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Monica Lewinsky: 'Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation needs to know 1 thing.'

Short, but powerful.

Imagine you're 22. You're fresh out of college. You just started working at your dream job.

And then your boss decides he likes you.


It's confusing. And weird. And kind of exciting.

You don't exactly know how to handle it. You love your job, and you don't want to make him mad. Maybe you also kind of like him a little too. Being 22 is hard.

(Just ask Taylor).

So you hook up with him.

In most cases, maybe that's the end of it. Or maybe things get weird. Or even bad. I mean, it's pretty messed up of him to come on to you in the first place, considering he has the power to make your life miserable at work if you say no, or to fire you. But you deal with it and, eventually, move on.

But in your case, it becomes national news.

People imply you're a "slut."

People mock you mercilessly on TV, night after night after night.

(And win awards for it.)

You're no longer you. You're just "That woman."

What do you even do? Do you believe them? Do you let it destroy you? Do you crawl into a hole and vow to never come out?

Probably, yes. For a while.

But do you give up?

Or do you get back up?

Monica said a lot of really important things in her full talk. About how it feels to have your life turned upside down. About our culture of shame, especially for women. About the need to reach out and help those who are suffering from bullying.

But the most important thing?

If you're a young person — or any person — who's dealing with shame, abuse, harassment, or humiliation (or you know someone who is), please reach out to someone who can help. StopBullying.gov has great resources and information. For LGBTQ youth, The Trevor Project is absolutely essential.

You're not alone.

No matter how bad things seem right now, life goes on. And gets better.

All images provided by Prudential Emerging Visionaries

Collins after being selected by Prudential Emerging Visionaries

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A changemaker is anyone who takes creative action to solve an ongoing problem—be it in one’s own community or throughout the world.

And when it comes to creating positive change, enthusiasm and a fresh perspective can hold just as much power as years of experience. That’s why, every year, Prudential Emerging Visionaries celebrates young people for their innovative solutions to financial and societal challenges in their communities.

This national program awards 25 young leaders (ages 14-18) up to $15,000 to devote to their passion projects. Additionally, winners receive a trip to Prudential’s headquarters in Newark, New Jersey, where they receive coaching, skills development, and networking opportunities with mentors to help take their innovative solutions to the next level.

For 18-year-old Sydnie Collins, one of the 2023 winners, this meant being able to take her podcast, “Perfect Timing,” to the next level.

Since 2020, the Maryland-based teen has provided a safe platform that promotes youth positivity by giving young people the space to celebrate their achievements and combat mental health stigmas. The idea came during the height of Covid-19, when Collins recalled social media “becoming a dark space flooded with news,” which greatly affected her own anxiety and depression.

Knowing that she couldn’t be the only one feeling this way, “Perfect Timing” seemed like a valuable way to give back to her community. Over the course of 109 episodes, Collins has interviewed a wide range of guests—from other young influencers to celebrities, from innovators to nonprofit leaders—all to remind Gen Z that “their dreams are tangible.”

That mission statement has since evolved beyond creating inspiring content and has expanded to hosting events and speaking publicly at summits and workshops. One of Collins’ favorite moments so far has been raising $7,000 to take 200 underserved girls to see “The Little Mermaid” on its opening weekend, to “let them know they are enough” and that there’s an “older sister” in their corner.

Of course, as with most new projects, funding for “Perfect Timing” has come entirely out of Collins’ pocket. Thankfully, the funding she earned from being selected as a Prudential Emerging Visionary is going toward upgraded recording equipment, the support of expert producers, and skill-building classes to help her become a better host and public speaker. She’ll even be able to lease an office space that allows for a live audience.

Plus, after meeting with the 24 other Prudential Emerging Visionaries and her Prudential employee coach, who is helping her develop specific action steps to connect with her target audience, Collins has more confidence in a “grander path” for her work.

“I learned that my network could extend to multiple spaces beyond my realm of podcasting and journalism when industry leaders are willing to share their expertise, time, and financial support,” she told Upworthy. “It only takes one person to change, and two people to expand that change.”

Prudential Emerging Visionaries is currently seeking applicants for 2024. Winners may receive up to $15,000 in awards and an all-expenses-paid trip to Prudential’s headquarters with a parent or guardian, as well as ongoing coaching and skills development to grow their projects.

If you or someone you know between the ages of 14 -18 not only displays a bold vision for the future but is taking action to bring that vision to life, click here to learn more. Applications are due by Nov. 2, 2023.
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