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'Love, Simon' is a gloriously gay rom-com that deserves your attention.

Standing in a buzzing movie theater lobby, 21-year-old Ashley Kessler flips her phone around excitedly so I can see the screen.

There are pics on pics on pics capturing the two times she's already seen the film "Love, Simon" at advanced screenings. Her smiley, scruffy dad standing by her side proudly points out a photo of actor Nick Robinson, who stars in the lead role, at an event for the film's premiere. Clearly, they're big fans.

Tonight — March 16, the movie's official opening day — marks Kessler's third trip to experience Hollywood history in the making. "It’s really, really good," she says of the film, grinning.

Dozens of young people just like Kessler are crowded around us, anxiously waiting to see Simon Spier’s love story play out on the big screen. And I'm finally seeing with my own two eyes what all the fuss is about.

The gay hype, I've decided, is justified.







[rebelmouse-image 19345878 dam="1" original_size="750x563" caption="Author Becky Albertalli signs copies of "Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda" in New York the night "Love, Simon" is released in theaters. Photo by Robbie Couch/Upworthy." expand=1]Author Becky Albertalli signs copies of "Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda" in New York the night "Love, Simon" is released in theaters. Photo by Robbie Couch/Upworthy.


"Love, Simon" — which follows a closeted high schooler who falls hard for a classmate he's met anonymously online — marks the first time a major studio teen rom-com has featured a gay lead. Other LGBTQ-themed movies have come before it, of course. But those films were either aimed at adults or created with smaller budgets for niche audiences (and oftentimes both).

"Love, Simon" has broken the mold.

"I can hardly wrap my head around it," says Becky Albertalli, author of the 2015 young adult novel "Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda," which inspired the film. "Nobody — especially not me — ever thought this book was going to blow up. Nobody ever thought this book would be a movie."

But Albertalli's work of fiction became a trailblazing best-seller. And now its dedicated fans — like the ones here, in New York City's Chelsea neighborhood on the movie's official opening day — are eagerly filling theater seats to eat up buttery popcorn and Hollywood's version of Simon's tale.

The movie is hilarious and heartfelt in all the right places. But the truly remarkable ingredient in Simon's success is that, for the first time, young LGBTQ people in virtually every corner of the country have access to a same-sex love story made specifically for them.

"It would have been incredible to have a movie like this when I was that age," says 30-year-old Ruben Gloria, who's "as gay as it gets" and holding a signed copy of Albertalli's book in the theater lobby.

"A lot of my friends identity as LGBT," says Kessler. "And they are so happy to see [a character] that's like them."

Photo by Ben Rothstein/20th Century Fox Film Corporation.

But the movie's wide-release, while certainly worth celebrating, also highlights his relatively sanitized circumstances.

Albertalli's lead character is a white, cisgender teen who comes from a doting family nestled in the suburbs. Would his story have gotten a big-budget treatment had Simon been black? What if he'd been femme? Transgender?

Findings from a 2017 report by GLAAD — which discovered LGBTQ characters (and especially characters of color) are still underrepresented — suggests "Love, Simon" may have been a tougher sell to Hollywood executives if any of those variables had been the case.

Even Albertalli makes sure to point out further inclusivity is needed in the stories we create for young LGBTQ people from all walks of life. "There needs to be more and more different types of stories coming from the communities that they’re about," she notes, hoping "Simon" — whose story she first envisioned in 2013 — will help open doors for others down the road.

Still. The closet door Simon burst through is a big one.

20th Century Fox hasn't downplayed his gayness, as movie studios often do with LGBTQ films. It's actually emphasizing the movie's queer elements through a hyper-localized marketing blitz spanning several cities across the country.

Most American teens can see "Love, Simon" at their local theater. The same wasn't true for other recent, queer coming-of-age films released on smaller stages, like 2016's "Moonlight" or 2017's "Call Me By Your Name." That especially matters in regions like the South and Midwest where, according to Albertalli, more kids may need reminding that it's OK to be gay.

One of the film's producers, Wyck Godfrey, told Entertainment Weekly that the studio tested the film in America's heartland months ago to be sure its LGBTQ themes would still resonate with theatergoers nationwide. They did.

"We got to [the climax], and the entire theater broke out into applause," Godfrey said of an advanced screening in Kansas. The film's director, Greg Berlanti, teared up over the theater's positive response.

