Child sex trafficking organizations set the record straight on QAnon conspiracy theories

“Over 800,000 kids go missing in the U.S. every year! Child sex trafficking is the REAL pandemic. #SaveTheChildren #SaveOurChildren #ChildLivesMatter #Pedogate #Pedowood” If you’ve been on social media in the past month or two, you’ve likely seen memes or posts to this effect. And if you’re a person with a conscience, it likely caught your…

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“Over 800,000 kids go missing in the U.S. every year! Child sex trafficking is the REAL pandemic. #SaveTheChildren #SaveOurChildren #ChildLivesMatter #Pedogate #Pedowood”

If you’ve been on social media in the past month or two, you’ve likely seen memes or posts to this effect. And if you’re a person with a conscience, it likely caught your eye. Children being trafficked for sex—that’s horrible!

Yes, it is. It’s absolutely horrible. Child sex trafficking is basically the worst thing human beings can do, no question. But what do those #Pedogate and #Pedowood hashtags mean?

Yes, those. Unfortunately, they point directly to a QAnon-perpetuated conspiracy theory in which the world is being controlled by an elite global cabal of pedophilic Hollywood celebrities and high-level politicians (including Tom Hanks, Oprah, Hillary Clinton, and more) who secretly traffick, abuse, and torture children so they can harvest a fear-induced hormone in their blood to make adrenocrhome, which they consume to keep them young and/or imbibe during their drug-crazed Satanic rituals.

What?! That’s crazy.

Yes, it is. It’s absolutely crazy. But there are a baffling number of people who believe it, including people who will likely soon be serving in Congress. Many of these people are sharing the #SaveOurChildren and #ChildLivesMatter hashtags right along with #Pedowood and #Pedogate. They conflate this huge number of missing kids with the issue of child sex trafficking, and then point to the celebrity/politician cabal conspiracy theory in the same breath, as if it’s all the same thing.

It is not.


The reality is that child sex trafficking is a multi-billion dollar, heinous, disgusting, global industry—but it’s not new. It’s not a sudden and massive crisis that “the media” is ignoring or that governments and NGOs aren’t addressing. Unfortunately, QAnon believers have pushed a lot of misinformation and misleading information into the awareness surrounding this issue that needs to be corrected.

To get to the heart of what child sex trafficking really looks like—and to be thorough in the debunking of QAnon’s child trafficking theories—we spoke with organizations whose work centers around stopping trafficking and protecting missing and exploited children.

The QAnon Misinformation

A common question people who have been sucked in by the QAnon world ask is: How do you know it’s not true if it’s never been investigated?

Some things are simply too ridiculous to be entertained, which honestly should be the case with the QAnon cabal theory. But since it’s somehow slipped into the mainstream, it has to be addressed head on.

So I swallowed my pride and directly asked anti-trafficking organizations—the people who specialize in this subject and are intimately involved in investigations—whether or not there was any truth to the theory. It was humiliating, frankly, but I straight up asked them: “It’s a known fact that child abusers often hide in plain sight and that high-profile people can be abusers. Based on your work, have you seen any evidence that there is a global cabal of pedophile elites who traffick children in a coordinated underground effort to harvest adrenochrome?”

Across the board, the answer was “No.”

I also asked this question: “Pedophiles and traffickers sometimes use coded symbols and code words in their communications with one another. Is there any official documentation that the words ‘pizza’ or ‘hot dog’ or ‘sauce’ have been used for such a purpose? (Or more directly, are the Wikileaks emails evidence of child sex trafficking?)”

Again, the answer was no. Of course.

(For those new to Conspiracyland, the code words question came from the claim QAnon folks make that the FBI has a list of code words and symbols that support the Pizzagate theory, which posits that Hillary Clinton and associates were discussing their dastardly pedophile deeds in code words—pizza, sauce, etc.—via emails released by Wikileaks. The FBI has documented known pedophile symbols, but none of the supposed code words in the Wikileaks emails are listed among them And the Washington D.C. police have called Pizzagate “a fictitious online conspiracy theory.”)

Erin Williamson, VP of Global Programs for Love146—an organization that has been working with sex trafficking prevention and survivor care for 17 years—says that conspiracy theories like this just makes more work for the people trying to do the work of educating the public.

“If somebody comes to know trafficking and has no preconceived notions of what trafficking is, you’re starting with a blank slate,” she says. “You can build from zero. But if someone’s coming to the trafficking movement or approaching this issue with preconceived incorrect information, then first you have to get them to the point where they realize all of the information that they’ve learned thus far is inaccurate before you can start building the accurate information. And it just is going to take so much longer to get people to a point where they actually understand what this accurately looks like.”

A national organization that asked to remain anonymous (understandable, considering how my own inbox fills with people accusing me of being a pedophile each time I write about how QAnon is bunk) told Upworthy, “Questions like this distract from the realities of how sex trafficking actually occurs. Offenders do often communicate in code but we haven’t seen any such official documentation and don’t consider the Wikileaks emails credible. Unfounded conspiracy theories minimize, distract and draw valuable resources away from the tireless work being done by child protection advocates on the ground.”

