There's a huge difference between love and lust.

Sometimes it's easy to confuse the two. Most of us think we know when we're in love, but I'm not sure we're as self-aware when it comes to lust.

Lust is straight-up unbridled, physical attraction driven mostly by our sexual desires. It's wild, it's hot, and it's fun. And sometimes, those feelings can stick — but often they're fleeting because the heart may or may not be involved.


Love, on the other hand, involves giving yourself entirely, fully, without question to another person for a long time. It's often about caring and forming an emotional connection beyond sexual attraction. The heart is usually involved.

That's why artist Karina Farek decided to illustrate the difference between the two.

She brought writer Shea Strauss' words to life with these witty and endearing "it's funny cuz it's true" illustrations.

The clever comics use examples that are totally relatable to people who have experienced either of these tricky, all-consuming feelings — like when you're lounging in your unflattering pajamas while stuffing your face like there's no tomorrow and your sweetheart still looks at you like you're the most gorgeous person in the world.

Check out more delightful examples of the essential difference between lust and love that should hit you right in the feels.

1. Now that's amoré!

Karina Farek/Shea Strauss for CollegeHumor.

2. When you just "get" each other.

Karina Farek/Shea Strauss for CollegeHumor.

3. Because sharing IS caring.

Karina Farek/Shea Strauss for CollegeHumor.

4. Don't lie! We've all been there.

Karina Farek/Shea Strauss for CollegeHumor.

Love is complicated. Lust? Maybe not so much.

Scientifically speaking, lust is actually an altered state of consciousness driven by our primal urge to procreate. Sounds kind of animalistic, right? There's also the whole "honeymoon phase" thing. Dr. Judith Orloff explains that lust is fueled by an idealization of a person in that time and place. We often subconsciously put on blinders to their flaws. She says that can quickly go away once we turn those blinders off and the "real person" emerges.

When you're in love, however, you tend to see the bigger picture — warts and all — and you still choose to engage further than just physically by getting to know the person. There is no idealization. You're present and have your eyes, heart, and mind wide open.  

What kind of relationship are you in? Perhaps only time will tell!

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Man uses TikTok to offer 'dinner with dad' to any kid that needs one, even adult ones

Summer Clayton is the father of 2.4 million kids and he couldn’t be more proud.

Come for the food, stay for the wholesomeness.

Summer Clayton is the father of 2.4 million kids and he couldn’t be more proud. His TikTok channel is dedicated to giving people intimate conversations they might long to have with their own father, but can’t. The most popular is his “Dinner With Dad” segment.

The concept is simple: Clayton, aka Dad, always sets down two plates of food. He always tells you what’s for dinner. He always blesses the food. He always checks in with how you’re doing.

I stress the stability here, because as someone who grew up with a less-than-stable relationship with their parents, it stood out immediately. I found myself breathing a sigh of relief at Clayton’s consistency. I also noticed the immediate emotional connection created just by being asked, “How was your day?” According to relationship coach and couples counselor Don Olund, these two elements—stability and connection—are fundamental cravings that children have of their parents. Perhaps we never really stop needing it from them.


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It was her Malinois Eva’s natural drive, however, that ended up saving Wilson’s life.

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"Rules are a bit more rigid, attention and validation is directed and somewhat excessive," Niro Feliciano, LCSW, a psychotherapist and anxiety specialist, told Parents. "As a result, firstborns tend to be leaders, high achievers, people-pleasing, rule-following and conscientious, several of the qualities that tend to predict success."

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