Photo by Ben Rothstein/20th Century Fox Film Corporation.

Some have argued, however, kids these days may not need stories like Simon's as much as liberal adults believe they do. How groundbreaking is this film, really?

It's 2018, after all. An expanding, streaming TV landscape flaunts many more LGBTQ characters and queer storylines than 10 or 20 years ago. Young adult literature has begun responding to demands that it further diversify its authors, stories, and characters.

"[Teens] don’t need this movie," wrote Time magazine's Daniel D'Addario, who argues the film would have made bigger waves in pre-gay marriage America. "Will they look up from Netflix to notice that it has premiered?"

The full and emotionally charged theater I'm sitting in on premiere night suggests they will.

[rebelmouse-image 19345881 dam="1" original_size="750x499" caption=""Love, Simon" fans pack a theater for an event in January held in Atlanta, Georgia. Photo by Moses Robinson/Getty Images for 20th Century Fox." expand=1]"Love, Simon" fans pack a theater for an event in January held in Atlanta, Georgia. Photo by Moses Robinson/Getty Images for 20th Century Fox.

I hear gasps, laughs, "awws," and teary sniffles peppered throughout the movie. The audience — much like they did seven states away in Kansas, months ago — cheers loudly as a final revelation is realized in the closing minutes. When the theater lights come on, eyes are watery and hearts are full.

Of course young people still need a story like Simon's.

Albertalli wishes she could share her email inbox — home to many messages from readers who've been touched by her book — with those who believe otherwise. "The reaction these teens are having to this film," she says, "they’re not being blasé about it."

In this theater on opening night, those emails have sprung into real life. Surrounded by delighted young people eager to see a version of themselves on screen, Albertalli understands what a difference Simon has made.

Everyone deserves a love story, as Simon tells moviegoers. And until everyone has one, stories like his still matter.

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A sad-looking Labrador Retriever

The sweet-faced, loveable Labrador Retriever is no longer America’s favorite dog breed. The breed best known for having a heart of gold has been replaced by the smaller, more urban-friendly French Bulldog.

According to the American Kennel Club, for the past 31 years, the Labrador Retriever was America’s favorite dog, but it was eclipsed in 2022 by the Frenchie. The rankings are based on nearly 716,500 dogs newly registered in 2022, of which about 1 in 7 were Frenchies. Around 108,000 French Bulldogs were recorded in the U.S. in 2022, surpassing Labrador Retrievers by over 21,000.


The French Bulldog’s popularity has grown exponentially over the past decade. They were the #14 most popular breed in 2012, and since then, registrations have gone up 1,000%, bringing them to the top of the breed popularity rankings.

The AKC says that the American Hairless Terrier, Gordon Setter, Italian Greyhound and Anatolian Shepherd Dog also grew in popularity between 2021 and 2022.

The French Bulldog was famous among America’s upper class around the turn of the 20th century but then fell out of favor. Their resurgence is partly based on several celebrities who have gone public with their Frenchie love. Leonardo DiCaprio, Megan Thee Stallion, Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez, Reese Witherspoon and Lady Gaga all own French Bulldogs.

The breed earned a lot of attention as show dogs last year when a Frenchie named Winston took second place at the Westminster Kennel Club Dog Show and first in the National Dog Show.

The breed made national news in early 2021 when Gaga’s dog walker was shot in the chest while walking two of her Frenchies in a dog heist. He recovered from his injuries, and the dogs were later returned.

They’ve also become popular because of their unique look and personalities.

“They’re comical, friendly, loving little dogs,” French Bull Dog Club of America spokesperson Patty Sosa told the AP. She said they are city-friendly with modest grooming needs and “they offer a lot in a small package.”

They are also popular with people who live in apartments. According to the AKC, Frenchies don’t bark much and do not require a lot of outdoor exercise.

The French Bulldog stands out among other breeds because it looks like a miniature bulldog but has large, expressive bat-like ears that are its trademark feature. However, their popularity isn’t without controversy. “French bulldogs can be a polarizing topic,” veterinarian Dr. Carrie Stefaniak told the AP.

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An adorable French Bulldog

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French Bulldogs have been bred to have abnormally large heads, which means that large litters usually need to be delivered by C-section, an expensive procedure that can be dangerous for the mother. They are also prone to multiple health problems, including skin, ear, and eye infections. Their flat face means they often suffer from respiratory problems and heat intolerance.