The Polaris Project, which runs the National Trafficking Hotline, offered an example of how resources get usurped by these theories. Last month, a rumor started circulating in the QAnon sphere that the Wayfair website was being used to traffick children because someone spotted an strangely expensive cabinet with a female name.

“The Wayfair theory resulted in online harassment and privacy intrusions of people mistakenly believed to be victims, as well as broad sharing of online sexual abuse material of actual victims who have not been connected in any way to Wayfair,” Polaris told Upworthy. “This harm is real for survivors who want to maintain their privacy, victims who are being re-exploited by broader distribution of their abuse materials, or bystanders whose lives can be overwhelmed by the actions of potentially well-meaning online communities.”

In addition, Polaris adds, “Conspiracies distract from the more disturbing but simple realities of how sex trafficking actually works, and how we can prevent it.”

But isn’t awareness about child sex trafficking a good thing, even if it’s not all factual?

Love146’s Erin Williamson says no.

“In the short term, it might make people aware that there is an issue of child trafficking that exists,” she says.”But if that doesn’t lead to somebody actually engaging with the issue and taking effort to join the movement to actually effectively eradicate the issue, then no. It’s harmful. It’s just a bunch of white noise that’s sucking up resources.”

“The question really is how many of the people are going to, as a result of this, actually have enough concern about child trafficking that they do more research, effectively realize what the issue is about, and then consistently or actively engage in addressing it,” she adds. “And I don’t think we fully know the percentage. My concern is that that percentage will be pretty low.”

Perpetuating these kooky cabal theories does more to hurt the child sex trafficking cause than to help it.

Those Missing Kids Numbers

But what about all those missing children then?

Every organization I spoke to pointed out that there are no hard and fast numbers because there’s no way to know exactly how many kids are being trafficked or exploited beyond what gets reported. We know that a lot of exploitation doesn’t get reported, but most kids who go missing do get reported somewhere.

Two organizations pointed me to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) for missing children statistics. The NCMEC states, “According to the FBI, in 2019 there were 421,394 NCIC entries for missing children. In 2018, the total number of missing children entries into NCIC was 424,066.” They clarify that this number represents individual reports of missing children, not the number of missing children themselves. If a child runs away multiple times in a year, each instance is counted separately and included in the yearly total, so the total number of missing children is likely less than those total numbers.

That’s a lot of children; however, the vast majority of missing kids make it back home pretty quickly. Think of kids who run away to a friend’s house and the parents can’t find them, kids who get lost temporarily, or kids who get taken or not returned by a parent in a custody dispute.

The kids who don’t return home and who are at risk of exploitation are where NCMEC comes in. In 2019, they assisted law enforcement and families with more than 29,000 cases. Less than one percent of those were non-family abductions, so the idea that loads of kids are just being snatched out of nowhere and sold for sex is totally inaccurate. In addition, NCMEC reports that 91 percent of those cases (around 26,300) were endangered runaways, and of those kids, 1 in 6 were likely victims of child sex trafficking. One is too many, of course, and these numbers are significant. But they’re nowhere near 800,000.

Statistics come in various forms, of course. The Polaris Project, which runs the National Trafficking Hotline, tells Upworthy, ” In 2019, the National Human Trafficking Hotline reported 2,582 underaged individuals involved in trafficking situations (all types).” However, they note, “It is incredibly important to note that these figures cannot be construed as prevalence.”

Again, one child is too many, and these statistics only represent a fraction of the problem. Sharing these numbers is not meant to downplay the issue at all, but rather to explain that there’s no real basis for the idea that 800,000 kids go missing and get sucked into child sex trafficking each year in the U.S.

So where did that number come from? There were some articles in the early 2000’s that cited numbers close around 800,000. But the most recent statistics are shared above.

Numbers are always a bit fuzzy. What we do know is that children are being trafficked and exploited. Far too many, far too often.

What Child Sex Trafficking Really Looks Like

Child sex trafficking is a complex industry. Sometimes it looks like children being physically transported place to place and being bought and sold for sex. Sometimes it’s kids being used to create child pornography. Sometimes it’s a drug-addicted parent renting out their children to get money for their addiction. Sometimes it’s teens recruiting other teens to engage in sex or create sexual images for money.

Love146’s Williamson explained that trafficking can look very different in different parts of the world.

“We run a program in the Philippines, and most of our children come into that program under 10,” says Williamson.. “We’ve accepted kids under the age of one into that program. In those situations, it’s really familial a lot of times, and a lot of what is happening is happening over webcams. You’ll also see reports of labor trafficking happening in other countries at very young ages.

“What we see in the United States and what we’re working with is different. We’re not seeing as many under 10 year olds trafficked. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen—it does. But more of what we’re seeing are adolescents. Preteen and teenagers who are being groomed and recruited, and while some is familial, a lot is not familial.”

Williamson explains that the term “runaway” is a bit of a misnomer because some runaways are teens who get pulled away from home by traffickers in sneaky ways.

