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One Of The Biggest Racial Injustices Of Our Time, As Told By Those Living It

A grand jury will soon rule on whether Ferguson Police Officer Darren Wilson will be charged in the shooting of 18-year-old Mike Brown. The people of Ferguson, Missouri, would like you to understand why this is so important. People often ask, "What do the citizens of Ferguson want?" Here is a pretty clear answer. It's a really thoughtful conversation about what is happening all over our country and what needs to happen to prevent this from happening ever again. (Also, yes, that is "Grey's Anatomy" star Jesse Williams saying lots of great things in the middle of this.) Here's what you need to know. (You can scroll down to the bottom to get straight to the video.)

DISCLOSURE: I am white. If you are white and this story makes you uncomfortable, I urge you to fight the urge to close this window and to read the whole story. It's not racist to feel challenged and awkward in thinking about these issues. It is depressing, though, if you can't muster the strength to get a different perspective than your own. I would urge you to really listen, hear the whole thing, get a fresh perspective, and consider ALL the facts.

The people of Ferguson have a reasonable request:


The self-defense law in Missouri makes this a challenge since it is not very strict. But the citizens of Ferguson deserve to see him given the opportunity to plead his case in a court of his own peers.

It's more complex than just Mike Brown, though.

That's a real thing. Local police kill 400 black people a year nationwide. Police kill young black men at a rate 21 times higher than young white men. (And that's only data from reported shootings. Police reporting of officer-involved shootings is optional, and many don't report their statistics.)

People keep dying in Ferguson and St. Louis.

Kim King "strangled herself" while in police custody, Kajieme Powell was shot in front of witnesses, and Vonderrit Meyers had either a gun or a sandwich when he was shot by police all within the St. Louis and Ferguson area.

Putting Darren Wilson on trial has the potential of getting justice for his family, but justice for Mike Brown isn't the only thing they want.

You can watch the video to learn more.

If you have the time, listen to the kid who says something really angry at the beginning — because what he says at the end is really important and pretty damn profound.

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A better tomorrow isn't enough.

In the months since Mike Brown was shot, there's been lots of speculation and backseat driving from people across the political spectrum trying to determine Darren Wilson's guilt or innocence. And while finding out the truth about it is incredibly important, an equally important conversation is about the system in which this tragedy occurred in the first place.

I want to believe that cops are here to protect us. And the best way for them to earn that trust is to learn a new way to police that doesn't do more harm than good. If you think there's more to this than just taking a side, if you think that we maybe should have a grown-up conversation about how to end systemic discrimination by people in authority, I'd appreciate you sharing this.

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Man uses TikTok to offer 'dinner with dad' to any kid that needs one, even adult ones

Summer Clayton is the father of 2.4 million kids and he couldn’t be more proud.

Come for the food, stay for the wholesomeness.

Summer Clayton is the father of 2.4 million kids and he couldn’t be more proud. His TikTok channel is dedicated to giving people intimate conversations they might long to have with their own father, but can’t. The most popular is his “Dinner With Dad” segment.

The concept is simple: Clayton, aka Dad, always sets down two plates of food. He always tells you what’s for dinner. He always blesses the food. He always checks in with how you’re doing.

I stress the stability here, because as someone who grew up with a less-than-stable relationship with their parents, it stood out immediately. I found myself breathing a sigh of relief at Clayton’s consistency. I also noticed the immediate emotional connection created just by being asked, “How was your day?” According to relationship coach and couples counselor Don Olund, these two elements—stability and connection—are fundamental cravings that children have of their parents. Perhaps we never really stop needing it from them.


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Alberto's legs can't even reach the pedals, but that doesn't stop his little hands from flying expertly over the keys as incredible music pours out of the piano at the 10th International Musical Competition "Città di Penne" in Italy. Even if you've seen young musicians play impressively, it's hard not to have your jaw drop at this one. Sometimes a kid comes along who just clearly has a gift.

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How do you explain the transition from the brown and orange aesthetic of the '70s to the dusty rose and forest green carpeting of the '80s if you didn't experience it? When I tell my kids there were smoking sections in restaurants and airplanes and ashtrays everywhere, they look horrified (and rightfully so—what were we thinking?!). The fact that we went places with our friends with no quick way to get ahold of our parents? Unbelievable.

One day I described the process of listening to the radio, waiting for my favorite song to come on so I could record it on my tape recorder, and how mad I would get when the deejay talked through the intro of the song until the lyrics started. My Spotify-spoiled kids didn't even understand half of the words I said.

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