Frenchies are also more prone to spine deformations and nerve pain as they age.

Here are the AKC’s top ten most popular dog breeds for 2022.

1 French Bulldogs

2 Labrador Retrievers

3 Golden Retrievers

4 German Shepherd Dogs

5 Poodles

6 Bulldogs

7 Rottweilers

8 Beagles

9 Dachshunds

10 German Shorthaired Pointers


This article originally appeared on 03.17.23

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There's no way they didn't understand what she was saying.

Okay, so maybe dogs don’t understand everything we tell them exactly as a human would. But is that gonna stop us from having full blown conversations with them? Of course not. And the times they do seem to comprehend what’s being communicated—pure comedy.

Take this dog mom’s hilarious pre-grooming pep talk with Shih-Tzus Branston, Pickle and Gizmo. She minced no words telling them exactly how this trip was gonna go. And the message seemed to be received.

Branston (the troublemaker, apparently) got a firm warning of what not to do, including telling white lies about his upbringing.

“I don’t need you running in telling the first dog you see that this is what this is what your hair used to look like when you lived in the Bronx running up and down the block, cause I know for a fact, Branston, that you live in a rural village,” she tells him.

Viewers, however, seemed on board with Branston’s Bronx-affiliation, even if it was a little white lie. One person joked, “don’t be mad at the treats that I got, I’m still Branny from the block.”

In the video, Branston is also instructed to not tell everyone that he “identifies as a BUll Mastiff,” which gets the most adorable look of disappointment for wee little Branston.

As for Gizmo and Pickle—mom’s best advice is to pretend like they don’t know Branston.

Perhaps the best part is mom’s British accent, which makes the entire clip feel like something pulled straight outta “Ted Lasso.” That, or the complete shock the Shih-tzu trio has at being informed of their weight class.

Watch:

@branstonandpickle01 Your NOT from the Bronx and you never ran up and down the block!! #dogsoftiktok #peptalktoyourdog #branstonwehavearrived #shihtzusoftiktok #peptalkbranston #funnydogvideos #funnyvideos #nyc #bronx #funny #dogs #dogtok ♬ original sound - Branston,Pickle&Gizmo

Perhaps Branston, Pickle, and Gizmo’s mom isn’t totally off-base by giving them a talking to. According to the website allshihtzu.com, this breed had a “unique intelligence,” which gets best demonstrated by their attuned, empathic connection to their human families. Meaning that while they might not have the same kind of smarts as border collies or other herding dogs, their super power is picking up social cues.

And, again, even if they had no earthly idea what their mom was saying, odds are she’d still be talking to them anyway. Why? Because pets are our babies. And baby talk is fun.jk

Island School Class, circa 1970s.

Parents, do you think your child would be able to survive if they were transported back to the '70s or '80s? Could they live at a time before the digital revolution put a huge chunk of our lives online?

These days, everyone has a phone in their pocket, but before then, if you were in public and needed to call someone, you used a pay phone. Can you remember the last time you stuck 50 cents into one and grabbed the grubby handset?

According to the U.S. Federal Communications Commission, roughly 100,000 pay phones remain in the U.S., down from 2 million in 1999.

Do you think a 10-year-old kid would have any idea how to use a payphone in 2022? Would they be able to use a Thomas Guide map to find out how to get somewhere? If they stepped into a time warp and wound up in 1975, could they throw a Led Zeppelin album on the record player at a party?


Another big difference between now and life in the '70s and '80s has been public attitudes toward smoking cigarettes. In 1965, 42.4% of Americans smoked and now, it’s just 12.5%. This sea change in public opinion about smoking means there are fewer places where smoking is deemed acceptable.

But in the early '80s, you could smoke on a bus, on a plane, in a movie theater, in restaurants, in the classroom and even in hospitals. How would a child of today react if their third grade teacher lit up a heater in the middle of math class?

Dan Wuori, senior director of early learning at the Hunt Institute, tweeted that his high school had a smoking area “for the kids.” He then asked his followers to share “something you experienced as a kid that would blow your children’s minds.”


A lot of folks responded with stories of how ubiquitous smoking was when they were in school. While others explained that life was perilous for a kid, whether it was the school playground equipment or questionable car seats.

Here are a few responses that’ll show today’s kids just how crazy life used to be in the '70s and '80s.

