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Ariana Grande's must-read response to a fan's rude tweet. Lesson learned.

"I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be."

Ariana Grande's must-read response to a fan's rude tweet. Lesson learned.
Miller and Grande perform at a benefit show in Manchester following an attack at one of her concerts. Photo by Getty Images/Dave Hogan for One Love Manchester.

On May 9, TMZ reported that Ariana Grande and her boyfriend of nearly two years, Mac Miller, had called it quits.

The following day she released a statement on the split in an Instagram story, calling Miller "one of my best friends in the whole world and favorite people on the planet," adding, "I respect and adore him endlessly and am grateful to have in my life in any form, at all times, regardless of how our relationship changes or what the universe holds for each of us!"


People grow, people change, and sometimes relationships come to an end. That's normal.

What's not normal is saying Grande had an obligation to stay in a relationship with Miller, as one Twitter user suggested. Grande explained why.

"Mac Miller totaling his G wagon and getting a DUI after Ariana Grande dumped him for another dude after he poured his heart out on a 10 song album to her called the divine feminine is just the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood," Twitter user @FlintElijah posted.

This, in turn, prompted a response from Grande, slamming the culture of blaming and shaming women for the men in their life.

Grande's response:

"How absurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them, which [by the way] isn't the case (just ‘Cinderella’ is [about] me). I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety and prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man's inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem. Let's stop doing that. Of course I didn't share about how hard or scary it was while it was happening but it was. I will continue to pray from the bottom of my heart that he figures it all out and that any other woman in this position does as well."

This isn't the first time Grande has responded to public criticism with personal and important commentary we can all learn from.

In this case, her response nails two key points about how we treat others:

First, it's not fair to expect someone to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in. Everyone is dealing with their own highs and lows. And secondly, we need to trust others to make decisions they feel are best for them, and support them through it all.

Grande performs at the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival. Photo by Christopher Polk/Getty Images for Coachella.

In the end, the original tweeter offered a sincere apology, which Grande accepted. He heard the message, and so should the rest of us.

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If someone were to say "video games" to you, what are the first words that come to mind? Whatever words you thought of (fun, exciting, etc.), we're willing to guess "healthy" or "mental health tool" didn't pop into your mind.

And yet… it turns out they are. Especially for Veterans.

How? Well, for one thing, video games — and virtual reality more generally — are also more accessible and less stigmatized to veterans than mental health treatment. In fact, some psychiatrists are using virtual reality systems for this reason to treat PTSD.

Secondly, video games allow people to socialize in new ways with people who share common interests and goals. And for Veterans, many of whom leave the military feeling isolated or lonely after they lose the daily camaraderie of their regiment, that socialization is critical to their mental health. It gives them a virtual group of friends to talk with, connect to, and relate to through shared goals and interests.

In addition, according to a 2018 study, since many video games simulate real-life situations they encountered during their service, it makes socialization easier since they can relate to and find common ground with other gamers while playing.

This can help ease symptoms of depression, anxiety, and even PTSD in Veterans, which affects 20% of the Veterans who have served since 9/11.

Watch here as Verizon dives into the stories of three Veteran gamers to learn how video games helped them build community, deal with trauma and have some fun.

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Video games have been especially beneficial to Veterans since the beginning of the pandemic when all of us — Veterans included — have been even more isolated than ever before.

And that's why Verizon launched a challenge last year, which saw $30,000 donated to four military charities.

And this year, they're going even bigger by launching a new World of Warships charity tournament in partnership with Wargaming and Wounded Warrior Project called "Verizon Warrior Series." During the tournament, gamers will be able to interact with the game's iconic ships in new and exciting ways, all while giving back.

Together with these nonprofits, the tournament will welcome teams all across the nation in order to raise money for military charities helping Veterans in need. There will be a $100,000 prize pool donated to these charities, as well as donation drives for injured Veterans at every match during the tournament to raise extra funds.

Verizon is also providing special discounts to Those Who Serve communities, including military and first responders, and they're offering a $75 in-game content military promo for World of Warships.

Tournament finals are scheduled for August 8, so be sure to tune in to the tournament and donate if you can in order to give back to Veterans in need.

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