Not all family members match each other. Now kids can get adorable toys that reflect their reality.
MyFamilyBuilders allows kids to literally build their family members.
Cute! Photos courtesy of MyFamilyBuilders, used with permission.
Not all families look alike — yet toys often do.
How would our world change if kids could put together characters that accurately represent the people in their actual families?
They'll soon be able to do just that — and easily — thanks to this new toy set that's not only fun, but kind of revolutionary. Each set of toys comes with 48 magnetized wooden pieces that can be taken apart and put together in whatever configuration the child chooses.
Easy as 1-2-3!
Kids can create families that look like this:
Or this:
And a whole lot more!
The idea struck Ez Karpf a year ago when he and his wife were shopping for gifts for their friends' children.
"Our friends have a multiracial family, and I just assumed I would be able to find a family doll set that resembled my friends' family," he told me.
That's when he discovered what most "nontraditional families" already know: It's nearly impossible to find toys like that at most mainstream retailers. After hitting the doll aisle in several stores, Karpf and his wife came up empty-handed.
That got Karpf thinking: It wasn't just this one family he was having a hard time finding a gift for. There were no dolls that would work for another friend's two-dad family or his cousin's single-parent family.
The lack of diversity in dolls doesn't make sense because families are most certainly not one-size-fits-all.
Karpf says he came across an endless array of "standard" family doll sets — a mom, a dad, a boy, and a girl, all the same color. But what do actual American families look like? Consider the following:
- The U.S. Census Bureau reported that in 2008, almost 30% of families with children were single-parent families.
- In 2013, nearly 220,000 children under the age of 18 were being raised in same-sex-parent families.
- Children who were adopted and stepchildren make up nearly 7% of American sons and daughters and while statistics on the races of the family members aren't available, many of those families are transracial (just like mine) — the child or children and the parent(s) are different races.
- And with the rise of multiracial couples in the U.S., it's safe to say there are (or will be) children in many of these households — and not everyone is going to match! In 2011, there were 4.2 million multiracial children in the U.S.
Karpf was determined to provide kids with toys that reflect their realities because he knows playtime is about more than just play.
"The way children explore, experiment, understand, and make sense of the world is through play," Karpf told me. "They also learn cultural meanings through play."
Karpf talked about the situation with his friends. As he explained to me:
"We talked about how odd it was not be able to buy these toys for kids. We know that kids construct the idea of families at a young age, and we thought that if we could teach kids to celebrate love and the values shared by all families, regardless of color, creed, sexual orientation, or culture, maybe there wouldn't be so much evidence of hatred in the future."
So he and his friends set out to do something about it.
They teamed up to take action, and MyFamilyBuilders was born.
The toys are cute, easy to use, durable, and — most importantly — inclusive.
The set also includes a game for building all different types of families, including those with a mom, a dad, a brother, and a sister who all match.
Representation matters!
It's important for children to be able to play with dolls and toys that reflect themselves and their families, but it's good for all kids to have toys showing them that families come in all kinds of configurations.
Right now, says Karpf, most toys refer to a heterosexual world with pre-established roles in the family. But what if every child had access to a toy like MyFamilyBuilders — a toy that promotes diversity, equality, and creativity? That, says Karpf, "is totally revolutionary and innovative. It opens the possibility to think about the world in a different way."
What if toys like these could become mainstream? Let the toy revolution begin!
These toys are for all kids! if you love them, you can order a set and support the Kickstarter — which has already been fully funded (so these toys will be made!) — by visiting the site.
And maybe, jusssstttt maybe, toys like this will start showing up in the stores we frequent, where kids can find them right on the shelves!



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Communications expert shares the perfect way to gracefully shut down rude comments
Taking the high ground never felt so good.
A woman is insulted at her job.
It came out of nowhere. A coworker made a rude comment that caught you off guard. The hair on the back of your neck stands up, and you want to put them in their place, but you have to stay tactful because you're in a professional setting. Plus, you don't want to stoop to their level.
In situations like these, it helps to have a comeback ready so you can stand up for yourself while making making sure they don't disrespect you again.
Vince Xu, who goes by Lawyer Vince on TikTok, is a personal injury attorney based in Torrance, California, where he shares the communication tips he's learned with his followers. Xu says there are three questions you can ask someone who is being rude that will put them in their place and give you the high ground:
Question 1: "Sorry, can you say that again?"
"This will either make them have to awkwardly say the disrespectful remark one more time, or it'll actually help them clarify what they said and retract their statement," Xu shares.
Question 2: "Did you mean that to be hurtful?"
The next step is to determine if they will repeat the disrespectful comment. "This calls out their disrespect and allows you to learn whether they're trying to be disrespectful or if there's a misunderstanding," Xu continues.
Question 3: "Are you okay?"
"What this does, is actually put you on higher ground, and it's showing empathy for the other person," Xu adds. "It's showing that you care about them genuinely, and this is gonna diffuse any type of disrespect or negative energy coming from them."
The interesting thing about Xu's three-step strategy is that by gracefully handling the situation, it puts you in a better position than before the insult. The rude coworker is likely to feel diminished after owning up to what they said, and you get to show them confidence and strength, as well as empathy. This will go a lot further than insulting them back and making the situation even worse.
Xu's technique is similar to that of Amy Gallo, a Harvard University communications expert. She says that you should call out what they just said, but make sure it comes out of their mouth. "You might even ask the person to simply repeat what they said, which may prompt them to think through what they meant and how their words might sound to others," she writes in the Harvard Business Review.
More of Gallo's suggested comebacks:
“Did I hear you correctly? I think you said…”
“What was your intention when you said…?”
“What specifically did you mean by that? I'm not sure I understood.”
“Could you say more about what you mean by that?”
Ultimately, Xu and Gallo's advice is invaluable because it allows you to overcome a negative comment without stooping to the other person's level. Instead, it elevates you above them without having to resort to name-calling or admitting they got on your nerves. That's the mark of someone confident and composed, even when others are trying to take them down.