“Part of what traffickers do is they recruit and groom,” she says. “They engage in a relationship for the purposes of exploiting this kid for trafficking. So it can appear that a kid is running away, or choosing to leave their house willingly, but it’s actually an intentionality on the part of the traffickers to make it appear that way…to make it appear that way to law enforcement, to the parents, and to the child themselves. So the child says things like, ‘I chose to go, I chose to meet up with so and so who I met online, or to meet up with so and so who I met in the park.’ So again, even when we talk about the term runaway…they’re really being groomed and recruited away from their home.”

One common theme among the organizations I communicated with is that there are well-known conditions that greatly increase a child’s chances of being trafficked.

Polaris Project says:

“Traffickers recognize and take advantage of people who are vulnerable in certain ways. There are several factors that may make a child vulnerable to sex trafficking including having an unstable living situation, having a history of domestic or sexual abuse, being frequent runaways, being involved in the juvenile justice or foster care systems, experiencing poverty or financial need, and/or dealing with addiction. While anyone can be trafficked, just as anyone can become a victim of any crime, due to factors such as historical oppression, discrimination, and generational trauma, LGBTQ+ youth and youth of color are more likely to be trafficked.”

The anonymous organization also explained that certain conditions make kids more vulnerable. “Certain kids who are homeless or runaways, belong to certain minority groups, and who have contact with the child welfare system are particularly vulnerable to this type of exploitation.”

Polaris also points out, “In the case of child sex trafficking in particular, the vast majority of victims know their traffickers and trust them. They may be professional traffickers who carefully groom young people on line and lure them into trafficking situations. They may well also be their parents, or other family members or trusted friends.”

What We Can Do About it

Learning about the realities of child sex trafficking is the first step. The issue is complex and multi-faceted, but just because it’s not simple or easy to solve doesn’t mean there’s nothing we can do.

One active thing we can do is what trafficking looks like.

“Trafficking is rarely perpetrated by a total stranger who kidnaps children,” says Polaris Project. “What we frequently see through the Trafficking Hotline are stories of people being trafficked by intimate partners, family members, and others that they know and may even love and trust.”

We can also make sure kids we are in contact with know that we are safe people they can go to if they are in an unsafe situation.

“When we talk to kids, it is always the little things that made the difference,” says Love 146’s Williamson. “It is always the neighbor who asked how they were doing, who then they realized was a safe person, that they could eventually talk to about what was happening to them in their house. It is always the teacher who they would curse out who would say ‘I’m still here for you whenever you need something.’ It is the little things that make a difference in a child’s life.”

Williamson also points out that the systemic issues we debate over in our society also impact child sex trafficking, and addressing those issues will help reduce the vulnerabilities that lead to exploitation.

“For most of us who have been working in this field long enough, there’s now a general recognition that we’re not going to arrest and prosecute our way out of this issue,” she says, “We’ve tried that. That isn’t happening. We need to go upstream. We need to deal with all of the things that make people vulnerable—the inequalities, the racism, the sexism, the homophobia. We need to address all of these issues that have all sorts of consequences, of which trafficking is one of them. It takes a while to get somebody to understand how this is all interrelated.

So when I hear somebody say, ‘Black Lives Matter? What about children’s lives? There’s been a couple of quotes like that. ‘Why are we marching for Black Lives Matter? Where’s the outcry for trafficked children?’ and comparing those two. First of all, this is not a dichotomy—we should be addressing all of this. And my thing is when you look at the statistics, especially here in the United States, trafficking is disproportionately affecting children of color. And so racism is at the heart of both of these issues, when you’re talking about the disproportionality of violence against people of color. So it’s not an either/or. It’s actually a yes/and. Which is why we have to go upstream and start addressing some of these systemic issues.”

To learn more about the real issue of child sex trafficking, check out these organizations’ websites:

Polaris Project

Love146

The Exodus Road

ECPAT-USA

Child Rescue Coalition

Thorn

Operation Underground Railroad

International Justice Mission

  • The Bee Gees’ perfect harmonies on Johnny Carson in 1973 left him completely speechless
    Photo credit: The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson/YouTubeThe Bee Gees perform on "The Tonight Show" in 1973.

    The Bee Gees were one of the most popular pop groups in the world from the late ‘60s to the late ‘70s. In the early years, they had big hits such as “How Can You Mend a Broken Heart,” “I Started a Joke,” and “To Love Somebody.” In the late ‘70s, they found a new sound, disco music and made massive hits for the dance floor, including “Staying Alive” and “More Than a Woman.”

    However, between those booming Bee Gee eras, their career seemed to be on the way down. By 1973, their most recent album, “Life in a Tin Can,” and single, “Saw a New Morning,” had flopped, and they began to play smaller clubs. But that didn’t mean they couldn’t win people over with their incredible harmonies. Case in point was their March 23, 1973 performance on “The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson.”

    Carson introduced the band by touting its history as songwriters. “My next guests have had quite a career. Their compositions have been recorded by people like Frank Sinatra, Elvis Presley, Andy Williams, Glen Campbell, Tom Jones and hundreds of others,” Carson said.

