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A woman lays out every contradictory way moms are judged in 1 minute and 15 seconds.

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. But it's OK.

Moms can disagree about all sorts of things when it comes to raising kids.

But the one thing most moms can agree on: There's a lot of judgment out there.

Facebook user Nostril_Curl, who's a mom of two, summed it all up perfectly from the comfort of her bathtub, which is pretty awesome.

(No need to turn up the volume — she signs everything and also added captions for those of us who don't know American Sign Language.)


You can read what she signs below.


Girl gets pregnant before 25.
She is too young to be a mom.
Girls gets pregnant after 30.
She is too old.
Girl considers abortion.
She is a murderer.
Girl considers adoption.
Can't believe she's just going to give her baby away. How could she do that?
Girl keeps baby.
How's she going to afford the baby?
Girl gets welfare.
Living on benefits, taking our money.
Girl gets job.
How can she stand to be away from her baby all day like that?
Girl becomes a stay-at-home mom.
She probably doesn't do anything all day but watch TV.
Girl wants to leave nasty partner.
Nobody knows what it means to work things out anymore.
Girl wants to stay with no-good partner.
She's dumb.
Girl smacks her kids.
Call the police and CPS.
Girl refuses to smack.
Her kids are gonna be spoiled brats.
Girl lets her kids play without her.
She is an unfit mother. Where is she?
Girl is overprotective of her kids.
Poor kids, no childhood.
No matter what you do, people will talk shit.
So do what is best for you.





























The bottom line? We can all face harsh judgment at times.

In a world that is hell-bent on telling women what to do and who to be, the criticism seems never ending. And that kind of pressure and judgment hurts. It can negatively affect our decisions, our self-esteem, our families ... every part of our lives.

It can feel like nothing we do as women or moms is "right" because someone always thinks there's a better way. But you know what? That's OK. Because you know what they say about opinions.

Nostril_Curl's video is a great reminder that if we're working hard to do our best and make sound choices for ourselves and our kids, that's ultimately what matters.

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