First of all, let’s talk about smoking.

Want to call someone? Need to get picked up from baseball practice? You can’t text mom or dad, you’ll have to grab a quarter and use a pay phone.

People had little regard for their kids’ safety or health.

You could buy a soda in school.

Things were a lot different before the internet.

Remember pen pals?

A lot of people bemoan the fact that the children of today aren’t as tough as they were a few decades back. But that’s probably because the parents of today are better attuned to their kids’ needs so they don't have to cheat death to make it through the day.

But just imagine how easy parenting would be if all you had to do was throw your kids a bag of Doritos and a Coke for lunch and you never worried about strapping them into a car seat?


This article originally appeared on 06.08.22

What is Depression?

In the United States, close to 10% of the population has depression, but sometimes it can take a long time for someone to even understand that they have it.

One difficulty in diagnosis is trying to distinguish between feeling down and experiencing clinical depression. This TED-Ed video from December 2015 can help make the distinction. With simple animation, the video explains how clinical depression lasts longer than two weeks with a range of symptoms that can include changes in appetite, poor concentration, restlessness, sleep disorders (either too much or too little), and suicidal ideation. The video briefly discusses the neuroscience behind the illness, outlines treatments, and offers advice on how you can help a friend or loved one who may have depression.


Unlike the many pharmaceutical ads out there with their cute mascots and vague symptoms, the video uses animation to provide clarity about the mental disorder. It's similar in its poignant simplicity to the HBO short documentary "My Depression," based on Liz Swados' book of the same name.


This article originally appeared on 08.17.19

New baby and a happy dad.


When San Francisco photographer Lisa Robinson was about to have her second child, she was both excited and nervous.

Sure, those are the feelings most moms-to-be experience before giving birth, but Lisa's nerves were tied to something different.

She and her husband already had a 9-year-old son but desperately wanted another baby. They spent years trying to get pregnant again, but after countless failed attempts and two miscarriages, they decided to stop trying.


Of course, that's when Lisa ended up becoming pregnant with her daughter, Anora. Since it was such a miraculous pregnancy, Lisa wanted to do something special to commemorate her daughter's birth.

So she turned to her craft — photography — as a way to both commemorate the special day, and keep herself calm and focused throughout the birthing process.

Normally, Lisa takes portraits and does wedding photography, so she knew the logistics of being her own birth photographer would be a somewhat precarious new adventure — to say the least.

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She initially suggested the idea to her husband Alec as a joke.

Photo by Lisa Robinson/Lisa Robinson Photography.

"After some thought," she says, "I figured I would try it out and that it could capture some amazing memories for us and our daughter."

In the end, she says, Alec was supportive and thought it would be great if she could pull it off. Her doctors and nurses were all for Lisa taking pictures, too, especially because it really seemed to help her manage the pain and stress.

In the hospital, she realized it was a lot harder to hold her camera steady than she initially thought it would be.

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She had labor shakes but would periodically take pictures between contractions.

Photo by Lisa Robinson/Lisa Robinson Photography.

"Eventually when it was time to push and I was able to take the photos as I was pushing, I focused on my daughter and my husband and not so much the camera," she says.

"I didn't know if I was in focus or capturing everything but it was amazing to do.”

The shots she ended up getting speak for themselves:

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Warm and encouraging smiles from the nurse.

Photo by Lisa Robinson/Lisa Robinson Photography.

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Newborn Anora's first experience with breastfeeding.

Photo by Lisa Robinson/Lisa Robinson Photography.

"Everybody was supportive and kind of surprised that I was able to capture things throughout. I even remember laughing along with them at one point as I was pushing," Lisa recalled.

In the end, Lisa was so glad she went through with her experiment. She got incredible pictures — and it actually did make her labor easier.

Would she recommend every mom-to-be document their birth in this way? Absolutely not. What works for one person may not work at all for another.

However, if you do have a hobby that relaxes you, figuring out how to incorporate it into one of the most stressful moments in your life is a pretty good way to keep yourself calm and focused.

Expecting and love the idea of documenting your own birthing process?

Take some advice from Lisa: "Don't put pressure on yourself to get 'the shot'" she says, "and enjoy the moment as much as you can.”

Lisa's mom took this last one.

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Mom and daughter earned the rest.

Photo via Lisa Robinson/Lisa Robinson Photography.

This article originally appeared on 06.30.16