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The bear in this video is a brilliant metaphor for rape, and it's hilariously done.

And it's some of our favorite dude-ly comedians driving it home.

Ignore a huge crisis, and maybe it will go away?

So there's a big, stinking problem, and no one quite knows what to do about it, so everyone just kind of pretends it isn't happening.

Remember just a couple of months ago how fraternities brazenly taunted parents of incoming freshman girls with signs encouraging them to drop off their daughters for "daycare" and to bring along some Plan B pills?

Campus rape is a huge problem. But a lot of schools are opting to do very little about it.

This highly entertaining (in spite of the topic) spoof of five dudes in a basement skewers the ridiculousness of inaction when it comes to rape culture.

The bear is only going to kill one of them. So how is that even a problem?

"It's fine, it's fine. The majority is fine! I don't want to deal with this problem!"

Look, the video makes a pretty clear point.

I'm not going to belabor it. We have to do our part to watch out for each other at parties (and at all times, really), to call bullsh*t on rape jokes and predatory behavior whenever we see it, and to commit to raising or influencing kids in our lives to know how important consent is.

But we also need to hold schools that try to sweep their campus rape problems under the rug accountable.

Here is a list of schools under federal investigation for alleged mishandling of reported rapes.

The U.S. Department of Education's Office for Civil Rights has begun listing open investigations of higher-education institutions with possible Title IX violations in their handling of sexual assault. I know that when my kids are considering college, any on this list (which was updated July 22, 2015*) will be immediately disqualified in our eyes.

  • Allegheny College
  • American University
  • Amherst College
  • Arizona State University
  • Barnard College
  • Berklee College of Music
  • Bethany College
  • Boston University
  • Brown University
  • Butte-Glenn Community College District
  • California Institute of the Arts
  • Canisius College
  • Carnegie Mellon University
  • Catholic University of America
  • Cisco Junior College
  • College of William and Mary
  • Colorado State University
  • Columbia University
  • Cornell University
  • CUNY Hunter College
  • Dartmouth College
  • Davis and Elkins College
  • Denison University
  • Drake University
  • Elizabethtown College
  • Elmira College
  • Emerson College
  • Emory University
  • Florida State University
  • Franklin and Marshall College
  • Frostburg State University
  • Full Sail University
  • Grand Valley State University
  • Guilford College
  • Hamilton College
  • Hampshire College
  • Harvard College
  • Hobart and William Smith Colleges
  • Idaho State University
  • Indiana University-Bloomington
  • Iowa State University
  • James Madison University
  • Johns Hopkins University
  • Kansas State University
  • Knox College
  • Langston University
  • Marion Military Institute
  • Marlboro College
  • Michigan State University
  • Minot State University
  • Missouri University of Science and Technology
  • Morgan State University
  • New York University School of Medicine
  • Northeastern University
  • Occidental College
  • Oglethorpe University
  • Oklahoma State University
  • Pace University-New York
  • Pennsylvania State University
  • Pointe Park University
  • Polytechnic Institute of New York University
  • Regis University
  • Saint John's University
  • Saint Mary's College of Maryland
  • Saint Thomas Aquinas College
  • San Francisco State University
  • San Jose-Evergreen Community College District
  • Sarah Lawrence College
  • Stanford University
  • SUNY Buffalo State College
  • SUNY College at Brockport
  • SUNY Purchase College
  • SUNY Stony Brook University
  • SUNY University at Albany
  • Swarthmore College
  • Temple University
  • Texas A&M University
  • University of Akron
  • University of Alaska System of Higher Education
  • University of California-Berkeley
  • University of California-Davis
  • University of California-Los Angeles
  • University of California-San Francisco
  • University of California-Santa Cruz
  • University of Chicago
  • University of Colorado-Boulder
  • University of Colorado-Denver
  • University of Connecticut
  • University of Delaware
  • University of Denver
  • University of Hawaii-Manoa
  • University of Idaho
  • University of Iowa
  • University of Kansas
  • University of Kentucky
  • University of Massachusetts-Amherst
  • University of Massachusetts-Dartmouth
  • University of Michigan-Ann Arbor
  • University of Nebraska-Lincoln
  • University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill
  • University of Richmond
  • University of Rochester
  • University of South Florida
  • University of Southern California
  • University of Texas-Pan American
  • University of Tennessee
  • University of Tennessee-Chattanooga
  • University of Virginia
  • University of Washington-Seattle
  • University of Wisconsin-Madison
  • University of Wisconsin-Whitewater
  • Valley Forge Military College
  • Valparaiso University
  • Vanderbilt University
  • Vincennes University
  • Virginia Commonwealth University
  • Washburn University
  • Washington and Lee University
  • Washington State University
  • West Virginia School of Osteopathic Medicine
  • Western Washington University
  • Westminster College
  • Whitman College
  • Wittenberg University

*The list changes as cases resolve and develop, of course, so check up and keep these schools accountable!

We all know someone who goes to these schools or is considering going to some of these schools, right? Maybe let's do them a solid and at least let them know about the bear.

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