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She starts with 'Thanks, but...' and then goes on to say words that just lit me right up.

Some funny and moving talk from a woman whose TV shows may be changing American culture from now on.

She starts with 'Thanks, but...' and then goes on to say words that just lit me right up.

Shonda Rhimes pretty much owns Thursday night network TV.

Who's ever dominated a whole night on the tube like this, with "Grey's Anatomy," "Scandal," and "How to Get Away with Murder"? Forget about that person being a woman or black.

It's no great surprise that Hollywood's recognizing the way she's shattered their glass ceiling with awards like this one, but...


Rhimes has a problem with getting this award.

She doesn't want an award just for being a successful black woman in Hollywood.

She's thinking her success is really about something big and new.

"This moment right here — me standing up here all brown with boobs and my Thursday night of network television full of women of color, competitive women, strong women, women who own their bodies, women whose lives revolve around their work instead of their men, women who are big dogs — that could only be happening right now."

The glass ceiling she's being praised for smashing? She says it was ready to go by the time she got there.

Rhimes wants to talk about the cuts and bruises of the countless other women who crashed into it before her.

It's a great speech.

You can watch a video of it here.

This is a great one to share with anyone who enjoys a good laugh and likes to cheer.

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Shanda Lynn Poitra was born and raised on the Turtle Mountain Reservation in Belcourt, North Dakota. She lived there until she was 24 years old when she left for college at the University of North Dakota in Grand Forks.

"Unfortunately," she says, "I took my bad relationship with me. At the time, I didn't realize it was so bad, much less, abusive. Seeing and hearing about abusive relationships while growing up gave me the mentality that it was just a normal way of life."

Those college years away from home were difficult for a lot of reasons. She had three small children — two in diapers, one in elementary school — as well as a full-time University class schedule and a part-time job as a housekeeper.

"I wore many masks back then and clothing that would cover the bruises," she remembers. "Despite the darkness that I was living in, I was a great student; I knew that no matter what, I HAD to succeed. I knew there was more to my future than what I was living, so I kept working hard."

While searching for an elective class during this time, she came across a one-credit, 20-hour IMPACT self-defense class that could be done over a weekend. That single credit changed her life forever. It helped give her the confidence to leave her abusive relationship and inspired her to bring IMPACT classes to other Native women in her community.

I walked into class on a Friday thinking that I would simply learn how to handle a person trying to rob me, and I walked out on a Sunday evening with a voice so powerful that I could handle the most passive attacks to my being, along with physical attacks."

It didn't take long for her to notice the difference the class was making in her life.

"I was setting boundaries and people were either respecting them or not, but I was able to acknowledge who was worth keeping in my life and who wasn't," she says.

Following the class, she also joined a roller derby league where she met many other powerful women who inspired her — and during that summer, she found the courage to leave her abuser.

"As afraid as I was, I finally had the courage to report the abuse to legal authorities, and I had the support of friends and family who provided comfort for my children and I during this time," she says.

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An image from Jeff Bridges' personal note on his website

Way to bury the lead, Jeff! Yesterday's news of Jeff Bridges' cancer remission revealed the beloved Hollywood icon also faced COVID 19, which had him hospitalized for over a month. This put many things on hold, including filming for his new FX thriller series Old Man.

Taking on chemotherapy is no easy task. Pile that onto losing smell, restricted breathing, and medical isolation, and anyone would want to throw in the towel. But for the ever optimistic Bridges, dealing with two health crises simultaneously became a beautiful life lesson, which he shared in a handwritten letter found on his website.


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