    The band opened their set on stage performing “Wouldn’t I Be Someone” and “Saw A New Morning” and then sat down for a chat with Carson, discussing why they don’t like playing large arenas and how they got started performing together as children. After the break, they returned with an acoustic guitar and performed their first number 1 hit, “Massachusetts,” from 1967, with Robin Gibb on lead with his brothers Barry and Maurice chiming in perfect harmony. 

    If you look closely in the background, Maurice is having fun goofing off when he’s not on vocal duties. At the end of the performance, Carson appears to be a bit choked up as he adjusts his tie.

    “Massachusetts” was written about the great migration of young people to San Franciso in 1967, as the hippie movement began to take off in the mid-to-late ‘60s. Interestingly, the Bee Gees had never been to the state.

    Tried to hitch a ride to San Francisco

    Gotta do the things I wanna do

    And the lights all went out in Massachusetts

    They brought me back to see my way with you

    “There are two different memories, Robin remembers us doing it in a boat going around New York City. And I remember us checking in at the St. Regis with Robert, going to the suite, and while the bags were being brought in we were so high on being in New York, that’s how ‘Massachusetts’ began,” Barry recalled the song’s creation in the “Horizontal” liner notes. “I think we were strumming basically the whole thing, and then I think we went on a boat round New York. I don’t know if we finished it, but I think that’s where the memories collide. Everybody wrote it. All three of us were there when the song was born.”

    The song was initially written by the band for The Seekers, but they were unsuccessful in getting it to the band, so they recorded it themselves.

    The Bee Gees would have a career turnaround in 1975 when they experimented with a new, more soulful sound with the song “Jive Talkin.” This became a big hit and propelled them into the world of disco, where they would become one of the era’s most popular acts.

    The Bee Gees’ historic career ended when Maurice passed away in 2003 at age 53. Robin followed in 2009 at age 62. Barry, 79, is the final surviving member of the band.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Employee says goodbye to his coworkers with an over-the-top ABBA performance
    Photo credit: Mati Baran (used with permission)Mati Baran says goodbye with an ABBA lip-sync.

    Anyone who has ever had a job has fantasized about going out in style on their last day. Some dream of telling off their superiors; others hope their coworkers will open up and tell them how much they’ll be missed.

    Mati Baran said goodbye in the most original way possible by delivering an over-the-top lip-sync performance, complete with video accompaniment, to “The Winner Takes It All” by ABBA.

    The performance was fitting for Baran. When he’s not working as a graphic designer, he performs as Rabba Cadabra at drag shows and lip-syncing competitions in the London area. The video was a huge hit on TikTok, earning more than 4 million views.

    The video begins with Baran standing in front of a large office monitor, while another version of himself sings the ABBA tune on the screen. Hilarity ensues as Baran begins interacting with the recording, staging a tug-of-war for the audience’s attention. The two Barans even come to blows, slapping each other across the face before eventually reconciling. “This is amazing,” one coworker shouts in the video. “This is so good!” another adds.

    The performance was unforgettable

    Baran’s coworkers were blown away by his performance.

    “They were ecstatic. I couldn’t have asked for a louder audience, to the point where I was getting worried they couldn’t even hear the music,” Baran told Upworthy. “Even the surrounding workplaces situated next to us came to watch because of the noise they were making. The whole day was quite emotional for my closest friends at work and me, and I was surprised to see that some of them even started crying during the bridge of the song. I’m always happy when silly things somehow bring deeper emotions in people.”

    Commenters on TikTok loved the video, too.

    “I’m sorry, my dear, but you’re not leaving, shantay, you stay!” KatKat wrote. Others said Baran was the perfect personality hire. “Personality hire award goes to:” Olenka wrote. “Personality hire final boss,” Em added.

    The ABBA song was a great choice for his goodbye

    Baran said that ABBA was the perfect choice for the emotional moment.

    “I knew I wanted something dramatic and a bit over the top emotionally,” he said. “This song just came to mind one morning, and right away I knew it had to be it. It just felt right, and everyone loves ABBA!”

    The song’s opening lyrics were perfect for the moment:

    I don’t wanna talk
    About things we’ve gone through
    Though it’s hurting me
    Now, it’s history

    I’ve played all my cards
    And that’s what you’ve done too
    Nothing more to say
    No more ace to play

    In a world where workplace goodbyes can be awkward and easily forgotten, Baran’s performance ensured his coworkers will remember him forever. It shows that with a bit of courage and attitude, a sad goodbye can become an unforgettable celebration.

  • Māori singer wows all four judges on ‘The Voice,’ then she teaches them how to do the haka
    Photo credit: Talent Snacks/YoutubeAunty Ora teaches the haka on The Voice Australia
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    Māori singer wows all four judges on ‘The Voice,’ then she teaches them how to do the haka

    Moments like this show how culture can be shared with care and enthusiasm.

