Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds — famous actors, yes, but also a famously awesome couple.
The pair is widely known as funny, down-to-Earth parents to their two young girls — not to mention total #couplegoals.
But just because they love to goof around and crack jokes doesn't mean they take their jobs as parents lightly.
<p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-rebelmouse-image"><img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xOTUzMTQ2Ni9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1MjI0Nzg5MX0.it3cwc1un4ZtRQGaSuOCm2GhLM9X_wOl4WIGfDXYLt4/img.jpg?width=980" id="a00f9" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="6bfcced57a7f3b284d384b8d8f8bb1d1" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image"><small class="image-media media-caption" placeholder="add caption...">Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images for Entertainment Weekly</small></p><h2>In a revealing interview with Glamour, Lively opened up about the couple's plans for raising strong, independent daughters.</h2><p>Though she admits she doesn't <em>always</em> know the right thing to do, she shared an anecdote about reading a script that had a profound effect on the way she talks to and around her girls:</p><blockquote>"I was reading a script, and this woman, who’s very tough, did something where she took control of her life. And so she’s sitting, gripping the wheel, 'a look of empowerment on her face.' And I thought, Hmm, they don’t point that out about men: 'Look how empowered he is.' It’s just innate."</blockquote><p>At home, Lively says, she and her husband make a conscious effort to avoid language that's either subtly sexist or even by default male.</p><p><em>"</em>[Reynolds] will pick up, like a caterpillar, and instead of saying, 'What’s his name?' he’ll say, 'What’s her name?'" Lively said. "Or we’ve joked that my daughter is bossy. <strong>But my husband said, 'I don’t ever want to use that word again. You’ve never heard a man called bossy.'"</strong></p><p>As a big-time Hollywood actor and now movie producer, Lively knows a thing or two about how people react to strong women and knows firsthand how damaging stereotypes can be.</p><h2>"We’re all born feeling perfect until somebody tells us we’re not," she said of her daughters.</h2><p>In other words, women aren't born feeling somehow inferior. Rather, the world tries to slowly beat it into them.</p><p>"So there’s nothing I can teach my daughter [James]," Lively said. She already has all of it. The only thing I can do is protect what she already feels. I do know that I have to watch her and listen to her and not project any of my own insecurities or struggles on her."</p><h2>The statistics prove Lively's point: How we use gendered language really matters.</h2><p>Calling a caterpillar a "girl" or a "boy" may not seem like a very important decision, but consider this: </p><p>Children's books are <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/books/2011/may/06/gender-imbalance-children-s-literature" target="_blank">far more likely</a> to feature a male lead character, Hollywood is as <a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/news/diversity-in-film-inclusion-crisis-women-on-screen/" target="_blank">non-gender-inclusive</a> as it's ever been, and most of us <a href="https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/14/assuming-the-doctors-a-he/" target="_blank">assume doctors</a> or other high-level professionals are a "he."</p><p>From the time we're born, we are surrounded by a culture that paints women into a corner. Tells them that they can be a nurse but not a doctor. That they can't be in charge lest they be labeled "bossy." Tells them that not even an anthropomorphic farm animal can have the spotlight if it's a girl.</p><p>Lively and Reynolds are getting a jump on fighting back. If you're part of a couple that wants to be just like them, following their lead on this would be an awesome place to start.</p>
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