or eye disease."

Years later, this complex disorder is still being discussed and diagnosed in a handful of studies—and it's still just as perplexing. In a recent article for Discover Magazine, writer Rosie McCall notes that the study was less about faces and more about being in the dark: “She saw similar dragon-like faces drifting towards her many times a day from the walls, electrical sockets, or the computer screen, in both the presence and absence of face-like patterns, and at night she saw many dragon-like faces in the dark.”

McCall shares, "Further examples of prosopometamorphopsia (specifically) include individuals who see faces transform into fish heads, faces melting, and faces featuring a third or fourth eye. It has even been put forward that the art of Pablo Picasso and Francis Bacon suggests they could have experienced the condition at some point in their lives."

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Each step of learning about this is a jump down a new rabbit hole because prosopometamorphopsia happens to be part of a larger set of conditions called Alice in Wonderland syndrome. Those suffering from this condition might (for example) see only half a face, or perhaps faces and objects may appear larger or smaller than they are in actuality.

Also known as Todd syndrome, Mission Health reports: "For English psychiatrist John Todd, who named the condition in 1955—AIWS is a neurological disorder associated with a set of symptoms that affect how you perceive your body and the world around you."

In a video on SciShow Psych's YouTube channel, they make the distinction between people with this rare disorder and a drug-induced psychosis or a brain disorder like schizophrenia. "There's a key difference between these hallucinations and ones you'd experience for other reasons like drug use or schizophrenia. People with Alice in Wonderland syndrome always seem to KNOW they're illusions. They don't get confused about what's real and what's not."

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There are quite a few threads on Reddit dedicated to both PMO and its umbrella condition, Alice in Wonderland syndrome. Of the former, one Redditor shares a post writing, "A very rare condition known as prosopometamorphopsia (PMO) causes facial features to appear distorted. A new paper describes a 58-year-old male with PMO, who sees faces without any distortions when viewed on a screen and on paper but sees distorted faces that appear 'demonic' when viewed in-person."

Hundreds of comments follow, noting the connection to prosopagnosia (face blindness) and other conditions. One commenter shares, "There’s a guy on TikTok who has a schizophrenia diagnosis. He has a therapy dog who is trained to 'speak' (bark) if someone else is actually in the room with the guy. If no one else is in the room, the dog won’t bark. So when this guy has a hallucination that someone else is there, one of the first things he does is he commands his dog to 'speak.' If the dog doesn’t speak, then he knows he’s got a hallucination going."

Another adds, "I read about this through another source. 50% of the patients had lesions in their brain, meaning they had some sort of brain injury—seizures, fall, etc. Tinted colored glasses actually helped them stop seeing the distortions. One patient used a specific shade of green. Varies between patients."

As for Alice in Wonderland syndrome, another Redditor asked if anyone had it. Many confirm they did, and lots of commenters linked it to having migraines.

One person spun it in a positive light: "I didn't know it had this name until I was an adult. For me, I feel tiny and everything around me is giant and far away. It started as a kid, but I'm one of the people that never outgrew it. I still get it pretty frequently. Now I can control it to a point. I feel it and I can go in and out of the distortion as I want. It used to scare me but now I lean into the feeling because I like it."


Mom throws a second-hand baby shower that is celebrated for its frugality in uncertain economic times.

Welcoming a new baby into the world is always commemorated with a thoughtful baby shower to help new parents prepare. Family and friends not only invest time to attend the shower, but also money to grab the perfect (and often specifically asked for) gifts. On average, people spend between $30-$100 on baby shower gifts, according to U.S. News & World Report.

To encourage her baby shower guests to spend less and have sustainability in mind, one new mom had a second-hand baby shower where everyone gifted her lightly used items. She shared her experience online with other moms who enthusiastically supported the idea.

"Just wanted to share a second hand baby shower success! I can’t stand all the consumerism around having a new baby and the fact that it seems like every person gets every single item brand new at their baby shower that they’re going to only use for a few months," she wrote. "I have been to so many baby showers the last few years and seeing friend after friend all open the exact same things, brand new, that they will each only use for a few months gives me so much anxiety."

She also offered details on how she made it happen, including how she created a registry. "What we ended up doing is creating a Google doc with everything that I needed/wanted for the baby. We shared it to all the guests as the 'registry' and gave them editing access so they could mark things off as they found them," she explained. "People brought me things from my list from their own babies, Facebook marketplace, garage sales, Secondhand stores, etc. Everything is in beautiful condition and honestly way nicer brands than we would’ve gotten if we were buying new!"

The second-hand baby shower was a success, and she received everything they needed--leaving her and her partner ready to welcome their new baby without the need to buy anything new. "It was especially fun to hear about how many people had used certain items. We got a stroller that has now been used by at least eight children! And it’s still in great shape. Just wanted to share in case anyone is interested in something similar!" she added.

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Plus, she was able to pay it forward. "I also ended up getting WAY too much stuff. I sorted out the extra things and donated to a new mom that was in need on our Buy Nothing fb page," she also shared.

Another woman shared her interest in hosting a second-hand baby shower and how she was rejected. "I asked my family about this and got immediately shut down 😭. I'm happy it worked out for you. Maybe I can just refuse to make a registry, lol," she wrote, and was met with understanding from mom who threw a successful second-hand shower. "Okay mine weren’t on board at first but they got there!! Except my grandma but that’s okay haha."

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Everything I thrifted for my best friend’s baby shower. 🍼☔️ When it comes to thrifting gifts, the things I lean toward getting are: - Clothes - Unique Toys - Nursery Decor - Books - Baskets and Organizers Sometimes new moms will use platforms like @Babylist which allow them to mark if they would except an item secondhand or not. Features like that are incredibly helpful! I hope this video inspires you to try thrifting a gift in the future. ♻️ #sustainability #thrifting #babyshowergifts #babyshower #ecofriendly #secondhand #thriftstorefinds

In another exchange, a mom expressed safety concerns about having a second-hand baby shower, specifically about using second-hand car seats. "That sounds amazing! However I do want to say for safety reasons, you do need to buy a new car seat. Regular wear and tear render them unsafe after so long," she wrote. "Even a minor fender bender requires you to purchase a new one, and someone gifting you a used one means you don't know if it was in an accident, and you want your baby to be safe in case you were ever in one yourself." [The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration sets regulations for car seats in the United States, and how to properly install them.]

Other moms also expressed that they loved having a second-hand baby shower and gifting second-hand items.

"This is such a fun idea! I’m glad it worked out. I definitely got A LOT more second-hand items when I had my second baby, and I was delighted to pass them all on to other families when we were done with them," one mom shared. Another commented, "This is wonderful! We made a registry and encouraged friends and family to find items secondhand or regift us things they no longer needed. Everyone was so generous, and we received multiple comments about how relieved they were to be getting old items out of their house 😅."