    Back in 2017, Māori singer Ora Taukamo, known as “Aunty Ora,” wowed judges on The Voice: Australia with her rendition of Adele’s “One and Only,” somehow making it even more soulful than the original. 

    It was then that judge Delta Goodrem asked Taukamo what she did outside of singing.

    Taukamo answered, “I teach the haka.”

    Intrigued, judge Kelly Rowland asked, “Can I learn the haka?” Taukamo giggled while saying, “Sure!” Then, Rowland, Goodrem, and the two other Voice judges, Boy George and Joe Jonas, stepped up on stage for an impromptu lesson. 

    The group put their hands on their hips, bent their legs into a squat position, and began stomping on their right foot in unison while hitting both hands on their thighs. As their percussion began setting, Taukamo began leading them through a chant. 

    The moment was cool enough on its own, but made even more heartening by the way it instilled pride among fellow New Zealanders. 

    “You make me feel proud to be a Kiwi you lovely woman!”

    “I aroha ahau ki taua haka.  (I loved that haka.)  Really nice how the panel joined in. Beautiful voice.”

    “Taahua… making Aotearoa proud.”

    “Adore you !!! Aroha (Luv) your whanau (family- all of the 5 million) in Aotearoa New Zealand.”

    Taukamo would eventually end up going home on the show after singing these showstoppers: “Circle of Life” from The Lion King,  “One Moment in Time” by Whitney Houston, a ”Love Me Tender” cover by Norah Jones,  “Open Arms” by Journey, “All of Me” by John Legend, “I Believe I Can Fly” by R. Kelly, a “With A Little Help From My Friends” cover by Joe Cocker, “Goodbye Yellow Brick Road” by Elton John, and “Total Eclipse Of The Heart” by Bonnie Tyler.

    Aside from her powerhouse vocals and her impressive haka teaching abilities, Taukamo is remembered for her infectiously positive energy, which che clearly infuses into her craft in order to lift others’ spirits up. This can clearly be seen on her Facebook bio, where she writes, “Your voice is a tool to help heal others.🎙️Sing from your heart at all times and just be yourself, most of all be natural.”

    That philosophy came through in that brief, joyful exchange on stage.

    The haka is more than choreography. It carries history, identity, and connection, and Taukamo shared it in a way that welcomed others while honoring where it comes from. Watching the judges laugh while trying to follow her lead created a sense of togetherness that reached far beyond the studio audience.

    moari, the voice, the voice australia
    Four different colored figurines on a globe Photo credit: Canva

    Moments like this show how culture can be shared with care and enthusiasm. A few minutes of music and movement turned into something people across the world could feel a part of. Taukamo may not have taken home the top prize, but in this way, her impact was all the more meaningful. She left behind a performance that people still talk about, one that celebrates voice in every sense of the word.

  • Gay man learning how to say goodbye ‘like a straight man’ is pure comedy gold
    Photo credit: Canva PhotosA gay man's 30-day challenge to learn how to do things "straight" is going super viral.

    It’s no secret that there are certain mannerisms and speech patterns we often associate with being gay. The phenomenon of so-called “gay mannerisms” and voice has actually been the subject of quite a bit of scientific research. One study from 2002 found that people were able to accurately predict the sexual orientation of a speaker just by hearing their voice about 62% of the time. Researchers theorize that some, but certainly not all, gay men may adopt more feminine mannerisms and voice patterns as a form of subconscious social signaling.

    It’s much more complicated than that, though. The way gay men speak and behave is as diverse and varied as the community itself: which is to say, very.

    But one more pressing question remains: If “gay mannerisms” can be categorized and studied, can those of the heterosexual male be quantified? And, more importantly, can they be learned?

    Comedic experiment ensues

    Content creator Kai Cameron was up to the challenge. The openly gay TikTok star recently launched a tongue-in-cheek 30-day challenge where he attempts to learn how to do and say things “like a straight man.”

    On Day 1, Cameron’s brother teaches him how to sit down like a straight man. On Day 4, they move onto answering the phone. Day 7 features more advanced material: entering a party the way a straight man would. Cameron learns to sway his hips less, talk in a deeper tone of voice, and suppress any hint of enthusiasm.

    On Day 11, Cameron was ready to tackle the simple but crucial task of saying “Goodbye,” to a friend. His instructor in the clip, this time actor and filmmaker Peter Falls, demonstrates a textbook, nonchalant “Alright, see ya later,” with a barely perceptible hand-gesture-wave-kind-of-thing. Straight guys will instantly recognize it and notice Falls’ impeccable form.

    The words come easily enough for Cameron, but he gets stuck on the hand movements. “Can you do the finger thing again?” he asks, before trying it with a dramatic wave. “That’s way too much,” Falls says.

    After a little more practice, though, Cameron’s mostly got it. He confidently walks forward, chest puffed out, body stiff, and drops his voice a few octaves before muttering “See ya, man,” with a small (for him) flick of the wrist.

    Close enough!

    Viewers find the videos hilarious but revealing

    Does the video series mine humor at the expense of people who exhibit “gay mannerisms?” On the contrary: thousands of commenters say that it’s rare to see such a brilliant dissection of the straight man.

    Many noticed that so much of the demeanor comes from the eyes:

    “U just have to lose the light in your eyes,” one commenter wrote.

    “I love how the light leaves your eyes everytime and then comes right back,” said another.

    “It’s the dead eyes when channeling straight man,” another echoed.

    Other viewers went even deeper and more philosophical:

    “No whimsy, no enthusiasm, nothing,” someone said.

    “Watching [your] content has taught me a lot about what it looks like from the outside to be a straight guy. Just beat up by life. Body language which clearly indicates no one cares about you, so you stay reserved,” one commenter noted.

    “I think some cultures have done a ton of damage by brainwashing boys and men into hiding vulnerability, sensitivity or even just being themselves. That takes a psychological toll. A lot of men don’t stay reserved because no one cares but because society (other men) teach them that tough men have to keep it all in. It is not healthy for you,” another said.

    A third summed it up: “Basically just act depressed while doing all things and you got it!

    The fascinating origins of voice, body language, and mannerisms

    Cameron’s social media video series is incredible comedy and entertainment, but it’s also a brilliant educational demonstration.

    “Straight voice” isn’t just the absence of the more feminine qualities of “gay voice.” It is, itself, a learned and socially constructed behavior.

    “When men enjoy doing things that are typically associated with women or femininity such as shopping, grooming their nails, giggling, etc., they are often quickly labeled as gay or soft and are negatively evaluated by many members of society,” Ayana Ali, a clinical social worker and therapist, told AskMen.

    Even many gay men feel self-conscious about their voice and mannerisms, and may even mask them to adopt more traditionally masculine qualities in certain situations.

    It’s an incredibly complex web of social conditioning, how we’re raised, biology, sociology, culture, gender norms, and more.

    But it’s never been more hilariously deconstructed than in Cameron’s 30-day challenge.

  • 13 years ago, an astronaut sang live from space with singers on Earth. It’s a must-watch.
    Photo credit: NASAChris Hadfield playing guitar in space.
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    13 years ago, an astronaut sang live from space with singers on Earth. It’s a must-watch.

    People are revisiting Chris Hadfield’s performance with Barenaked Ladies and the Wexford Gleeks choir.

    Canadian astronaut Chris Hadfield hasn’t seen Earth from as far away as the Artemis II astronauts who circled the Moon, but after completing three space missions, including a six-month stint as commander of the International Space Station (ISS), he is familiar with the “overview effect” in a way few humans ever experience.

    In 2013, Hadfield captured what it feels like to see our home from space in a song he performed with Barenaked Ladies. While he played guitar and sang from the ISS, the band and the Wexford Collegiate School for the Arts Glee Club (aka “Wexford Gleeks”) performed alongside him from Earth.

    The song is called “(I.S.S.) Is Somebody Singing,” and it’s all the more moving in light of the images from Artemis II.

    Here’s a sampling of the lyrics:

    Pushed back in my seat

    Look out my window

    There goes home

    That ball of shiny blue

    Houses everybody anybody ever knew

    The song takes us on a journey: we fly out to space, around the Earth, and return home again, all while looking out the window at our beautiful planet. The visual of people singing from Earth, their “voices bouncing off the Moon,” takes on even greater significance now that we’ve returned there.

    NASA image of the surface of the moon with the Earth lit up in a crescent in the distance
    A view of Earth from near the Moon, taken during the Artemis II mission. Photo credit: NASA

    Even though the video is 13 years old, people are revisiting it now with new appreciation:

    “I keep coming back to this everytime there’s a significant step forward in space exploration! and it’s the perfect time to watch this for Artemis II!”

    “Coming back to this after watching the Artemis II launch, and it feels so magical knowing they’re going back to the moon for all of us. These launches really make me feel connected to all of humanity.”

    “Cried to this as the Artemis crew returned to earth. Watching the earth grow larger through the window, seeing the glow of reentry, the clouds passing by and the big red and white parachutes.”

    Artemiss II commander Reid Wiseman looks out the window at Earth from the Orion spacecraft
    Commander Reid Wiseman looks out at Earth from the Orion spacecraft. Photo credit: NASA

    Some people have asked how it was possible for the musicians to play live together without a delay. In interviews with astronauts on the ISS, there is often a lag in communications. But that’s less of an issue for a song like this than one might expect. Most likely, Hadfield played and sang live from the ISS, while the band and choir followed along with the transmission as they heard it.

    As someone explained in a Quora inquiry:

    “I actually know some performers who have performed with Chris Hadfield (not Hatfield) while he was on the ISS—Trent-Severn, three women from Ontario. It’s actually quite easy. He plays his guitar and sings. It’s beamed down from the ISS to a ground station, then transmitted by whatever method works (internet, phone lines, satellite link) to get to the destination, where it goes into the sound board. The sound man or woman sends it to the main PA speakers and to the stage monitors so that the performers can hear it. And they just play along with it as they hear it. It doesn’t matter that he actually played it a second or two before. They just play in time with it as it arrives where they are.”

    What is challenging, apparently, is the singing itself in space. Hadfield explained that it’s “like singing with a head cold” because of the way the fluids in your body drain—or rather don’t drain—without the assistance of gravity.

    The singing astronaut had another musical performance go viral in 2013. In fact, he made a whole music video from the ISS, covering “Space Oddity” by David Bowie. Hadfield said he always felt the song should be sung aboard a spaceship. (He added that if Bowie had been there, he would have done a better job.)

    Thanks to Chris Hadfield for giving us these wonderful musical connections to human space exploration.

  • 19-year-old taco shop owner’s heartfelt plea to save his restaurant has been a huge success
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    19-year-old taco shop owner’s heartfelt plea to save his restaurant has been a huge success

    He nearly had to say goodbye to his lifelong dream. One TikTok changed everything.

    Since he was twelve years old, Alexander Quinones had a dream: to open a restaurant. At 19, he invested $5,000 of his own savings, along with graduation money and support from his mother, Julie Stevens, to bring that dream to life. Thus, Detroit Loves Tacos 2 was born.

    And yet, that dream was on the brink of fading. The fledgling restaurant struggled to attract customers, and Quinones was making just enough to cover daily expenses and pay his one employee. Closure seemed imminent.

    “We had a difficult discussion that day. We’re gonna have to close if something doesn’t give,” Stevens told WXYZ-TV.

    “I felt like I was failing in life a little bit. I put all my money into this, I put all my time into this. So it really, really hurt me,” Quinones added.

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    A plate of tacos with condiments. Photo credit: Canva

    That was when the young business owner did something vulnerable: he made a heartfelt plea on TikTok, where he got candid about his situation.

    He said his restaurant wasn’t built on “shortcuts” or “big investors,” but instead was the result of someone “working every single day, long nights with a vision.”

    “Everything is made fresh with love and ready to serve,” he added, thanking those who have already visited and urging those who haven’t to “come by and check out what we’re doing.”

    @detroitlovestacos2

    19 years old with a dream . 🌮✨ We are officially just getting started at 25750 Ecorse Rd! Come help a young entrepreneur build something special in Taylor. Every tag and visit counts! #fyp #local #taylormichigan #viral #youngentrepreneur

    ♬ sonido original – Droxxen

    Quinones’ story seemed to be the missing ingredient in his success. Not long after his video went viral, his restaurant was flooded with customers, and he has even sold out several times. As he adjusts to the increased demand, he hopes to remedy that soon. He is also now considering expanding the business, including opening additional locations and launching food trucks. Not bad, considering the restaurant was about to close its doors just days earlier.

    Of course, it wasn’t just Quinones’ virality that made him successful. People who have visited the restaurant remark on the quality of his food.

    “I just ordered catering from Detroit Loves Tacos last week for a lunch meeting at work! The corn was top notch and the beans were amazing with the big chunks of onion! We also got ground beef, chicken, and vegetarian tacos. The rice was so good too. Everyone was raving about how good it was,” one commenter wrote. 

    Another said, “10/10!! Hands down the best birria tacos we’ve ever had.”

    This is TikTok used for good. A struggling business had something real to offer, just no visibility. The platform changed that. And bam, the community showed up, because it feels good to support someone’s dream. Sometimes, it really is that simple.

    @detroitlovestacos2

    Started with a dream, a whole lot of faith, and days where I didn’t know if it would all work out… but I kept going. Seeing this on the news isn’t just a moment to it’s everything I’ve prayed and worked for. This is for everyone who believed in me, supported me, and showed love from day one. And for anyone chasing something… don’t stop. It’s coming. ❤️ More to come… this is just the beginning. 📍 25750 Ecorse Rd 🕒 Mon–Fri 11–8 | Sat 12:30–8 📲 313-633-1905 🚗 Available on DoorDash. #fyp #local #viral #taylormichigan #YoungEntrepreneur

    ♬ original sound – detroitlovestacos2

    For business owners, the thought of posting on social media can feel awkward, burdensome, and, at times, impossible to navigate in a way that feels worthwhile. But Quinones’ triumph is a welcome reminder that when it comes to finding your audience, a little authenticity really does go a long way.

  • Bartenders expertly handled a ‘creepy’ guy. Then the plot twisted.
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    Bartenders expertly handled a ‘creepy’ guy. Then the plot twisted.

    Instincts on point. Outcome hilariously unexpected.

    People are praising two London bartenders for how they navigated a situation at their bar that raised some red flags, despite a plot twist that changed the whole scenario. In a video shared by Sam Finch, a woman ordered a gin and tonic. Soon a man approached and started dancing up on her. Finch observed that she was “not vibing with it.”

    The guy kept dancing in her face, and she pushed him away with her hand. Finch asked her if she was okay, and she gave him a thumbs up. Still, he felt the situation was weird because the guy would not take a hint.

    Finch consulted with his fellow bartender: “Do you think she knows this guy?”

    “I hope so,” he responded.

    @sammfinch

    couldn’t believe this 😭 @seffytime #fyp #bartender #london #pov

    ♬ original sound – Sam

    The two were definitely not vibing

    But they kept observing and consulting with one another about whether the woman was really okay. As the man’s behavior continued, the bartenders decided to check in more directly with the woman. They asked her if she knew the man, and when he stepped forward, they firmly asked him whether the two knew each other.

    The man responded in the most unexpected way: “She’s my sister.”

    The bartenders burst out laughing as the reality hit them.

    “You guys thought I was a creep?!” the man said.

    “OMG yes, he’s my brother!” the woman corroborated. “You were going to kick him out, weren’t you?”

    “Yeah, literally,” the bartenders responded as they all had a good laugh over the misunderstanding.

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    Bartenders can play an important role in safety. Photo credit: Canva

    People appreciated seeing the scene play out for the humor in it, of course. A man annoying his sister being mistaken for a man being a creep? That’s pretty darn funny. But people also loved seeing such a good example these bartenders set for making sure someone was safe.

    The commenters loved how the bartenders responded

    “I think I can speak for all women when I say: Thank you, and please keep doing this. This time it made everyone laugh at the end, but there will be many times when we’ll be really grateful that we don’t have to fight alone. No need to apologize for checking in. This is how men should be! You’re great.”

    “From the bottom of my heart, thank you for checking.”

    “I’m certain they BOTH appreciated you all checking on her.”

    “I’d rather you ask and be wrong than assume and be wrong.”

    “Please don’t ever stop checking in these moments. I’m so glad this time it was a laugh!”

    “Never stop noticing! Once a bartender saved one of my besties because he noticed a bad situation, thanks guyss.”

    “Better to ask and have a funny ending than to not ask and wish you had. Well done gentlemen.”

    We see this scenario all too often: A man approaches a woman in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable, and she can’t easily get away. But the way these bartenders handled it was great. They were aware. They observed. They asked if she was okay. They kept observing even after she indicated she was, and they intervened when they were still unsure. Bravo.

    Safety is a communal responsibility, and it was reassuring to see these two young men take it seriously. If we all look out for one another and speak up when we’re unsure if someone’s okay, the world will be a much safer place for everyone.

  • Teacher creates ‘Circle of Fifths’ song for his kids to sing on the spot. The solos are everything.
    Photo credit: @abigail.straebler/Instagram, used with permissionBen Kapilow's class rocking out to the "Circle of Fifths" song.
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    Teacher creates ‘Circle of Fifths’ song for his kids to sing on the spot. The solos are everything.

    A wholesome, entertaining, and surprisingly educational lesson in sight-reading.

    It’s not always easy for teachers to come up with cohesive, compelling ways to teach their students even basic concepts. But something as abstract and dense as, say, the Circle of Fifths? Good luck! 

    And yet, a teacher named Benjamin Kapilow was undoubtedly up to the task. 

    What is the Circle of Fifths?

    The Circle of Fifths visually organizes the twelve chromatic pitches in Western music into a visual, clock-like diagram. Understanding this diagram helps explain how virtually all musical elements are organized and connected. So, having mastery of it enables musicians to sight-read, aka translate sheet music, instantly. 

    However, music students are often instructed to simply memorize the Circle of Fifths without getting to learn how it applies to an instrument or singing, making it feel like a random assortment of conceptual ideas rather than a tool. 

    That’s where the “Circle of Fifths” song comes in. 

    In a now-viral video shared to Instagram, we see Kaplow’s entire music class grooving to a song he wrote himself to give them hands-on learning of the sight-reading concepts he had introduced earlier that week: including solfege patterns (you might know them as “do, re, mi, fa, sol, la, ti”) in minor syncopated rhythms, wherein accents are placed between counts instead of the strong downbeats, which gives a song a bouncy feel. 

    Beyond the impressive craftsmanship, what’s so endearing about this (that many viewers appreciated) is that Kaiplow had a clear “vision” for each of his students during this performance, assigning certain solos and lines to just the right person. Still, it was clearly a collaborative effort. 

    “I love that the teacher clearly knew their students and gave each student the line they thought they’d eat the hardest,” one person aptly put. 

    Another joked, “Is y’all’s teacher Lin-Manuel Miranda?”

    And for those of us who still have no idea what’s going on but dig the tune, you’re not alone. 

    “Still don’t understand the circle of fifths, but this slaps lmao,” commented one person. 

    Creating DIY lesson plan songs is something Kapilow regularly does for his class because it’s fun, ensures no one knows the song already, and can readily test students’ sight-reading skills. 

    “Then I can target what they need to work on in the song,” he told Upworthy, adding that, technically, “Circle of Fifths” just shows up in the lyrics, since the actual lesson about it will happen later in the semester. 

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    Photo credit: Canva Photosmusic, teaching, students, teacher, singing

    These days, we hear a lot about how hard it is to keep students engaged in the classroom. But then you see something like this, and it makes you remember that fun and novelty remain tried-and-true teaching tools. Bless the teachers who pour their creative juices into their curriculum and really infuse joy into what they teach. 

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